| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:33:36 PM | Again... why are GIRLS forward? Be lucky you're a girl, and all a guy wants from you is sex. If you were a guy, that girl would want yer sex, yer car, yer house, yer bank account, yer life style, yer "status". At least HE is gone in the morning! lol
But seriously, girls are just as bad about things like this as guys. Girls just have a better way of hiding their sexual intentions. Everyone's different, and wants/looks for different things. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 7:35:47 PM | I'll never broach the sexual subject until the lady does first. You Ladies know us and what we would "Like" , I think this approach although unintended, is a bit of a tease for the Ladies. Guys try it sometime chat up a hottie and NOT talk about sex, see what happens....
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 7:47:42 PM | Most women know how a guy is programmed as far as sex is concerned. We know before we're told that it's on their minds and take that into consideration as we're getting to know them. We 'get it'... I just wonder why guys don't realize that and insist on bringing it up so much and early on too. If they would just operate with the silent understanding that we're very aware it's on their minds and not feel the need to get 'intimate' verbally or physically so quickly, they might have a better chance! They don't seem to get that it's more of a turn off to be bombarded with that from the get go.
Chances are they'd get some sooner than later if they didn't come across that way... it would make us more likely to want to get intimate if we don't feel like that's the only reason they want to get to know us. But, some don't 'get it' and then get all bitter when a girl doesn't respond or stops talking to them. It boggles the mind. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:22:21 PM | It's not just you, Navieaz. Actually that's pretty mild from what I've seen. (Beware of what guys want to show you on their webcam. LOL.) But, seriously, I was always wary of men who started asking personal, sexual-type questions. I thought it showed a lack of respect and one track thinking.
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:29:23 PM | "It's not just you, Navieaz. Actually that's pretty mild from what I've seen. (Beware of what guys want to show you on their webcam. LOL.) But, seriously, I was always wary of men who started asking personal, sexual-type questions. I thought it showed a lack of respect and one track thinking."
I totally agree..it shows lack of respect...and it feels thaey just want to use you..before finding the next woman...it doesn't impress!!!
And as I said earlier..you would think men would have sussed us women out by now...and know that they can still get what they want...if they treat us differently.
We all know men are ruled by what is in their pants..most of the time...but we hope there is a brain there that will realise at what stage is appropriate to bring up this subject.
I guess it depends what the woman is looking for...and if she values herself at all.....and that can go the other way too,..when women are sexualy agresive!!! Ohh...we play our games !!!
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Posted: 5/3/2007 12:18:56 AM | I think we all get it, men as well as women.I'd personally rather get to know a person before broaching such subjects as sex.When they jump on the sex conversation too quickly it's more like they are just out for the next lay or a player which may or may not be true.If I talk to a guy and I like him,I'll give him my email addy and im there as it's more reliable.Can usually find out pretty quick what the intentions are.Of course there are those that think because you have added them on your personal email that you want more than you can get on here.They wont hesitate to give you the weenie cam which I find rude. Personally I'd rather get to know the person first and a face shot is always nice as it allows one to see who they are talking to.The others will normally get a quick Block.I have men friends that tell me the same happens to them with women, so we all get it. Just a matter of how you want to deal with it. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 2:55:16 AM | ,Personally , I think we are all WELL aware of what us guys want ,
After-all it is a Primal thing , c'mon thats what we are here for is it not !
At least with this current day and age , women have equal rights and are not subjected
to the (club'n'cave) romance  ...
Yes we do like our mate-ing , but i have to say you lady's are enjoying it in this age ,
Just as much as what we are ,and yet you are still making us work hard for it  , Please try to remember that we ( us guys )
Have also gained an understanding of respect and romance for you lady's , and we are subjected to enormous grovelling and hideous tasks to get what we used to "TAKE" without all the fuss ... .
It's a " PRIMAL" thing lady's , and some of us have learned to have control , along with the "prefered approach" and some of us have not ...
But we all fall in Love at some point and the lovemaking is what can catch yer man ,
as well as yer heart ... Keep that in mind 
Andy...  | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 4:25:29 AM | hey caught; think your profile might have something to do with that seems like you break the ice in it so when guys are forward after reading a provocative profile there just reciprocating
and dont get me wrong im not criticizing your profile i like it, direct, funny and interesting but you have to admit in it you have already approached the subject of sex
jemue i was speaking in general terms maybe you havent been programed that way if not great but the rest of us have to overcome our programing both genetic and developmental | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 4:35:14 AM | Hi there,
I hope you didn't waste your time replying back to him?? What a looser!!
Yes, some men are like that, but you need to "weed" out the bad to get to the good!
Keep positive! Not ALL men are that way!! I can promise you that!!
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Posted: 5/3/2007 5:30:15 AM | "Have also gained an understanding of respect and romance for you lady's , and we are subjected to enormous grovelling and hideous tasks to get what we used to "TAKE" without all the fuss ... " Thanks for that tantricman!!!....hmmmm
I am glad not all men come over like you...or there wouldnt be much hope.
I don't believe that men don't fall in love...and that the driving force is just sex....it depends where your beliefs fall....and as a Christian...I don't buy into evolution...and the primevil thing.
I know that men feel the need to plant their seed...and woman feels the need to nest...(generally speaking here!!!)...but I don't believe God made us all without a brain and a heart.(and just a penis!!)
If any guy thought he could just TAKE what he wanted from me..he would be in for a rude awakening..lol
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Posted: 5/3/2007 5:54:44 AM | | I think being forward is manly rather than beat around the bush. Its wasting time......to go round in circles. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 8:13:25 AM | | Hey another thought came to me . it just could be that in our formative years that while trying to be nice and courtious we watched time after time you girls that we had a crush on turn us down ,laugh at us , make fun of us ,put us down and make out with the guy that was mean ,vulgar, wild and so hot and now you have decided after spending your first relationships with them and being abused ,degraded, cheated on , and lied to,now you want us to be nice and courtious and wander why we have a problem being so (go figure) | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 8:34:01 AM | And girls always say how they prefer a man whi is forward and will make the decisions and such.
Now guys are being too forward? LOL.
girls will never be pleased! | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 8:44:38 AM | | Yea you try to be a perfect gentleman and don't suggest anything after a few emails and they wander if you are gay. you do and they go ballistic and you read their profiles and they reek of sexual overtures but you bring up the subject of sex and poof your blocked.. strange creatures these women (god i Love them) | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 8:47:03 AM | | He is just testing the water huni seeing how far you will go in his flirting, im sure if you choose to ignore his comments or not rise to them he will move on with another subject, its a form of flirting to see how much he can get away with lol. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 9:00:26 AM | Good posts here.... There are men who are forward and men who are shy. There are women who are forward and others that blush a the mention of any kind of initimacy.
But let's face it... sex and physical intimacy is a HUGE part of a relationship. If it wasn't you would not give a rat's a$$ if your partner cheated on you.
I consider sex/intimacy to be one of the 3 pillars of a successful relationship along with shared values, and shared interests . I am not going to date a woman who is not into fitness (interests), I am not going to date a woman who is overly materialistic (values), and I am not going to date a woman who is not sexual.
So... in the course of getting to know someone... SEXUAL questions will come up from me.
Why would you base a decision to date someone on what the like to eat, or thier music tatstes.. but NOT sexual interests.....??
That does not mean that sex is the only priorty .. it means it's not going to be "de-emphasized" by me.
Good luck! you're mileage may vary. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 9:09:50 AM | I'd say talking about..
lying around naked, or skinny dipping
that is pretty mild, hehe.
Stop treating sex as a taboo and go have some freaking fun. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 12:19:47 PM | | I would say for the most part in the cyber world that waiting 2-3 emails to start being "suggestive" is showing great restraint. Heaven bless the guy/gal responsible for block, delete and ignore features on all communication programs. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 2:33:01 PM | | deerdog1... vakarazz... you both hit it right on the money. Just about every other guys comment is the biproduct of that. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 2:37:57 PM | | OP, no it's not you...it's just that some people (yes, women do this too) aren't looking for more than casual sex, and they'll generally bring it up way too soon if that's the case. They want casual sex, you want a few dates and most likely some connection before you get into that - and that's not being a prude. Sure, there are some conversations where something sparks one or the other to make a risque comment early on, especially if they feel comfortable taking with each other...but generally if they're making certain comments early on, I'd see it as a red flag mainly because I'm not looking for casual sex either. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 6:10:59 PM | | Well at least you got to 2 or 3 emails. LOL. One guy emailed me right off and told me all the great things he could do to me. It's actually kind of irritating and insulting that he thinks I am so desperate that I would just say "okay, sure, lets do it". I just wonder if he knows how much d*** is around each corner for women. DUH! Can you say um, BLOCK? | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/3/2007 6:30:41 PM | I have to agree...there are some pretty forward people in the western hemisphere these days. It's not just guys though.
Actually, I think that it happens everywhere in the world. I know for sure in Europe it's pretty acceptable to be that way. I have friends overseas that have said that it's always been that way and it's spreading to the US via immigration and MEDIA. LOL
I have to believe there are still some free thinking, unique men in this world, who don't need to be like everyone else. I hope there still exists the type of man who needs to feel an emotional connection before a physical one. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/4/2007 2:51:56 PM | It is just a case of anything goes..and if it feels good ..do it. The internet is a good medium for anyone who want's to hit on another..as again..there is safety behind that screen...but it isnt just online that people are more up front about their sexual desires...its out there too (so I am told..lol)..I have seen it first hand when I went out with my girlfriends...frankly..being that forward is not for me (again..I have my faith and beliefs..which give me boundaries)....
I would say that we can see the results of everyone thinking it ok...to do what you want...with more teenage pregnancies...as well as sexual diseases increasing.
I feel sad that more people dont respect their own bodies..and end up with the consequences.
I guess if you like a guy being that forward..that quick..there's enough of them out there (women too)...it all depends on what you want...but for me...it's a big BYE BYE!!!
Sex is part of a relationship...but many people want to by pass the relationship and get down to basics...before they even know each others name....ewww!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 5:14:36 AM | this is a dating site...with many sexually frustrated men...mix this with your genuine, but possibly, naieve headline, Looking for : "nice guy to have fun with",
may be interpreted by the Neanderthal's as an invitation for a romp in the wool shed....
and remember, even creepy smelly paedophilic stalker types can make themselves look like Brad Pitt and 'wooo' like Barry White...(RIP)
good luck with throwing the blowfish back into the water....
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