| | ...A Sexual Relationship WITHOUT Emotional Attachments...Page 18 of 23 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23) | Females were made to get pregnant as soon as they reach sexual maturity.
And yet, few of them have their first child within a year after menstruation starts.
What does this have to do with the relationship with out emotions?
What is meant by the statment women are not made that way is that women have and feel emotions. Alot of men dont. Men can move from female to female and not think twice about it but the female usually has some king of attraction to the man after having sex. I still like the friends with perks but only if the woman has the strength to keep the emotions in tack. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2010 2:07:14 AM | Hi
Sex with out love is sex.
Sex only represents it about 5% of any relationship.
Sex can come about due to physical sexual attraction.
But if we want a more fullfilled life we need to understand the importance of spiritual values.
How many people can write down or understand the importance spiritual values? Spiritual values such as healthy unconditional loving unconditional giving forgiving apologizing caring trusting trust worthy patience tolerance humility courteous sincere honest faithful optimistic self assured and well self balanced punctual courteous respectful considerate grateful very grateful content productive creative constructive nurturing sharing encouraging optimistic cooperative aware content stable humble open minded self confident calm proud and serene.
Healthy realtionships are baed up on honesty and spiritual interaction.
If any realtionship is based up on sex alone you only cheat your self.
Do we want the opposite to fall in love with our body or fall in love with our spiritual values and oru conscience?
If all we do is have sex only in our life then we are only cheating our self?
If sex is used to express love that is very powerful.
A healthy raltionship is based up on our honesty.
Love
Dave. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2010 3:16:31 AM | | "A sexual relationship WITHOUT Emotional Attachment =BORING and going nowhere. I did try this enough times to know it is useless, boring, going nowhere, not at all rewarding and not what I want to do. I can have better sex without emotional involvement with my Durecell and Everyready plastic, fantastic, which is always ready when I am, but that is also, not what I want to do. There is no after glow. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2010 5:22:34 AM | | Nobody wants this kind of relationship but it goes back to your core values. If you are determined to not let yourself see the grass as greener on the other side, then you become happy with what you can get at present until you are able to make a transitional move that seperates the two of you. The only thing that can go wrong with this scenario is if one party does become emotionally attached to someone else, gets married, has an argument and calls his sex buddy. Then it becomes infedelity and could be very bad, especially if there are children involved. I have a better question here that society has either been brainwashed to accept that it's not a factor, or maybe I am just wrong, it has to do with money. If I had a lot of money I would be more inclined to say, hey we had a little fun but I would like to see what happens this week, don't call me, I'll call you. I guarantee you I would not only have a better chance of finding an emotional relationship but in the process at the very least, find a better sex buddy. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2010 6:10:08 AM | Hi
If you are seeing the grass as greener on the other side, it has every thing to do about you not being contenet with your self and has nothing to do about other people.
Our happiness is our responsability, our anger is our responsability, our goal setting is our responsability, our sucess in life is our responsability.
Healthy relationships are based on spiritual values and spiritual actions.
How many people can write down or understand the importance spiritual values? Spiritual values such as healthy unconditional loving unconditional giving forgiving apologizing caring trusting trust worthy patience tolerance humility courteous sincere honest faithful optimistic self assured and well self balanced punctual courteous respectful considerate grateful very grateful content productive creative constructive nurturing sharing encouraging optimistic cooperative aware content stable humble open minded self confident calm proud and serene.
If any person only puts a limited amount of energy in to any relationship they only chat themself.
Relationship are based up on honesty and putting effort in to that relationship.
Yet healthy relationships are not based up on one person being obsessive or person pleasing.
Sadly money does not buy love or buy healthy relationships.
Yes we need a certain amount of money to fullfill our basic needs food heat roof but beyond that money just gives us more choices, money does not bring happiness.
If you seak a better sex buddy you are only cheating your self?
Regards.
Dave. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2010 6:33:08 AM | | I don't disagree with anything you said but my point is that a person with money does not have to display themselves as a person whom has money. Yet he is free to travel the world, at least pay his half of what ever entertainment is chosen for the date and move the relationship thing at a faster pace. This doesn't mean your values are wrong at all, i'ts just different to look for your one and only while sitting in a maze then from an airplane. If your argument is to not have sex buddies then that's your opinion, but if you're saying money isn't a factor in finding someone, you are wrong. And my other point is I don't let myself be pre-occupied with the grass being greener. I work every day to establish the right money conditions. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2010 6:50:50 AM | Hi
Sadly in this day and age some people think that money prestige and material things are most important.
You can not buy love with money, you can not buy good freinds with money, you can not heal pain face fears and resolve frsutrations with money.
Money gives you choices but often people take their worst enemey with them on holiday?
None of us can run from our self.
All healthy realtionships are based up on spirtual values.
If your values go against spiritual values and against your own conscience then tehy are not healthy values.
Just having sex buddies is not fullfilling our emotional needs and wants.
It is my opinion that money will not give you healthy realtionships.
If people are with you because you have money then you are hurting your self by thinking they are freinds..
You are entitled to think that I am wrong.
But my guidline fro me is about being ahealthy person feeling pride and content with who I am and what I am today.
It would be a sad boring world if we were all the same.
It is important for each of us to learn from our unehalthy action towards our self and towards other people.
Healthy for me is all about spiritual interaction with all people.
Reagdrs
Dave. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2010 7:01:35 AM | | Perhaps you are confusing religion with reality. When the slave remained quiet after being given orders, instead of saying yes master, he got whipped and asked as to why he didn't appreciate how nice the master was to him as compared to other slave owners. It was up to him if he wanted to be a slave. He could have just walked away but he realized that this was god's plan so he was happy just to have survived the whipping. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2010 2:47:48 PM | Raw sex in my 20's was amazing, now...I would imagine if I weren't really attracted, the few moments after would be awkward looking for my keys, or helping her find hers.
No, way too much of a hassle just to get laid for the sake of getting laid. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2010 3:00:25 PM | MsMicki:
i have heard the saying that women use sex to get love
and men use (fake) love to get sex.
or men fall in love with women they have sex with and
women have sex with men they have fallen in love with.
using anyone for anything is wrong. especially sexually and romantically.
as for myself...i cant have a sexual relationship without emotional attachment.
thats why i like to wait to know the man first. i want him to feel something for me too..
other than "ALIVE" (lol....this is written because of that woman who wrote her i feel so alive post). | |
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Posted: 8/7/2010 6:43:44 AM | I agree with Dave, but let me add..that unless you have had, experienced the kind of love that is a two way street, that you prefer each other over anyone else, that besides being your lover is your best friend, your heart, your soul..and you can trust them with your ....everything, hopes, fears, happiness, sad or scared times, etc.........a relationship without emotional attachments may be an option for you.
One that experienced the depths of a real loving relationship won't settle. Why have peanut butter when a filet is worth the wait??? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2010 10:13:17 AM | | Yes of course....why not ? You can have the same range & depth of emotions & feelings with any number of people...there is no "One"...that's a crock !! People grow tired of each other...why stay in a relationship/marriage that you have to "work" at?? Why deny yourself the pleasure/release of a hot sexual encounter with someone new?? You repressed? Catholic? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2010 1:03:43 PM | | It depends on what you mean by an emotional attachment. If you mean is it possible to have sex without love then yes, people do it all the time. If yu mean is it possible to conduct an ongoing, long term affair and not feel something for the other person then I would have to say no, not unless you are without feelings at all. Just be clear on what both parties take is on no emotional attachment because it can mean different things to different people. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2010 1:47:21 PM |
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Yes it is possible but not for long IMO.
I can't imagine the sex being that great after the initial "lust' phase has worn
off with out emotional attachment.
Connecting emotionally is what makes it FANTASTIC verses..Just scratching an itch.
For other people..maybe it can work long term. Not for me. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2010 6:30:49 PM | There is a difference between "emotional attachments" and "romantic attachments".
I've had a FWB for years........we are great friends....of course there are emotions involved. No different than other great friends that I don't have sex with.
There is respect, compassion, trust and love.
But it's not a "romantic" love. I'm not "in love" with him.
I would be devastated if something happened to him.
I would not be affected in any shape or form if the sex ended.
The sex is not what defines the friendship.
and the sex has only gotten better through the years......because we know each other inside and out! The "lust" has never went away.....I can't say that about my 11 year marriage. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2010 5:26:15 AM |
and the sex has only gotten better through the years......because we know each other inside and out! The "lust" has never went away.....I can't say that about my 11 year marriage.
Yes,those damn ex's never will listen ! lol 
To each their own in fwb relationships. But not for me.
Been there,done that, but too many underlying issues in why she only wants a fwb & can't get any closer to the heart.
So,I must be a hopeless romantic. lol | |
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Posted: 8/14/2010 10:19:21 AM |
too many underlying issues in why she only wants a fwb
That's often true with either sex. But I've had a few good FWB relationships with men that were physically attractive but didn't do anything for me mentally. Sometimes there aren't any real "underlying issues" - the person is nice enough for an occasional shag but you might not want to take them home to meet your parents. We can "get close," but we don't want to "get close." No need to consult a psychotherapist......
If you also have traditional 3-dimensional relationships with the opposite sex then there's probably just a mis-match on some level.
Be well........... | |
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Posted: 8/14/2010 11:45:53 AM | I can and have had sexual relations with no emotion involved.. took a while to get used to, but i learned from the best of the best :
women taught me very well! (I most certainly didn't learn it from guys as i don't sleep with them)
It goes right back to "which came first : chicken & the egg"... doesn't it?
lol @ those who said it wasn't in a womans nature to do it.
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Posted: 8/14/2010 12:59:47 PM |
So,I must be a hopeless romantic.
Member of the ROMANTIC club here too ^^^^^.
This kind of a relationship was a part of my life in past but after initial physical satisfaction emptiness filled my heart. So, my preference is either to have it all or nothing.  | |
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Posted: 8/14/2010 2:44:34 PM |
This kind of a relationship was a part of my life in past but after initial physical satisfaction emptiness filled my heart. So, my preference is either to have it all or nothing.
Yes buzz, as you are among the few, who still know the difference of love & being in love...
And thank god that your heart & mind has no walls, when it knows it's better then just ok. | |
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minika
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Posted: 8/15/2010 2:52:10 PM | I'd say it is possible for 'some' people to have a long term sex partners minus the emotional attachment. It is rare though & many people have ended up getting hurt when one starts to have romantic feelings for the other person.
Contrary to popular belief, it's not always the women who are the ones to develop an attachment.
If anyone who is reading this & is considering this option. The best advice I can give you is go down the fvck buddy route & not the friends with benefits.
The latter allows you to get to know the person & if you like their personality as well, that's when you start to develop feelings for them.
Treat a fvck buddy exactly as that. Don't socialise with them, don't get to know the person, don't sweet talk with them. Just let them know exactly how you like it
And most importantly for both.......... use protection. | |
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dmd7
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Posted: 8/15/2010 3:14:54 PM | I tried the FB thing once and it just isn't me at all.
I too am a hopeless romantic and cold empty meaningless sex does nothing for me.
I want the passion and the more you know and care about the person the better the lovemaking is. That is where the real passion comes in. | |
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