| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:03:24 AM | | Assumptions are just that..... today, there are alot of reasons why people are not haveing children, or married or both, haveing been witness to the heartaches of friends and families. And yes I know specifics on why they had broken up the relationship in the first place...as for me.... not finding the one I want to be with who compliments my life as I would do with hers has never materialized, and I do have to be married to start a family... my life.... my rule, so if it never happens ...well it never will... disapointed that I hadn't started earlier...You Bet... glad that I am not on my third marriage with 40 kids not supported by me... You Bet | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/4/2008 8:44:23 AM | | I have not married or had children honestly because I have not meet the person who I want to spend the rest of my life with.There are alot of people in society that have alot of emotional walls and have been hurt or abused to the point that they have a hard time loving again.I am a victom of sercomstance! | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/4/2008 10:33:49 AM | | I usually assume that the man takes life seriously.... but of course one should never assume anything. It is easier to work on yourself when you don't have other people to worry about, that is all. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/4/2008 8:20:21 PM | | I come right out & ask cause to me it does seem somewhat "odd" or not the norm. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/5/2008 1:25:47 PM | Never married and no kids...
Came close to getting married...well, at least in the engagement stage...she thought different as time went on... | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/5/2008 3:17:39 PM | It's probably just never been in the right situation.
I'm financially and emotionally ready for kids now but it takes 2 for that situation and I'm rather picky. I also old enough to realize I'm getting a bit old for chasing kids around. I haven't given the idea up entirely but my 1 year old nephew can wear me out. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:06:26 AM | Same here, never married (engaged twice ) and no kids........on the up side.......no contact with an ex........no child support......no arguements.........no headaches.
Almost makes me sound like i know what i'm doing. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:26:27 PM | | I can understand people getting divorced sometime you just meet the wrong person. What I can't understand is the men or women who have kids who have never been married get mad when single people with no kids do not want to date them. That is just a total sign of irresponsibility to me. One thing if you have kids from a divorce or possibly your spouse passed away way too early. It also seems like if you are in your 30's single never been married and no kids it is like there is something wrong with that. Seems like shit is backwords | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:45:07 PM | WOW...and here I thought I was the last of a dying breed....LOL Nice to see so many men out there are single, never married and have no kids like myself. Now where do y'all hide out cause I keep meeting the other ones | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:53:05 PM | Ok so I have to know what is so bad about someone male or female that has never been married and has no kids.Are you saying we are DAMAGED GOODS and do not deserve to find true love because it did not happen soon enough in our lifes.Is there a time limit.I believe that when I find that somone to share my life with it will be Forever and I will not be here on POF. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:59:10 AM | Too many people rush into relationships, marriage and having children for the sake of conformity along with fear of being single (hence branded "not normal"). Relationships, marriage and kids are HARD WORK, it's no god damn fairy tale story until death do us part.
Some people are bound to be happier being single and childless than tied up in a miserable dead end relationship where the kids suffer the trauma and consequences of a break up and having to visit their mother and father at seperate homes. USA and UK probably have the highest rate of single parents in the world, which says something is very wrong about what society dictates. There are so many people out there unfit to be parents, to nuture, look and support their kids into adult life.
Be an individual, use your common sense, f*ck the norm. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:40:28 AM | Why should there be assumptions? I didn't jump into a marriage that wasn't right for me and father children so I'm now a bad person?
I MUST be missing something.
It's now a negative to be thirty and not spread my seed around to random women? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:18:52 PM | I must be missing something. I'm HOPING i can find a woman in my area who's never been married with no kids. I see it as a postivive, not a negative.
Unfortunately, in my area anyways, i find that the more attractive women already have kids. But i'm in a rather small town.
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:09:34 PM | Nope, I think thank goodness there are still some people who are prepared to wait for marriage and not just rush into it. Likewise NOT having kids should go with NOT being married - in this day and age there are FAR TOO MANY single parents in the world. It's about time the tide changed and we celebrated those who have not been married and have no kids - at least that means little or no baggage (much to the delight of BA at terminal 5 I suspect lol)  | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:31:38 AM | | well i disagree wiv u i think it strange wen a man of a certain age never bin married or even not avin kids!!!! i bin married twice an i take wot u say as personal i am a kind lovin generous person but ave met an married the rong men drinkers an violent x k | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:20:49 AM | Maybe too many people opt for the.......i don't want to be left on the shelf " you''ll do" approach to marriage.
If i go past my " use by date" as such.....and i'm still single so be it......i can think for myself ..........beats married and miserable any day.......you have seen the divorce rate..haven't you?????? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:38:01 AM | | All it means to me is the person has not met the right peson or they could be careful and not rush into marriage and/or having children just to get divorced. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:10:11 PM | I agree with everyone who says that all it means is that someone, myself included, has not met the right person yet. It is interesting to me that there are people who still feel that a failed marriage and/or children without both parents around is somehow more normal than those who have made decisions not to be in those situations.
Ultimately, I'd like to be with the right person for the long haul, but I'd rather be happy alone than miserable with the wrong person. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:43:07 PM | | Honestly, I prefer never married and no kids. Never being married means not having to deal with an ex-wife. And having no kids is a definite plus in my book, as I do not want any children myself. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:52:16 PM | | There could be many different reasons why a person is 30+ yrs old and never has been married. Maybe they didn't have the time for a serious relationship. Maybe they preferred to remain single. Maybe they had bad luck in relationships. Maybe they are too picky or have a poor personality. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/19/2008 12:00:56 PM | | I don't make assumptions - everyone's life follows a different path. I just hope they don't judge me because I happened to marry the wrong person when I was younger. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/19/2008 3:23:40 PM | | I was responsible enough to know,i was too irresponsible to have kids.I also lost my father at a young age and think kids need a father.....not a sperm donor.It makes me sick to see all the part-time fathers. | |
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