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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/17/2007 8:41:34 AM | "I guess all the threads about how women care alot about a guy's cash flow are fairly accurate then."
I don't think it has anything to do with money. When I go out on a date I like to create a good first impression and using coupons etc just doesn't do that. Just comes across as mean and penny pinching.
Anyway we don't have many coupons here in the Emerald Isle!
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/17/2007 8:45:37 AM | ["I guess all the threads about how women care alot about a guy's cash flow are fairly accurate then." Of course that's accurate El mariachi anyone who believes otherwise still believes in santa Clause.]-tdh46
While it is often true, not always. I have never cared how much money a guy has. However, as I have repeatedly
stated throughout this thread, it isn't so much the coupon, as the way he handled the situation. It came across
as sneaky/borderline dishonest.
Personally, I feel a little sorry for this guy. From what you said earlier, apparently she made quite an impression
on him, so sad that she is so materialistic & shallow, that she can't see his other good qualities. Hopefully, he
will move on & meet a nice girl, who can appreciate him. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/17/2007 8:56:31 AM |
I don't think it has anything to do with money. When I go out on a date I like to create a good first impression and using coupons etc just doesn't do that. Just comes across as mean and penny pinching.
I'm gonna have to call BULL on that one. At worst, it could tell you that the guy your out with doesn't have a lot of money.. but then.. he still asked & took you out, didn't he? | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/17/2007 9:22:13 AM |
Just comes across as mean and penny pinching. No doubt the guy in the OP's scenario is clueless and comes across as treating his date rudely.
I'm sorry for my attempting to steer this thread toward what is mentioned in the subject line instead of the scenario which was poorly described by that subject line.
When I go out on a date I like to create a good first impression and using coupons etc just doesn't do that. This is what I'm having trouble understanding from a logical standpoint. What makes a better impression: inviting someone out and having a great time and spending more money than necessary; or inviting someone out and having a great time and utilizing a coupon to provide remuneration of the meal?
Not using a coupon when one has it is like using the coupon, then pulling paper money out of your pocket that represents the coupon savings and lighting the paper on fire. Ok that's stretching it, but I honestly don't see how it makes a good first impression to spend more money than necessary.
It's obvious many fine restaurants accept Entertainment book coupons. The restaurant's quality isn't an issue just because they accept coupons.
My relevant example is this (totally true). I have a favorite restaurant. They serve great food. Lots of variety, if you can't find something on the menu you like, you aren't really trying to find something you like. They serve EVERYTHING. Everything is well prepared. Friday and Saturday nights they always have good live music. I love listening to live music.
Ok I invite a lady on a first date, she lives near this restaurant. She loves the type of music that will be played there that evening. We meet there for dinner about an hour before the band begins playing. How does it create a good first impression if I happen to possess an Entertainment book coupon for this great restaurant, and I DO NOT USE it? Rather I spend more money than is necessary?
I fail to see how not using the coupon is some sort of impressive behavior. Can't see how spending more money than needed somehow represents financial soundness, a supposedly positive quality I think. Isn't the exact opposite true?
Why would the invitee care how her meal was purchased? She didn't pay for it, she undoubtedly had a delicious well prepared meal at a venue where she can listen to entertaining music afterward. Somebody please logically explain why a woman in this scenario would think I was penny pinching because I used a coupon to pay for her meal.
Now reverse the scenario, you're a guy, your date invites you to dinner, she whips out a coupon. You now think she's a cheapskate? I just don't get this. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/17/2007 10:04:26 PM | No question that the fellow in the OP did not handle the situation correctly perhaps he was out of "dating practice".
Seems I'm with Bike Man on the topic of coupon use in general. If someone has access to a coupon for an item that they are intending to purchase anyway is it not the financially responsible, wise, even charitable approach to covering the cost of the item rather than pay the additional cash (assuming that no one ever uses credit for such things as a meal out)?
"Food for thought to the anti-coupon folks.... think about what else you could do with $20 to $30 saved with a 2 for 1 coupon at a restaurant. Maybe you could:
Feed a starving child in another country for about 6 months
Feed a family of 4 for a week in the US through Angel Food Ministry or another worthy organization
Donate the cost of the meal to any worthy cause of your choosing
At the grocery store... use the buy one get one free and donate the extra one of the items to the local food pantry.
HONESTLY, the recipients of your generosity will be very thankful that you used the coupon.
But for a real eye-opener & to find the true colors of your new date why not just skip the fancy restaurant and stand side by side serving at a soup kitchen or doing something else for others in need for a few hours?
Count the cost.
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/24/2007 2:29:09 PM | Well I have some Spiderman scratch offs where I won a double stacker and a milk shake at Burger King.. anyone want to join me for dinner??
LOL
coupons are the same as money.. For what the coupon saves.. 5 .. 10.. 20.. 50 dollars you know will be spent on your date elsewhere. I think its all about perception.. If the woman was smarter she would realize this.
heck if the woman offered to pay anyway.. she should be honored that he was trying to pitch in.. so are you telling me she just faked wanting to pay so he could say.. no no.. allow me?
Frankly If my date offers to pay for the meal.. Im going to ask if she is sure she doesn’t want me to pay? and if she refuses my money.. then its on her tab..
Ill just have that much more to buy her flowers later. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 6/14/2007 9:59:10 AM | NO WONDER guys get a bad rap, due to idiots like him. If I were her I'd have split that bill in half, put my money on the table and left without saying a word (that would be enough said in itself).
Personally if I ask a woman out on a dinner date, it is MY RESPONSIBILITY for the bill. I believe if she asks me out, she should pay, or we can go dutch, but TRUST ME this is established long before I walk in that restaurant.
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 6/14/2007 11:22:54 AM | | I think he was just cheep, I drove 30 miles to meet a gal for breakfast, First Time we met! i was not impressed as she was not as Pictured, besides that, after a $25.00 breakfast i was getting ready to pay the bill and i ask( would you leave the Tip) I was shocked when she said NO, that was it for seeing her again, I did tell her and now im a butt of some sorts, :-) | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 6/19/2007 10:30:21 PM | | Impressing the date shouldn't be the objective at all. I have to admit I am a couponaholic...but when it comes to a first date anyway,I leave them at home. I do remember taking an old gf on a first date to a $1 movie. I know she wasnt thrilled about it,but I am thankful for saving the money now since I never married the woman. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 6/20/2007 10:53:48 AM | Wow...a lot of uptight people here. Seriously...why does this matter? I agree the way he went about it was tacky, but what if he had offered to pay for her meal using the coupon (which is what I would have done)? He pays, she gets a free meal. What if she had the coupon? What if the restaurant was really expensive?
I guess I lean more towards coupons being an indication of thriftiness, and possibly fiscal responsibility. I'm not a big coupon user myself, but the way I see it, saving money is a good skill to have. I guess I'm a bit more practical about this, since I'm more likely to care about how we got along and how the conversation went. The coupon would really be a minor/insignificant issue. In fact, if it became an issue, I'd think she was just a bit too much focused on $$$ for my tastes. | |
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