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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:08:35 PM | Yeppers..The 19th cant miss it unless someone comes along and changes my mind..Now those are one night stands..well. maybe two..including two asprins..
Oh debb, go to the event page..POF parties are once a month as Macs Tavern in Arlington.. | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/7/2007 10:50:23 AM | "Cause I can not tell you back then how many nites I would be awakened to a friend at the door crying her heart out over some guy. In the morning I would make breakfast, spend time holding her more, make love to her if she / we so desired it, and send her off happy to be my friend."
That is friends with benefits, and it still does happen sometimes....although it is rare. Back then, it was probably not acknowledged as such, but you were certainly friends that met each others needs in that moment...and continued to be friends.....
It didn't have to ruin anything else that might come along and be more "special" or "exclusive" to them or you. Just friends meeting the needs of each other in that moment...
What is wrong with that???
I think a lot of the reason our generation doesn't have that type of relationships anymore is partially b/c we have too many things that get in the way, and it isn't the proper thing to do....we (most people) do care what others think, and therefore don't have these types of relationship/or don't admit to them for fear of what someone else might think about us....
Then, b/c we are older, we have friends, family, ex's, gf/bf, kids, that have accumulated over the years and they are the "too many things that get in the way". It is just a fact of life as we get older (not bad, just a fact)....but I still love having the type of relationship in the initial quote....and most definitely think it is still possible...
Can those relationships develop into more....certainly. Are those relationships dangerous if one person developes feelings and the other doesn't....yes it can be. But that hasn't changed over the years...only we have...with age and attitudes. Those same possibilities still exist now that existed then, but being younger, we generally didn't worry about it as much. We have all been hurt in relationships, and it seems they tend to hurt more each and every time...
 
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/8/2007 10:34:15 AM | Corsicanagirl... SAGE Advice.
So I am looking at getting back in the dating life again. But at present only care to make a few friends. JUST FRIENDS!
I see dozens of ladies looking at my profile daily. Yet, one or two stop and say "hi!" And I have contacted several that "read" promising online. Who knows, maybe some good will come out of the few new friendships I have met, and I will have some new friends for a lifetime.
As for the FWB, CASUAL SEX, ONE NITE STANDS... I think I will let the others worry about it. Me, I enjoy having female friends in whom I can talk to, hang out with, play golf, catch movies, and do more than sit around my apt.
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/14/2007 2:15:21 PM | Reading all this stuff that has passed. I got one question.
"IS it wrong to want sex, expect nothing afterward, but to continue to look"?
I ask because someone I know told me that she was looking for a quick fix, but that she was still looking for that one particular man. The offer was not aimed at me... but it was interesting to her nonetheless.
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/18/2007 7:12:53 AM |
"IS it wrong to want sex, expect nothing afterward, but to continue to look"?
Isn't wanting and desiring sex something that's natural? >>>>>>>>But wanting a quick fix will lead only to wanting another quick fix. What a quick fix can do is satisfy for the moment,but what about the next moment when the desire for sex occurs?
Topp,I think it's a question that has to be answered by each individual. It's wrong from my perspective but some people could care less who their future companion slept with.
Me,I don't want someone who has been sleeping around getting quick fixes. Yes,It would be wrong and I don't think it's healthy for anyone to get quick fixes. | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 5/18/2007 6:25:09 PM | | I can't say I have never had casual sex. I would rather just have the whole enchilada though. The relationship, the time spent together, the dating, the flowers... btw, doesnt anyone bring their date flowers anymore? | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:58:45 AM |
Unless you're celibate, knock off the pretensions of innocence, OK?
I'm not all about feigning innocence. I don't pretend to be something that I'm not. I just choose not to have casual/random sexual encounters. I have seen first hand the damage that this can do to someone. I have a friend suffering from being HIV positive. I have another friend kill himself because he contracted HIV. I have friends with warts, herpes, hpv. After seeing all of this first hand sex can be very dangerous. So I'm just not willing to throw everything I have been working so hard for away for an orgasm. I have fingers and toys to fill that void until I find someone special to share myself with.
so staying clean and pleasing myself or risking contracting a serious disease that I could spread to someone else. Too me, the choice is obvious. | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/3/2007 10:37:24 PM | ok....a few people might look down on me for what i'm about to say, but its the whole truth and nothing but the truth (for me!) lol! I am sooo for casual sex, as long as i know the person, i'm not one to go get drunk and take some random guy home with me just to get an easy lay!! NOT GONNA HAPPEN BUDDY! Besides it being just totally out of the question, you have to look at this day n age and think about all the nasty little diseases you could get from some tom,**** or hairy! NOT saying you couldn't get that from a "casual sex friend" , only the good man above knows who they've been sleeping with, but it makes me feel a little better knowing that person!!
As for the emotional and intimate part of the deal, I know what i'm getting myself into, and I also know what the outcome of it will be. I hold my feelings back when I'm in that kind of situation because it's the times that you dont that you will get the raw end of the deal and end up with a broken heart! And I've had my fair share of broken hearts just like numerous of other people and dang it, I'm not going to let it happen again!!
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that if my "casual friend" started having feelings for me, that I'd be totally against them and drop em where they lay! haha...No, I'm not like that at all......................WOW, i really rambled away on that one!!  ok i'll quit now and get my butt in bed!! | |
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Posted: 9/4/2007 12:09:18 PM | Thank you very much for that.
If you have having casual sex with your friend do you know who he/she is having casual sex with and who that person is having sex with and so forth and so forth. Just because you know them doesnt mean you are safe | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/6/2007 1:01:05 PM | I have not yet read every post but here is my two cents. ANY intimate encounter :Pause:
Intimate encounter: Two people become intimate. I am intimate with my best girl friend, we do not have sex with each other. Sharing part of your self is intimate. Sex is intimate, duh. But intimacy can happen anywhere, anytime sometimes with a stranger. A confession of guilt. A peek into the life of someone. A hug can be intimate while not sexual.
:Unpause: can result in someone being hurt. To become intimate means you must be vulnerable. You open a place in your soul to someone else, or someone opens theirs to you. Cowboyenuff revealed his soul to us. I am an intimate person, I don't really exist well up on the surface, it is boring to me. I want to know who you really are. My friends, aquaintances (i don't know how to spell that!) customers (you would be surprised what people tell their Realtor), and some strangers tell me stuff they don't tell anyone else. I have a heart, I care, I get hurt, a lot. But do I stop being intimate with people because I might give or receive emotional pain? No. A fellow, moody guy, who scares me silly on one level, needed a hug. I GAVE him a hug and held him until he was ready to pull away. The surprise in his eyes was worth the price of admission! The dropping of the tension in his shoulders was why I hugged him. The level of intimacy we share on a daily basis is a personal choice. One made by both persons involved. A choice accompanied by risk. Sometimes we spark something that we didn't even know would catch and the rules change. That is part of life. We then, if we care, work it out, apologize but don't stop being intimate with others. What we want is to love and be loved. How we go about it is as individual as we are. A fellow I know has been married "all my life." His wife of 31 years died and he is finally out in the world. He has a definate 1960's attitude toward sex but he finds he can't practice what he preaches. We are all wired different. Give and receive the level of intimacy you are comfortable with.
skeeter: don't listen to that muckety muck. The proper attire for sex is skin. Hat optional. | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:28:44 PM | Wow! LOL!
,,,much love to all.
The sexual lives, perspectives and attitudes of our fellow brothers and sisters! I am not only impressed but newly educated. LOL!!
Hmm. My lovelies. Casual sex, a social norm, yes? Social attitudes about sex underwent considerable change over the years when I was a kiddo. Heh, heh,,, divorce and abortions became easier to obtain durring this casual sex era or eras. LOL!
,,,hey as long as two parties are consenting adults. Who am I, but just a poor wittle ole artist with no stone to throw?
Ladies, do be careful and men start/end "the love" with "the glove"! Now get outta here you Casual Sexual Beings! Go get your Hookups, your extended hookups, bootycalls, get your fill, your references, get your Dogging going, and dont let conservative/or liberal views stop you from doing the do and doing it well. LOL!
,,, and hopefully some day "YOU" my lovelies engaging in sexual activities outside the context of a romantic relationship,,,,, find love.
Shake wat ya mama gave you!
No! not you! ,,,,,,,,,,,,, her. Excuse me,,,, Ahhhhhhh! | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:35:01 PM | ,,,heh,,, as for me? Not looking for casaul sex. Looking for some one to see a freaking movie with,,,, and conversation with sangria. Heh, heh, heh, heh,
LOL!
Casual sex is a physical relationship without any emotional attachments. Kinda empty, kinda unfulfilling and you feel just awful afterwards. LOL. I'll pass.
Movie anyone?
Okay,,,,,, sangria it is.
Me first! | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/10/2007 11:53:34 PM | Casual Sex is good for you...Did you know?...
Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being....
Did you know?...
A medical study conducted in Pennsylvania showed that people who have sex once or twice a week have their immune systems boosted slightly....
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/11/2007 12:16:54 AM | Ahhh euphoriaaaaaaah.
Mmm. lovely.
Heh,,, unfortunately with my depression, Im going to have to have "casual sex" everyday!
,,especially afternoon, and evenings. Oh hell, I also get depressed durring the mornings.
,, durring commercials! Oh my god especially durring comercials. Why are those kids so mean to the rabbit. "Silly rabbit, Trix are for kids"
,,,need ca,,,ca,,,ca,,asua,,,,casual se,,se,,see,,,sex.
No. Need this instead,,,,,,,, Ah yesss, euphoria. Look one hand! | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/11/2007 11:49:02 PM | | I will never understand casual sex/one night stands...someone you barely know, that you dont really care about, that doesnt care about you, how do you sleep with them? I just dont get it. | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/12/2007 1:46:33 AM | Someone was listening in Sex Ed Class! These are some of the things to consider when having a casual sex encounter. I'm a nurse and they are very real. On the other hand, we are all adults and everyone is in charge of taking care of his/her own body. But when the other person has casual encounters with others that places you directly in the line-of-fire. For myself - when a man is all over me on a first date - I can't help but believe he would do the same thing with any other woman. Afterall he doesn't know me very well and is trying to have sex with me. Would love to just cuddle, kiss, and hug especially while getting to know someone. Without this speaking for myself only, there will never be more.  | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/12/2007 1:56:47 AM | You know there is a huge problem with Sex. It clouds the minds of people. And last I checked there ain't nothing casual about it, it wears me out every time.
But the truth is most people love sex more than they love the people they are with. To me if your having sex, first make sure its someone you truly care about. It has no meaning if there isn't any love of any kind attached to it. There are a lot of men out there just looking for their next fix. Unfortunately the same can be said about women.
A lot of folks are starting to realize that sex isn't easing their loneliness. Nor is it bringing a solid foundation of happiness. Sex is a short term fix. On a short period of time it excites your senses. Makes you feel like the one your with really loves you. Truth is your both just in love with the sex. This is why in my own opinion that a lot of marriages fail. I know it was part of my problem. I loved the sex with my Ex. I was great in bed. j/k
But seriously, we do tend to have sex and think it equals love. So I think anything people might call casual is actually dangerous to our mental state of being. Besides, if you had a choice between giving your body up to everyone that came along, or giving it up to one special person you care for, which would you prefer?
And is it fair to wear out your body before you meet that one special person? To take a chance of deadening yourself to sex all together. I do believe an abuse of too much sex with people you don't truly care for ruins your ability to enjoy it with someone you do care for.
Of course its just my opinion and I could be wrong. I personally would rather hold out for someone special. It is probably one of the reasons I won't date just anyone. | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/12/2007 9:37:25 PM | HMMMM hat optional, what about the boots, i get better traction with the boots on , but i still think sweats and a tshirt is just as good for sex , nooooo need to get in a damn suit. but like beach said nothing better then a lil skin to skin  | |
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| Casual Sex Can mean more than just a One Nite Stand...
Posted: 9/14/2007 8:34:34 AM | Things u can get from Casual Sex!!
Herpes simplex
AIDs
HIV
Chlamydia
Gonorrhea
Hepatitis B
Trichomoniasis
Bacterial vaginosis
A clap that no one can hear!!!
A itch that u can not get rid of!
Some crabs that u can not eat!
Hurt's when u pee!!!
A shot somewere u do not want one at!!!
A egg that grows up and loves u!!!!!
This one is for the Ladies!!
Estimated Number of Pregnant Women with STDs
Bacterial vaginosis - 800,000
Herpes simplex - 800,000
Chlamydia - 200,000
Trichomoniasis - 80,000
Gonorrhea - 40,000
Hepatitis B - 40,000
HIV - 8,000
Syphilis - 8,000
So be good kids and cover the little man!! Be safe!! Thank with the head on ur shoulders!!
Get to know the person first!!!
NOW THAT's SCARY, and he's right, you can also get the same stuff from someone you love, I had a man who worked for me, kept getting sick...y'all know what i mean, and after all was said and done, it all came from the sweet little lady he had just married, you just never know...what are we to do, get a TEST everytime we feel that Natural Call? That's why you must cover before you go | |
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