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Posted: 5/3/2007 12:20:13 PM | | Darlin, if you told him that you are tempted for any reason, he should run for the hills on that alone! I wouldnt put ANY amount of time in with someone if they said that! Choosing to find attention elsewhere is YOUR choice, not his. The poor man can only do so much and you should be happy that you see him as much as you do! I have driven between 1 and 1 1/2 hrs at midnite to see a man i'm totally interested in, since he was at work! That was the only time we could work out and so we made use of it. We both have very busy schedules as well. I live in the middle of nowhere and a 30-40 min drive would be awesome, but I happened to find the one i'm interested in far away, and since he is, i'm willing to do what it takes to try and make a go of it. ESPECIALLY if i have to share the driving! (and i hate driving just as much as you!) Everyone has things they want in a relationship and are willing to do.. but in reality, you are not going to find someone to do and be everything you want. So you really need to learn to compromise and give up some of your "requirements". Otherwise, you are going to be dealing with this every time you try to date someone! | |
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| i REALLY dont want to sound like an A$$
Posted: 5/3/2007 2:46:23 PM |
bottom line is he knew the requirements that i had for a potential bf and he shouldnt have made promises he cant or wont keep. there are definitely consequences for someone that does that.
*sigh* No wonder so many men go gay. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 3:00:43 PM | | hmm.. the only thing i wonder is why did you get involved with him in the first place if once a week is too little for you, as i know a lot of local people that are only available that often due to work, kids, etc? | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 3:53:34 PM | OP...you didn't say if it was week days or weekends you get to spend together or if he just comes for the evening or stays overnight, since you did say its a physical relationship. Also what his work schedule is and that has a huge impact on when and for how long one can spend with another.
If your not seeing or hearing from him on the weekends or he just comes for 4 or 5 hours on a week night, do you go out and do anything together, like dinner, a movie or dancing or is it just a booty call? Could be he is married and only gets one night a week out with the "boys"
You also stated that you have no formal agreement to be exclusive as b/f, g/f, so at this point, he might be seeing others as well and in that case, whiter he is or not, your free to date whom ever, whenever....just be open about it.
Tell him you would like to spend more time with him. Your interested in seeing him exclusive but until you both make that decision, it appears your both free to date others.
But if your not willing to meet him half way and drive at least half the time....I would say....he's just not that important to you. A "real" relationship is 100%/100%....one gets back as much as one is willing to give. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 4:02:03 PM | Well said creativguy...I'm currently seeing someone who is a Merchant Marine....he's out at sea for 41 days and in port for 21....I miss him...but everyone has to do what they do...especially if it's your job....relationships are about compromises as well. Op..how far away is this guy....do you know why he limits the time that you spend together...ie work, children, or maybe other commitments....professional...that he may have. Have you discussed the option of visiting him so there is more time available? Sounds like you just need to have some communication....most things can work out like that. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 6:07:55 PM | oh my, i didnt mean to get everyone so riled up.
when we do spend time it varies from staying in and watching a movie, to going out to dinner, to going on vacation and i truly enjoy his presence thus far.
i do go out of my way for him. he gets first choice when it comes to seeing me and if he tells me he's avaialble, i will build my schedule around him just so that i can see him which i think says a lot.
when we first started to hang out, i didnt think he would be working such late hours and so many days. i dont want this relationship to end but at the same time i dont want to constantly feel deprived either.
in summary, my main complaint is that he says he will make an effort to see me more but so far i havent seen it. if he's going to say something he should mean it and not just say it because its what i want to hear and it will shut me up
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Posted: 5/3/2007 6:40:59 PM | yay! for anyone that cares, he has an appointment in my area tonight so he's going to stop by so im really excited. lets hope he's not to tired to put out and then ill be happy
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Posted: 5/3/2007 7:19:12 PM | Jeez lady, "Let's hope he's not too tired to put out".
Are you trying to be a b!tch? WTF? I am sorry for him, and you. I rarely make inflammatory remarks, as I try to speak with integrity, but I think you do not deserve this man.
Just like he should be...done with you. done with the thread. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 10:03:07 PM | I've come to the conclusion after reading through the whole thread you will laugh harder than reading a book of toilet jokes at a truck stop. You get the feeling by page 3 that it is a total joke, or something posted by a child of some inbreeding family in a trailer parked somewhere in rural Pennsylvania where they don't have running water or electricity cause "Mah daddy sayed.....
Imsneaky you really have issues. I don't know what you can do about it in rural Pennsylvania , but I'd at least sit down and have a chat with Uncle Dad, ok? And you can discuss installing that indoor plumbing while you are at it
yay! for anyone that cares, he has an appointment in my area tonight so he's going to stop by so im really excited. lets hope he's not to tired to put out and then ill be happy-imsneaky you've been called SPECIAL a few times in your life haven't you?  | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 10:14:09 PM | I feel so sorry for him too, here is the perfect example of a one sided relationship where the guy is making all the effort to satisfy this little princess that seems to think its all about her needs! He lives less than an hour away, you could see him every day if you really wanted to but you would rather sit around whining and acting like the mistreated gf when in reality its YOU who is treating your guy like crap! I hope he doesn't put out, you don't deserve it  | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 11:19:47 PM |
when we first started to hang out, i didnt think he would be working such late hours and so many days. i dont want this relationship to end but at the same time i dont want to constantly feel deprived either
Good lord. And people wonder how they end up single.
The man is working like a dog, and most likely is exhausted at the end of the day. And he still makes time to see you, go out with you, have dinner with you, and spend his vacations with you.
And you're complaining?
i do go out of my way for him. he gets first choice when it comes to seeing me and if he tells me he's avaialble, i will build my schedule around him just so that i can see him which i think says a lot.
My dear, if you think that is doing "a lot", then you may have some serious growing up to do. There is many things in this world you can do that qualify as "a lot". Raising children is "a lot". Running a business is "a lot". Making a marriage work is "a lot".
Showing up and punching in the clock in a relationship doesn't even make it in the same building, let alone on the same page.
Good luck, you'll need it. A lot. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 7:20:45 AM |
i explained this to him very clearly and im hurt that he seems to be disregarding my feelings and just neglecting me in general.
waa waa..someone call a waambulance | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 10:23:37 AM |
*sigh* No wonder so many men go gay.
It's a shame all those men don't see the rest of us...self-respecting women who value the gentlemen in our lives and don't wander about like our OP with her rhinestone studded tarnished tiara dug into her semi-brainless head.
Waambulance...good one! Does it have padding for her too! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 11:08:31 AM | ~~Does it have padding for her too!~~
Not sure, but I would bet hanging on a hook inside is a lovely white jacket with eeeextra long sleves and pretty buckles in the back. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 12:57:11 PM | This is what happens when one stops taking their meds and posts?
good Lord, I hope your boyfriend doesn't read your post OP, I like to be a fly on the wall and see his reaction before he dumps your a$$ | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 1:15:53 PM | Well we are all dyyyyying to know if Sneaky got a piece of @ss last night!!!!lmfao...where did she go...she has abandoned us right in the middle of this juicy story hahaha
I guess she got it cuz she has stopped complaining lol
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Posted: 5/5/2007 1:23:10 PM | Without bothering to read the whole thread( because it was beginning to piss me off ROYALLY) and speaking of royalty, sounds like the OP is an "entitlement princess". If driving 45 minutes is totally unacceptable to her, she needs to stick to the locals and if they prove to be unsatisfactory, OH WELLLL....
Heck, I am willing to drive an hour just to listen to music/hang with friends.
But then I don't see my friendships and relationships as being all about ME,either.
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Posted: 5/5/2007 2:34:49 PM | HI, At the age of 24 you need to have a back up, When a woman know how she is and what she wants you will not have to wait for he to see you,most man who do that is not realy wanting you ,I don't chase any man and I chat with alot and I weed them out,They call me.My advice whe he what's to chat ,don't do it for a day or so and if he comes back thell he you were busy,and if he doz. he wasn't for you .
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:15:39 AM | well i think my concerns about his character are more valid then any of you thought, even more then i originally thought when i originally wrote this. on thursday night he never showed up because he was done his appointment around midnight and was really tired. i was fine with it because i was tired too. i missed out on 2 hours of sleep because i waited for him so dont tell me i dont make sacrifices for this relationship. then we were supposed to hang out today and he canceled saying that he is sick and that he will try to see me sometime this week before he goes on vacation. im really getting sick of this and he doesnt seem to get it at all. if i had any reservations about seeing someone while he was away, they are out the window now. if you think im being a **** for doing that then fine, but i think people like him need to be taught a lesson and im more then happy teaching him one.
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Posted: 5/6/2007 1:30:44 PM |
i do go out of my way for him. he gets first choice when it comes to seeing me and if he tells me he's avaialble, i will build my schedule around him just so that i can see him which i think says a lot.
Considering everythign else you've said on here, you're not making any effort at all, IMO.
yay! for anyone that cares, he has an appointment in my area tonight so he's going to stop by so im really excited. lets hope he's not to tired to put out and then ill be happy
*sigh* sounds like you just want to get laid; it's all about you, you, you...why don't you simply get a BOB and then you'll both be happy?
on thursday night he never showed up because he was done his appointment around midnight and was really tired. i was fine with it because i was tired too. i missed out on 2 hours of sleep because i waited for him so dont tell me i dont make sacrifices for this relationship. then we were supposed to hang out today and he canceled saying that he is sick and that he will try to see me sometime this week before he goes on vacation. im really getting sick of this and he doesnt seem to get it at all. if i had any reservations about seeing someone while he was away, they are out the window now. if you think im being a **** for doing that then fine, but i think people like him need to be taught a lesson and im more then happy teaching him one.
Did you ever think that he might have 'missed out' also because he had to work, but would haverather spent time with you, and was just as disappointed? Besides, you could have taken a nap while waiting for him to show up, so please, don't make it sound like you did so much. As far as him being sick, people *do* get sick...and would you rather have possibly caught what he had and put yourself out of commission too?
You are an extremely selfish, narcissistic, uncompassionate, non-understanding person, IMO, and I can only hope this guy has seen your posts and realizes there's much better out there for him...especially as I have no hopes that you'll tell him you're going to see others 'while he's gone'...you don't appear to me to have the common decency to do that. You sound much worse than like an @ss. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 1:59:24 PM | I hope that he leaves you because of how selfish you are...
30-45 mins, is not a long drive, and is worth it, if he is worth it to you...
The guy that Im seeing doesnt have a car, and I have full access to one.....I drive to get him, I go BACK to where we work 2 hours after Im done to get him...and at night, If Im beat or cant get the car, He walks to my house, a 20-30 min walk.....
He didnt show up because he had to WORK you know, that thing that keeps the CAR he uses to go see YOU Running...because without that job that hes sooooooooooooo busy with, he wouldnt have that car....and Im sure without the job, or the car, you wouldnt give him a second chance....
And with the hours you are saying he puts in, getting sick makes total sense, his body is probably telling him to slow the fuck down....
if you cheat on this guy while hes on vacation, I seriously hope that he LEAVES you.....On second thought, I hope even if you dont cheat on him he lease you...pathetic | |
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