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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/14/2009 8:06:19 AM | No being a single parent with 3 kids is not a bad thing. It might scare me away though because if we got serious, combined we would have 5 children. How would we be able to support 5 children, live comfortably, etc.... If we had the income combined to support 5 children then it wouldn't be as much of an issue. If I didn't have any children, I would wonder if you would be willing to have one with me (assuming I wanted to have children).
As for the whole fighting for custody thing....I am a parent so I understand the need to fight to be with our children. That wouldn't scare me but the possibility that you might be somewhat emotionally unavailable to me or emotionally draining upon me in the early stages of a relationship might scare me alot.
Logistics, economics, life stage....they do factor in when deciding who we want to exclude from our dating pool. Sad perhaps but true.... | |
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/15/2009 11:41:41 AM | hi mate
i have 3 kids myself and they all live with me and yes woman are scared off guys raising kids on there own as the lady said so are men ,, think for some reason people get it into there brains that we are looking for a replacement , WRONG !!!!!
Ian | |
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:49:47 PM | Hi Mike, I'm also a single mum of three and I wish u all the best in ur custody case.
It's hard to know why ppl run, it's been happening to me for years but it's doesn't get any easier....sorry...... but the best thing to do is hang in there coz there's someone out there for everyone (i hope  otherwise I'm fairly f****d!!  ) And I'm sure u'll meet miss right yet
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/16/2009 9:57:14 AM | There is absolutely nothing bad about being a single father...i think you're one in a million and if saying your fighting for custody scares woman off then that says something about them, nothing for you to worry about. I dont know why it scares them off, maybe not wanting to be involved with someone elses children, maybe they wouldnt want to share you! Being a single dad is a very attractive to me! I guess we're all different though.
Good luck...the right one is out there for you. | |
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/16/2009 10:30:59 AM | | PEOPLE R PEOPLE BUT WHAT I FEELL IS THIS...IF THAT SCARES PEOPLE AWAY THEN LET THEM STAY AWAY BECAUSE THAT'S WHERE THEY BELONG IS AWAY. I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF TWO AND I TURNED DOWN A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT DIDN'T WANT TO BE INVOLVED WITH CHILDREN. MY CHILDREN ARE MY LIFE AND I WANT SOMEONE IN MY LIFE BUT I COME AS A PACKAGE AND IF THEY CAN'T ACCEPT MY CHILDREN THEY ARE NO GOOD FOR ME AND I HOPE YOU FEEL THE SAME WAY THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT WE LOVE YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN JUST AS MUCH AS THEY LOVE YOU BECAUSE TO LOVE YOU IS TO LOVE YOUR CHILDREN TOO | |
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/16/2009 6:29:29 PM | where are you at?wouldnt scare me away! In fact I find its more admirable for a man to want and fight to be part of their kids lives more often!! very much prefer that quality then tons others!Ann | |
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/17/2009 1:32:54 AM | The being a single dad doesn't scare in the slightest; I love dads who are into their kids, involved and proactive and supportive as custodial or noncustodial parents. That relationship is incredibly important.
The custody battle on the other hand... it is INCREDIBLY important in situations where there is risk or a destructive environment to try and right it; if it is truly in the best interest of the child; I applaud that with all my heart, but many times it gets ugly, volatile and hostile; and there is so much angst and negative energy that it is difficult for anything good and healthy and supportive in that; the energy to sustain themselves and be there for their kids; it can be rough for them to have any kind of good feelings left for anyone else. It seems until that situation is settled out it would be really rough to start any kind of relationship.
Though I'm sure it wouldn't be impossible. But that I think is what the leery would be from; not the parenting, not the wanting custody even, but the custody "battle". That equates with war, and in many people's situations, it becomes exactly that.
very best of luck to you :) | |
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| single guy with 3 kids, why does it scare ladies away???
Posted: 4/17/2009 4:09:40 AM | | Hey Mike good luck with the fight and if a women runs then be happy she is,cause you would want to fall in love and your children also,then she leaves,right you'll see you will meet someone decents,maybe the timming ain't right,and your hands are full now with the courts and all,i know it took me 2 years to fight my ex,but i've got my boy's and he's all alone,so keep fighting and good luck,ok. | |
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