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ddream
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Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 52 | |
| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/5/2007 10:41:51 AM | LOL. Well I wouldn't do that.. But I guess after about a month constantly talking on MSN (at least 30 hours in total) I think it could happen..
But after 3 mails is a definate NO NO for me..  | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/17/2007 4:46:46 AM | depeche gurl wrote:
Most women know how a guy is programmed as far as sex is concerned. We know before we're told that it's on their minds and take that into consideration as we're getting to know them. We 'get it'... I just wonder why guys don't realize that and insist on bringing it up so much and early on too. If they would just operate with the silent understanding that we're very aware it's on their minds and not feel the need to get 'intimate' verbally or physically so quickly, they might have a better chance! They don't seem to get that it's more of a turn off to be bombarded with that from the get go.
Chances are they'd get some sooner than later if they didn't come across that way... it would make us more likely to want to get intimate if we don't feel like that's the only reason they want to get to know us. But, some don't 'get it' and then get all bitter when a girl doesn't respond or stops talking to them. It boggles the mind.
Not so. Women are also subconsciously socialized (or programmed, whichever you like) to be excited (emotionally) by the Alpha Male of a group. Because of that, the guy who is honorable, not forward, and who doesn't assert himself and be aggressive is overlooked, shunned, and ignored by you women. He doesn't rise to your radar. That's why you all want the bad boy, and ignore the nice guy as too spineless, too wimpy, and you relegate him to the status of your girlfriend. Then you act all shocked when he suddenly grows a pair, and stands up to scream "Hey!! I want to take you to bed!"
If women went against their cultural programming and made things a little more plainly clear to us simpleminded men, there would be a lot less of this type of thread in the world. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 4:59:34 AM | "why are guys so forward? "
"forward" is supposed to be a good thing, right (see "honesty" for example)
What the OP is describing is not "forward" or "honest", it is absence of "romance".
SOME guys are simply not romantic or too horny or desperate. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/18/2007 11:01:09 PM | | Im not forward at all.I dont give the female the upper hand.they better mail me first or they aint geting jack shack sh*it from me.thats why women think there better then us men.Im way to da*mn sexy to put myself out there for a women to be waiting to shoot me down.So i control the mails on this site & other sites im at from them to me. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 10/21/2007 6:08:23 PM | Maybe it's something in the Western hemisphere that is not found in the East? No no no no ... surely not a new East/West divide!
There is a tendency towards "forwardness" growing and it is the Internet that's helping to propagate it. Sadly, this is often a 'hit and run' (no pun intended) activity, rather like throwing stones at a window to see if someone will come to the door.
Hopefully there's a good or useful side to this situation. However, I can well understand that it has become a bore to probably most ladies (online and off) to have the same things said by hundreds of guys all seemingly coming from the same (stud?) stable.
There are many (and NO ... we are NOT all from England) gentlemen around but as few of these are ever particularly 'forward', the chance of discovering one is slight. The best way forward is to research - be pro-active rather than re-active. This puts far more onus on the searcher (Lady/Gent/Guy/Gal/Girl whatever) than ever before but through searching and double checking people online, you can now find out more about someone than ever before.
This should create a more accurate and effective way of finding both friends, partners and, for those brought up to believe it is possible, a Mr or Miss 'Right'.
It's an interesting challenge. It's a global village. As you progress, share your findings - well, those you feel might be of use to others.
Now which Smilie should I pick to finish off this first blog (or is this a posting?) of mine at 'Plenty of Fish'. Ahhh, I know ... the only appropriate one :
Best wishes all. | |
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kotkoj
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Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 58 | |
| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 10/21/2007 11:16:52 PM | | Well I must admit I have had small sex talk by the third email however it has been the women who started it and well they dont usually end up being the woman I am looking for. I am usually trying to push a date because well you will learn more in one date than you will in 1 year of email. Why waste that year if you can see if she is the one for you in 1 date without sex. ya if you wait that year and she is great awsome, if not well you cant just hit rew. but I have defanetly found the women squezing into sexual conversation before myself and sometimes are looking for the whole webcam thing but sorry not for me. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 3:29:04 PM | >
On these sites when women do take the initiative (and I do) most often the guys runs or thinks it means I want to head for the sack right now! What are you afraid of?
If you are here for a FF then let it be known and write as much on your profile or your tag..be honest. I want intimacy with a partner too, but just because I emailed you doesn't mean I am easy
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Posted: 3/16/2008 3:44:03 PM |
why are guys so forward?
This must be part 2 to "Why guys aren't forward enough?"
ahh, balance. It's beautiful.
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:05:53 PM | What? They're givin' ya 2 or 3 emails first before they think they're gonna get laid?
What about the losers trolling for sex using chat. I've just about decided to disable it completely. On the other hand, it makes a very handy screening tool......... | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 9:16:16 PM | I've messaged and emailed quite a number of women during the last three years. I've never even hinted at intimacy--ever!
I've met a number of women from dating sites. They make it known immediately, if they are at all interested in you, that they expect sex (no they don't come out and say it, but it is inferred from the conversation during the first date). Generally women remain coy and won't do it on the first date, although some will. But by the second date, most, in my experience, expect sex. And in those rare cases that it is denied on the second date, on the third date, if you are a man, you better be ready to go or the woman thinks something is wrong with you.
We live in an age of instant gratification. No matter what your gender, if you aren't prepared to put out by the third date, or sooner, it's over.
I do read on this site about women and even men saying they don't have sex during the second or third date or even longer. I don't see that happening in California where I live. | |
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custis
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Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 64 | |
| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 3/17/2008 2:43:42 AM | | Men are horny and that is not going to change anytime soon. Just comfort yourself with the fact that we mean well. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 3/17/2008 3:17:04 AM | the educated ones dont i find - some yobbos do of course but thats them just having a shot - i dont think its something they think is offensive - just think it may be a turn on for you
they dont know that women for the most are not visual creatures so if they like to have visions of girls lying about naked they think we like to have the same fantasies
the best thing to do is to educate them gently - no put downs
tell them that it might be a fun thing later but at the moment youd like to hear something else | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 5:54:20 AM | I was such a gentleman back b-4 the net (computers) came out. The good old days of 70's and 80's was a sight to see......
Now, with all these dating sites and instant gratifications places to roam to, no wonder guys have a bigger choice to choose from, and are straight forward with their words and actions. Their might be something said that normally he wouldn't say to her face, and vice versa. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 6:19:01 AM | | of the woman from wisconsin I have e-mailed . 90% say they are living in africa . Whats up with that . sounds like they are scammers or players . | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 7:32:06 AM | | thats the way life is, even in a few decades life and tecnology have well advanced, people are much quicker off the mark nowadays compared to the 60's and 70's. if you took it slow these days you would stop! im not one to jack off to a cam, or even say unjust things of obscene nature. but thats how it is these days. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 11:00:25 AM | Us women can be/could be... it's all about choice isn't it.
I think that the internet sort of lets people hide and behave differently than they would in real life, and for some more inhibited people they tend to feel a lack of inhibitions when behind a pc... I think that we, as women, if we encounter it and don't like it - should just ignore it... and think ourselves lucky that we can just walk away from that kind of thing. BUT if you like it well then that is your choice too.
I try to behave like I would in real life when on the net.... otherwise it is all a farce.
But I am not here to judge others behaviour... don't forget that in reality we probably only mix with a certain type of person... but here your pc is open to all... so you can expect the worse and the best depending on where your own values are at. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 12:48:14 PM | Why are guys so forward? I personally don’t take issue with being forward, if it is done tastefully. I believe it comes down to the “bottom line” mentality when people open up with remarks such as you have discussed.
No matter how we choose to broach or approach the subject, the bottom line between men and women relationships is sexuality…Some like to tippy-toe around it, some just go for the tango, and even some for the dirty dance.. some open with light-hearted innuendos and some more directly… I have no problem with addressing it early on..
I know my sexual preferences rank high in my need of a relationship. So, I do become very direct early-on in communication, perhaps with a tidbit of being coy in the beginning… It’s just opening the doors on the bottom line.
Does this mean this is all I want from a person? No, not at all…I yearn for that deep bond with One, but it does mean I want to find out if we are compatible in our sexuality before moving into discovering the unique things about a person that comes with time and time I am so willing to invest if the other preferences are present.
I wish you well,
~donna~ | |
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