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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 10:47:57 AM |
TRANSLATION EXCUSE ME.... me but I never stated a forum about me being married and cheating on my husband because I fell in love with another guy..
WHERE ARE YOU COMING UP WITH THAT ONE IDIOT BOY.
Oh, yes, I must be getting senile.
Hey Astreaa, a few weeks ago you went on a date with a man that really tickled your fancy. Tell us, how is that working for you? | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 4:36:40 PM | Getting a little offf topic now....Translation......
You will say anything to get attention from the famous "Princess ".....teehee
I believe you are showing what you are made of and it ain't sugar and spice and all things nice.
I believe this whole quest you are on is to somehow TRY to belittle me and make me a fool and not sure why.
I have done nothing to you and why should you care and stick up for a "guy" anyway?
Hmmmmm....not gonna comment on that one.
I think I have been very consistant throughout the whole postings and don't know where you people think I have been inconsistant????
Its like....Wait a minute...let me get out my magnifying glass and examine her a little more..haha..get a life and stop trying to live through mine......
I have given my opinion on how I feel about how a date SHOULD BE for us decent single people and not poor paupers !!! | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 5:43:06 PM |
hey mister you must be one of those cheapskates, women do not pay men pay period.... get it
one small step for mankind ...on giant step backward for womankind.
yes men pay and us gals put out...ain't life grand.
I can pay for my own dinner and decide where I put out.....yup life is grand. LOL | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 5:43:13 PM | Astreaa, I am not off topic at all; I really want to know how your dating has been. I believe that there is a person out there for everyone and I really do wish you the best.
My issue with you is that I don’t like high horses. Don’t get me wrong, animals are great and it is nothing personal against horses.
I said nothing towards sticking up for any guy. Don’t get confused about me, I will fight against anyone that belittles others, yourself included. Everyone has their own views on how dates should be; there are plenty of people here sharing their views on just that. I have read your views on what you think a date should be like, and I have mentioned that I would never want to date a woman like you. To each our own.
If your whole intention here is to make a point about how men need to stand up and be better than a pauper, then state that, don’t make fun of someone because you fail to communicate during dates. I had asked you a question earlier about whether or not you had actually mentioned anything about having a lunch to this supposed 60 mile date. You never replied, in fact, plenty of people have asked for details about this date, and you never replied. Stop beating around the bush, stop mentioning how great you think you are, and stop belittling others. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 6:11:07 PM | The world has changed a great deal in the last 10 years...and certainly in the cyber world of internet dating....
A woman has the right to expect old fashioned values, but only if they are willing to understand that not all men feel the need to go that far in the effort to win a woman's affections...
Society today has dictated the way that men and women interact and for the most part, we all follow the "rules"....some have success and some don't.
I, for one believe that the dating expectations are much more even (not to be confused with equal) than they used to be , and though alot of women don't like that, it certainly works when it comes to those who don't subscribe to those same old fashioned values. But when it comes to being online and "looking", since both sexes are doing the same thing, then the expectations for both should be the same. There is no meeting in the freezer section of Super Wal-Mart, so the idea of a guy asking a woman out spontaeously is going the way of the Model T.
Of course, each situation will be specific to the people and values involved, so the expectations will be different for each couple. But being open to new things and new ideas is what keeps us young and vibrant....as long as things feel comfortable, why not take a chance? We are not our parents, right? | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 6:51:47 PM | I hate the number of people that seem to be implying that men should pay for everything.
I LOVE buying dinner... but once it becomes an obligation... well, where's the fun in that!?
And even if it IS my obligation, I should at least get out of it on my birthday! 
I'm not looking for someone to spoil me... but I believe that relationships should be teams. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 7:11:09 PM | Ok, we are making progress. Now other questions that were asked:
How far was he driving?
Was 60 miles the halfway point?
On the other coffee date that you mentioned, where you were hungry, why did you not mention to your date that you were hungry? | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 10:02:24 PM | Hmmm, this is an interesting and but silly thread at the same time. Funny to read people's opinions and see the diversity of thoughts out here in the fish pond. My observations and two cents are:
1: OP's complaint about investing an hour or so to meet someone she with whom she was clicking baffles me to no end. I am sure that for the man that was interested in her, the meeting was not about the coffee, but rather to get past the chat stage . For OP, it seemed more to be more about what she can get for free or very little effort or investment on her part. But, only she knows for sure.
2: As for distance, OP's original post indicates that there's as much as 150 miles distance between them if he suggested that 75 miles (60 +15) is more the half way point. This means that while she was investing 60 miles in the meeting, he had already committed to doing 90 miles. So, I ask - what is she complaining about? I think this may be troll post and 400+ people, including me, have been suckered in contributing to this thread. She cannot possibly have thought a 60 vs 90 mile drive was unfair. Heck, even if it was 60/60 - it shows that the man probably had more interest in something serious.
3: The funniest observation is that OP's time is valuable and could not spare 1.5 hours toward meeting. We all can relate to the importance of time. However, OP had to have spent many wasted hours reading through this tread and chumming the waters to keep the fish hopping. At almost 500 post, I have to take my hat off to OP for a job well done.
4: Lastly, in years past, I used to take ladies camping because living in nature the environment does not cater to the whims of any individual no matter how much of a princess they believe they are. This served to quickly weed out those who are not "willing" to contribute as a partner in a relationship. This guy whom the complaint is about is a pure genius because he was able to achieve the same weeding out result with a mere cup of coffee. Give the guy a Nobel Prize. He's just extremely lucky to have filtered out what would have been a poor match.
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 10:04:17 PM |
I'm wondering why anybody cares.......................
I agree, justcueit . . . I'm not looking for someone who'll drive 60 miles for coffee . . I want someone who will fly 3,000 miles, wait in the rain for a taxi, walk through the mud for 3 miles, get splashed by a redneck in a pickup truck . . all so that I can give them a hug and say I love you . . and fix me a cup of coffee will ya? . . . . So you up for that?
How about if we meet half way LOL
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/8/2007 10:21:44 PM | I think he could have offerred to buy you a good breakfast! Or paid you for the gas to get there.
I find if someone takes the time to drive 2 hours to meet me,I am a host,to at least footing the bill for a decent lunch,no matter how the date turns out. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 7:06:17 AM | Golly, are you folks still at it? I drove 1 1/2 hours to meet a man a few weeks ago....for coffee.....We stayed for lunch. We had a nice visit. We know there's a friendship there, who knows what else may develop. Don't have time for a long comment today, I'm off to drive a couple of hours to meet someone...Coffee? who knows, I know if we want coffee? or lunch?, we'll have it.
Just so that you know, I have also had several local meetings. Have one coming up at Starbucks. Guess it's coffee? That's not the important part.
I think the talent lies in REALLY getting to know to whom you're speaking and to be able to evaluate how important it is to both of you to investigate. So far, I've been lucky. OR is it TALENT? At my age, maybe a little bit of both.
However, if they're all good meetings, that's when I'll have problems....
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/9/2007 9:25:08 AM | I have browsed through the messages on this topic, as I had a relationship for 6 months with someone who lived 100 miles away from me, had being the reason why I am here!
A few things come to mind, one is that if even arranging a suitable meeting place left you feeling as if you were being pushed beyond what you were prepared to do, then what chance would things have had anyway?
Secondly, a friend once told me that any stuff that is a problem when just getting to know someone, will be the ultimate cause of the break down of the relationship anyway.
Lastly I do not think that if you are so intent on preserving your weekends, not having to get up etc, then the added complication of trying to potentially factor in a distance relationship probably would cause too much bother to work anyway. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:17:05 AM | | Wow I bet you never figured all this would come about ! Well gotta say that YES I would drive 1/2 way to meet for coffee and if He and I hit it off then it would turn into lunch, dinner hell maybe even breakfast you never know....I think he was thinking with his head (the right one) to see first if you would enjoy eachothers company. Once you commit to lunch alittle hard to say hey wait not doing lunch gotta go. You never know he could have been your dream man and you lost him over driving 1/2 way for coffee with no food. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:41:36 AM | the bloke was talking metaphorically,he thought that there was a good connection with you and he was willing to take time out to meet you.
a coffee wasnt all the value he placed upon you,he liked you and he was hoping for an emotional bond.
what would you think if he said come and meet me ..i will give you a diamond bracelet?
but you wanted him to say meet me and i'll buy you a big dinner?
he didnt want to throw his money around on a date if you mean nothing to him.but if you had formed an emotional bond i dont think buying you a lunch would be a problem. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:54:23 AM | the bloke was talking metaphorically...a coffee wasnt all the value he placed upon you,he liked you and he was hoping for an emotional bond.
what would you think if he said come and meet me ..i will give you a diamond bracelet?
but you wanted him to say meet me and i'll buy you a big dinner? This is like The Three Little Bears for the OP. Coffee is just TOO soft. Diamonds are just TOO hard. A meal is JUST right. Got to get to the nursery rhyme level in order to understand how the OP mind operates.
It's hard to tell if the bloke was just "metaphorically" speaking regarding the coffee, usually "coffee" means "coffee and possibly more if mutually agreed upon after enjoying the coffee under the context of minimal expecations"--the OP won't add the proper information to this thread so we'll never know. Even if she posts again to help clarify this, she's lost lots of credibility, we won't know what really happened.
If we read Msg1 for context, this guy seemed adamant on NOT having a meal THAT DAY. This to me seems a little troublesome, since if I spent 90 miles-2 hours or more driving somewhere to meet someone and the date went well, I'd naturally want the date to continue a bit more, and a meal after the coffee seems in order.
I think he could have offerred to buy you a good breakfast! Or paid you for the gas to get there. Now he has to pay for his and her gas? Or drive 30 miles further AND pay for her lunch? Please explain, I fail to see the logic.
Basically this guy wasn't all that and a bag of chips to the OP. This thread should have been structured like this: Me being a woman, these are my internet first meeting expecations (yada yada yawn); a guy 150 miles away wanted to meet me and he didn't fulfill my requirements. Discuss. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 11:53:56 AM |
hey mister you must be one of those cheapskates, women do not pay men pay period.... get it
Hi cutiepie,
I get it, I'm not a cheapskate, I always pay, unwrittin law, no problem.........
The problem is in the delivery. It's nice not to have this law shoved down your throat in such a manner. It's always cool for the lady to , at least offer to chip in. Just so that I have the opportunity to say,"No, cutiepie, thanks , I've got this covered."
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