| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/20/2007 2:05:27 AM |
Hey Dam Proud, just stating the facts Sir or Madam
Hmm....Uh no...For clarification:
FACT: 2 + 2 = 4
OPINION: Your thoughts on this thread...
You stated an opinion ~ A shallow one at that...And that ~ Is my opinion 
Have a good day too...God knows you need one... | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:05:08 AM | | I don't chat much online, but when I do there are pauses between replies because I am doing some research online, talking to my other friends online or watching TV while chatting, writing emails and even eating dinner or getting a drink. Sometimes I even need to go to the loo..... | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/21/2007 3:33:11 AM | | i really dont see whats so wrong with chatting to more then one person at a time. i do it a lot. in fact i was talking to three people on line tonight. i have never even met any of these men and certainly none are my boyfriend so i can talk to whoever i choose. and sometimes i will only be chatting to one and at the same time be on pof checking messages ,replying ,posting in the forums or looking up things on the Internet. i certainly dont go around checking if they are still on line after we are done talking for the same reason i dont follow a guy home after a date and hide in the bushes to see if he goes out again. simply put its not my business and i would have to be sorta crazy to do that. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 4:53:06 AM | So Im NOT the only one who thinks that. 10 points to you. Dont you think a pic that actually looked like them NOW would help alittle too | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 5:02:52 AM | If there's a gap in conversation with me it is because either I'm talking to another friend or because chatting isn't the only thing I'm doing.
It's rare that I actually message someone on here, but I don't juggle conversations.
I must say, though, that there's nothing wrong with talking to a bunch of people at once. It doesn't really make them "players." Most of the time you can tell right away whether you'd actually want to meet someone, and bowing out of a conversation gracefully with "I have to go to bed" is a lot nicer on the old self-esteem than, "I don't like you, go away. Quickly."
Now... if you've met, dated, and decided to be exclusive, that's another matter. Hell, even if you're not exclusive, I think this kind of behavior makes it less likely to work.
The difference between reality and the internet is that it's easier to talk to a group of people individually. When you meet someone IRL it is far more likely that, if you like each other, you will bond. On the internet... it's just chat... at least until it is something else.
And Mary, you don't need to follow them all the way home... just set the snare traps about half way... it's more interesting anyhow. | |
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Joined: 8/24/2006
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/21/2007 5:05:00 AM | | Don't you girls do the same thing? And if there is a gap then it can mean a whole lot of things.. :smile: | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 5:34:23 AM | I just love stereotyping and over-generalizations. Nice job OP. The guys on POF, the women on POF...none of them are good I tell ya!!!! 
There are plenty of reasons there can be a break in a chat session. Breaks in a chat session can be caused by someone eating while they chatting, going to the bathroom, surfing the web at the same time, getting a phone call, your local DNS connection through your ISP, etc. etc. and yes, perhaps SOME guys may be chatting with more than one woman. If they are, who cares unless you are in an exclusive situation with the person. People will message or email you and you never hear from them again. If some chose to chat with a few people at the same time, I can understand it, though it's not for me. I have never liked IM and chatting anyway.
As for monitoring people when they are on POF, you who THINK you know who is online when might as well quit wasting your time. Just because the POF system shows that a person is online doesn't mean they are. I had someone say they missed me as they saw I was online and I was at work at the time and couldn't have been online. If someone does not log out properly they will still show they are online. Website pages you pull up can do what's called "Caching" and local ISPs can cache webpages for 24 hours. To assume someone is online because their IM shows, is nothing but an assumption. Unless you receive a response from an IM you don't know for sure if they are online at the time.
That's all I have to say...you may now go back to your regular scheduled stereotyping and generalizations.  | |
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Joined: 3/24/2007
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/21/2007 6:23:50 AM | Ok Jelica.....this is a wild guess but I'm guessing that you had a cheating ex and you haven't gotten over it???? Some of us want to believe there are some good men out there and the cheating ex is the exception and not the rule! For me I wish I were like you and could talk to just one and know instantly he is the ONE and ONLY but I guess I'm logical enough to know that it might take talking to more than just one man and probably dating more than just one! And the guy that decides I'm his ONE and ONLY won't be talking to me on the date sight he'll be talking to me in person! And that is because he weeded through everyone on the date sight, bars and what ever venue he is using and CHOSE to be with me. Besides I'm looking for a long term relationship so if he is too I want us to be sure we both made the right choice! I want what everyone wants....not someone I can live with.... but someone I can't live without!
I'd have to say that not everyone that talks to alot of people are players, some of us are tired of being alone and want that special person in our life and are taking the steps to find them!
Now as far as the IM goes I only talk to one at a time! I think that is just common courtesy but as far as email... talk to everyone or you never know, you just might miss out on the love of your life! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 9:47:36 AM | I agree with you. I'm new to the on-line thing, but it (for now) has me hooked. I'm enjoying watching the players do their best, but I don't think I would buy into it ladies.
By the way, seeing who is on-line when depends on the routing set up of the individual. My routing system is pretty complex, because I have to be on-line almost around the clock, but my routing system shows me from one location, and (like right now) there are four laptops on the boat, all being used.
One of the things that we as a group have decided to do is to check out these forums just to see if we really can make friends and see who is for real and who isn't. One thing I can tell you for sure is some sites are much worse than others.
Have to go for a second, but I'll be back with a story about players. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 10:26:58 AM | Ok, Last night I was in Miami checking to see if my system is working. Today I'm in Nassau, just getting things ready for the summer. Anyway, last night we thought that we would set up a little trap for the player ladies, to see if they could prove that they were real or not. We did this on a different site than this one of course.
We got on-line and within two minutes without even posting these pop ups started, so we took my profile (which is real BTW), and began. The women wanted me off the forum and onto my private (thing). I won't say who I use in the open. As soon as they got on my messenger the woman would try to play me. Asking me questions at first, then asking me to send photos (nothing R. rated just my profile ones). We would know who was a woman player right away. Here's what I did. I would ask the woman to play the game of truth with me. They would say "what is that?". The game of prove it was simple. Can you prove who you say you are? She would ask a question, and I would fire off an answer with a picture to prove it. Then I would turn around and do the same to them. I would say don't just answer me send me a picture at the same time.
All six women sent me stock model photos or fake profiles. The longest I had one on-line was maybe 10 minutes before they were busted.
Afterword we went out and were talking about "if the ladies are doing this, how many guys must there be?". I can tell that there are some very nice ladies up here, but I would be very careful about putting your hearts on the line with "An On-line Guy Player". | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 3:17:12 PM | | that is the problem with most women think that all men talk to all kinds of different women. Myself in general havent talked to anyone on this site and when i have tried i dont get responses back. Im a good guy who gets crapped on by women who say they care then they stab me in the back. Basically what im saying is for me it would be nice just to talk to one girl | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 3:38:56 PM | Here is my message to any POF guys who may or who think that they know me: There is no better way to lose my interest, is to continuously pursue other women. Hey, I say GO AHEAD. Chat with whomever you want. If you can't tell that I am already a catch and a half, that is your problem, not mine. I may not wait for you, nor will the other men. So if I get one on one attention (which is, come on people... an uncommon courtesy on the internet) from someone, they just may peak my interest away from you. Don't get offended if they seem more interested than you do.
If you want to get to know me, on the other hand, well... that would take some time (as it does everyone). But that is half the fun! <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
Players are easy to get rid of, just ask for commitment. hahahaha its sometimes a game. unfortunately for some, but those of us who are good at multi-tasking may be better at playing IF we chose to play in the first place... | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/21/2007 5:19:56 PM | Hi POF,
The last two posts on this topic (I feel) are from genuine people. Both of them are being straight up and saying how they feel. You get the sense that these two would be honest enough to tell you if you have a chance to have some type of relationship whether it be friends or more.
If more guys would say right from the beginning where they were coming from then I think that they would be pleasantly surprised.
Another good point that was made was, many women don't like the idea that a man is chasing several women at one time. It maybe ok to make yourself known by saying a simple hello, but women (and men) can sense when there is more in the picture here than just "one on one". It's like going food shopping for a month and eating it all in one night.
I hope you on POF don't mind me giving my thoughts as an ex-player, but I think that it is important to let it be known up front if you are. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 5:58:43 PM | Oh get real OP do you realize just how many of the women are doing the exact same thing?
Yeah many women don't like the idea that a man is chasing several women at once ,but, once again that is a do as I say and not as I do scenario for many of them. | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/21/2007 6:03:45 PM | | Well i know for a fact i am not the only girl guys talk to and it dosnt bother me bacuse if they really think i am something special they will stop talking to the other chickens and focus on me. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 6:15:03 PM | | An online relationship is not a relationship. You go online to meet or chat. No one owes anybody anything. Talk is talk. Action is action. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 7:27:33 PM | | i will never understand why some people get so hung up on someone you have never even met talking to other people. like the poster before me said "its not a relationship " if you have never even met then how is that a relationship. maybe i am old fashioned but actually spending time ,dating and getting to know someone is a relationship ,not typing in words on a keyboard. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 9:52:03 AM | | I agree with the two previous posts. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 10:02:06 AM | God forbide if she gets a boyfriend and the dude has a cellphone ~ or heavens....has a computer. How in earth will she ever be at peace with herself, if he should talk to another female. Guess he'd have to be monitored with one of those ankle bracelets before she felt a sense of 'trust' LOL
Give it up...you're the pot calling the kettle black....pity you have to tag a guy you've been chatting with- watching his every move to see what he's doing LOL You're right ...better to leave here and use another venue to meet Mr. Trusty-NoPlayer. Make sure you install a one of those small 'spycams' in his place when you go there...just in case you want to record when he picks his nose or something. | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:25:46 AM | OP and yet your still here hon :D
I mean I kinda get what your saying. But theres aholes (female and male.) Anywhere U go. But at least U can potentially meet. Friends/lovers/fukbuddies on here. Without having to leave your house. :D
PS, Op btw your cute ;) bye. | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:29:53 AM | OP,
So you don't take this site seriously, and think very little of the men here. Why are you on this site in the first place? | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 10:37:47 AM | Gawd.....maryrachelle.....you sound like one of those stupid women who would put up with anything from a man to get one  | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 1:12:26 PM | | Since I agreed with post 117, I feel obliged to add that I do not think that the syllogisms expressed in said post qualify their poster for the "assertions" and justify the personal remarks made by post 122. Post 117 makes a very valid point, IMO. | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/23/2007 2:08:48 PM | | DamnProud........ careful what you say, just shows how shallow you are. I have great days hope you have better ones!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Re: Guys on POF
Posted: 4/23/2007 2:32:40 PM | Uh-Ho...Cat fight! Meow!
That will get the guys going. Uh..what was the thread about again?
*scratching her head*
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