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JYB73
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Joined: 8/8/2009
Msg: 203 | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 1:17:28 PM | Absolutely....I also think that you can't predict the future....If emotions are important or is just the sex act....I have had friends that I wouldn't trust that emotions wouldn't play a part, and I have had friends that weren't just compromising by having a fwb relationship but that is all that either of us wanted at the time:) | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 1:22:33 PM | | I think at some point someone will develop feelings for the other person. Maybe not impossible but I think it's highly unlikely that two people can jump each others bones for months/years at a time without one of them getting attached. JMO | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 2:08:47 PM | Hello,
Men give away their freedom like women use to give away virginity!
TO ABSOLUTELY NO ONE! Tyra banks is great for a one night stand(maybe)
but commitment is a whole nother world. For MOST men this type of realitionship
is completely possible. I would venture to say that for MOST women it's not.
These are more or less scientific facts.
Brandon Green | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 4:17:51 PM | | i do not think so. We are all emotional beings everything we say do and think makes us the person we are now even if both persons wanted no commitment or had other commitments this relationship between them would effect both of their lives. If you are talking short term even i truely believe that men can be detached but women do tend to attach emotion to sexual attentions | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 6:11:23 PM | | I think that anything is controlable if you are strong and mature enough. I've had many relationships that I have been able to control my feelings whether they be sexually or emotional attachment. It all depends on how strong you are. My issues come into play when the other can not control themselves, either getting to emotionally attached or worse screwing around. I wish others were more in control of their feelings. But it's not likely to happen. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 6:30:42 PM | | Purely sexual relationships fall flat for me. Gone are the days when a quick romp made me feel good. I'm looking for the right woman, at the right time, to be in a totally committed relationship. Geeesssshhhh I must really be getting old! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 6:52:31 PM | Yes it can and it's freaking awesome!
But I think the ground rules need to be laid out and understood by both parties from the get go and I think UNDERSTOOD is where the problems come from. There cant be a gray area. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 6:55:15 PM | | I had a 15 year sexual relationship with someone and he was never emotionally attached to me however, I became emotionally attached to him. Not until a few months ago did he tell me that he loved me and I didn't love him anymore. We tried to give it a go at a relationship but, WE did so much damage to ANY possibility of their being anything other than a sexual relationship between us. The sex we had years ago was awesome and it was still good 8 mos ago (the last time we had sex). He did tell me that he loved me all along but, that he didn't realize it. We did so many bad things to each other that I don't think that we could ever have a healthy relationship. Sorry went a little off topic but, just wanted to share that it's different for EVERYONE! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 8:58:14 PM |
The topic is... "Is it possible for two consenting adults to become LONG TERM sex partners without emotion(s) becoming an issue?"
A sexual connection is one of the most powerful connections you can ever have with another person. A lot of things go on in planes beyond physical - both in the psychological, emotional and spiritual realm. As a rule avoid sex with people whose aura you never want to own eg if you constantly have sex with people with issues you "inherit" their issues as well. If you are to have sex on a long-term basis with anybody without "emotional attachment" make sure that you are having sex with high quality people and you are sucking the life out of them hahaha! But then there is also the contradiction that high-quality people also tend to be picky about whom they have sex with.......mmh. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 10:51:12 PM | I have some how ended up in this sort of relationship twice.It was not how I thought it would be.I have to admit I went into these relationships hoping they would expand into a relationship with emotional attachments, but some how failed to materialize.This has made me question my own thinking because as soon as these fellows were set free, they immediately found ladies that they were madly in love with.
Where as I am still fishing. I know I am a romantic, but I do not show it unless I feel safe enough, and I never felt that safe in those situations.
Sure has done a number on my self worth | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 5:21:13 AM | | Right.................people do stuff like this is the first place because they are massivley insecure and scared of commitment. Men and women put on a brave face and act like they are tough and strong and heartless. Yes people can be cruel and mean and wicked but, often times they are still emotional bags of emotion, and regardless of what they show the world,,,occasioanly cry alone by themselves. Sooooo if you wanna have some dramatic game go on, sure but you are both just having fun....and in reality are scared. I prefer....a non scared situation. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 5:53:22 AM | | It's very difficult to achieve. One party often gets emotionally involved, if not both. If you have a one-nighter best ditch 'em afterwards, and as I learnt the hard way, NEVER do casual sex with some man you consider a friend. It does fcuk up the friendship. If there is a genuine one there in the first place... | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 9:38:54 AM | | i have seen someone for about 2 months he always says lets hang out with each other.. he said he really likes me.. but at times he calls me alot then he doesnt.. i feel lke im chasing him... hes giving me mixed signals. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 10:49:53 AM | I personally had one of these.
I moved to a new town soon after ending a horrible relationship. I met this guy at the first place I ever worked in town, and we sort of hit it off. I was in no way prepared for another relationship, but I do have needs....
For a year and a half, we kept it entirely platonic. He has always had a girlfriend, sometimes two, which he has always talked to me about openly and honestly. At one point his second girlfriend left him, and he came crying to me. I told him then that I did not want to be his girlfriend, mostly because I know him well enought to know that he cannot give me what I want, which is a man who wants only me. We are both very clear on where the other stands.
We have been sleeping together for about 5 years now, and it works just fine for both of us. He is one of my best friends, and we care about one another deeply, but there is not and never will be anything romantic between us. I have recently met someone special, and this friend has respectfully backed off.
These arrangements can and do work, as long as both parties are willing to be open and honest with one another and act like mature adults. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 12:10:37 PM | | Men and women are different when it comes to sex. Biologically and emotionally speaking that is. Is it possible for two consenting adults to become LONG TERM sex partners without emotion(s) becoming an issue? It is possible in the SHORT TERM. Biology has demonstrated that women, unlike men, produce the human-bonding hormone called oxytocin during the sexual act. This hormone produces physiological as well as emotional changes in the woman's brain that "bonds" her emotionally to her sexual partner. That's why women fall in love with the men they have sex with over a period of time. Men do not produce this hormone during sex so they do not fall for a woman with whom they have sex as easily. They can have sex with hundreds of women without forming an emotional attachment. Men fall in lust, and as soon as the lust is satiated, they lose interest . It think it is much more harder for a man to form an emotional attachment to a woman based on sex alone. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 5:51:06 PM |
Female porn stars do not product (sic) Oxytocin while performing sexual acts in a scene.
Yeah, because it's all fake :laugh
Did you check their hormonal levels?
Prostitutes may not bond with their casual clients, but how many do bond with their pimps?
I don't believe for once second that all women bond with their sexual partners.
There is emotional bonding at a certain level but it varies in intensity, that's part of human nature. NO one can control hormones at will (without drugs), although people can mask emotions to suit their intentions.
I've met them.
In some ways, women are much worse than men at shutting off emotionally during the sexual act.
I pity you. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 5:54:29 PM | | I've never bonded to a guy I've had sex with. I believe you can have a sexual relationship without emotional attachment. I've done it. Actually....still hook up with the guy often. Could care less about him. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 8:06:47 AM | To have a mind of Sex is just Sex, works for some...but not me!, I have tryed it and could not control the inner feeling that I though were(it's just sex). I didn't pay attention when I heard her friends say, if you start to get to close to her, she will cut you free! On the other side of that, she would say she felt connected, felt the love that she needed. If I ever hear a woman say; it's all about me, it's my life!, that will be my red flag from now on. Guess I just don't understand it. How can two people become connected physically and not have emotions for each other. Yea, I know alot of people do it but something has to be there from the start. Guess I am just that type of guy that needs more than sex and what it has to offer. Physical attraction always is the starting point and yea I think to myself, hey, I wouldn't mind getting some of that!, but the factors play a much important roll than just getting laid....but for sure, it's the starting point, no question..... | |
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