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Posted: 5/3/2007 4:06:29 PM | Hey there,
Just my 2 cents worth...When I was young I did it all the time..After I was married, I liked the personal touch...Now that I am divorced after 22 years, I have no desire for that kind of relationship. It would seem empty afterwards and I would feel empty...Besides, it's immoral:*)
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Posted: 5/3/2007 5:04:36 PM | It might be possible for some people, but not for me. Thid is why I have pretty much stopped dating. Men seem to only want an FWB (the profiles online are just not truthful)
I am totally unable to get physical without developing an emotional attachment, that is just me.
Too old fashioned, I guess ... to me sex IS a commitment. Meeting a man who feels the same way, I believe is going to be extremely difficult these days, but not impossible....
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Posted: 5/3/2007 7:33:22 PM | | Msg: 1 -- I think it's entirely possible. Two very jaded individuals who have totally given up on love but happen to be friends may very well decide to chuck the romantic fantasy and become permanent, exclusive FWBs. I am rapidly approaching that point myself. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 6:09:38 AM | To rickmb...
I agree with you 100% Rick. That was what started the disagreement with the guys at work... About 40% of them said that it was absolutely possible, the other 60% (me included since I'm the only female in my "Battle Team") said that it was IMPOSSIBLE!. I was married for 27 years to the greatest guy until he died in an auto accident seven years ago. I've been in that type of relationship once since then and I actually did start having feelings for the guy (and thought that he had feelings for me).... Don't care what sort of tough facade you put on, it doesn't work! Humans are not meant to be heartless, uncaring and unfeeling.. that's why we have SOULS! You go big boy.... I like the way you think!
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Posted: 5/9/2007 6:38:48 AM | nope, it is not for me.
i do think it is possible, and i have seen it happen in other peoples' lives and even within one of my previous relationships (where I did not have a strong emotional tie to my bf at the time so to me the sex felt like pseudo-casual sex).
but after all is said and done ... i believe sex with no strings attached would leave me with an empty feeling. if it is JUST about me reaching an orgasm - then hey, i can do that on my own, no need to involve a 2nd person (thanx to my good friend Daisy aka Pocket Rocket!  )
because SEX, to me, is or well SHOULD be something emotionally meaningful shared between 2 ppl in a monogamous relationship. yes, you can have lust and all those good feelings and i see how easy it can be to get carried away... but it's good to exercise self-control. and since i am VERY stubborn by nature and firm with my beliefs i am glad to say i have never fallen into a FWB situation or worse, one of those 'i-slept-with-him-and-thought-that-made-us-a-couple!" situations.
NOPE! i am not the one.
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Posted: 5/9/2007 7:43:21 AM | haha post 3 wel done chick! i agree to a point!
it would be a lot less stressful!
to be honest i`m not sure if i could do it, if anyones good at not letting feelings in the way fair play to them! but me personally , no.
I`d rather wait til i can have someone in my life properly than have that, eek be waiting more years then i know lol!I CAN COPE LOL!! so back to my gadgets!
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Joined: 2/17/2007
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Posted: 5/9/2007 7:58:45 AM | | it depends. if the partners tend to be more emotional then usual then it may be. on the other hand, if they are able to put the relationship into perspective as to what they really want then it would not be an issue. also if emotions becoming an issue refers to slept with several partners then it seems it would have more to do with whether one or the other wanted more then being sex partners | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 8:09:41 AM | | Give me your heart,I'll give you mine.Take my body and give me yours as the icing to the already beautifully baked cake.So,no.I need to know I'm more than just someone to get off with.I want him to want to be there in the morning.I want him to be there when I'm not in the mood.I want his love. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 9:53:10 PM | | Ok, here goes. I haven't really looked at all 6 pages of replies to this topic, but I thought I would give my own opinion. Consider this fact, there are over 6.5 billion people in the world today. I would bet money that at least one of them believes you can have a long term sexual relationship with someone without having feelings of love with them. Take for instance, in some middle eastern countries, men still have more then one wife. Do you think a man that has 8 wives actually loves every single one of them? Wouldn't this also be considered a long term sexual relationship without the bonding of love? My opinion is this, yes, you can have a friend with benefits relationship as long as it is established right at the very beginning and if one of them started having those feelings of love, then they would need to discuss it and either break it up, or persue it further. It also has to do with upbringing. There are many people that have never known love in their lives because they never got love while growing up so sex to them is the only emotion they might have ever known and it fills that empty void. To me, I wouldn't be able to handle a long term sexual relationship, because I know myself enough to know I would start having feelings, but there are people out there that could do it I'm sure. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:34:36 AM | That is very interesting....hmmm...borderline slut you say. If a man has sex with three women in the same week knowing it was all about the conquest and nothing more and this man happened to be your brother, co-worker or friend, it would be high fives and let me buy you a beer all the way around type event. If a woman has sex with 3 men in the same week knowing that she will never have to hear from or see them again then she is a slut????? Why? Why is it that just because a woman is receiving gratification from multiple partners in the same way a man does , why does that make her a borderline slut? If that alone makes her a slut then is the man who practices those same behaviors a male slut? Just because a woman is in touch with her sexual needs and her desire to receive gratification from different partners it doesn't make her a slut it makes her informed about her own needs and it allows her to express herself freely and as often as possible without falling into the whole S.O.S. with the same partner. Some people want to have experiences with multiple partners and that is their choice to make. After all Variety is the spice of life!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:37:45 AM | | I don't think there are many women who can have sex, then continue to have sex without becoming attached emotionally to the man involved. I Know I couldn't anyway and I really wouldn't want to. Obviously each to their own and everyone varies or the world would be one hell boring place to be! lol x | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 12:16:32 PM | | That is probably possible, but I don't know anyone who has done it. My guess is that it would get in the way of a normal relationship. I. for one, would be somewhat suspect of a woman in that sort of relationship because she is not going to be able to end a long term FWB that easily. I'm also not going to start dating someone who is sleeping with someone else. (I may not know about it at first, but I would find out and that would eliminate any chance for anything but another FWB..) | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 1:57:00 PM | | I think it's possible for some people, but I couldn't personally maintain that type of relationship. I think it's thin ice though because I've seen where a fair amount of the time, eventually, one side does develop feelings. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 2:01:28 PM | There is a hormone that gets released when people have sex. It creates a bond between the sexual partners. One or both of the sex partners will have emotions connected to the sexual activity between them. I believe it may be easier for men to have sex with a woman over the long term but I would not count on it.  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 2:56:02 PM | | Possible yes Fun not really, I found that when I finally let my guard down and our emotions came into it and realized a relationship was heading that way anyway, the sex was way more enjoyable and it took time and finally got my first Big OOOOOOO | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 4:02:54 PM | If you are asking for long term, I'd say no. It's better if any term has emotions and commitment; but if they're not there on both sides; at some point the disconnect will hit and things will unravel on that front. It can be intense a few tiems but not over the long haul. It will be one dimensional, shallow and incomplete compared to with both.
It is WAY better when a person has mind, body, and heart invested along with passion for not only the person's body but their soul and mind as well in a long term couple (and obviously vice versa); makes it one intense, complete, full body and mind connection which will blow the living socks off both people in all ways, and keep improving as trust, knowledge and familiarity make the intensity adn comfort level grow to draw in even better connections.
Otherwise they are both being shortchanged.
Does that mean it would always be bad without? No.
But the one is a pale imitation of the other. at least in my very very humble opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 4:44:16 PM | Yes it is possible. But if it is mind blowing good sex I would most likely fall in love.
Otherwise, it feels a bit unsatisfying and lonely.
In fact it can intensify the lonliness.
Your body is getting some basic stimulation but your emotions and mind are
being ignored. For me the closeness and emotional intimacy is the really
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Posted: 8/4/2009 4:54:23 PM |
I would like to get a general concensus on a topic that has come up among the guys I work with and myself. The topic is... "Is it possible for two consenting adults to become LONG TERM sex partners without emotion(s) becoming an issue?"
Please be honest and speak freely! (Well as freely as the Rules will allow)
(I already know what I think... want input as to what all you POF-er's think on this subject).
A relationship with emotions would usually operate to break a relationship without emotions up. So for the relationship to be long term there would have to be an absence of emotional needs on the part of both parties, or no opportunities for an emotionally based relationship to develop. I think this sort of thing is limited to unusual circumstances. | |
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