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Posted By: Here_In_Florida on 6/28/2011 10  09 PM Subject: Never married & no kids What's kind of sad is, she lives in a rather small community where most people her age are married with children. You would figure her desire to get married would be there. She could've gotten married rather easily, but passed up on the proposals. SHe just wasn't willing to give up what she enjoyed as a single person.
Maybe I'm missing something, but why is this the least bit sad? | |
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Posted: 12/22/2011 12:54:55 AM | | 30, never married, no kids and amazing! I look for the same in a mate | |
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Posted: 1/8/2012 5:47:30 AM | I have been experiencing alot of rejection by women my age since i turned 40 because I have never been married and have no kids. It boggles my mind because they feel that having an ex-wife and/or kids along with child support, possible drama in my life as appealing.
Many say I wouldn't understand if she had to break a date because her child is sick. That assumption really annoys me, she doesn't know me and already has an assumption made up.
I have no problem if a woman has children or doesn't. Been married or hasn't. I would hope she would see the positive and not the negative in me not being married and no kids. Why search for a negative in that? | |
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Fifi47
| | Joined: 8/19/2004
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 1/8/2012 9:25:58 AM | | ^^^People fear the unknown. You are not like everyone else since you haven't jumped on the bandwagon. It is worse for women. Men tell me they would have nothing to talk to me about since I cannot commesurate with them about problem children and an ex. Try looking for a single teacher who has not been married. They know how to be frugal, are patient, are usually kind hearted and perceptive. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2012 3:09:12 PM | | Agreed on many points there. There are many reasons why a guy or girl would not have children. It's just the way it is. There are plenty of crazies with kids. My sister is one of them and she has 4/nearly 5 - all by 4 different fathers. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2012 6:36:52 PM | | I make no assumptions because I am 46, never married, and have no kids myself. I'm sure I've been judged many times for it by online daters though. Many women think we are the ones who are strange for some reason. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2012 8:23:17 PM | You know! Here lately I met alot of guys 40's and up, who never been married and no kids. I do wonder why about them. I know not every guy is the same but guys don't see what women see, I mean your not alone with them to hear what we hear and see. (you gotta be there)
I met one who still lived at home. Nice guy but his father had protected him to long and never made a move without looking to him.
I met one who was quite, shy and lived alone. He said" he thought he liked being a hermit. I agreed with him. He didn't like sharing, he was already set in his ways . He didn't believe a relationship should be met half way by each person, it should be his way. He had pleasure himself for so long, he could get it up with a girl.(Not gay either).
I lost I don't know. I thought it was a good thing at first, the not being married and all but now Im not sure. No bagage a good thing but also no experience in other areas in life, like if you have a child and they don't. You can't just drop everything and be fancy free. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2012 9:18:48 PM | I refuse to settle just so I am married and have kids with that person, then divorce and promote single parenthood. Sorry I experienced that as a child and refuse to do what my father did.
I have had long term relationships and been single for long periods of time in between them. I work a steady job, am always attending sports events, concerts, festivals, go on trips. But the whole deal breaker is "Oh you have never been married and/or have no kids." Blows my mind how that is such a terrible thing. So a handful of guys are boring, etc, does not mean they represent all the guys with no kids and never married.
Women hate it when we men paint them with the same brush, yet we get it from women as well on this topic.
Try looking at the qualities and positives that they are, instead of searching for the negatives. You will end up passing up a really great guy. | |
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Fifi47
| | Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 559 | |
| Never married & no kids
Posted: 1/10/2012 1:56:02 AM | | ^^^people pass up all kinds of great people because they think Mr. or Ms. Perfect is going to be on the next profile. I call it the candy store syndrome. Being married 3 times and having 4 children makes a woman a lot more marketable here than being single with no children it seems. Many of the single childless men I have met online prefer divorced women with children. They want to be her knight in shining armor. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2012 6:34:15 AM | Thank you fellow posters! At the risk of sounding like Chris Rock - since when is it good to get knocked up, to philander and hop into marriage because for you it is rutting season. But I have to do my Rock line: YOU aren't supposed to get into dysfunctional relationships, create kids that live like urchins, never develop your mind and career so you can feed yourself, and can only define your abilities and interests as that of a fruit fly.
Being free, curious, having hobbies (besides the fruit fly mating instinct), developing who you are as a unique person, hanging with friends, etc. That makes an interesting person not countless hours looking for mates like a tree frog in the spring. Some people have an addiction to mating, but they need psychiatric help. Some people are addicted to substances - again, get help.
Some people use their intellect not their.... And you do not get pregnant by accident. It usually involves a male and female mating. Unless of course you were attacked by space aliens and inseminated. If you got blindly drunk and got bred, or have a substance abuse problem - good luck to you. Or "oh he or she will love me if I breed them." You need a counselor not a mate, because nobody's that naive after the age of 14. It's time for people to start thinking rationally, to start using common sense, to start considering consequence and to stop objectifying each other.
Sorry to be candid, but after a while....you get sick of the people pushing the "rutting season". | |
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Posted: 1/10/2012 12:55:37 PM | | I’m married w/ kids at home and looking at a long stretch of parenting. At my age (late forty something) if I weren’t married and was looking for a serious relationship I’d stick to moms for reasons of parenting experience and situational understanding. Too, it would seem that people who (have) had children are more likely to LIKE children and that would be a probative factor. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2012 6:53:23 PM | | There's nothing wrong with being over 30 and never having had a serious relationship, never mind marriage or kids. I absolutely love my own freedom of space and decision making and I'd never give that up for anyone. But seeing as we're talking someone who is looking for a future wife who has never been married, then it's the whole job riddle again isn't it? How can you gain the required experience without being offered a job? | |
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Posted: 1/11/2012 9:28:10 PM | | I am one of those people. I dont have children because I have had complications. I tried in my 30's and had a son at 4.5 months along. Tried again and lost a pair of twins at 5.5 months along. A find a lot of people ass-u-me that I never wanted kids. But not everyone is capable of having healthy natural births. Not too mention some people of both genders could be sterile. These things are also a possibility | |
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cinsav
| | Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 564 | |
| Never married & no kids
Posted: 1/11/2012 9:32:46 PM |
You see a profile of interest & he or she is 30something & up, as you continue 2 read a lil further, you notice that he or she has never been married & has 0 kids, do you question why or just immediately make assumptions?
Yes I do.
I typically think she's either:
A. A grade A flake.
B. A commit-aphobe.
C. Have no idea what she wants.
Or.....
D. She actually DOES know what she wants and isn't willing to settle with someone she knows isn't going to last for the long term.
I have to say though that "D" is in very, VERY, rare form. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2012 9:54:34 PM | | Uuuummmmmmmm... She's not into the institutions of marriage and kids would be my assumption. My kind of girl. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2012 12:25:01 AM | I barely get facial hairs and I'm 36.
Age has nothing to do with anything for me. I'd live to be 120 if I didn't smoke.
So...... ??? Some dudes are very smart and planned things this way. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2012 3:03:39 PM | | Never married and no kids, run! I just went out with a woman that was never married and has no kids. She seemed to be more in love with her animals than anything else. | |
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Fifi47
| | Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 568 | |
| Never married & no kids
Posted: 1/15/2012 3:16:20 PM | | ^^I would believe you if you had met 30 women who were single and had no kids and seemed to be too much in love with their animals. Glad she was able to avoid someone as closed minded as you seem to be. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2012 3:58:37 PM | | I am 31 and have never been married. To be honest marriage seems to be going out of style for men but thats my opinion. Id rather be alone and happy than with someone who isnt at all my type or what I am looking for. I admit I do feel like a freak because I havent had a decent relationship in years and never been married but life goes on | |
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Posted: 1/16/2012 11:19:49 AM | | Maybe, maybe not...assuptions w/o further looking into it is a fools' state of mind. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2012 6:18:50 PM | If the women is Hot with no kids! one word "Crazy"!!!!! If she was such a catch some guy would have may her his wife a long time ago.  | |
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Posted: 1/26/2012 8:13:24 PM | ^^Did you consider that maybe she wasn't interested in being his wife?
Is it a unilateral decision to "make someone their wife?" | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 2:25:08 PM |
Posted By: domo31 on 1/15/2012 3  37 PM To be honest marriage seems to be going out of style for men but thats my opinion.
Your opinion is very much spot on - it is out of style for men
Its easier for men to just hook up these days because women are continuing to throw off the shackles of sexual oppression and embracing their sexuality - girls traditionally have been raised to downplay, deny, and suppress their libidos but in reality women are just as if not more sexual then men - don't believe me ? well consider the adult sex toy industry - its geared for women primarily with the never ending plethora of vibrators and such.
Also all reproductive and civil rights concerning marriage are firmly in favor of women
A failed marriage can bankrupt a man and many have had their lives ruined by the legal system - this is making men more averse to signing the marriage contract because it seems rather than saying "I do " they are in reality saying "I pay" | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 2:29:50 PM |
You see a profile of interest & he or she is 30something & up, as you continue 2 read a lil further, you notice that he or she has never been married & has 0 kids, do you question why or just immediately make assumptions?
Before talking to her, I would make all possible assumptions, and then deduce and/or confirm which assumption(s) was/were correct from our conversations and interactions.
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Posted: 2/15/2012 2:40:07 PM |
Posted By: fifi47 on 1/10/2012 1  02 AM Being married 3 times and having 4 children makes a woman a lot more marketable here than being single with no children it seems. Many of the single childless men I have met online prefer divorced women with children. They want to be her knight in shining armor.
I disagree completely with you and speak from the stand point of a never married no children heterosexual male.
in fact I disagree with you so vehemently that if given the choice of the type of woman you describe in your post and homosexuality that I would choose homosexuality without a second of hesitation. In no way do I want to be any where near a woman with children such as you have described. To choose to do so would be in my opinion choosing a slow death for myself. | |
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