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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 8:43:10 AM | Again Indigo let's keep this pleasant and not personal. I am not big! lol
sorry I wasn't refering to your extra digit...
you shall now and foreva be known as little boy | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 8:50:07 AM | The marriage vows specifically say this is wrong.
As far as separated people...that depends on the situation. If the one doing the playing has no intention of going back, I say no problem. But if there is even an inkling of maybe getting back together, why not wait it out and see? It's not like you will die if you don't have someone for a short time. And it will give you the time to get to know yourself better.
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 8:51:40 AM | Simple answer to a simple question......NO!!!
Its not the stupidest question, because infidelity is the second largest reason people get divorced....so obviously theres a whole world of mistresses/boy toys out there.
There are MANY here on this site. 
So any thoughts on the next stage then..is it ok to be in a relationship with someone who is separated? Not divorced or widowed but just separated.
This one can get a little more complicated. I think it's ok if there's NO chance for reconciliation. I went through being separated twice....the first time, I did not date. In my mind, I was still married..no questions asked. The second time was different. I KNEW there was NO chance for reconciliation and our divorce was already filed before I started dating. I know that I did everything in my power to make my marriage work and even throughout the separation and divorce, I maintained my self-respect and dignity. | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 8:52:24 AM | | but surely no matter how separated they are still married and not divorced. Is it justified to say no to affair but yes if separated? | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 8:59:54 AM | | lol thanks for the offer sweetkitty ...but would hate to disappoint you. lol I think it is time for a new forum thread...this one has dried up by the looks of it. | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:03:33 AM | | me ? cute? lol get real...I am an average joe with about as much cuteness as an orangutan covered in shit...lol but heh thanks anyway lol | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:08:14 AM | | my bother is having some troubles with this exact topic. He is a good guy morally and fate just threw him some strange cards. Hes not actually dating a married women....yet. Well here is the story. He knew a girl 5 or 6 years ago that he talked with alot...nothing ever came from it but they just got back into contact through yahoo. shes not in south carolina and she is very unhappy with her husband. He is treating her badly but she has 2 kids with him and shes currently talking about seperation. My brother is thy type that wants to take care of anyone thats hurting and ....well they've been talking on the phone like 3 hours/day while her guys at work. She is even talking about coming to visit in the end of May. We'll see how this one goes....its a bit of a tough situation. | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:11:47 AM | | That is exactly the kind of situation everyone on here has been talking about but most are very anti that outlet for a woman unless she has actually separated or left the house so to speak. SO that opens it nicely. What if someone is very unhasppy in their marriage but maybe will never leave for the sake of the kids - is it OK then? | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:13:35 AM | hey handsome missed you...SHE IS NEEDY...Run brother run..
that's sweet he has such a big heart but...she needs to handle her own shit before she starts something with someone else...let her stand on her own two feet awhile...grrrr | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:28:59 AM | i do have fun yelling "homewrecker!" when they are on the phone. I also say "Yer havin an AFFAIR!". They get a good laugh out of it....of course I yell in a fun way and i'm not rude about it. Kids ARE a factor. This girl seems tough...shes a cop too. The only issue to her is the kids. My older brother was in an 8 year marriage with a women that treated him like dirt. I know because I visited them often. She was horrible. She would get into yelling fights with him over the most trivial things and it was rediculous. He loves his kids though. He is an awesome father and he went through that for 8 years before he finally took the chance and left (when his kids were old enough to understand). He is a much better person now and he is almost always happy.
Its hard for some ppl to think of themselves before their children and i think that is a great thing. That is sacrifice. My brother sees that here and he wants her to be happy because she is a good person. Thats where it difficulty lies.
o und eez gud ta bee mizzed indi | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:30:11 AM | | I would never date a married man....That would be a Stupid, senseless waste of time and energy....and it would be wrong..... | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:33:32 AM | | SO am I getting a sense now that people while probably never admitting it when faced with it, but people would be less inclined to point fingers at man having affair with married woman but would gladly point and scream at a married man having an affair? | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:42:11 AM | | it is funy how ppl judge a situation until they are put into it. of course my brother is leading to her getting seperated so thats the goal but he would date before it happened i'm sure. now would I do it? probably not heh. | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:43:56 AM | Many of my friends have justified having affairs with married men by rationalizing that it's the MAN who is betraying his wife, NOT them, or that they are SO tired of being lonely that they are willing to take whatever is offered.
For myself, betrayal is betrayal and I can't be a party to it no matter what the circumstances...Being alone is NOT the end of the world and there are numerous ways to get your needs met without having to destroy someone's life.
Funny thing about extramarital affairs...it seems that it's always the same people getting involved with unavailable people...maybe that"s really the point?!?!? Dee | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:44:24 AM | ahhhhhhhh...I'm not judging anyone...too each their own....I just wouldn't put myself
in that kinda situation.....I have a little girl to think about and it wouldn't be good for her... | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:55:45 AM | | I think with anything it depends on the situation. I would personally never do it because i think its kind of masochistic waiting for your man (married) to leave his partner...however there is always different circumstances - perhaps they are married but don't sleep together enjoy eachothers company and just stay together for the kids..then really you are sleeping with some other ladies roomate right...not so bad. Either way i dont' like the drama of it all so don't think i would dip into that pool there are lots of fish in the sea! | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 10:09:21 AM | it doesn't matter who,when or where
let's be hounest
no matter what the soul mate's marital status is as long as she's the one
u don't have much choices in love !! do u ppl !!! | |
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| Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 4/26/2005 10:24:21 AM | | Sorry king.... I have to disagree with that one...The main difference between us and the other animals is our ability to choose NOT to follow our baser instincts....Part of living in integrity....Dee | |
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