| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 7:46:16 AM | It never amazes me how cheap some guys can be. To use a coupon for dinner on their FIRST date????? This guy totally lacked class all the way around! The coupon should have been used for at least a second date and what better way to get a second date then to call her again and explain how he had a 2 for 1 coupon for the restaurant. Then to use the "free" dinner for himself anyway.....he can forget the possibility of a second date. At least she found out early what a cheap-skate he turned out to be. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 7:57:29 AM | I havent read every post, just browsed through.
I wouldnt mind the coupon but what he did showed a definate lack of class. He should of told her about it when she offered to pay half and then they could of split what was left.
As to the waitresses tip..
I read where someone said tips aren't required...
you're of course correct..they are not required. BUT if I go out with someone who doesnt leave a tip, you can bet I will never go out with that person again. Wait staff make less than minimun wage. If you can't at least leave them a dollar..stay home and eat. | |
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ddream
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Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 103 | |
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ams42
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Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 104 | |
| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 8:17:36 AM | | I would have stopped waitress before she took the money and taken back half the money and said in front of all "I paid my half, now he owes his half". If I had driven myself there, I would have left right there and then. If he had driven us, I would have had him take me home. I would have told him then that I no longer want to have contact with someone who would betray me like that. The betrayal is that he would have gotten dinner for free behind my back and with no remorse. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 9:29:07 AM | Nightcowboy>>>>
When are you guys ever going to use the term "Equal Rights"correctly????
If you take the time to read " The Feminist Chronicles" , in no shape or form does it state that ( when a man and woman are out on a dinner date the woman pays for it )..
Equal Rights began all the way back in 1923 with Eleanor Roosevelt and the feminist movements are STILL trying to get total equality.
Until that day keep your mouth shut about it and do the Right Thing!
Also, before you take someone out maybe you should ask her if she belongs or supports the "Modern Day Womans Movement" or not !!  | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 107 | |
| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:14:57 AM | I for one don't think equal rights should extent to taking a woman out on a date . I have always believed that the man should pay and to me that's never going to be an issue.
Some people in this thread has pointed out that who pays should be discussed before the check comes, i never have those discussions, i just assume i am paying, picking up the check is a small price to pay for the pleasure of a beautiful womans company for an evening. It's something i do without even thinking about it.
The only time it becomes an issue is when the woman wants to go dutch. Then we might have the discussion, if she insisted on paying her half, that's perfectly ok, But i would then tell her that in the future if we continued dating, I am the kind of man that wants to pick up the tab, and that i would never be offended if she never reached into her wallet or looked at the check ever again while we were out.
On that i am in total agreement with Astreaa a lady that's out with me should never have to pick up a check . | |
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tdh46
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Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 109 | |
| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:55:16 AM | There are senarios where i think it's ok for the woman to pay. If a woman i am dating calls me up and says something like " hey i just got tickets to a concert, do you want to go with me" in that situation i would not even offer to pay for half the tickets if i took her up on her offer. But i would suggest we went to dinner before the concert and naturally that would be my treat.
Also if she asked me out to dinner and says it's her treat, i would be ok with her paying then too. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 11:10:25 AM | | Not even funny, imho, # 1 i dont go to dinner often on a date, especially the first one. #2 definitely no better way to show no class than to not pay for the other persons meal. But i go back to #1, especially if your just meeting someone for the first time something simple is in order, and dinner isnt the way to go. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 11:16:35 AM | ^ I do agree tdh, I have always paid (or been willing to pay) the entire bill for dinner on a date. Heck, my house is paid off, all I pay is bills and the occasional (like is coming up, my car is in the shop) credit card bill for car repairs, clothes, home depot stuff for the house, etc. I could afford to take a woman out twice a week for the rest of my life and not have it dent my finances, its not a big deal.
On the flip side, I read one thread here where the guy insisted he'd pay, *3* times, and the woman kept insisting she'd pay her 1/2, and when he finally acquieseced she was pissed and called him "cheap". Totally bizarre to me, I mean, if she *keeps* insisting, I will naturally let her pay because I'd want to respect her wishes (not out of being "cheap", but out of respect).
However, I will also add that when I met my GF, yes, the first night I paid for dinner. I should add that when we met, I rented a car for a week ($300+) to drive up there, and a hotel in her area for 4 nights ($400)... so when she insisted the 2nd night that she pay (because she knew how much I was spending to see her) I argued it once, and then said ok... she very much does *not* want me "paying her way". In her eyes, it would be me "buying her", and I can respect (and value) her feelings in that regard. The only thing I insisted I would pay for is broadband (she only has dialup), because if I spend a couple weeks at her place I could work from there (I work from home 99% of the time) while she was at work during the day, and that way I wouldn't have to burn vacation time (that we could spend together on an actual vacation) while she has to work. While she'll certainly benefit from it herself, we both will because it will mean more time together.
In the situation you described, the concert tickets, I dunno... I probably *would* offer to pay for my ticket, especially if it was (as the silly commercial on TV about the Police - the band - in NYC lately has said) $250 tickets, yes, I would offer to pay. Now, if she refused and said it was "her treat", I would respect that too. But yes, dinner would of course be "on the table" (haha), my treat, either way. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 11:26:17 AM |
Now she says she is a little stunned by this but he never offered to give her any of her money back and she never asked him for it. She just continued along as if nothing happened until the date ended. Then she called me late last night and wanted to know my opinion and what would i have done in that situation.
Well the date SHOULD have ended right there. I wouldn't argue over the price of a meal, especially not in public, but he showed her really clearly who he really is with that move. I would have just left if I were her. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:10:06 PM |
I don't agree with what the guy did but I also don't agree with how she reacted .
nightcowboy, are your sure you are not venting on the traditional view of a man paying for dates?
If you are the gentleman you say you are, how could you honestly believe this woman reacted badly?
The guy asked her on a date. He waited until dinner was finished and her offer to pay for her portion before he pulls out a 2 for 1 coupon. It suggests to most of us on this forum that he planned to use the coupon anyway and took her offer to save himself a few bucks. He profited from the date. She did not. We do not know how he acquired the coupon. We do know he intended to use it and that in itself shows a lack of class on a first date.
I am not sure how she managed to keep her cool after that.. I would have left in disgust. His actions were clearly disrespectful to her. End of story! | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:32:02 PM | | Has to be one of the most funny things ever hahahaha. But she did "insist" on paying for her own so in one aspect he was only doing what he planed in the first place. And after all why complain about a perfectly good use of a coupon right? LOL! | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:34:30 PM | I think the guy behaved poorly by not divulging that he had a coupon up front and further he clearly does not know about coupon etiquette. Many apparently don't and I agree with the following:
it's always been used to basically reduce the cost of the entire meal and then the check gets split evenly for the remainder, and, the tip should be calculated based on what the total cost WOULD have been without the coupon.
There is a vast difference between being frugal/economical and being cheap and classless.
Unreal that a guy would think for a minute that would be acceptable on a date... 1st or otherwise! Having said that, IF I was in an actual RELATIONSHIP with someone and I wanted to go for dinner but money was a tad tight and I could afford to pay for one of the two dinners and we had a coupon, I would offer to do that... but the key is knowing about the truth of the cirumstances before hand. That was just plain lowball IMHO. I hope she learned from this. That's why I'll never go for dinner on a first date. I've heard too many horror stories! geesh!
No I certainly wouldn't be impressed and I wouldn't be seeing this guy again. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:43:02 PM | Hmm well if he was out with me ...the bar tab would be as much or more than the bill..HaHa~!
That's a great story. He sure wasn't trying to impress his date  maybe she should have asked him to take her grocery shopping (steal all his coupons first though!) those two for one coupons are wonderful!!! | |
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Jlizzy
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Joined: 10/10/2004
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:47:50 PM | Not much words needed for this except VERY VERY SHABBY!!
When I saw the post I thought it was whether there would be an issue for a guy to foot the full bill together with a coupon...I think maybe even some women would find this a bit much, I wouldnt but yes your friend has every right to be put off doesn't say much for the guy on a first date!!! | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:48:05 PM | | I would like to say I am shocked....but I am not. I went out with a woman that said she met a guy for dinner off of a site, she ordered water..and as she usually did, a twist of lemon. He told the waitress to bring a bowl of lemons, then proceeded to squeeze them in his water and add sugar to make lemonade and avoid buying something to drink... She really had no intrest in him at this point, but for something to do, she suggested they go down the street to a club(seperate cars). When they arrived, he relized it was ladies night, 2 fers for all single women. He sent her in first, and then drank 3 free drinks when she bought hers. She finally made some excuse about going home, waited for him to leave before going back inside..... This really happened, and makes a coupon guy look like a big spender. Both look cheap...just one is worse than the other. | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 2:07:38 PM | That is indeed hilarious....woulda been looking around to see if I'd been punked it's so out there On a more serious note...I think it was nice for her to offer to pay her part....but she needs to slow the speed of getting those dead presidents or plastic out. I would have been stunned if he'd allowed me to pay for half...but once he whipped out the coupon...that would've been it....I would have ripped it into...given it back to him with here's what I think of your half...c ya | |
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| Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 4/22/2007 2:19:40 PM | | I think I would keep looking and find a woman who wasn't so worried about how much money he does or doesn't spend on her. I would be more inclined to know the person, than I would how much money they could blow, especially on a first date . Blowing a lot of money on a first date doesn't guarantee a second date (just makes paying your mortgage and child support harder). If I really like a person (or think I could get to like the person ) I would be happy eating or drinking cheaply.I'm not there so much to eat as to get to know the person. After we've established a relationship and I knew she was not just out for a fancy meal then I could comfortably spend more on her. Really ?? why blow the rent if your not even sure your compatible. All the guy gets is poorer and she gets fed good. Seems like a waste. | |
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