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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:05:52 PM |
i really need some help in the situation im in. i met someone the other night but i was very very drunk when i met him. we have been corresponding back and forth the last couple of days and made plans to see each other on tuesday. here's my dilemma. i dont remember his name. what should i do??? i can see this becoming a problem once we meet not to mention i dont even know how to save his number in my phone. can someone give me a slick way to figure out his name without him finding out that i totally forgot it because i was drunk??
Posted by Thorn, which the OP chose to ignore, and which I find very important:
Just curious OP, but would this be the same guy you are talking about? Do you at least know his name now? Just curious, cause the above is what you had to say on the issue a month or so ago.
Fictional drama is a wonderful thing, but save it for the professional screenwriters. It really isn't your forte. And if you must use a "sock puppet" to post, try at least to be more creative when you make one. I mean sheesh, what is this, amateur hour? I can't believe people are taking this even remotely serious.
This girl is a joke. No one in this world is THAT clueless. Right? | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:16:25 PM | bottom line is he knew the requirements that i had for a potential bf ????
Are you a control freak??? Hell browneyedgirl is my X and she use to come see me now we dont talk cause I got married lol But girl your a freak if you have a list of what your man should and shouldnt do.I see you being single for a very LONG time!!
I would say good luck but I would mean it to any man who was with you.Your alot like my X rather sad and controlling! You cant commit,To bad myself I have never been happier in my life and we have a little one on the way.Distance is a cop out.Get over yourself and try to think of your man and not just you. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:36:11 PM | | Yes, it is a joke...for sure...has anyone taken a look at the OP's profile? Everything is listed as "Prefer Not to Say"!!! It's gotta be a joke...that's the only possible explanation lol | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:36:27 PM | imsneaky (OP),
Long Distance boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are doomed. It's really that simple. In the incredibly rare situations where they end up in greatness, it always requires one person to move in or very nearby them.
If you only see a boyfriend once a week, over the course of a couple months, are you sure he sees you as his girlfriend? Quite possibly you're a 'romantic friend'. Some people can handle that sort of quasi-relationship, but most people can't. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 6:11:18 PM | | Since verbalizing things don't really seem to be an issue for you at all, why not simply tell him that you are a lazy, self-centered woman who wants a puppet? | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 6:17:35 PM | | OMG what a little B I T CH you are, talk about selfish, and i bet you would be stamping your feet; when you don't get your own way wwwaaaaaaaaaa! I want, I want, I want, you seriously need to grow up I hope this guy comes to his sense's and dumps you A$$ | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:30:54 PM | Well, if you actually said to him on day one:
Hi. I just want you to know that since you live 30 minutes away from me, I expect to see you every single night and YOU come over to my house each time, because I'm not coming to yours. Period. End of story. ..
And he agreed to that....
And he is now not following through....
then (1) he doesn't give a crap about you and wishes you'd disappear
or (2) he figured you would change once you started seeing him.
No one changes.
If you don't like the situation, remind him of the original agreement, and if he says "huh?" or "whatever", then you know its your walking papers.
Now, on the other hand, if no such agreement such as outlined above was actually ever spelled out? Then you are being childish, selfish, and asinine. 30 minutes is a nothing drive. In fact, its nothing for him....so if he is not coming over to see you more often than once a week, he's not that interested.
I lived in Kirkland. My bf lived in Bothell. That was a 30 minute drive...he came over or I went over to his house every single day for a year.....then we moved in together, and found we could not live together! Heck, I should have stayed in Kirkland and he should have stayed in Bothell. We'd still be together! | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:57:43 PM | Move in next door to him. That should cut back on your nasty 30-45 minute drive.
You may have to walk 10 feet, but at least you'll see him more often | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 3:50:53 AM | Paddy! Please!
Give the guy a break!
You think missy here is going to walk 10 feet without expecting a pedicure at the end of it. What more do you want this guy to do?!
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Posted: 5/7/2007 12:15:48 PM | More and More, I get the feeling the guy is married and the OP knows this.
He's headed on vacation next week and she is not invited? That say lots. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 12:35:50 PM | LOL...OMG...I just finished reading all of the posts from you guys...this chick is off her rocker for sure...you need to see your Doctor and get your perscription changed because it's obviously not working for you anymore...when you guys are all done with the puke bucket could ya pass it this way please...instead of starting this thread she should of hopped in her car and went the distance...over the cliff... ...O and BTW Undercover angel...I PREFER NOT TO SAY whether I read her profile or not...lmfao...is your name Imsneaky for a reason...some people will do or say anything for attention...as soon as you opened your mouth you sounded like an ass...JMO...and if I wanted to hear from an ass I would have tooted... | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 2:03:22 PM | my guess is since she hasn't responded for a couple of pages....she's got the point that she's being unreasonable. but for what it's worth.....my 2 cents.
i'm in a relationship with a wonderful man whom i see as often as i can. the drive,one way, for me is about 45 minutes, not an easy one, QEW, 403, 401 not exactly back roads here. and for the record....he makes the drive up to me as well.
it's about the same as yours would be IF you drove.
now i know you said you drive...and you don't like it....but my guess is if you really DO drive and you really DO want to spend as much time with him as you claim....45 minutes isn't all that much. i mean come on...why should he be expected to do all the driving when you can do your part....
as someone else said...the road drives both ways. my suggestion would be to grow up. it's not always about you. give and take sweetie....give and take. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 2:29:43 PM | If driving is really challenging for you, and that really IS the issue here, what about your getting your butt over to his place, via some other method of transportation? Are there buses, subways, taxi's, or LRT's in your area? If so, then take your book, and enjoy the ride.
If not, and you're not willing to drive a mere 30 - 45 minutes, well, then I guess this guy just isn't worth it to you. It's about priorities. If you had a child who lived with their other parent, that distance away, would it still be too much trouble to drive? Would you find a way to be there? Like I said, it's about priorities. If he's important enough (regardless of whether or not he's your "Official" boyfriend), then you'll find a way. If he's not that important, then do the man a favor and cut him loose to find someone who will appreciate him.
And next time you're given the opportunity to enjoy whatever limited valuable time that a man has for you, consider yourself honored. I'm in the same situation, but for different reasons. He's the same distance away, and until things changed and made it impossible, (he now has at-home obligations that I can't be part of) I drove out to his place 2 or 3 times a week, and he came to see me 1 or 2 times a week. It's called give and take, not take and give. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 3:50:06 PM | Ok Sneaky...here it is...I honestly think that you started off on the wrong foot with this guy and although you may really like him and can't figure out what has changed...think about this.
It was great when it all started, but then he figured out that there was no give and take in this "so called relationship" ...it was all him doing, and it wasn't enough for you. So what has changed and why is he not putting in the same effort? Well, he has probably moved on now to someone else that appreciates the effort he is putting in. At least, it doesn't sound from your posts that he is interested in you any longer.
I don't think you should bank on his efforts anymore...he tried, wasn't enough for you, so you lose.
Maybe next time you find a great guy, you will not be so quick to demand. You could try that. I'm not saying chase a guy...I wouldn't either...but a little give and take is not gonna kill ya. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 4:10:31 PM | This must be a joke.
but I can not stop reading it.
It is like watching a car crash.
You know you should just look away,
BUT I CAN'T!!! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 5:43:45 PM |
i am too old and tired to be sneaking around his back
I'm sorry, and I truly mean that, but you need to grow up and quit being (its all about me). I realize that at 24 your on top of the world and most likely had everyones undivided attention most of your life, but if the man works and all he has time for dating is once a week, then that is all he could afford.
I'm not trying to be mean spirited, just telling you what everyone is afraid to really say.
(Pet peeve #4 I hate people that are afraid to speak the truth even if its ugly.)
If you think traveling 30 mins is too much of an inconvienence because YOU want a booty call.... well that right there says a lot.
Maybe he can only tollerate you because your too needy ?
Maybe he has another girl, but you said yourself that your not in a real commited relationship with this young man.... why should he be at your becon call when its nothing more than a thing ?
Another thing you are failing to understand about men and that is they don't mature until later in life... ever hear the saying "Boy's will be Boy's"...?
He might be more into doing his thing...
I don't know all the facts because every time you post, you just happen to tell a little more of the tale and I suspect that there is more that what you are willing to admit to.
Just remember that the world doesn't stop if you move on with life and things will continue on as they always have because you don't get your way.  | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 5:51:49 PM | | I don't get it. How can you expect him to put forth more effort when he is already doing leaps and bounds more than you are for this so-called relationship. The question is not what he can do for you, but what you can do for him. As someone else said, you need to look in the mirror. He should be asking you to put forth more effort. If it's not what you want then end the damn thing. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 3:06:40 AM |
I'm not trying to be mean spirited, just telling you what everyone is afraid to really say.
(Pet peeve #4 I hate people that are afraid to speak the truth even if its ugly.)
read the thread darlin' looks like she's gettin a huge blast of truth. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 8:12:29 AM | WHERE OH WHERE IS THE OP????????????????????
Not at the bf's house, for sure for sure...............
LOVED the moving in next door comment but would want a pedicure after walking 10 feet!!!!!!!!! LMAO
I don't think she is the sharpest tool in the shed when it comes to Love and Relationships (or is that friendship and understanding). | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:41:54 AM | Thanks Shemail06,
Sometimes, one just has to see the humour in these posts and the mentality (likely delusional mental illness, in this case) that's driving them. | |
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