| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:38:16 AM | | I find that quite special when a guy hasn't been married or has any kids 'that he knows about'. Not many of them left and if they have a decent personality to match well then for us single girls that's a dream come true at 30+. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/20/2008 1:09:19 PM | | ^^^^ So, where do I sign up to make sure my name's on the list? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/20/2008 2:25:23 PM |  Look I'm in My 30's,Never-Married,No-Kids
But Should That Make Any Women Not Want to Date A Man Like Me???
If People Would Just Stop Assuming Things They Don't Know
Only One Person In Your Life Truly Know Yourself And That's You
Nobody Can Be Read Like a Book And You Can't Judge a Book Without it's Cover
Never Being Married Without Kids
Could Maybe Be Because This Person Has Lived A Shy,Lonely Life
Maybe In School This Person Wasn't Popular
People Stereotype People
they Either Say Think Good Things About People Or They Push People Out Of Their Lives
Seeing a Never Married Man With Children Is Actually Good Because
Like A Virgin,Women Out There Are Waiting For there Unique,Special Person
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/20/2008 2:52:21 PM | I agree wholeheartedly with your response CoolJarrod. Especially with the last line.
Like A Virgin,Women Out There Are Waiting For there Unique,Special Person
In womens' mind we are like a virgin.
So teach me your carnal endeavours.
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:36:20 AM | | Imagine if someone had of said to you ( say at the age of 20 or so ).........in 20 years time, if your single and never married/divorced and don't have kids.......you'll be an outcast in the dating world.........i must be missing something in the fine print. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/24/2008 2:13:01 PM | The fact that they have no kids or haven't said 'I do' isn't high on my priority list. I'm not going to use that as an excuse to not contact them over someone who's been married and divorced and has a selection of kids to their name. After all should i be more interested in the second example there?
Each person is an individual and I would take them as who they are and hope they would be honest if they answered me. To me why haven't you been married or have kids isn't a major question, before I've even spoken to them and doesn't gain much more if I get a response. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/25/2008 9:18:35 AM | | In my experience women do proceed with caution. Because "there's always got to be a reason." A reason for being single in this case. Honestly, there are a lot of individuals, both male and female, who I think just slip through. All of a sudden you look at yourself one day and your 30. Wondering where the last ten years went. It was easy for me to become focused on things other then marriage and a family. That wasn't what I wanted then. Now I know I've changed, but it's alot tougher to date in my 30's. What are you going to do? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/25/2008 3:19:35 PM | | Yes safe sex seems to be a foreign concept to a lot of people but I always took it very seriously as I did not believe in having children out of wedlock. I have been lucky to have some long term relationships that did lead to engagement but it was always for the wrong reasons. One guy told me that he proposed because he thought that it was "time" as we had been in the relationship for about 4 years. It became clear as time went on that he was not the type of man that would be there for me and the children. I have always believed that children should have two parents so I have been careful and at 41 I have still not been married and therefore no children. I don't feel like I missed out but rather that this was the path that was chosen for me and that I should be happy that I have had such a full life with some very special relationships. I think that I am lucky in a way as I am not frustrated as a single parent. I do not plan to have children now as I have reached the age where I am planning for my retirement. I have several friends who had children out of wedlock and not one of them stayed withthe children's father so how is that better? Their children have had to adapt to several men and I am glad that I did not have to go through that type of life. I am lucky to have great friends and am very close to my parents. My life is as full as I want it to be and I am looking forward to possibly meeting someone in the same situation as me and I am open to marriage regardless of my age. My grandma always tells me that there is still hope!!! | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/27/2008 2:20:57 PM | | I think its strange for people who are like 40 and have never had a serious relationship, Im not talking about marriage or kids....I think its great if someone chooses to not marry and breed kids, a fine decision. The thing that I wouldnt accept is someone who is clueless about serious relationships and has never had one but has already approached middle age. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/25/2008 6:26:54 PM |
I would assume that he has been responsible enough to use birth control with his partners, because he might have realized that 1. There are already too many people on the planet. 2. He might feel that he would be unable to provide a safe, financially secure environment for his offspring, and he doesn't want to be irresponsible. 3. He didn't find anyone compatable to marry, and was not willing to settle for a relationship out of mere desperation, in order to avoid being single.
Wise words for shallow fish. I wouldn't mind being half of a never-married DINK couple, but the prospects of finding such a partner in the women near my age seem fairly slim. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:44:58 AM | | I hear that enough from my family I don't need to hear it from people who don't know me! When I meet the man for me I'll know. I truly believe that. I would never marry someone I couldn't spend a moment without simply because I thought society expected it from me. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/26/2008 3:10:25 PM | | I think the movie...no film...NO NO! cinematic triumph "Idiocrasy" by Mike Judge of King of the Hill fame, pretty much sums up why some of us have chosen to hold off on the getting hitched and the breedin'. Of course, if life imitates art then our society's headed toward complete break down, but what are you gonna do? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/26/2008 4:04:52 PM | | Why would you make assumptions, So what your saying is that I am supposed to feel bad about myself because I haven't found someone that lives up to what I want. I don't think so. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/26/2008 5:10:55 PM | | I'm never married and no kids, but had no idea this was even an issue until I posted a profile on a dating site. I've actually had guys ask me so why don't you have kids even though my profile states NO to wants children, or ask why I'm single or never been married. I thought it was given that if someone has never been married that they just didn't find the right person yet? When did this become a negative against someone, LOL. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:03:47 PM | Well, I almost fit into this category. But may still have something to contribute anyways.
I have had my share of LTRs. Some, I've ended, Others were ended for me.
Just because I've never married, doesn't mean that I haven't tried.
Imagine being totally happy with the one you are with, buy the ring, and take the leap......
Now imagine how you would feel, If the person you just proposed to, said "We'll see..."
Been there.
Am I totally jaded to the idea of marriage?? No
Am I in any rush to take that leap/risk again? No
30s, never married, and no kids............Is not relevant to anything, means nothing, and you are just reaching/projecting problems onto others, that you may have to deal with inside yourself. This is just an excuse for you to justify that nobody is good enough for you because you feel that you are not good enough for anybody.
Are you going to disqualify someone that might have been meant to marry you and have kids with you???? I certainly hope not. In our 30, I would venture to say that we are more comfortable with ourselves and need not be so self-centered and self-serving. This would allow us the capacity to focus more of ourselves, our attention, and our energy, on that someone special and actually WORK to build something that will last a lifetime.
Whether you know it or not...............you do actually have to have patience and work to create a successful relationship. The perfect love of a lifetime doesn' t just plop in your lap. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:27:56 PM | Seeing as I do fall into that category of never having been married and having no kids,it's actually quite refreshing if I see a man in my age range with similar background.I'm not all that comfortable in a situation involving kids or ex wives and such.
So my immediate reaction to the solo fliers is relief. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/29/2008 9:25:48 AM | | I'm in agreement...shows good judgement and common sense. I'd rather be with someone who doesn't have the kind of baggage that being divorced/kids brings along. Plus, I'm old fashioned, I'd like my first baby to be my partners first as well. No preconceived experience on childrearing/marriage etc. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/30/2008 11:48:40 AM | Search results for (ladies) 30-39 with kids 75miles from me : 690
With no kids : 319
So 7/10 ladies in my 'range' are single moms? Sheesh. Not hatin' on em, I'm down with the milf action, it's just a higher number than I expected. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/30/2008 11:59:07 AM | Pre-existing MILFs are hot!
But, I could be just as happy to "create" a MILF ! | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/30/2008 2:07:52 PM | Search results for (ladies) 30-39 with kids 75miles from me : 690
With no kids : 319
So 7/10 ladies in my 'range' are single moms? Sheesh. Not hatin' on em, I'm down with the milf action, it's just a higher number than I expected.
Ooh, good idea for an experiment!
I just did a search for a 25 mile radius, males 23 to 35.
no kids, don't want kids: 70
no kids, wants kids: 700+
has kids, may or may not want more: 533
egads.
Oh well, I've got 70 to choose from, right? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/30/2008 3:38:50 PM | Interesting idea - now you would read that in my own profile - so assume what then?
in my case assume I spent until my early 20's in education so not best time to do it and then 14 years with a woman who didn't want either marriage or kids!
So that takes me to near enough 40 and what would your assumptions have led you to think? I am intrigued | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:19:50 AM | Well I am in the same boat as most of you. I am still single with no children. It's not a bad thing....I just haven't found that genuine person yet. I chose to concentrate on school and work first before finding someone to settle down with.
For me, it would be better for me to find someone who has never been married and has no children. It would just be easier. I tried dating the divorced with children men and it just did not work out. The hard part is finding those never been married types my age in my area. Maybe I need to move! Just kidding. I am not giving up, my guy is out there somewhere | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 11:43:28 AM | wow..that many results with single mothers, must be near Seattle. I think we're the single mother capital of the US....and here I am in the minority.
I don't remember who said it, but someone made a great point. We hear enough from our families....why aren't you married? why haven't you found someone? why don't you make me a grandkid already....who wants to hear it from anywhere else? | |
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