| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:33:34 PM | Lmao casual sex would have to be boxers ,shorts or sweats , dressed up would have to be starched clothes thats all i have for dress clothes. lol im just razzin ya i aint getting any , any way so it dont matter. But wait casual could be no drawers and sweats or it could be flip flops and shorts then again dressed up could be putting a bow on it but not a strached bow that would be uncomfortable, i sapose a suit would have to be black tie sex or it could be classified as upgraded to top self sex . Now ya have me confused and i was just begining to understand it all my self. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 1:14:22 AM | Skeeter...
Naw! Naw! Naw! Agin' You got it all wrong, it is 5 minutes and shorts and t-shirt is optional!
All that other stuff with suites and pants, that is for the Upty Ups... you know those Preppy folks that wants to have sex ONLY in bed.
I think you are referencing Casual sex on the couch, sofa, hot tub, back seat of the car, for which the attire I mention is suitable.
BUT for the Upty Ups that can only do it in bed, they need those suites, and all that fancy smancy stuff.
Once agin'...
Keep Up with the program. It was sent out on last months (ooops! a previous months) update of the "Men's Muckety Muck Book of Techniques and Know How". | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/1/2007 5:14:10 AM | | I didnt get hat issue , maybe thats whats wrong ,I think it was stolen by the single lady next door trying to find out what us men were all about! Im gona have to send my son over there and see what she did with it. But i did get last months issue of stroke and poke. Thanks again for keeping me up to date . | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 6:38:36 PM | | Then maybe it should be referred to as recreational sex, sounds better than planned sex, and who knows it could lead to something more than a date at Starbuck's, isn't a one night stand someone you don't necessarily know, and casual or recreational someone you don't actually love, or don't know you love, but maybe hang out with and are friends with? Just wondering...I either want to or not and know relatively quick, which kind of sucks...cause if I want to and do the "proper" thing and wait, it usually wears off and then I have what is referred to as no sex. Know what I mean? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 9:22:22 AM | OMG....Your funnier than the law out to allow!
Tell me why every one has to label the "sex thing". If you want to have sex...then just do it. "i;m speaking to the masses by the way not just you Txskeeter) If you want to make love to someone then make love. There are two choices. Making love and just sex......why do we always try to figure this shite out! LOL
Just pick one and do it everybody. You all know when your with someone whether or not your gonna even touch them or not so if that's the case.... Just decide, Do I want to make love to her or him because I really reeeaaalllyyy feel something or do I want to have sex with her or him because I feel really attracted physically to them. Then put on the safety patrol and let it roll! LOL
Pick one !
Happy fishing and dishing yall! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 9:28:05 AM | Sirius,
I thought that was a condition that only afflicted "ME" the wait and no sex thang!Because I waited to long.
Short n Sweet...
WOW! Wish MORE WOMEN thought like you do. And maybe ME as well. Problem is, some people can not distinguish between casual sex / recreational sex versus making love or being in love.
You made a very great point the both of YOU.
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Posted: 5/5/2007 6:37:49 AM | Your right cowboyenuff,
That is why people who can't distiguish between casual sex vs recreational sex should practice the no sex thing until they know which one it is they want. And to be real honest those people are the ones that usually end up having recreational sex because they aren't to good at making a decision based on their feeling because they don't know how to interpret them. Hence the making love vs being in love.
Oooooh I just realized I think I might have stayed up to late and fell asleep while Dr Phil was on! LOL
Hope everybody has an awesome Saturday! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 9:28:17 AM | | Casual sex, is there really a such thing..I think all sex requriers some emotional feelings what ever they may be..If not then you both must have been tippsy or living in this fantasy world..sex is great yal,l but honestly..It needs to be more than what it is..so you have this sex..good or bad..you need to have some context of knowing that you have this inate need of wanting and needing someone who ever it may be..The fact is sex is only concieved as an ananimalistic view of what you precieve, fact is love and sex takes on many forms, the act of loving on and being with an idividual is based souly on emotions..We all know sometimes its good sometimes its not so good but the act of sex is never bad unless you have this unrealistic view as to what you think it is..many things change and evolve in our context of making love..fact is and we all know it is sometimes better than other times..In saying that even in those moments of not being as good as other times, the fact that we loved made it good..there are alwways other times to come..If it were the same all the time would that not be a boring concept..Its the guessing and expectations that demise our own attitudes towards expectations..casual sex..NO..you have too make it more..at that point, and only at that point can casual sex be experienced. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 11:45:54 AM | ?QUE? Paladin.
Not trying to be rude or sound funny. But I was lost on that one a bit. I guess you are saying that you can or can not have Causal sex without it meaning more?
Either way, I do agree with you that there are GOOD moments of sex and Not So Good moments of sex.
In my experience, as I stated previously... you can have GREAT SEX and LOVE MAKING with strangers. AND BAD SEX / LOVE MAKING with someone you are in love with.
My experience has also shown me that people who engage in Casual / Recreational sex need some focus to 'splain it off when they realize that it was never going to amount to more ( I.E drinking heavily and allowing themselves to be picked up). Or that it meant nothing when it did.
I recently had the misfortune of trying to explain to several people (women) what it is that this guy was looking for and in all but one instance I was totally taken wrong. So I can see Paladin where a lot of what you said makes sense... from a guy standpoint or view.
To ALL... if you are engaging in Casual/Recreational Sex, be safe and have fun! Life is too short to worry about all the B.S. that we heap on top of ourselves and others. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 2:31:01 PM | m
Exactly ...even casual sex has meaning else your were just drunk out your mind and it just happened..anything other than that required some kind of emotion..even in a stuppor I suppose, it had an emotional context at some point...There is always an attractrion..as far as the meaning of casual sex..has two connotations// there was attraction at some point..there is just an agreement to have sex and nothing more..we have all done it, its is an animalistic value we as humans do, in all of the animal world we actully try to make attachments to it....in the anmimal worrld its about propagation..considering our minds as humanas..we are very strange. WE WANT EMOTINAL ATTACHMENTS. That is our nature. THE OTHER IS NOTHING MORE THAN FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS. which is cool too if that is what you want. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:41:31 AM | Did anybody read my post. That is exactly what I am talking about. It took two paragraghs after my last post to make this big deal out of this.. NO..................I totally diagree Paladin. Their are two meanings here. One is just plain ol sex and the other is love. I'm sure sowehere in the back of your vast mind you can narrow it down to these two terms....................CASUAL SEX/MAKING LOVE......And I'm sure you have done this before............
Don't wear it out by disecting it Paladin. . Enjoy it and don't try to make a mountain out of a molehill. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 7:51:23 AM | Your Funny S/S
To disect is what we as people do and have always done, its is what has made this country great..And I think that was my Point S/S. There are Two connontations to the cast of sex, but regaurdless of what it was, it requiers some emotions..Ok so you meet someone and there is this Idea of wanting to be with them for nothing but purely sex..the other idea is wanting to be with someone and having something more permanent..not that sex is really the issue...sex in all that it is, can be more than the act of penetration as it were..some want that..some construe it to the emotional side...the act of satifaction, the act of LOve.. however it is concieved is purley of to each and everyone..sure who doesnt like the animalistic attitudes to want hard unbreached sex..Thats too easy and so easy to do in our minds.....thats the fantasy world you see in the movies..the true act of love is all encompassing ands that is what LOve is..SEX..another issue..Good sex is the emotional textures of life..giving..loving...holding..sharing...protecting...overcoming..and standing with each and all that life deals us. And I did say 2 S/S..maybe you didnt really read mine What is safety patrol..? SEX..Yall all to seem to use it so casually as if it were just that.. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 7:55:08 AM | | Recreational sex...That has got to be a player I might add..anyone is game for that, but arent we all looking for more..I can please myself..I want more..Recreational sex..why dont you call it what it is..Booty call. Maybe U didnt read mine..Casual sex..Hmmm nothing but spontinaity...such a copout to what it is..LOve ...Sex..go to adultfinders .com. There you can have casual sex..This site is about love..or so it was ment to be.. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 8:03:58 AM | | Yea deb Since its so easy to talk about lets just go have some...seems to me the meaning is nothing much to what Im hearing..rercreational...with attitudes like that..if you found someone..ooops now your going to be having trust issues too..thats the next topic can you turst someone that is so casual as it were...Hell can barley get anyone to go out half the time and we tak about casual or rec. sex..So funny..truthfully I dont think half of the people on here know what they want..Oooops..sorry didnt step on toes, did I ? ..didnt mean too.. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:33:49 AM | I think what you are finding frustrating Paladin is that more people are so Blaise` about SEX in general. That is a sad state of affairs for WE the human kind.
BUT... I think it rather kewl that women feel more empowered to be as sexually promiscuous as they always complain that men are. WOMEN are also allowing some of their more... baser sides to come forth now, and for a change MEN are not as dis-illusioned as we once were when it came to women.
We could all spout statistics and surveys and opinions all day long. Fact is, society as a whole has changed its thinking on SEX in all its many forms and vagaries are only in those few pockets of denial... or those unwilling to change.
Whewww! Now that I am dun' sounding all smart and stuff.
Here is my view on the TOPIC, for ALL the world to READ and SEE!
I am a romantic at heart. OLD Fashioned by Nature and Upbringing. Would wish to instill some of my strong religious and moral values on my kids. Chances are, by the time they are adults society will have a whole new set of standards from what you and I grow'd up with.
BUT ....
Considering all of that... I WANT SEX! I would love for it to be meaningless at times, and Passionate Love Making at other times. I would really love to meet ONE woman that would engage in Meaningless sex with me until either we fall madly in love, or decide to be just the best of friends. OPTIONS that is what it is all about. NOT opinions.
We all have options. Unfortunately for some of the men, myself mainly, I am looked down upon by potential females who hear what I am saying, but fail to grasp all of its implications.
SO I sit alone. Hang out with friends. And I watch and wait for one that will finally "GET IT about me." That I am not just about THE SEX... but that the sex is a way for me and you to gain additional insights into whether we are compatible.
Call it over thinking the issue, but NOW ALL THE WOMEN THAT READ THIS WILL HAVE A CLUE and HOPEFULLY will stop presuming about me.
CowboyEnuff
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:58:18 AM | | You are so right cowboy.The meaning of sex changes over the years for most of us.Im human and want sex as much as the men do.I find the older I get it means more to me. i miss the intamacy between a man and a woman the most, whether its holding hands,kissing etc. get my drift? | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 10:01:39 AM | I think that is what I meant by Casual Sex... of course it is not always just sex either. SOmeTimes it can be just holding and cuddling with the opposite sex. or as when I was younger a whole slew of things.
Many years ago in a different life deb, I guess I miss just having female friends. Most of them were willing to provide ideas on dating other women, and in return I gave them my ideas on dating men. We would sit around talking about SEX and how to please the opposite sex. Nothing more pleasing than to be in a room with College women and be the one guy, they knew, who has a clue about sex and how to please a woman. Ahhh! THOSE where some funny conversations, as I was the only guy in the room usually with several women. Or on the rare occasion I had a guy roommate, he would answer their questions. IT WAS ALL GOOD! Everybody respected each others boundaries. WHAT HAPPENED to those same women?
Personally speaking, they left and lived their lives and met jerks and aholes along the way and are now dispirited, or desperate for love. Cause I can not tell you back then how many nites I would be awakened to a friend at the door crying her heart out over some guy. In the morning I would make breakfast, spend time holding her more, make love to her if she / we so desired it, and send her off happy to be my friend. You can not do that these days... if you do she will think you in love with her. Worse still, confuse your kindness for an just an attempt at getting into her panties or fall in love with you when you are not even thinking that way. IT USE TO BE SO SIMPLE when we were younger... | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 10:17:56 AM | | My point exactly..sex is more than the so called penitration..making love and loving someone is so much more than we give it credit..love is a a binding force, sex is just that meaningless..hopelessness never meeting our expectaions....This socieity puts WAY too much into it, a fullfillment of an emotional want and not need..We need someone to love..casual..such a vague term..Its pointless..a fullfillment our our own selfishness..means nothing..Just a time shared together forever, good and bad, .If we base love on sex only then love is lost..Love is not casual sex.. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 11:47:44 AM | Nope, was to busy smelling the breakfast sausages I burned this morning cooking breakfast for my lil ones.
Guess you gonna have to blame that one on Paladin... Mr. Deep thoughts.
Hey Paladin, you ready for the 19th? | |
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