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| Boys need fathers...Period
Posted: 5/13/2009 6:10:36 AM | I completely agree and would never tell anyone that I am qualified to raise a man on my own as a single mother-- which I happen to be. I do, however, believe that one dedicated parent is enough to shape a decent, well-rounded human being irregardless of gender. I've come to believe this because I have no power or influence over making a man choose to be a good parent with me for my child-- and neither the desire to raise a man to be a decent father. If that were the case, I'd have made his own father of the same substance as I am made of.
Single parents should rest well knowing that always striving to do your best for your children is enough and all that is required.
I grew up with two parents and my mom and dad are still together. Today I am a well rounded woman who knows how to both be a provider, home-maker, and a nurturer. I have inherited qualities from both but there are still shortfalls I have even having had two parents. | |
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| Boys need fathers...Period
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:00:53 AM | Conscioussoul,
I think that Tealwood is talking about the 'separation anxiety' experienced when leaving their mum to stay at dads. They may feel insecure at dads house and feel anxious about leaving mum and being placed in a situation (dad's house) that the level of emotional comfort is different from mum.
Separation anxiety doesn't mean that the child wants mum and dad to be together again.. It more so relates to being separated from mum or dad, being away from a place where they feel 'safe and secure' etc. Weaning a child off their dummy (pacifier), breast, bottle etc, staying at a friends house, are all situations where a child can experience separation anxiety.
QUESTION FOR ALL:
How would the people who claim that a child, be it boy or girl does not need a father, male role model or father figure in their life respond to statements like?
Children do not need a mother or female role model in their life.
Girls do not need their mother or female role model in order to be successful in life, emotionally, physically, professionally etc.
I'm sure the attitudes of some people would change considerably when the table is turned and its now the "woman" who is not important in the child's life..
Which brings back the old debate about fairness, equal rights and discrimination. Its ok when its "one way" but when the "equal rights argument" is flipped in reverse then, its a whole other story..
Do woman truly want 'equal rights' or simply want to be in a position of power over men, when it suits them and a position of dependency when it is beneficial to their cause?
Note: I am personally all for equal rights amongst all human beings, female, male, black, white, short, tall etc. I agree with the fact that if a woman is doing the same job as a man, she should be payed the same and treated the same.
My question was merely posed out of curiosity. | |
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| Boys need fathers...Period
Posted: 5/13/2009 7:44:00 AM | | well spider 45. my son doesnt need his biological father. and im not dragging him through anything. i let him know when i was 4 months pregnant it was his. he said i was going to ruin his life. i dont get anything from him and never will. nor do i want to. dont assume all single mothers are just out to suck every penny out of the men who helped create that child. not only that. they were active participants in creating life. they could have chose to keep it in their pants. before you start judging us remember that. raising a child isnt cheep either. remember that as well | |
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| Boys need fathers...Period
Posted: 5/13/2009 8:03:52 AM | | no they do not as I work with many of these kids. they tend to have little to no emotional stability if they do it is to what will better their lives. childern "NEED " parents to teach them how to become productive, emotionaly stable and responsiable adults. | |
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