| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:39:26 PM | Commit? Of course people do not want to commit. Who wants to commit. Freedom is what people gave their lives for.
So that something better than any woman which men commit to is: Freedom! No woman no matter how great can compete with Freedom!
I love women but I am commited to Freedom.
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/25/2007 8:00:37 AM | don't be in such a rush to make them "commit" they already said they're just gonna be seeing you. just go with that for awhile and if you want to get more serious about it than he does.....****'im go get you another dude. you'll eventually find a dude that's willing to.
or straight from the getgo when you first meet a dude and the topic of relationships come up see what kind he wants RIGHT NOW not later on. if it's not what you're looking for you might be setting yourself up for some drama | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/25/2007 12:34:50 PM | Well Nick, it sounds to me that you do not truly enjoy freedom. In a truly loving relationship, one does not have to choose between freedom and commitment. When one is alone due to fear of commitment, then they live within their own self-imposed chains. True freedom is found within.
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/25/2007 1:21:38 PM | "True freedom is found within"
Dear fellow poster, that is indeed a nice catch-phrase, but with all due respect, please save it for someone else than this poster (in as far as you addressed your post to this poster). Sincerely.
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:54:00 PM | If you can afford to have a better car without disrupting, do you get that better car?
If you can move into a better neighborhood, do you take that opportunity to move?
If you can have a better job, do you move on to that next thing?
Men and women are always looking for something better whether it is a relationship, car, house, job, television, etc.... | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/25/2007 8:35:53 PM | Buying items to upgrade your lifestyle is something everyone has in common, however, when your in a relationship with someone whom you say you are committed to (oh boy the c word), then you should be with them and work towards achieving your goals together. Those are things that build a strong relationship...a bond if you will that will help you to grow. If you say you are committed and want to build a life together then you shouldnt be looking for a better deal, just cuz its a newer model, or has more horsepower. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/26/2007 8:16:36 PM | Oh my Kungfu...arent we a bit snappy...You need to ease down! All that anger can't be good for your karma....lol...
First of all you are taking things out of context. I never said that it is purely a man thing...had I said that, then I would have actually written it!
What I said or meant or however you will take this, is that women are generally more emotional then men, and end up having a stronger bond to the one they are with.
Men on the other hand have more of the "survival of the fittest" complex, and do not carry as much..(and notice I say as much, and not at all)...emotions. They always look for the next best thing..it is in their nature. Its not necessarily a bad trait to have, unless you are hurting someone in the process...however, as a man the burden of being the "fittest" is yours to bear, and as a woman my burden to bear is that of extreme emotional behaviour ...lol...So deal with it!!!!
In addition this is not a he said she said who is the better gender thing...the question asked is "why are GUYS always looking for something better"
Furthermore, you will also notice my friend, that I did say there are (okay I said few), but there are ladies out there who are the same and will look for the next best thing. Are you happy now that I have changed the wording...
Finally a sewer rat is a sewer rat no matter which way you look at it...male or female...if you got someone your not happy with...then say good bye and then look for something better. Why keep the one your with, if she or he is not the one you want...
I hope this clarifies things for you...if not, I'm sure I'll hear about it....lol
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/27/2007 5:47:13 AM |
Really, so you're saying that it's purely a man thing?
No, it is not purely a man thing but its how we as humans act. When a guy seeks a woman he usually wants the prime rib. If all he can afford is the burger (girl is out of his league) then he'll take that. We want all the garnishments. We want it to look pretty and taste amazing when it arrives at our table.
When a woman is seeking a guy and comes across a burger, a good burger, but still a burger she'll work with it. She'll think "If I add some white truffles to this burger...I might be able to eat it".
I believe that sort of mentality does carry over in to several aspects of a relationship but the dynamics of it will change. You can't dispute this one Kungfu ;P
Princess 4 ever: The guy you were with sounds like a complete jackass. The problem here is that you see him as "looking for something better" when in reality he is nothing but a liar, a cheat, and a loser. He made a commitment to you and broke one of the most important things in any relationship, trust. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/27/2007 5:51:32 AM |
Not ME!!! When I find that special someone that rocks my world.... I'm going to stick to her like crazy glue!!! Ok... where is she????
Until she decides you're of the following: crazy, overbearing, possessive, insecure, clingy, needy, smothering her, etc.  | |
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Posted: 4/27/2007 7:13:47 AM | The wonderful things about these forum posts are that you can see who the good men are..
Any guy who would admit that they are always looking for something/someone better then what they have will automatically be put into the "jerk" column.
Thanks to those "men" for your honesty, it makes our job easier, you know weeding out the poison ivy from the roses...
Oh- and don't complain that you can't meet anyone who is deserving of you and your INFLATED ego's, since nobody will ever be "good enough" for you....
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/28/2007 7:06:22 AM | Ok, so here's the thing... A guy who knows that he is looking for something better than the average burger, is not a jerk, he just knows what he wants, and wont settle. Mr 1 2 up there realizes this, and it is obvious, or at least to me that, he wont choose the buger, but go for the steak. Its not a bad trait. I don't know about you, but I would definitely prefer steak too.
Hey 1 2...your right he is a burger, but he's sirloin...and before being sirloin...he was a steak...Mmmmm I'm hungry...lol!  | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 4/28/2007 8:29:52 AM | Look gals.....
Many of us have been BURNED...JUST LIKE YOU!!!!!!! sad but true. The thing is...in most cases, as in marriage...the woman walks...stats show it too, so dont argue about it.
Anyway.....after something like that, and a lot of soul searching, we LEARN to no just give our heart to someone....she has to earn it.
as far as commitment or a relationship, I dont even THINK about something like that until I know a gal for a while.....Why get into a relationship with someone you dont know? Much better to take the time to get to know someone and THEN decide you want the relationship.....no sense cluttering up the getting to know you part with the relationship mumbo jumbo. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 11:20:05 AM | [Many of us have been BURNED...JUST LIKE YOU!!!!!!! sad but true. The thing is...in most cases, as in marriage...the woman walks...stats show it too, so dont argue about it.]
Okay, now I gotta touch on this...Your right we have all been burned but dude... A woman married or not wont walk out on a good thing unless there is a reason! What that statistic is really saying is that there are a whole lotta men out there who are not giving the attention to their partners like they did when they first began dating!!!! Maybe lack of communication, or feeling like she matters, that she is not just needed but WANTED are just a few of the reasons a woman would walk out!...And that my friend is 100% true no matter what the statistic says...again...why look for something better if everything is great!!!!
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/8/2007 11:33:15 PM | looking for something better is why most people are here. by definition, dating sites enable them to juggle as many candidates as they want without any real consequence. they compile, sample, and discard for whatever reason, and try to keep some options on the back-burner. like shoe shopping. we've all been there. it's the nature of the beast, and often emotionally bereft.
i started net dating with the best of intentions, but find myself becoming just as desensitized as everyone else. generally, i'm a little TOO sensitive and could use some toughening up, but there should be a much bigger difference between looking for love and shopping for shoes. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/8/2007 11:42:23 PM | | OP, I feel the same way about women in all honesty. Not that I am rushing to get married or anything but it would be nice to find one that goes in to a relationship without plans on exiting soon afterwards. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/9/2007 12:35:58 AM | Most people men and women dont leave a relationship because they find or want something better but because they no longer want to be with you. Its just a fact.
Maybe a self reflection to see what your not offering the relationship is in order.
Understanding, Comprimise, Compassion, Committment, Sexual needs, Emotional support, Financial support, the list goes on... if you aren't putting in your 100% and your partner is... then they will want to leave you regardless of whether they feel there is someone better or not. (Which frankly, there probably is someone better, for them.)
We all usualy get back what we put in, but not always. If you put less in, don't expect more back... expect to get back that "less" you put in which is usualy them leaving.
It's possible there is nothing you can do to change tho... you may be putting in all you have, but the chemistry just isn't there. Don't hate them for it, as they shouldnt' hate you either if you dont feel it towards them.
Never stay when "EITHER" person is not happy. Don't hate people for leaving you, it only makes you bitter and more difficult to enter into another relationship due to fears of it happening again.
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/9/2007 4:49:17 AM | | It's simple human nature for anyone to desire improvement over what they already possess. It's called ambition. It's called motivation. And it's what our potential is gaged upon. People without this are known as dead beats and losers. If this is what you are seeking, then more power to you. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/9/2007 6:47:26 AM | because we still havent found what were looking for.
that's all well and good of course, but stringing people along to cover your azz while doing so (which is probably what this OP's guy was doing to her) is NOT COOL! | |
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