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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:30:36 AM | | Men are different than women. Men go for looks. Men will get a lot more kudos from other men, for sleeping with a stunning woman who has slept with over 100 men, than for sleeping with an ugly virgin. However, men will get a lot more kudos from other women, for sleeping with an ugly virgin, than for sleeping with a stunning woman who has slept with over 100 men, and men will get a lot more kudos from other women, for sleeping with more women. So you see, it is women who rate men higher for having more partners, and it is women who rate other women higher for having less partners. Men only rate women based on their looks. | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:27:24 AM |
I was telling of what a guy had said to me. Its ok for guys but not ok for girls. I do not hipocritise, i committed an act and the guy committed an act. The difference is the name calling and grief i got for it was very different. I was actually told by a guy that they get a pat on the back and girl's get labelled so i'm sorry but its not my wording.
Hi Loveableangel,
It appears to me you were set up by one rather immature man (boy?) and his mates and of course that is going to hurt. The fact that he has come back to rub salt in the wounds of his setup sort of verfies that. My advice is not to take it all so seriously. Learn and move on. Maybe you were too trusting, and the world is a bit colder and harder out there than you gave it credit for. You won't be caught out again. I don't think it was the act that is causing the grief but the fact that you underestimated one rather idiotic group of guys.
I am sure you can carry on being just as loveable an angel as ever you were and really be none the worse for wear! :) | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:03:43 PM | If its been going on for years why do I feel so bad, when I didn't do anything except defend myself. You know this is the thanks you get for trying to be nice or to help someone out. I don't understand, maybe I am dumb, stumpid, I don't know. what is wrong with me, I want to believe the good in people. How can someone just use someone when its convienient for them, and then drop them out of their lives then expect them to be there when they need them again???? I don't understand what people think. I have a good heart, but enough is enough of being walked on and treated like garbage or a piece or crap, and then trying to turn it around to make me look like I am chasing him and I am the one with the issues..Wow, I am sooo shocked, surprized, with the way society is. I guess I live a pretty sheltered life, Thank goodness...Its a cruel world out there that I want no part of if its like that all the time..I wish you all the best who are looking for the right Mr. Or Mrs. Right, It can not be easy...: | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/20/2008 7:53:44 AM | The first post, labelling all men with the same brush is sexist anyway so forget the gripe about only men being sexist.
Women are normally labelled as sluts, only by other women. These "sluts" have better bodies, or get morre dates than they do. Regardless of thier bed hopping habits.
Men, paticularily real men still use the word slut but it's strictly to describe a women who uses her sexuality to make trouble. ie Among women a slut is a sexy popular girl, among men a slut is a troublemaker.
Men have a whole string of name for bed hoppers. Root rat, good sorts, hornbag, onion, etc. But not "slut". | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:59:41 AM |  Hi all, just wanted to get some advice/feedback on school1971 for next week?? Its our court date next week. I have so many mixed feelings. I have never in my life been to court,(only seen it on tv). So I don't know what to expect. And I feel bad, becasue he is a single father of two children. But then I think of everything he put me through and I don't feel bad, because taking him to court, and keeping the restraining/stalking order on him for a year he will also have to attend cousling and anger management classes, which is part of the term of my restraining order, because he is violent, and I find that he isn't thinking for himself or his children. He just isn't thinking. He called and said sorry and asked me to be friends. So I guess this is call tough friendship. He needs to be woken up, because he's going to loose his children, him and his ex-wife at the rate they are both going. And I think they, him and his ex-wife need to try one more time being together, because I think deep down they both still love each other, just got bored with the same old thing. But I am nevrous to go to court and see him. He is saying I called him, that I wrote/typed letters to him, sent him things. So I don't know what he is going to pull in court. The only thing I have is what a neighbor e-mailed me, stating that he asked her all kinds of questions about me. So I have that for evidence. I want to have her supinada, but she doesn't want to get inbetween. I told her she already got herself inbetween tellin him stuff about me that he need not have known. So I don't know what to do. Should I just drop the charges?? Shoul I still go being scared as I am?? Should I have this lady supinada, or just use her e-mail I printed out????? What would you guys do??? Thank you everyone for the feed back... | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/22/2008 11:18:42 AM | | just to clarify things, I never called him, never sent him anything and never wrote/typed him anything. We did chat on here a few time, but nothing special. He had asked me to go down, invited me for intercourse, I said NO, he got mad, called me all kinds of vulgur names. A few weeks later called said sorry, and stupid me said I forgave him... Live and Learn I guess is the saying. | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:12:08 PM | Why are women considered "worse" these days? Because we know what we want and we're not afraid to say so (unlike some men I know)? Is it because we believe in being open & honest (unlike some guys I know)? Is it because we're not "into" the head-games that you guys like to play (like most guys I know)? Is it because you just think that way because some gal dissed you for some reason or other? We women are not "worse" these days, Pal, we're FREE...to do whatever we want; with whomsoever we want; whenever we want. If you guys were as straight-forward as most of us women...there'd be a lot less broken hearts. Just because we're not under the thumb of some guy these days...it doesn't mean we're worse. Put that in your pipe & smoke it, Pal!!!  | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/22/2008 11:55:19 PM | Biologically speaking, the best mating strategy for men is to mate with as many women as possible. Men who mate with a lot of women are considered successes (and indeed, provided they aren't sleazy about it, are the most attractive men to women... think rock stars, movie stars, rich playboys).
Which makes sense. A woman wants to have sons who are attractive to women and mate with a lot of women to spread her genes -- so a man who spreads his genes with a lot of women is the most desirable kind of man there is. Which is why it's a point of pride among men.
Also biologically speaking, a woman's value as a mate is related to her fidelity. And generally speaking, the more sexually experienced a woman is (greater number of partners), the more sexually open she is... the less of a big deal sex is to her... the more likely she is to cheat. Women like that (sexually liberal women) are still passable as sex partners, but not so much as romantic partners. If a man must choose ONE woman as a partner, he has to be reasonably sure that she will not stray (otherwise he may end up cuckolded, providing for another man's children... thus his genes will die out, and only men who avoid sexually liberal women as mates pass on their genes -- so, today, that's the way we ALL are).
Hope that makes sense. Guy gets laid by a new girl = his mating value increases. Gal gets laid by a new guy = her mating value DEcreases. That's why virgins have been so highly prized throughout history and across scores of different cultures (but only virgin females).
Check out the Red Queen by Matt Ridley and the Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins for a better understanding of male-female mating dynamics. | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 5/23/2008 12:04:04 AM | | Look, men are just as big idiots as women that sleep with too many people. Unfortunently, the double standard will always be there because of strip clubs and what not. Now yes there are male strip clubs but for every one male strip club there are ten female ones. But no matter what its no excuse. Most men are dogs...yes this is coming from a guy....But its true, but women will also continue to go after those dogs because they are good looking and built and whatever else....If women went for an average looking guy instead of some body building idiot, u wouldnt have that problem nowhere near as much because the average looking guy will be less likely to cheat and more respectful, which will have you dating less guys because there is monagamy there, so therefore u wouldnt be putting urself out there, so to speak, so much more | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:18:56 PM |
I didn't say that. I was talking about a specific experience and reiterating what was said to me BY A GUY. I don't believe that all guys are the same! I know that they are not! I just want to know why men do get a pat on the back and girls get labelled.
You say you're talking about one guy, and then THREE sentences later you refer to "men", not "a guy". So which is it?
I'm sorry you got burnt by one guy. But why create an entire post asking why all guys do this? Quit being bitter and just move on.
On second thought, PLEASE keep posting! That way, through the posts and responses, we can weed out some of the bitter ones. | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:23:09 PM | Oh just all go do your thing sleep around as much as you want....I'll get you all a group discount at a good Dr.
It's what it is....its what it always was and will be....a double standard..............
If you are raised with values and morals this subject shouldnt even matter................... | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:29:11 PM | You're hanging out with the wrong crowd if you see this a lot. All women have sex. (Nearly all of them, with exception of a few nuns here and there). Name calling is a high school game and if you're hanging with kids like that you should reconsider your company. As far as the pats on the back guys give each other....  hahaha.... (I certainly don't do that of course.... ) | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:01:01 PM | I disagree totally; women think being equally sleazy as men is the way to equality. I could give you email after email with women sending naked photos, videos and things they want to do. Many women; especially young girls; are as sleazy and underhanded as men.
You also need to stop using so many riddles and say what you mean. Did you have sex and was tricked into it, or what. | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:33:58 PM | "If you guys are going to post really sexist, unintelligent responses then don't bother! I've had enough of them to last me a life time!"
Maybe if you weren't galactically stupid you wouldn't get sexist unintelligent responses.
Maybe instead of being in here making yourself look like an idiot, you should be out there searching for a guy that's worth a damn.
Oh wait....no you can't do that. That would go against the left-wing feminist propaganda doctrine. | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/3/2008 4:42:17 AM |  I just know that I have only slept with one man in my life time(and that has been my ex-husband). I haven't slept with anyone else. And I know School1971 (Steve from Gorham NH) played head games with me, and I feel for them because I have a good heart, and he thought they were funny I don't know what his reason was for doing what he did. He would call only when he had no one in his life and wanted someone to hang out with and I was good enough or gullable enough to use. And it hurts. So I put a restraining/stalking order on him to keep him from calling me any further.. I am stupid up to a point, enough using and hurting me, enough is enough. And he was angry, mad, upset, and everything else because he had to go to court, thought I had no reason, this was a week and a half ago, almost two weeks now and he said he wanted to do the same to me(for no reason, except revenge). Because that is the kind of 35 year old baby he is, he has alot of growing up to do for a man, and the sad thing about him and his ex-wife, is that they should try again to get back togehter because its like they are in compition with each other she is on live in boyfriend number 12 and he is on live in girlfriend number 10 why would you do this when you have two young children ages 6 and 8????? That is my question. Don't you think this has an effect on the children seeing all these people come in and out of their children's life??? Who should come first, theirselves or thier children?????? | |
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| Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled?
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:26:04 PM | | Whats sad is the sexual revolution is about women being as sleazy as men; thats not a very good revolution. I think a guy or girl that sleeps around with a lot of people are sleazy. Some are even friends of mine. I tell them that. But thats their thing; I shouldnt' be ripped to shreds because I choose a different life to lead. | |
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