| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:16:12 PM | it's one thing to be frugal, it's another thing to be completely tactless and selfish. There are a number of ways that it could've been dealt with so it could turn out being a win-win situation.
ie 1. "you know what, I've got this two for one coupon, so why don't we use this and split the remainder of the bill?"
2. preface the date by saying "I'm kind of tight on cash at the moment, so I hope you don't mind if I use a coupon for my meal"
the fact is that he didn't even offer for the two of them to benefit from his coupon. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that they both could've saved some money, without him coming off as a "tightwad" or a "cheapskate."
share the wealth...or in this case, share the coupon. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/10/2007 7:03:03 AM | | I think we all agree he could have and should have handled it better. That doesn’t seem to be an issue Sickntired. No one on the thread has approved of his behavior. The question Bike raised was whether a man COULD use a coupon at all on a first date. The feminine consensus (since the question was raised) is that it’s NEVER appropriate to use a coupon on a first date. Your response, “...they both could've saved some money, without him coming off as a tightwad” seems to indicate you think it’s acceptable under some conditions. Fair? | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/10/2007 7:07:36 AM |
The feminine consensus (since the question was raised) is that it’s NEVER appropriate to use a coupon on a first date.
My feminine consensus was it's appropriate!
Hiding it and whipping it out last moment after she had paid.. NOT COOL. But the scenarios some of you have described abut mentioning the coupon early on are all good.
Not all of us are made of money. It's either date or don't and most people would have to make it's a don't if they're short on cash and felt like they'd never be able to ask someone out because of their lack of funds. | |
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tdh46
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/10/2007 7:24:56 AM | I have one of those entertainment coupon book, and the idea of using it in a restaurant on a first date would just not be something i would even think about doing. But i might use the movie coupon as a way of asking about a second date, i might say something at the end of the first date like " I have this coupon to the movies that's about to expire, would you like to go with me one night next week"
Using a coupon i have no issue with, using it on the first date and the way he did, i have huge issues with. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/10/2007 11:14:01 AM |
The question Bike raised was whether a man COULD use a coupon at all on a first date. The feminine consensus (since the question was raised) is that it’s NEVER appropriate to use a coupon on a first date. Your response, “...they both could've saved some money, without him coming off as a tightwad” seems to indicate you think it’s acceptable under some conditions. Fair?
the only time I could think of it being appropriate on a first date, would be if the two people beforehand knew each other well enough (friends before dating), to know of each others views on spending...and if they talked extensively about where they were going for dinner and if it was to be out of one's budget.
I for one am not made out of money, so I would:
a) not pick a restaurant that is beyond my means for a date
b) definitely not whip a coupon out at the last minute and not offer to share. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:59:49 PM | | Another one of those things I've never before heard of, nevertheless even thought of. This is beyond tacky. In fact it's pathetic for a date. C'mon, if one knows they can't afford two meals at a certain place without needing a coupon, at least go somewhere decent where you can. There are always other options. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/10/2007 5:47:47 PM | Please somebody explain how one's use of a coupon in a restaurant while on a first date is indicative of one financial woes. I fail to see the correlation.
You take advantage of the coupon because you have it; not because you need to use it or because you cannot afford the meal at that restaurant.
I don't know about you guys, but how much money somebody tosses around in public doesn't impress me much; it doesn't get me feeling giddy or give my self esteem a boost when I spend more money than I need to, either.
I'm still looking for someone who is treated to a meal on a first date to explain why the use of a restaurant coupon by the inviter is such a distressing event to be a dealbreaker for further dates. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 7:12:04 AM |
My feminine consensus was it's appropriate!
I saw that Mariachi. That's why I said SINCE Bike raised the issue. Your post was prior. Besides, we'd have been surprised to hear anything but a common-sense approach from you.
OT: What Bike said. Exactly what Bike said. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:00:46 AM |
I'm still looking for someone who is treated to a meal on a first date to explain why the use of a restaurant coupon by the inviter is such a distressing event to be a dealbreaker for further dates. ok bikeman - here's my explanation. Inviter, usually when asked by invitee - on a date usually means, inviter is footing the bill. Ergo, getting treated...that's what it means, to be treated to dinner - you aren't paying. There's nothing attractive to someone who has just offered to pay their half of the bill only to have someone whip out a coupon to pay for his portion of the dinner. It's a using situation....if he went there alone, he wouldn't be able to use that coupon. She's the only one that had to pay and he gets off scott free. Just a titch of unfairness there. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:31:05 AM | Bikeman, I share your thoughts. I don't understand why coupons are frowned upon. There are coupons to all types of restaurants (from fine dining to casual). Also, there are coupons to many "events". Coupons are a form of money. Maybe, the broader issue is that some equate the amount spent with how they are regarded. If this is the case, let's remember there are those who can spend money because it is easier for them than giving of "themselves" (emotionally, timewise, etc). Also, there are those who spend more than they should because they think they will make a better impression (an impression partly based on THEIR FINANCIAL STATUS). I don't know if that is good (whether they have high or low income). I'd hate to be evaluated based on the money that people assume I have.
I, recently, went on a first date to a mid range restaurant (Black Angus). I mentioned, to my date, that I happened to have had a discount coupon. He would not accept it. His refusal to accept the coupon didn't impress me one way or the other.
Bikeman, our view is in the minority :-) but that is o.k.
I wish ALL of us the best in the various arenas of our lives.
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:03:34 AM | If I ever used a 2 for 1 coupon for a date dinner first of all the date would not know. I dont view that as being a tightwad but as being financially responsibe in the aspect that in this day and age we need to save whatever we can. I think more people need to be responsible in that way if we can. In my interactions with women a lot of them do seem to percieve the equation between love and money. I'm a very generous and emotionally giving person but I could be percieved as "cheap" with my money just because I am self concious about saving wherever I can.
Wonder if I opened a can of worms here...LOL ::ducking:: | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:12:09 AM | | I would never whip out a coupon and expect her to pay her half. I would pay for my meal and use the coupon for hers. But still in all of this she would not know that I had the coupon. It would be done discreetly and she would not be paying anything. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:18:32 AM |
Please somebody explain how one's use of a coupon in a restaurant while on a first date is indicative of one financial woes.
It isn't, so it can't be explained. Use of coupons, in some small way, could maybe stave off some financial woes. Combined with many other money-saving endeavours, too, of course.
You take advantage of the coupon because you have it; not because you need to use it or because you cannot afford the meal at that restaurant.
I don't know. I am fairly poor. I'd use a coupon for both reasons myself.
Besides, we'd have been surprised to hear anything but a common-sense approach from you.
Why thanks. That's a really good compliment. Mucho appreciado! | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:33:26 AM |
Bikeman, I share your thoughts. I don't understand why coupons are frowned upon. There are coupons to all types of restaurants (from fine dining to casual). Also, there are coupons to many "events". Coupons are a form of money. Maybe, the broader issue is that some equate the amount spent with how they are regarded. If this is the case, let's remember there are those who can spend money because it is easier for them than giving of "themselves" (emotionally, timewise, etc). Also, there are those who spend more than they should because they think they will make a better impression (an impression partly based on THEIR FINANCIAL STATUS). I don't know if that is good (whether they have high or low income). I'd hate to be evaluated based on the money that people assume I have.
wow, smart, practical and good looking all wrapped up in one package
I wish ALL of us the best in the various arenas of our lives.
i'll bet you're already doing well in most of the arenas of your life with such common sense
good luck to you positively libran...
isn't libra all about fair and weighing the scales to come out even...
i said (tongue-in-cheek) way back in the beginning of this thread that i might use a coupon to gauge how real or superficial my date really is...i think i'll skip it...i got most of my answers reading this thread....there's a few like yourself and rae rae and mariachi that i know going in we could just be ourselves without all the false pretensions...and that's what I look for...
i still don't agree with the way the guy went about it...i would have taken her money with me to the cash and settled up the bill with her....and then probably give her her cash back when i got back to the table, or use her money to buy us a couple of nice rounds of liquers, or whatever she might feel like doing for the rest of the evening...but if she was just a pretentious swine, I'd give her her money back and wish her a good life
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:58:39 AM | There's nothing attractive to someone who has just offered to pay their half of the bill only to have someone whip out a coupon to pay for his portion of the dinner. That wasn't my question. I've mentioned repetitively in a couple of posts here that using a 2 for 1 coupon as a freebie while the invitee pays is totally crass, see==>
I would never whip out a coupon and expect her to pay her half. as a clarifier for my opinion, too.
Assume the inviter pays 20% tip on the total before the 2 for 1 discount and then totally fronts the reduced bill. How can the invitee find this non-plussing? That's my question. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 3:07:19 PM | ... tell ya what ladies, bikeman or sly can take me to a coupon clippin dinner any time of tha week.....after all, i'm gonna be savin money an goin all out when i cook a feller dinner from scratch any time! .....an if i happen ta cook fresh caught fish or poke salad, thats just my way of bein thrifty too! | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 3:29:48 PM | Ive had dates from hell in the past where the woman would be completely unfriendly cold and argumentative from the get go."Maybe you know the type" Where i couldnt even imagine a relationship with her. Let alone pay for the next meal ith her.
.. I think in that situation only.. I would have used it the way he did.
Other than that i am one of the most generous guys i know of.. maybe sometimes too generous.
they should creat a forum on here that includes both parties versions of the story..
I think that ould be intersting.. sortof like a dating court lol. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 3:38:01 PM | well i love fresh fish, pan fried over the fire even better...and I'll take the leap of faith knowing your polk salad is probly terrific...and then we could each cut ourselves a nice big slice of that humble pie you make so deliciously good lady di
glad to see ya!
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/11/2007 11:15:23 PM | .
only a tacky LOSER would pay with a coupon on his first date...and woman who gives him a second date has to be desperate.
Hell, I’ve got that one beat by a mile! Must make me pretty cheap, eh?
Someone I had been talking with off and on (but never met) for a while called one beautiful summer evening and suggested we take a walk around the lake in the park out back where I live. We had been talking about fish & stuff and so would go someplace for a fish dinner later.
So, I told her when and where to meet me in the park so I would be easy to find.
What she did not know at the time was that I had a couple nice pieces of very fresh catfish (cleaned that fish a couple hours earlier) and, where I suggested to meet was easy to find because it is one of the few cooking areas in the park.
So, when she arrived, dinner was almost ready. And, the fish was cooking the French way, as she indicated she wanted to try.
Yep, little old cheapskate me, eh? 
Oh, and there were no leftovers, except for a hunk of buttered French bread that I fed to the wild geese that have learned to expect food from me.
After that, we walked for an hour or so.
Cheap date? Depends on your perspective. It took a bit of very fast running around to pull off properly.
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