| i cant beleive she asked me that, whats your opinion?
Posted: 5/14/2007 3:43:31 PM | | I'm not sure I see the difference if it would be two days before or after the planned weekend? I think you should just meet her and see where it leads. After being stood up twice, you should count your blessings she wants to still meet you. If you're both still interested, why not? I'm sure she's committed herself to the weekend because of her friend and doesn't have a way out of it. In my opinion, I'd prefer to meet the person before the weekend. Maybe she'll be so enamoured by your infinite charms she'll blow off her friend for the weekend. | |
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| i cant beleive she asked me that, whats your opinion?
Posted: 5/14/2007 4:42:05 PM | If she is still a POF member she is probably laughing her ace off reading this forum.
The reality is that you cannot possibly stand up someone twice and then turn around and be mad at them for the plans and the people they choose to hang out with. | |
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| i cant beleive she asked me that, whats your opinion?
Posted: 5/15/2007 12:56:18 AM | Hey Smoooze,
I think you already answered your own question!
You are already uncomfortable with her ideas on morals, as far as sleeping with men are concerned.
So thank your lucky stars you learned this early on!This is something that you two do not agree on!
On to the next lady!
And personally, I agree that she should NOT have told you that she had a date with another guy. That is just hurtful to you, and does not make you feel special. If she is making you feel unspecial from the very first date, then she is not the right one! | |
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| i cant beleive she asked me that, whats your opinion?
Posted: 5/15/2007 4:21:38 AM | dave182?? im not mad at all, where do you get this from?? i was curious what others thought versus my own thoughts, plain and simple
julie72?? im pretty sure she never told me about her weekend to hurt me, she was being truthful, again i stress that i posted this to get others thoughts, in no way do i intend harm, and i am not mad in the least | |
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| i cant beleive she asked me that, whats your opinion?
Posted: 5/16/2007 3:49:57 PM | | hmmm... perhaps she is sending a message if you stood her up ..and up... she is flopping you around to even the play... showing little regard as she might feel you did ... ( with or without explanation? ) Or.. otherwise she is entirely a 14 year old brain in taking the effort to let you know about some other adventure you are obviously not interested in ... hmmm ... some stupid game? ... your guess | |
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| i cant beleive she asked me that, whats your opinion?
Posted: 5/16/2007 7:41:04 PM | Yikes!! The whole situation is just messed up!!! Call me a witch or something....but cripe....if a man stood me up once there wouldn't be a second time....holy cow!!!! I know stuff happens...but that is just plain rude anyway you look at it. As for the lady.....she must have some self esteem issues to allow herself to be treated like that.....As for you..... ......sucks to feel confused eh? | |
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| I cant beleive you asked this...
Posted: 5/16/2007 8:30:57 PM | Smoooze,
Did you change your profile since this happened? I don’t know however, you are listed as looking for friends. Thus, what would it matter to you if she were dating another man? I see no indication in your profile to indicate you are looking for a serious one on one relationship with someone.
You ask if the reason it won’t work out between you is because you have high morals.  I would say no, based on the fact you stood her up two times and the way you share about is seems very flippant. This is not the behaviour of someone with high morals. As for her asking you out at all... I think you should be thankful for her even giving you a chance after what you did; most would not. As for two days, who cares - two days, one day, 8 hours… one week… this does not matter. These are her plans; her life. I mean, come on... she would be meeting you as friends. She has plans for a weekend with friends – where’s the difference. It is not as if she had a romantic get-away planned with this man.
Bottom line is you are a guy that came along, one who wants to be friends, one who stood her up two times… but you expect her to start changing her life around for you? That is a red flag. Sheesh... I would be concerned for any woman that would suddenly start changing around her plans, her life... to accommodate some man she hardly even knew.
Maybe (and I could be way off)… but maybe you should ask yourself if you are looking for an out... because you know there is something there... and perhaps you are too scared to face it..? That way you can avoid her, claim that it is all her and her lack of morals and stay safe and single. Thus why you are here seeking validation for your actions... or what some might say was lack of action. Ok, that’s my two cents.
Good luck,
Indigo Raven | |
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