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 rcdkoolkop
Joined: 7/27/2010
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For a woman especially I don't think its really possible on a long term type level , a guy can if its understood by his partner that this is what the relationship is about ,the sex and platonic friendship. I've met very few ladies that can handle that- so that's why that line is rarely crossed.
 truelady0531
Joined: 8/3/2011
Msg: 502
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Posted: 8/15/2011 9:09:48 AM
long term sex partners without emotion attached, i dont think so.
 male_sojourner
Joined: 1/8/2011
Msg: 503
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Posted: 8/15/2011 12:23:49 PM
Is it possible? Yes. Is it beneficial for both? I would call it SETTLING and immature X two:-).
 howrya2day
Joined: 7/31/2011
Msg: 504
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Posted: 8/15/2011 2:29:31 PM
I cant speak for anyone else here. but the longer i know somenoe the more emotioanly involved i get with them. sexual or not. Sex being the main issue here i would say no for me at some point for sex to happen there has to be caring feelings and love..
 Annie1108
Joined: 12/31/2010
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Posted: 8/16/2011 11:09:59 AM
I believe it's totally impossible for a woman to...
Unlike a man.....who finds it easy to meet with a woman for the purpose of sexual consent between the two of them with total detatchment...I don't believe a man feels anything at all during the act of sex if the two of them had mutually agreed to meet on the terms of " meeting for the act of sex itself".... and not to establish a relationship...
I think what a woman needs to realize is that men and women are just aren't wired the same way...
Women tend to be more about romance...love....security... family.... and responsibilities .... and from having a few casual conversations on here i've found that men seem to be more about internet porn... naked pictures... sexual conversations.... sexual attraction .... sexual satisfaction.....intercourse... and emotional detatchment....... Noted... that there are a few good guys on here that .... after a hard work week ... want to just sit back and have an intellengent conversation with a woman.... they are gems of course... a diamond in the rough... and far and few in between... I think what most men need to realize is that by offering nothing more than his sex organ... washboard abs... and a nice behind... a casual relationship without friendship total detatchment... meaning real intimacy.... or communication.... leaves much to be desired.... sort of like ... fishing in the ocean without bait... wouldn't u say?... :}
 LukeT77
Joined: 1/12/2009
Msg: 506
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Posted: 8/17/2011 5:11:33 AM
I'd say at least one of them would need to have some kind of underlying emotional attachment - usually (but not always) the woman.

In my experience, these sorts of relationships burn out very quickly because the intimacy and physical affection between the couple can cause those underlying feelings and emotion to bubble to the surface and at that point a purely physical relationship is no longer going to be enough for the more attached person.
 Jon.Z
Joined: 7/26/2011
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Posted: 8/17/2011 5:55:57 AM
My experience tells me that at least for me the answer is no. I would love to be able to take the other direction on this but my life experience says otherwise. Short term I would say has possibilities; over any length of time attachments always form in a relationship. Of the three times I have been in something long term that started out w/o emotional attachments twice one of us formed a strong attachment over time. The third, though both of us would tell you was very good for several years, ended as I grew tired of the habit and she tired of the emptiness of not having that emotional bond. So for a few months a relationship with little (has to be some connection) or no emotional attachments can be great; when the new wears off there needs to be something else to hold it together.
 boredintheboonies
Joined: 7/27/2011
Msg: 508
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Posted: 8/17/2011 6:00:09 AM
I can do it but, I have come to the conclusion that my mind set is more male in orientation than female although I am feminine in all other ways. Most women can't do it nor do they want to. Men seem to have an easier time with it.
 Highflyingadored
Joined: 3/18/2006
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Posted: 8/17/2011 9:16:12 AM
Hmmm........interesting thread. But what do you do when a person who has a great relationship going emotionally with fantastic sex between them also, but they unknowingly to the loving, caring, person they are with, get involved and cheat with a FWB secretly?
 11hellohello
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 510
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Posted: 8/17/2011 9:19:21 AM
If your open it definitely can work. Sometimes its the best thing.
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 511
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Posted: 8/17/2011 10:24:22 AM
YES it can work, It depends on your (& your partners) mindset and if you're on the same page (& stick to it). (pun intended)
 friendscallmedi
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 512
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Posted: 8/17/2011 11:25:44 AM
I am an independent woman. I have a wonderful full life with my kids. I am a very active member of my church, and I have a career that is everything I could have ever wanted it to be.

I enjoy the companionship of a man. I love to have a buddy for sexual encounters. I do not need a man in my life. Very self sufficient. But I do enjoy the romance. I like to have an exclusive partner. I have had partners that have lasted for long periods of time. But I find they all end up wanting so much more than what I want to give. I am very comfortable in a sexual relationship without the dating and nonsense. I have not found anyone I like that shares my enthusiasm for extreme long term.

So my comment is that I think it will work out fine if you can find someone in the exact same state of mind that you are. As long as you both are in it for the same things it would be great. If I could find that someone longterm would be amazing. I mean long term like 5, 10 years plus.

Good Luck and remember that things are not always as they appear.
 pdq2011
Joined: 8/2/2011
Msg: 513
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Posted: 8/20/2011 5:42:09 PM
3 years, no attachment, no relationship, absolute best mind-blowing sex of my life, but started feeling worse and worse, and felt like crap by the time the weekend is over and time to leave! So, I gave it up. It ended up pretty pointless except, I learned a whole lot! And really no matter how great the physical part is, if there's no emotion it's really a waste of time that you can spend with someone you care about and cares about you! So, yes, it can be done but why do you want to?
 nickelle
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 514
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Posted: 8/28/2011 1:17:00 AM
asolutely! had one for 12 yrs and it was great.
 voschi
Joined: 8/24/2011
Msg: 515
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:14:30 AM
this idea may work for men because their brains arent wired like a woman's brain.

every time a woman has any kind of sexual encounter with a man, be it vaginal or just masturbation a chemical bonding takes place thats coupled with emotions...its a package deal..anyone whose a woman and tried the FWB will tell you the same thing if they were being honest..ie..for women theres no such thing as a FWB...

as for men..they cant get that FWB thing right either because its a relationship itself..nonvconventional but still takes the same kind of effort put forth in a traditional relationship, and once they figure that all out to be as i've explained they back off...still a relationship.....
 TallGlass30
Joined: 8/17/2011
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Posted: 9/3/2011 6:45:41 PM
Is it possible, to tie a ship to a horse?
Yes, of course.
Is it, to our hearts to be born through
Like paper dolls, looking for a sideways walk?
Too true.
You ask, is it possible,
To tie a ship to a horse.
Of course.
 dtp1952
Joined: 5/21/2010
Msg: 517
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Posted: 9/4/2011 5:27:20 AM
i think so as long as both partners are out for the same reason purley sex i must admit ive been down that road
 InThePipe
Joined: 8/29/2011
Msg: 518
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Posted: 9/4/2011 5:48:28 AM
I have someone I sleep with when I'm not dating anyone. It works cause we are not really eachothers types, it's just a sex thing and the both of us having needs. The sex is great and the deal is when either of us meets someone else, the other backs off no questions asked. And outside the sex, we don't meet up or do anything social together. So it works for me. Been doing it for awhile with very little drama.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 9/4/2011 6:07:03 AM

Hmmm........interesting thread. But what do you do when a person who has a great relationship going emotionally with fantastic sex between them also, but they unknowingly to the loving, caring, person they are with, get involved and cheat with a FWB secretly?


I'd call BS on the "great relationship going emotionally"..if that was true, there would not be a need for a FWB, would there? Especially if there were "fantastic sex between them also".
 LiniceBritten
Joined: 8/23/2011
Msg: 520
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Posted: 9/4/2011 7:50:51 AM
It really does depend on the individuals involved. Having experienced this type of relationship, I would not advise it. I am a very emotional person and I become quite emtionally attached to people, even very early on in the relationship. During this relationship (he and I had been just friends first), I really tried to detach my self emotionally, but I couldn't; I developed strong, deep feelings for the guy and fell in love. I had hoped that maybe it would have turned into more. It didn't. Nonetheless, I continued to be sexually involved with him for some time. It was a vicious cycle. I'd be involved with him one minute, then I'd cut him off when I couldn't take it, just to return to him and start the process all over again. Geez, how crazy is that?? Lol In the end, it left me emotionally drained and confused and I just couldn't continue to pretend that it wasn't tearing me apart inside. I eventually put an end to it. It hurt to completely cut him off, but it was the best thing to do. Thank goodness it's over and done with! Phew! Never again!!! Lol. But hey, that's just me. Do what works for you!
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 521
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Posted: 9/4/2011 8:39:08 AM
it's possible for a guy but not for a woman. men are better able to separate sex and love, women for the most part aren't built that way. also, if a woman is turned on by a guy it means she has feelings for him. for men, this isn't the case. that is why it is so difficult to make sense of the other sex. we truly are coming from completely different places sexually, emotionally, etc.
 TallGlass30
Joined: 8/17/2011
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Posted: 9/4/2011 7:33:14 PM

it's possible for a guy but not for a woman. men are better able to separate sex and love, women for the most part aren't built that way. also, if a woman is turned on by a guy it means she has feelings for him. for men, this isn't the case. that is why it is so difficult to make sense of the other sex. we truly are coming from completely different places sexually, emotionally, etc.

Quoted for emphasis.
I think it's a case of, "90% of lawyers give 10% a bad name."
Nice guys do finish last!
 TallGlass30
Joined: 8/17/2011
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Posted: 9/4/2011 7:39:04 PM
Also, I don't mean to imply 90% of men, (or women, or any group) are "bad,"

But in terms of sex just for it's own pleasure, I know that it's not a level playing field. We share some of the same vocabulary, but men fall asleep with their thumb in the book, That's my analogy, anyway. One track minds.
 Jypzee
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 524
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Posted: 9/4/2011 7:58:01 PM
even if a person answering u on this thread has had a long term sexual relationship where no romatic feelings r involved, the answer is going to come from that person's perspective and someone else in a similar situation may have a different answer..i can make a guess and say i think that 2 ppl can be in a long term sexual relationship and not muddy it up with too many emotions..there r going to be some emotions involved, but they can be good ones and both can be all right with their deal -i would think
 gadaveuk
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Posted: 11/25/2011 10:56:41 PM
Hi

It is very kind and caring of you to give so much of your self.

I often think that some men will never be able to fulfill a ladies emotional needs and wants.

Nothing to do about the ladies but more about male child hood programming not to show feelings often been told that only babies and girls cry.

Some might even say that most men are emotionally suppressed or not able to interact or share at any deep emotional level.

That can be very frustrating for the ladies who give so much and very little in return.

Some might think that sex is love, well for me sex only represents 5% of any realtionship.

Sex can be used to express love.

Do I understand what my emotional physical and sexual needs and wants are today.

Can I love another person if I do not know how to love myself.

Can I respect another person if I do not know how to respect myself.

How can I honestly expect anpther person to respect me if they do not respect them self.

Once I understand that spiritual interaction is the most important thing in my life then every thing fits in to place.

Spiritual interaction is about having the most healthiest realtionship I can have with myself and with other people.

My motives for doing every thing before healing were very unhealthy and very conditional.

Once I became unconditional and gave of myself and expected nothing in return I was trully giving of myself.

Sadly in todays life we have lost healthy spiritual interactions and have got lost on focusing on material and monetary things.

Some lots of people even think that money will make them happy.

Yet who is to say what is healthy for us today.

And fianally do we have baalnce in our life today

Love and peace to everyone

Dave of Beckenham
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