| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/6/2007 3:32:01 PM | | I'm down with having kids, just have to find the right woman to bear my child. I don't want my child to have a crazy or abusive mother, don't want to get with a crazy ass woman. Unsure about marriage.Seen what a hassle that is through other people. I must have dated a dozen married women in the past that were lying and used that whole "we're seperated" angle. Maybe marriage will happen someday, but for now, it's priorities and goals to accomplish. Kids and marriage could hamper that and severly sidetrack me if I find the "wrong woman" per say. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:49:47 PM | | I am 33 years old and have never been married or have any children. I think it is wrong if a woman assumes that there is something wrong with me because it is my belief that children should be brought into a stable loving and most importantly loving home. I guess I just have not found the right woman. I maybe looking for one that does not exist but I can say that if I do find her I will know and when I feel I have found the woman that I can not dream of ever being without then that in itself will be the deciding factor. There are over six billion people on the planet and I have plenty of time to find that perfect woman there is no rush just becasue others around me settle. That is why there is such a thing as divorce. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/6/2007 9:53:55 PM | | I don't make any assumptions. Maybe she never met anybody, maybe she was too busy working. Maybe she took the time to find out what she wanted and what she needed from someone else. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:21:28 PM |
You see a profile of interest & he or she is 30something & up, as you continue 2 read a lil further, you notice that he or she has never been married & has 0 kids, do you question why or just immediately make assumptions? I ask her during the date. That's what dating is for, to personally check out the other person. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/8/2007 3:30:21 PM | I just saw a post on women who get insulted by this sort of comment.
I'm not sure if I even want to dignify this with a reply. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/8/2007 3:43:11 PM | | clevemech, i dont think you have to worry much. This whole thread is absurd. I doubt there is a difference between men and women here and i have certainly never had someone tell me "i really like you but you know you havent been divorced yet and don't have any kids, this just isnt going to work". | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/8/2007 8:03:20 PM |
You see a profile of interest & he or she is 30something & up, as you continue 2 read a lil further, you notice that he or she has never been married & has 0 kids, do you question why or just immediately make assumptions?
Yes that means they didn't get married just because their family and friends pressured them or made them feel like they should to be the quote/unquote 'norm' of society that dictates that a person should be married before 30 or people may think something is 'wrong' with them. Well I haven't conformed to that and I'm 43 and single and no kids and loving it! I am one of the few smart ones that isn't going on my second or third marriage and spending a lot of money dealing wtih it.  | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/8/2007 10:53:40 PM | what kind of logic is that?
people who have kids are looking for someone are 1) devoiced or 2) having kids with no marriage. i am not suggesting they should be ashamed for that, but certainly that path isn't that glorious and worth of bragging about.
suddenly i am thinking, hmm, germans are talking about legalizing incest, i guess i shouldn't be surprised by the logic the op implied.
i guess a lot of fishes in the sea, all kind of them. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/9/2007 6:54:02 AM | | Is that directed at me ipfreak? My statement has nothing to do with logic, but of personal choice that has worked for me and it was not intented to sound as if I am bragging about it, but just making a statment that people feel pressured to marry and the divorce rate is 50 percent, as I have seen plenty of my friends and family members go through it, so I prefer to stay out of those statistics. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/9/2007 1:59:11 PM | no, not at all.
the op sounds like people who never married and have no kids are less trustful then those ...
i am not saying it should be other way around, but certainly people who never married and have no kids tend to have better judgment in terms of decisions for life paths. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/9/2007 2:09:57 PM | I think the consensus answer is:
Over 30, never married no kids = Responsible, non-impulsive person with high standards.
When I see a profile of a woman, 25-35 with no kids I'm shocked, delighted and excited.  | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/9/2007 7:52:56 PM |
Kame said: Iv never thought much of it ...either they haven't found the right person, Career has pretty much been their life ....or just hasnt had an interest in being married or having kid's at the moment....its not like its a mandatory thing in everyones life.,
Well said.......
Or have been in long-term serious relationships that went nowhere......
There are numerous and reasonable reasons.......
Big deal......
I'd prefer someone who's never been married or has kids.........
Someone who's been married 3 times and has 10 kids would raise my eyebrows
and scare the hell out of me. I know too many people who've gone through
divorces and the accompanying grief. No thnx !!!.
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Posted: 7/9/2007 8:09:03 PM | NEVER BEEN MARRIED, THANK GOD.
I have met so many F'd divorced women. Whether or not they were the problem in the marriage. Lets say he was the problem. They have to deal with something horrible in their life. There are a lot of people who just dont know how to heal from it. Many put heavy restrictions or limit their compromises because of this past luggage. I am sure there are the same problem with Divorced Men.
Do never marrieds have problems, Yes.
It is more up to the person Divorced or not and how do they compromise, heal, adjust and adapt to situations. That is more important then whether they were ever married or not.
Hope that helps. | |
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ScorpQ
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Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 114 | |
| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/9/2007 8:26:00 PM | | Why is it that people feel they have to explain, defend or justify the way they choose to live there life? Married people aren't questioned or expected to divulge their reasoning for marrying someone, because it is already accepted as the right thing to do with no questions asked. The mere fact that they ask "why" makes it seem like a single is nothing to be proud of so explain yourself! | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/25/2007 9:45:20 PM | | i am a never been married& no kid guy,I just havent had that kind of luck.at 43 i feel that iam too old for marrage and i dont want to raise a kid in a world of war and hate.but i do want to live the rest of my life with someone if she has a kid or not. | |
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TeJ_25
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Joined: 2/17/2007
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:53:11 AM | | never been married. no kids. think that it is not uncommon nowadays. think that it is not odd to consider reasons why a potential partner hasn't been married or had kids. however, if you are considering a long-term relationship then you may want to know that information. on the otherhand, think that the inference made from the post is a changed paradigm. but, the rest of society have to catch up. for those who are up to date, there is probably no issue at all. it would seem that a gal who made an independent decision to remain single and forgo having kids until she was ready would be a good quality. this quality to me would also infer that the gal is able to prioritize, and may also be a good decision maker. so if a guy has issues with you not having been married or no kids, then allow him to resolve his own issues. but that is just me | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/26/2007 9:44:32 AM | I don't get what is the infatuation with marriage myself.
Been in 2 long relationships which outlasted some of my friends marriages. Why get married these days?
If you don't get married is it some sort of lack of commitment or something?
I never really wanted children when I was younger, and only now at 38 do I think about it occasionally, would be nice but then I would be quite old when they grew up. Open minded really is what best describes me, but would have to be a corker of a women who I did feel was going to be a partner for a very long time. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 7/26/2007 10:24:09 AM | my reason for myself not bieng married is due to travel/employment over the years.this is a intresting post,would a woman that has been married except a guy that has never been married with kids? on the other side i have noticed on other dating sites,i have found that on one site there are 12 pages of women that have been married and have children,then looked up with the ones that have none.only nine women in the area never been married and no kids.so, for me to find a woman with no kids will be a tough nut to crack.this may sound dissapointing to the guys, as for myself it will be a new experiance to know a woman that has been married with a kid,i will be ok with that. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/17/2007 8:13:23 PM | i will be 38 on Sept 4 and I have no kids. I am glad for i believe that you need to be somewhat secure to raise a child. If i am struggling now how would I be able to support a child?
There are so many women out there having babies that are by no means responsible to raise them properly and give their child all they need without help from family and others.
I feel women or men over 30 and no kids and not married have their priorities right. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH US!!!
Why be suspicious? I think we are people that are responsible, have hi expectations for ourselves and we want to be careful and make sure we have the right partner before diving in to marriage and children.
TRUTHFULLY these days most first marriages end up in divorce and kids suffer threw it. It only makes sence to wait to your older and more mature in dating and relationships before having kids.
I also want to address those that are suspicious towards someone for being a devorcee. Just because a man or woman are devorced does not mean he/she are damaged goods. Get to know the person and judge them by your own experiences with them and not by their past relationships. I had a bad marriage. I been devorced fro 11 years and I feel I am a better person by learning from mistakes back then that make me a better woman and girlfriend now.
In my case I got a devorce when I was 25/26 because my exhusband beat me to an inch of my life and my life was in danger . I had to get out for my safety. I was not a bad wife I just got married when I was young and stupid and I rushed into things and thus I ended up being with a very bad person. I did not heed the warning signs that were all over the place. i have not remarried yet for I learned to have high standards for myself. I want to marry a man for the right reasons. | |
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gregnz
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Joined: 6/22/2007
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/17/2007 9:03:18 PM | when i see a chick whose in her thirties/forties and no kids
she usually turns out be gay, so waste of time getting excited over that.
I'm 44, no kids, never married, its not that i couldnt have, its just that i didnt want to grow old with the ones then in my life.
Mainly though, I wasnt really a good time for me, recovering from a serious motorbike, then going to university then spending three years hunting down a new career start.
I'm certainly ready and willing now, but at 44 I find interest from Woman in their 30's very limited to non existent at least none without children, that are keen to start with someone my age, So hence my interest in finding a compatible life partner from another country is high.
Maybe im a litt jaded over this medium for finding im, but then i dont have the interest of trolling the bars and nightclubs, and work is off limits...sigh | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/17/2007 10:57:57 PM | | Asking questions may give U an acceptable answer... assume... makes an *ss of U and me. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/18/2007 12:06:57 AM | its kinda weird
and cool at the same time
would wonder if she has travelled or has huge career | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:56:51 PM | I send a note.
I try not to make assumptions but usually my thoughts are that the woman in question is:
responsible
driven
smart
quick witted
likes her freedom
and knows what she wants but hasn't found it yet. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/19/2007 4:54:26 PM | Everybody has different circumstances- I think being judged by this is highly unfair but judgments are what many use without knowing the facts.
I dated and lived with someone for most of my late 20's and 30's. She went to school twice and got her career going. I worked hard on my career with the expectation we would be married. She finished school, we bought a house and then she decided she didn't want to do this.
Go back to the dating scene to find
women are bitter and mistrustful of guys
women my age aren't interested in dating guys their age
go onto online dating to discover I'm competing with married men, young guys and old men for a women's attention
dogs are more valued than men
But I keep the faith and try to keep my eyes open for that one that will come along. I think a can be a bit too selective sometimes but I have tried to let people into my life that may be not my perfect ideal and it hasn't worked yet but maybe someday the right one will come along.
Guess I'll just keep on trying- right up until they start tossing the dirt on me. Its part of the human condition I think. | |
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| Never married & no kids
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:24:03 PM |
You see a profile of interest & he or she is 30something & up, as you continue 2 read a lil further, you notice that he or she has never been married & has 0 kids, do you question why or just immediately make assumptions?
Simple, I don't question why and I certainly don't make assumptions ! Since I don't have kids and I'm well over 30. I simply say : "wow, great !!!!!" | |
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