| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:42:55 AM | Well, Jelica I am glad I am not interested in women like you.
I happen to have a few names that are popular online in chat areas. It is nothing for me to get up to 10 IM's suddenly to hit me. Most of them might be men. A few women.
And sadly I might have 1 IM over in the corner that I am talking to wondering if I'd like to date her or not.
I am trying to ignore my friends as I get to know this new lady.
Then out of the blue you send your g/f over to IM the same guy. And since I am not a rude guy if you did this to me I'd answer.
Now I got a friend from Florida.. "This guy does this to me all the time. LOL" he IM's me with his silly jokes. So I am trying to read his jokes. Tell a female friend of mine, "Yes Angel I am doing fine, my book is selling fine to. And is your husband recovering from surgery?"
Then I am back over going, "Jelica.. its nice that you like fast cars, what do you think about horses.".. Because see, I don't know Jelica from squat and I might not want to meet her. But I know I aint gonna meet those other people.
Then I might ask your friend. "So what made you IM me? Your interested in me! Okay, great lets chat"
Why? Because I am a Playboy? No, because I am seeking someone to date and I sure don't want to pick the wrong lady. Cause once you start dating you date that one person. But until I meet a woman I am Free Game.
And I will let a woman know if I want to date them after our first meeting. So you don't have to wait around for my choice, you can instantly go seek another if the first meeting didn't pan out.
Meanwhile if I found a woman played me by sending her best friend to IM me, I'd snap on both of them and call them a few nasty names. Along with "Players." Your not looking for men, your looking to prove they aren't worth a dime.
Well sweetheart face the facts, most men aren't worth a dime.
But sure I'd speak to both you and your girlfriend wondering which one I might rather get. But when you got to the Supermarket do you grab the first apple not checking to see if it has a bruise on it or not?
I am not accustomed of checking peoples ages on these thread things. But your actions and that of your friend giving you a hand, indicates to me your both pretty young.
So I'll give you some advise. Don't limit yourself to chatting with 1 person at a time from the dating sites. 9 out of 10 times you'll learn that the man on other end is a Loser. So if you are chatting to 10 at once, you might find the apple with the lest amout of bruises. | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:47:43 AM | You know Juliet.. .. I never understood that saying "Keeping your eggs all in one basket." Ever see someone take two baskets to the hen house?
Sorry, Just had to say that. ::Grins:: | |
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| Cheese with your whine... =^.^=
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:49:27 AM | I having to dive to catch my laptop way to often this morning!!!
I dated one lady after my wife died, ended up getting an apt with her then she moved out when she had a couple of personal / family issues.
I am seeing a couple of ladies but they made it plain they did not want anything serious because they were seeing others. No problem.
On the internet, I am talking to several ladies, most seem in no hurry to meet so excuse me if I talk to others until they decide if they want to meet.
I lost the love of my life last year. My Brother found the love of his life here and She swears my future love is here waiting... Excuse me while I continue the search... I don't want to keep her waiting.
Cheers!
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:56:13 AM | I met a girl like the OP on POF once. Every time I would log in to check my mail or make a post she must have been watching the log on banner quite intently to see if I was on because 20 seconds later she was IMing me on MSN asking why I wasn't talking to her. Ummm because I didn't want to? That didn't last very long. I thought she was nuts.
Sometimes I like to check my mail, post or browse profiles without getting in to a conversation. I personally don't like IMs of any type and if I met someone here I would rather it progress to phone or personal contact asap. Sounds like the OP is exhibiting a little OCD behavior. Good luck with that. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 9:10:35 AM | I think I've meet in last 6 months 2 women from a dating site.
I've tested out so many I can't recall which ones I meet them from. I've emailed and chatted with dozens. Normally I turn them away and move on.
Some of them I turned away for sending me nude pictures. No.. sorry guys I didn't keep their Screen Names or email addresses. And no I didn't keep their pictures either. Tempted to, but didn't.
::now that all the men have broken hearts I continue::
Some I turned away for personality flaws, indications of lack of trust, possibly jealous tendencies.
And others for asking me to meet them for sex.
So in 6 months emailing Hundreds of Possible Ladies and Chatting with Dozens of them either thru IM's or Emails. I've meet 2.
I am still batting Zero for dates.
1 of the two asked me to take her to a hotel within moments after we meet. I didn't realize I was such a hot looking man. hehehehe.
The other woman didn't do anything for me. It just wasn't there. However she remained a friend. No, not with benefits. I am old fashioned. Friend means friend.
So to me just because your talking to more than one woman at one time, does not mean your a Player. Players to me are men that bounces from one woman's bed to another and pretending he is in love with all of them. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 9:20:21 AM | This one I don't NEED to read the whole thread. OP, you and your gfs desperately need to go and develop some real world interests, if all you have to occupy your time is tracking some guys' usage of PoF , I feel very bad for you. I admit I haven't looked at your profile so I do apologize if you have some kind of limitation that keeps you from having a REAL hobby.
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Posted: 4/19/2007 9:22:54 AM | OP:
It makes me laugh actually, My GF and I have caught a lot of these PLAYERS, and boy are there faces red. They are not too bright a lot of them LOL, I think you are much better meeting guys in other venues. I must say my gfs and I get a kick out of these desperate PLAYERS TOO MUCH XOXOXO
It sounds to me like you and your gfs are the ones playing the games. | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 9:52:17 AM |
I hate to say it but I do not take guys on POF Very Seriously, First of all they chat with women, and there are lots of gaps in between, so you know they are talking to at least 2 or 3 women at once.
well perhaps they type slower than you do...I know it's hard to type with your fists..hehehe
Then they say Oh I have to get to bed have to be up early, and an hour later they are still online. They must think we are so stupid that we do not see them on line, or that it records when they are on and leave.
Uhh ..maybe you do not hold their interest and they are much too polite to tell you how boring they find you! ..another hehehe!
It makes me laugh actually, My GF and I have caught a lot of these PLAYERS, and boy are there faces red. STALKER WOMAN YIKES!
They are not too bright a lot of them LOL,
Hmm well while I might be an old gal , I CAN tell you that I talk to so many guys , there is not enough time to check up on them...and getting back to the old part I have forgotten some good ones too ...note to forgotten good guys shoot me some mail!!
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:21:14 AM | | Hey Dam Proud, just stating the facts Sir or Madam, Just telling it as it is, and if you want to put your head in the sand that is fine. I was just stating what myself and my girl friends have found out. No problemo, if guys want to do that is their perogratative. Have a nice day, I will XOXOXO | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:22:59 AM | | OP, ya figure by the age of 41 you'd have figured that out :) | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:24:00 AM | Tiger
Have a nice Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:30:23 AM | I dunno. I talk to all kinds of people; men I would like to date, men I have no intention of ever meeting, men a billion miles away that are nice to talk to (and I have no intention of ever meeting) and women.
Usually, if there is one particular one who catches my attention (I say usually like I've done this before, but really this it the first time) I only talk to him as if I have intentions of meeting him, not stringing a bunch of guys along till I can decide which one I like best.
I don't know if any of that made any sense or not, but what I'm trying to say is, if I like him well enough to want to meet him, I'm not going to be talking to others the same way. Doesn't seem fair. Now if his way of thinking is a bit different than that, then that's his deal. Karma is one lady I don't want to have to wake up next to if she's hacked off....
Fry | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:30:44 AM | And I thought starving children living in horribly impoverish places in third world countries had it rough????? it sucks to be you OP  Whats frightening is your kindergarten alliance with your "friends" generalizing about men who 1) are not committed to you? 2) whine about it on a open public forum ?? wahhhhhhhhh wahhhhhhhhhhh wahhhhhhhhhhh and boooo hooooo hooooo 
IMO , you're so negative , I could put you in dark room and develop pictures? painting every man with the same brush ???................ well says a lot about your character, maybe if you work on your self, and figure out why are you attracting the Losers? work on your self esteem , set some healthy boundaries, you might see some changes in your dating life
Ever hear the definition of INSANITY, doing the same thing over and over and over again and expecting a different result................ IF WANT THINGS TO CHANGE you HAVE TO CHANGE. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:34:09 AM | | maybe they are just not interested.... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:35:34 AM | I think a lot of you are blowing the OP's original thoughts way out of proportion here.
Then they say Oh I have to get to bed have to be up early, and an hour later they are still online. They must think we are so stupid that we do not see them on line, or that it records when they are on and leave.
Why do they have to lie just to get out of messaging? Just be honest, that's all. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:41:13 AM | precisely why i never use instant messenger.
and i could give a sh*t who logs on and when.
it does make my flesh crawl a bit if i get the idea that someone watches when i log on or off... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 10:52:58 AM | Nature of the Beast is all that it is. How many times do you go to clubs and the single/unsingle people are talking to a lot of different people as most likely you and your friends do as well?? Really it's the same difference but in the cyber world.
I cannot stand the IM features anywhere, they annoy the he!! out of me. I only use them for work meetings and trying to contact personal friends but very rarely. I use my time to create instead of quacking in a stupid IM box. Ah.... but these dam silly forums keep me very distracted at times, LOL.
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 1:24:21 PM | I AGREE TOTALLY......WITH ( Jelica ) THE TOPIC STARTER.......
I CREATED ANOTHER PROFILE JUST TO SEE WHO CAN BE TRUSTED AND WHO CANNOT BE TRUSTED...MUCH TO MY SURPRISE..THE SAME GUYS WROTE...WITH THE SAME BULLCRAP PICK UP LINES.....  | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 1:35:39 PM |
I AGREE TOTALLY......WITH ( Jelica ) THE TOPIC STARTER.......
I CREATED ANOTHER PROFILE JUST TO SEE WHO CAN BE TRUSTED AND WHO CANNOT BE TRUSTED...MUCH TO MY SURPRISE..THE SAME GUYS WROTE...WITH THE SAME BULLCRAP PICK UP LINES.....
Not only have you proven you can't be trusted yourself (I mean yikes!). You have also proved that operation of a shift key is beyond your ability, hence your defferal to the caps lock instead, making you a rather poor dating candidate. You have also proven you never bothered to read that rules of this site that clearly state having multiple profiles, is not only against the rules of the site, but those who engage in such are liable to be banned for doing so. I should think PoF and the Men of PoF won't be a problem for you any more once the powers that be are made of aware of what you've done. Well done! Bravo! Good Luck!
Have fun ;)!
PS: Just when I thought my purchase of Troll Chow was all for naught! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 1:44:00 PM | Hmmmmm .... Common denominator probability:
The same women are contacting the same men who are contacting the same women.
Whew! Glad I'm not in that circle. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 1:50:21 PM | | OP, why are you so concerned about what guys are doing on this site, guys your not dating and/or talking to | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 1:55:46 PM | If you use the POF IM it's very slow, so they may not be chatting w/more than one...I'm not that coordinated LOL! But you're right, they shouldn't lie - I've said I had to go to bed and stayed online because I got an email or something, or got another IM...didn't mean to lie, but it happened - so you never know.
As far as chatting with more than one woman - you never know if you're really chatting with someone who's interested, or with someone who is going to end up in another country wanting you to electronically deposit $300 so they can get their highly valued property through customs or some crazy story like that (yep - same kind of story happened to me twice). | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 1:59:25 PM | | I'm not really understanding what you mean by "who can be trusted". Are you saying that if someone chats with you they shouldn't chat with others... or is this someone you had an agreement to date exclusively? | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:00:59 PM | Why do the actions of a few always make the rest of us players, slugs or snakes ?? Why does someone have to be talking to another woman simply because there is a pause between his posts to you. If you and I were chatting and there was a delay in my respsonse .. I could very easily be replying to a post from my daughter. She's upstairs on her computer and I'm downstairs on mine and she's often too lazy to come down stairs to ask a homework question. I could be talking to my brother in England.
Just because he stays "online" when he goes to be doesn't mean he hasn't gone to bed. I sign out whenever I leave but I know people who never sign out .. they are online 24/7.
Until you're in something that represents an exclusive relationship, why can't he talk to whoever he chooses to talk to even if it is another girl ?? | |
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