| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/8/2007 7:37:12 AM | | I would make assumptions if I actually thought about it at all. I would assume they had good self control and self esteem and did not get married just to have sex or security like some people I have met have done. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/9/2007 9:36:30 PM | | Assumptions are dangerous. I'd want to get to know the person and their reasons why. I've never been married & don't have kids due to preference and circumstance. I don't jump to conclusions about people with children who are divorced. Everyone is different. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:20:23 PM | | wouldn't bother me at all either way since I am 55 never married and no kids at least none I have been told of. (lol) could be because i can't father a child. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/10/2007 12:09:45 AM | ...just for the sack of it
Hahaha...that's great. I'm going to remember that expression.
Witty Frenchy.
The only suggestion I would add, is that after all the ones you have listed, is that I didnt feel like settling down. Just wanted to have fun and enjoy the life to the full.
Ah. Good point. OK, three cases:
1) Person is too busy and successful for romantic entanglements.
2) Person wants to enjoy life without marriage and kids.
3) Person is too d*mn ugly (i.e. unattractive physically or otherwise).
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/10/2007 5:51:03 AM | I have absolutely no issues with whether a man or woman has never been married or has had no children,....perhaps they had other priorities in their life or for some they were just not ready to settle down and who am I to say that is wrong ,........for if you do you might end up loosing out on someone very special......"Never judge a book by it's cover",...Never judge others until you have walked in their shoes"........these are well know and make good sense whether you incorporate them into your life is in the end up to you. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/10/2007 11:19:52 AM | To Quote Trishadish
Thats a tough call, perhaps in the early 30s would be 'whatever'.....but when I meet a guy in the later 30s or even 40s who has never been married or kids, I have to ponder, in relationship to my experiences and his lack there of.........
I am 44 and have never been married or had kids but that does not mean I lack experience in relationships as you put it. Finding the right person is very much a big factor to start with and Yes I would love to be a Father and be there for my kids too. I am an Uncle to 3 Nephews and 1 Niece ...all grown up now but I still played my part as Uncle when they were growing up....I still do now but they are old enough to buy me a beer or 2 as well !!  | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/10/2007 1:36:00 PM | I would assume it was someone I should look into contacting... Just to chime in and join the over 30, no ex's no kids club... Its a rare thing indeed. For a while i thought there was something funny in the water supply as every girl I met had at least one child, some more than one, and lets not forget the guys I worked with, one having 5 kids with three women. I swear its like a Maury Povich show sometimes...
Congrats to all the Over 30 Undivorced childless singles who are out there. We are a rare breed indeed!
Someday I hope to have a flock of my own to corrupt and teach all the mysteries of the world to.... and the ways of becoming an evil genius!!! muhahahahahaha!!
Just not this week.
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:01:36 PM | | Wow! I'm just thrilled to see I'm NOT the only one. I'm 42, have never been married, although most of my relationships have been long ones, I just haven't found the right guy (yet). I've never wanted kids. I've just never had the "mommy" calling. I never thought there was anything wrong with that and I'm happy to see I'm not in a club of one. You just can't imagine the looks on people's faces when they hear that, like "have you been living in a cave all your live?" or "what's wrong with you?". Well no, no cave, and nothing at all. Most of my friends are married with kids and they sometimes look at me like they'd like to fix me and make me part of their club. Sigh........ | |
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Posted: 5/10/2007 4:30:22 PM | I find it a little funny that some folks are chiming in that people over thirty who aren't married and don't have kids shouldn't be judged, but at the same time making assumptions that if someone is over 30 and has kids or is divorced, that person either was irresponsible, settled for the first person they could get, or is somehow "flawed" for having been divorced. Seems a little silly.
It's probably safer all around to not jump to conclusions. I think the information I would be most interested in is whether or not they've had serious, long-term relationships before. But that's just me. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/11/2007 7:15:49 PM | | Well, I've gone through 43 years of living without being married and I have no children. Granted, I was a child myself for a bunch of those years and another 16 of those years was in one relationship (which is a whole other "assumption"). In those sixteen years there were so many "assumptions" made, inuendos, strange looks when we said we didn't want kids, and a mess of other offshoots that I thought about making hand-outs for all of the people who asked. Assume away folks! Wouldn't you rather know that he/she didn't really want kids? Truth is, there's a hell of a lot of people out there that think that way for a varied number of reasons. Take a chance, know the person, ask the question. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:26:20 AM | I've never been married and have no kids either.
People assume there must have been something wrong not to do this.
Not everyone gets married young and starts a family.
I was left with my younger brothers and sisters to look after, and by the time I got rid of them, I certainly didnt want to plan having my own kids.
I suppose life has a different purpose for different people. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2007 2:44:20 PM | I'm 39, never married with no kids. I think it is safe to make assumptions that there is indeed, something wrong with the person.
Take me for example. I never married because I scared all suitable women away by smothering them with attention, then stalking them when they refused to let me move in with them, and finally throwing bricks through their windows when they would not return my phone calls after finding the tracking beacon I put in their vehicles. I even once strapped myself to the underside of a SUV, and got a bad case of road rash, all the way to her cottage where I confronted her on her houseboat. The police never did find the body.
As for kids, look I have never had kids with any of the women I have stalked because large doses of anti-depressants cause erectile dysfunction. Which could be the reason why they all dumped me forcing me to do things I didn't want to do.
So yes, it is safe to assume that men with no kids and no marriages are to be avoided. Better yet, call the police. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2007 3:30:37 PM | I am 31, never married, no kids.......and I KNOW my situation has had to do with my past and circumstances (good and bad).
Assumptions make an ass out of you and me......
Infact, I strongly believe that because I have never been married and do not have kids....I now LONG for my true love and my own family; this contemplation makes me excited and a deeper appreciation of loving my family deeper and more passionately.......I NEVER EVER EVER EVER WANT TO HAVE A DIVORCE AND THAT NASTRY, STOMACH WRENCHING WORD, I BELIEVE NEEDS TO BE DELETED FROM MY VOCABULARY.........*thump on my head*......ummmm........what was I talking about?......who am I?....why am I typing this?........ | |
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Posted: 5/13/2007 5:58:27 PM | I am 33, I have never been married and I have no children. I spend most of my life studying and building a successful career for myself. I am now starting the career of my dreams, hopefully starting the rest of my life. I am a shy, private person, which is why I am online. Moving to a new place, thought it would be a good place to meet people.
Just becuase I am over 30 and never have been married and haven't started a family, does not mean there is anything "wrong" with me, I have no comitment phobias, I am not barren, I like to consider myself as a nice person, kind, caring, generous and perhaps attractive to some. I have simply decided to prioritize my future.
I wanted an education, "check",
I wanted a successful career with a respected company "check",
prefer to be financially stable "check"...
and now it is now time to continue my list.
Find a suitable partner and start a family, live happily ever after.
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2007 6:54:32 PM | | I am sorry, but I would make assumptions. Something is wrong. If you do read on and the profile doesnt address it, then RUN! After all, there are POF! | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:50:37 PM | Hmmm... 39, no ring, no spawn. Sigh. I actually had some serious reasons for getting this far without children or marriage- hadn't found my mate, yet, and I grew up in poverty (still there, technically)- I didn't want to raise a child in that situation. Wanted to get my head together, first. Get an education, find a career. You know, the polish to the diamond in the rough.
To the fellow who posted earlier with the assumption that a reason for being on this site is because that person is ugly, is 'uglier' than anyone I've yet to meet here (that is, if the guy was serious- he may have merely made a failed attempt at irony). You need to get a clue, son- that attitude HAS to go. After all, YOU'RE here too. What does that make you? The only 'perfect physical specimen'? Specimen of something, certainly, and certainly not perfect.
A person in their twenties making the decision to wait for marriage and children IS mature, in my book. Period. Imagine someone who can sit down and think about something so long-view at that age; isn't that remarkable?
I'm not ugly, physically, or otherwise, and it's my belief that most of the folks on here aren't either. To categorize the folks who use this site in such a shallow fashion is truly sad. Son, why are you even here? Surely someone who is so 'well-endowed' can find a mate elsewhere. Or maybe your participation is only a time-waster where you can make yourself feel big by cutting down others who wish to find something we ALL need; love.
Buddy, you need help, if that attitude is representitive of your personality. I sincerely hope it isn't...
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2007 8:56:35 AM |
I am sorry, but I would make assumptions. Something is wrong.
I'm probably going to regret this, but what exactly are you assuming? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2007 9:03:58 AM | | Someone who would assume that something is wrong with you because you do not have failed marriages and children trailing behind you is an idiot. I would be more Leary of the person with the failed marriages and kids then the person who decided not to get married and have kids until it was the right time. Personally for me the right time to have kids will be NEVER !! I can not understand people who want the whining ,snot nosed ,temper tantrum throwing brats.What a waste of time and energy. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2007 9:36:01 AM | | This may be a bit of a cop-out, but I'm in the same boat (divorced, no children), so when I run into anyone (usually women unfortunately!) that make rude mark about 'why not', I just tell them I couldn't (for health reasons). That shuts them up immediately! | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2007 10:39:06 AM | ^^^^^someone can not make up her mind. Which one is it ?? mainly over 30 or 40? | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2007 11:03:14 AM | Everyone is unique and we all have different experiences in our life.
Assumptions are the mother of all **** ups. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2007 11:11:53 AM | What drivel, good God it is 2007 right? at least when I woke up this morning it was 2007, Ive never thought that I would ever hear that a person in their 40's never been married, no children and thats makes you loser, something wrong, problems committing, and any other negative assumptions? and you wonder why some people run from people like you?
There are many reason why someone hasn't married? you cant lump them all together, the fact that I own my own place, have a car,vacation a few times year, financially independent but because I haven't been married, no children, no crazy ex wife, multiple alimony payments or fighting over custody and child supports payments makes me undesirable to some of you ladies? good lord | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/14/2007 1:31:25 PM | makes you wonder where the world is going doesn't it. If a person that is not married and no kids is to be weary of, then what is a single person to think of someone that has been married, divorced with kids. personally I have no problem with a woman being divorced with kids or a single woman never married and no kids. But the look could be reversed quite as easily. What could have been the problem there, Not enough caring or devotion, committment, faith, trust, and ect. Why couldn't they make it work . We all have things that are important to us and what we do to handle them is with in us and of no one elses business. Personally I lost a relationship just because of an accident causing me not to be able to father a child. I think the lady needed to grow the hell up and the likes but I also figured that was her right to live her life as she saw fit. Would have given her the world if I had been given the chance but why the hell. isn't it strange how people think that a person has to have made stupid mistakes and had to have rebounding problems due to that fact just to be normal. We all make mistakes but why make the one that will be a result that may last a lifetime afterwards. Sorry but I don't think so. I am not apposed to marriage but when I make the step I am going to be sure in my mind that thats the step I want to make. As far as kids well thats another matter and it will be discussed openly and upfront. I have no problem with kids as they seem to flock around me always asking me questions and following me. Don't mind it that they ask and they need to know if they are young. They make the world go round. its all on how you look at things for sure.
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