| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:35:36 AM |
Well-here's a news flash for you --The perfect guy doesn't exist --
and if he did --he would probably be boring as hell--
I disagree. What we are looking for is 'the perfect guy for ME' and I believe he does exist but if we don't find him, do we settle? I won't | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:43:57 AM |
the world is full of people like you--Just don't stereotype me
hmmm. This sounds like a contradiction of words to me. Rest assured, Mr. Semper, that you won't find a better bunch of ladies than here who will give any guy a fighting chance. We are not bitter, just wondering about a lot of things. We know that these things happen on both sides, but maybe by talking about them, some will take the hint and straighten up what is causing this problem. | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:51:33 AM | | Sounds a little like Mr. Semper can't handle the fact that women are actually talking about what they feel. No one ever said I was vindictive or trying to be. Just stating a fact that happens to fall to both men and women. Maybe someone will stop and take a hint and look at themselves before they act. | |
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kasie
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Joined: 4/14/2007
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:15:59 AM | | wondering if the cat used his rice krispies instead of the litter box ..... seriously, as always someone will be threatened or have an adverse reaction to how the majority can handle something. I think the best way ot say it is that til you have met this group of ladies and know them for them ... this thread has a limited meaning. BUT knowing this group of ladies, I know its only a matter of time before they get snatched up. All are great ladies and always a blast to be with when we do get together. | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:28:38 AM | It's interesting how the whole reason for not finding the perfect man for you seems to be at the fault of the men. Well, just like you, men aren't going to change for you either. Men want a relationship and want to be themselves as well -- but what many of you (both the men and ladies) need to realize is that a relationship still requires a degree of compromise. A huge mistake would be to see compromise as 'settling' for someone.
When you're out there in the dating world and you meet someone you're attracted to, don't let the exceptions rule them out as a possibility for a relationship. "Oh he's wonderful, except he likes cats instead of dogs."
Actually, part of the problem sounds like you ladies are thinking too much. It's as if the most important thing about a relationship is being overlooked -- love. Enough with the excessive logic. Love and logic don't fit well together. When I want to stay single, I use logic.
Stop thinking so much about the practicality of a relationship with your potential mate and just live in the moment. | |
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kasie
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Joined: 4/14/2007
Msg: 32 | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:01:36 AM | | ladies, we're starting to man-bash here. that's not fair, we all have faults. cut them a break...you think it's easy dealing with US? | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:14:22 AM | I haven't seen any man bashing here at all...
I'm a big believer in leaving your baggage behind. Isn't that why it's called "baggage"? To pack things up and put them away until/unless they are needed? You can't live for "today" if you are stuck in "yesterday". Rewind buttons are for DVR/VCR's, not for real life. | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:26:25 AM | jackie, don't you think men are being talked about like they are pets? like you can only pick good qualities. i just think we'd be all over them if a thread like this was started about us. it's really "what's happening with us ladies" and it's turning into "what can we change about everyone to make them who we'd like them to be"
guess i'm still not too thrilled with the whole "do not date" thing . we need to support eachother in the effort to find someone, we're all here for the same reason. a lot of these thiungs are valid points, i just think it should be a little more personal not a public thread. sorry if i offended anyone, nothing personal. i do have to remember the rewind comment, i like that. | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:41:42 AM | I agree so much with Kasie & Jackie 
This is not about "do not date" thing.
I think we are all being supportive here in this thread. Not bashing men at all. I'm sure alot of men feel the same way we ladies feel.
I think the ladies here have pretty much all posted about how strong they are & not trying to change anyone. Just knowing what it is they want. Being secure in their believes.
We are WOMEN hear us ROAR
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:19:05 AM |
jackie, don't you think men are being talked about like they are pets? like you can only pick good qualities. i just think we'd be all over them if a thread like this was started about us. it's really "what's happening with us ladies" and it's turning into "what can we change about everyone to make them who we'd like them to be"
guess i'm still not too thrilled with the whole "do not date" thing . we need to support eachother in the effort to find someone, we're all here for the same reason. a lot of these thiungs are valid points, i just think it should be a little more personal not a public thread. sorry if i offended anyone, nothing personal. i do have to remember the rewind comment, i like that.
Maybe you are reading something between the lines that I am missing. This thread isn't about picking qualities. And I would never try (or want) to change anyone. I love men... I am not a "man basher" at all. If I were, it would be ME with the problem- not THEM.
This thread is about why some of us have become disillusioned or given up. Many of the men feel the same way. It would be nice if it could be discussed without anyone taking offense or feeling that it was being personally aimed at them. It isn't!
I've met many men at the POF events since last summer. Some of them are AMAZING! Some of them aren't. Just as I've met many women... Some of them are AMAZING! Some of them aren't. It isn't a "gender" issue for me.
But... this thread was addressed to "women" and because of that we should be able to discuss things openly without the "men" coming in and "bashing" us, especially since we haven't bashed them at all. A couple of the men that have posted on here have shown respect for the subject and those of us posting. A couple of them have been just the opposite. That tells me they have a problem with something that was never directed "at" them or "about" them.
This is not about "do not date" thing.
I agree. That new "feature" is totally disgusting, and I for one would not dream of using it! | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:53:01 AM | I'm not taking offense to any of this in any way!! Semper must of woke up on the bad side of the bed lol Anyway I finding listening to a woman in what she wants and saying makes things better for me, Hell they are hard enough to try and figure out anymore lol
How else can I find a great woman if I don't listen ?? point made !!
BTW Kathy I was at Lucky's lastnight...only for a short time though, was meeting someone right accross the street at Outside Corner | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:06:33 AM | i , too , was impressed by the maturity of some of the men that had posted on here, just don't want to see it get ugly. "can't we all just get along?" 
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:07:39 AM | yes Brian, I know women are just as good at the games as men! We had great teachers!
 
There are some really great guys here, just have to keep throwin back in the stink fish till the sweet fish nibbles those hooks... | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:21:10 AM | Shhhhhhhh Jackie !! I have a bad boy rep to protect here so don't let that out of the bag there that I really am a good guy lol I been taken advantage of too many times !! | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:23:37 AM | | I would haft to agree with fut i have met most of you at an event and so on and i only have good things too say, so i figure as sweet as yall are we probably wont be having this conversation this time next year. | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:31:07 AM | Brian, you are a great hugger and I think we need to have you come around just to smell you. You are one of the few guys that uses aftershave, and buddy, do you smell good! I was going to go back for seconds but I figured you might become suspicious with me sniffing your neck.
I don't think there is any question that all of the ladies on this thread dearly love men. What the heck are we doing on a dating site if we didn't? Maybe we love them too much, though, and have gotten ourselves into trouble trusting the wrong ones.
There's no way that any comments here are meant to stereotype men or bash them. Now, I do love rattling their chains, though, just to be ornery! | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:35:53 AM | so brian, you want us to say you are not one of the good guys?
well flap, we can all hope we might not be here next year having this same discussion...but ummmm, i've been here a year...yes i deleted my profile for a little while then came back but i'm still here!
we'll sit at the bar at lucky's next year and discuss this over a   | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 10:46:22 AM | ok i'm making my list and checking it twice..........all good guys to the left....bad guys to the right.
hhehehehehe reminds me of a joke.....oh...nevermind | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 11:17:56 AM | Well-- just as I thought--throw in a little bit of controversy--and get man bashed--by both sides
I'am sure
the ladies here are fine people--but now they can't even agree with each other! | |
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| What's happening with us ladies?
Posted: 4/30/2007 11:26:05 AM | EVERYONE IS THERE OWN PERSON AND HAS THEIR OWN OPINION, THEY ARE NOT ARGUING, FRIENDS CAN HAVE THE SAME OPINION, OR THEIR OWN!
AND EVERYONE HAS THIER OWN FAULTS!!! I KNOW MINE AND TRY TO WORK ON THAT, I ALSO AGREE WITH JACKIE TO LEAVE THE BAGGAGE BEHIND, ALTHOUGH IT IS HARD TO DO. | |
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