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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/9/2007 7:39:12 PM | If you can afford to have a better car without disrupting, do you get that better car?
If you can move into a better neighborhood, do you take that opportunity to move?
If you can have a better job, do you move on to that next thing?
Men and women are always looking for something better whether it is a relationship, car, house, job, television, etc....
i've said it before, and i'll say it again.......there should be a MUCH bigger difference between looking for love and shopping for shoes!
and no....i don't have to have the latest and greatest of everything when what i have makes me happy and is perfectly fine. "greener grass" has often made things worse for me actually, and the above kind of materialistic attitude is EXACTLY what trains us to think it's ok to think the same way about people as we do about possessions. that they are disposeable, there's always something "better", and we "deserve" to keep using and throwing away. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/25/2007 2:51:39 PM | Come on, stop freakin bashing each other, you sound equally idiotic, jaded and misguided.
I thnk people looking for a constant upgrade -- are probably trading in superficialities anyway... Perhaps they seek fresh and continuous conquests to bolster their impoverished sense of self worth -- And if they stopped for a moment to realize that their unquenching thirst for more -- is simply rebounding from empty pretense to empty pretense -- can never silence their insecurities or fill their emptiness, because nobody can give yourself to you --
However, if my girl finds something or someone who fulfills her more than I do, I should let her go, and if she's happy, I should be happy for her. All is fair in love and war...
Some crazies on some forum here wanted to create a 10 yr jail term for adultery -- they claim to be the moral majority -- but those with discernment regarding such matters, know they are the insane minority. (i know some quality people get hurt by the thoughtless and insecure, but Jebus h Moses -- some of the wounded probably richly deserved getting ditched)
Anyway... Go! All of you -- and find in each other, your own best and true selves...
Live dammit Live. lolol
t.
Who said a relationship has to be forever... Because TRULY, I don't know of a single marriage that is happy
Anyway, my point: live and let live, love and let love." So simple, so easy, so...?
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 7/25/2007 3:19:05 PM | In my case it is because I've never had anything better. I've always ended up on the losing end. So if I ever found anything great, I'd hang onto it.
But what is better or worse? Just because a woman thinks she is giving her man the best doesn't mean she is. We all see ourselves as something we aren't.
Do you really put your all into a relationship or commitment? Is he getting fulfilled? These same questions can be asked of the men. Sometimes we are looking for something better because what we have just isn't making us happy.
However there are a large number of men and women who won't ever stop. "Looking" around. But those folks aren't looking for something better, they seek thrills of sexual encounters. That is not the same search so if that seems to be the issue, just realize its the sin that draws them not the green grass on the other side. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 12/14/2007 9:57:19 AM | I think it is funny when a guy may say that he wants the woman to not see anyone else (in fear that someone else may take her away), but he wants to be able to see others to find out if there is something better out there. Don't get me wrong, women do it too, but I haven't experienced that since I don't date women. LOL.
The other case is where he says both of you should be free to date others, but then once he catches wind of the woman dating even one other than him, he suddenly decides to be exclusive! (Women do this too, I know- see my disclaimer above)
I could care less as long as they are honest. If someone is honest, then I only have myself to blame for getting hurt if that happens. I can then decide if I want to see someone who is dating others or not. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:00:22 PM | u ask well are we "together" and they dont want to commit, whats up with that
It is the way human males are wired. Our current "western culture" does not match with how human beings evolved. Most of "western culture" came from edicts from the Pope starting around the 6th century and have nothing to do with how human beings naturally respond to things. We place cultural restrictions on ourselves that do not match how we evolved. Humans are not monogamous beings by nature. If we were, there would be no need for laws to that effect or penalties for breaking them. Adultery and cheating would never happen. | |
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| why are guys always looking for something better
Posted: 12/14/2007 6:40:09 PM | Firstly, we're not ALWAYS looking for something better. Like the saying goes, "it happens when you're not looking". Well, unfortunately, that is true...when in a relationship, people tend to meet others who are now interested in having what someone else already has. Usually, while in a relationship, people are tempted to stray at different times. It's our personal values that make us decide to cheat and/or leave for the bigger better deal.
Personally, I feel almost as if I'm pressured to be in a relationship half the time. Usually, it is the woman who brings up the relationship questions. Are we a couple? Do you want to be exclusive? ETC. ETC. Those kind of questions aren't needed, if you're seeing a guy two, three, or more times a week, then odds are, he's happy with what he has. If you start to question where you two stand in that relationship, he will start to question the relationship itself. Just like when a man says to his girlfriend, you're so beautiful, why are you with me? If a man questions why a woman is with him often enough, the woman will start to question it herself.
I don't question a good thing. It's a good way to lose it. I believe that a relationship can be extremely well-based and strong, if the two people involved, continuously try to improve themselves as people. If there is constant improvement, learning, starting a new hobby, and continue to be interesting to their significant other, leaving that situation is almost not an option. A stagnant relationship will wither and die.
And, this last part, you can take however you'd like. Men are genetically designed to "survive and replicate". That is a strong desire to suppress. Especially with all the options available these days. It is the men, who have lived and experienced the "survive and replicate" stage, that are ready to settle down and commit. But, don't push us to committing...that will succeed only in pushing us away.
In response to use of the "L" word...that is a word reserved for my closest family and friends. I don't use it with a girlfriend unless I truly feel it.
Hmmmm...long post...I guess sometimes I have too much to say...lol I apologize for the somewhat random order of things as well. | |
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