| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/29/2007 12:19:11 PM | Why was it wrong of her to walk away? She was being friendly, chatted a bit, then moved on.
Was she supposed to hang out with him all night?
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/29/2007 1:31:43 PM | | Well she could of said it was nice talking and have a good night, I mean walking away like that was alittle uncalled for no? | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/29/2007 2:03:43 PM | I guess when she said ''Cheers'' that was her exit line 
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/29/2007 9:53:46 PM | | Well, it was pretty cold if you ask me, lol. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/29/2007 11:35:03 PM | | a rather touchy and confusing exit line no? I never knew when someone said cheers and raised a glass to it meant it was an exit line. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/30/2007 3:12:37 AM | Dating is odd no matter where you are.I think we get set in our ways and therefore become more cautious/selective with potential dates.
look me up, Ill go out with some of you cuties! lol
Ok,I would but I'm an evil weekend stoner.If I can't be honest,screw it.;/ Seriously,it looks like it's easier to meet ladies who I've known through my yahoo groups.Since I don't post on here much,ladies probably think I'm a stranger.Dark Romeo,it seems odd that you have bad luck with gals.You look athletic and you probably like current music.Maybe it's best to keep small talk to subjects that might not be offensive.I guess ladies don't like to cop to their age.Hopefully,we can get a POF meet&greet going this month.
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/30/2007 9:56:41 AM | Sounds like you guys are haveing a hard time with rejection. My advice is to read my new book " 1001 ways to get rejected and like it".....that will be $100 thank you  | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:03:06 PM | Dark you should have known better than to ask her age man! I mean, what were you going to do next...ask her what she did for a living? And then you might go really crazy and ask her if she had any siblings. From there who knows what you would do.
-Rob (with tongue firmly in cheek) | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/30/2007 7:20:22 PM | | Hehehe, good one Rob. Maybe I should have just sat there in silence or stuck to arbitrary things like the outlay of the club or the weather forecast for the next 3 days. Or maybe I should have just said "Hey, you wanna get outta here, go back to my place and have steamy sex? I really don't care what your name is or what you do, I just wanna get laid!!!" What's funny is I know guys that tell me they do that and it actually works. LOL | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:26:37 PM | | YEA BECAUSE MANY WOMEN HERE ARE SO PASSIVE AND NOT WILLING TO COMMUNICATE SOMETIMES THEY'LL TAKE ANYTHING YOU THROW AT THEM. i HAVE HAD TWO CASES OF THAT BEFORE, BUT DONT WORRY THERE ARE DECENT WOMEN IN SEATTLE, THERE GOTTA BE. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 5/31/2007 12:09:53 AM | Damn, I love when people ask my age. LOVE IT! I ask them to guess. Keep guessing.. keep guessing.. go on.
I usually have to show them my drivers license.
LOVE IT. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/1/2007 5:35:53 PM | | All I have to say about this thread is (while shaking my head and rolling my eyes) if you don't like it, leave. Why would you live in a city that is so socially deviant? OH, and I was born and raised here. Why are you using a thread created for people to meet local people, to rake the city through the coals? Sheesh, get a life. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 5:52:39 PM | | And like a bolt of lightning, that last post just proves our point doesn't it guys??? | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 6:05:22 PM | | OK wait...let me answer that lost post sincerely. Forgive us oh native Seattlite for moaning about the dating scene here. And yes you're right, we could leave. The thing is, when you have moved to a city...made friends...have a job...have a place to live...etc...it's not that easy to just pack up and leave all because you can't get a date! So we, the horrible transplants that have ruined your fine city, use this forum to share our frustrations. I know that's horribly wrong, and we should all be ashamed. I know I'm going to run out and get a life right after I finish typing this post! | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/1/2007 7:01:42 PM | | What if dating is the only thing we have aginst Seattle? I for one think its the only problem, other than that, Seattle a great place, trust me I have lived in some really bad places, and Seattle really is a place to stay forever, I would of left long ago had I not liked it here. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/1/2007 7:37:05 PM | If I had the money to leave Seattle, I would in a heartbeat. I have never "fit in" here.
I keep playing that lottery! | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 8:08:32 PM | | Don't get me wrong, as I have said before, Seattle is a BEAUTIFUL place. Before I moved here I lived in Baltimore, MD; not the county, mind you, but the heart of the city. The crime rate was quadruple what it is here. It was dirty. I had my car stolen twice from right in front of my building within the time span of two weeks. When walking down the street you have to keep looking over your shoulder, day or night. So please don't mistake my grumblings about seattle as if I don't like the place. I love the peace, I love the scenery, and the traffic isn't really that bad compared to where I came from (although people here could take a few more driving lessons). The only problem I have with Seattle is the people, the women in particular. Its really a shame that in such a beautiful and inviting place like this people can be so cold and flaky. I've been here for 5 years now and haven't met any true friends, just acquaintances and associates from work. That being said, I do plan to move back to the East Coast and I cannot wait. Part of my decision is based on the fact that I really cannot see myself having a successful relationship with a woman out here. Sad, but painstakingly true. So until I save up the money and necessary resources and milk my job and the company I work for everything I can I guess I'll just have to play this Seattle dating game. Maybe I'll find someone genuine who will move back with me, who knows. You Seattle women will just have to put up with me for 1 more year, LOL. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/1/2007 11:15:51 PM | | Yep I like it here too. And I think something will eventually happen. I just like to moan about it in the meantime....lol. I've moved around so much I don't know if I want to do it again. It's Seattle or bust! | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/3/2007 10:38:31 PM | Jeez. Reading all these opinions from "outsiders" almost makes me want to shoot myself, just so I don't have to be a cold fish from Seattle.
Thanks for letting us know that native Washingtonians need to be more open minded and understanding. Being born and raised here, I guess I've just been jaded by my own cultural up bringing. It's rather insensitive of me to not understand someone from the east coast. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/3/2007 11:01:37 PM | I dont think its you at all, I think its us (transplants) who are having a hard time ajusting to a new and differnt way of life. I mean I grew up down south where people are in your face and will tell you off if they feel like it. Women there based me off of these things:
1. Looks
2. My money, family money
3. Car I drive (a convertable or a souped up car with DVD players would be good for starters)
4. The place I live (anything east is considered not apart of the incrowd)
The upside of Texas women:
1. Very attractive women, some of the best in the nation (IE Jessica Simpson)
2. Dress upscale, tight, sexy
4. Puts on lots of war paint (in part due to the tempature and sun)
5. Will let you know where you stand, and if you dont like it, meet her new B/F at a agreed upon location at a agreed upon time to settle your differneces (one famous fight resulted in the gouging out of eyes between a couple jocks over a girl)
In a sense the women of Texas in the North Dallas Area grew up on Life luxeries and expect the same treatment in a realtionship from high school to retirement (senior prom dates loved to boast about 5 star steakhouses, next years car model for trasportation, president suites) . If you didnt have these things you were overlooked and you could be down right sexy, but being in a city where many corperate leaders stay, image is important.
Women behave like how we complained for this reason:
1. Weather causes SAD and a wanting to retreat into home
2. Grey skies discourge interaction beyound the polite small talk level
3. Scandinavian culture IE: be nice to all you know
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Upside of Seattle Women:
1. They will at least be nice to you and acknowlege you as a living person
2. They dont follow the lastest fashion trend and belive in self expression
3. Even those with money dont go showing it off ( I live in a rich town where millionares live in shacks)
4. Are smart, intelligent, silly, nice, sexy, outspoken, and most of all polite
Nerdy Jenn, you are the reason why I am stil here, because this town is full of nerds, greeks, dorks and other people who have brains and dont need the money and lots of it. Thats why my outlook to the Seattle woman gets better and better!!!! I used to be very negetive about it but now I am getting very positive, my time is coming!!!! | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/3/2007 11:26:48 PM | | There is hope for my people after all! Thank you for the clarification. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/7/2007 9:45:57 PM | This is one insightful forum! I read that seattle freeze article, and I do agree. It's the same with men. At first they are really interested in you and pursue you, but once you date a bit, they can get really emotionally unavailable, and I always wonder what I did wrong! LOL Still, the culture here does have something to do with it. I always want to be super-polite, and never offend anyone. In your face I am not! But I do love being silly and funny, so that might be a bit different. I also like to learn what I do wrong or different, so thank you for the opinions here!
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/8/2007 10:48:05 PM | For all of you who subscribe to the "Seattle Freeze," I offer this quote:
"Seattle Freeze"?? I call bull-shit. I am a native and have been in the situation where I needed to go out and "make new friends" here. Most of the close friends I have now, I met "going out on a limb". I'm a volleyball player so I guess that gave me an upper hand when I one day decided to go out to Greenlake and ask complete strangers if I could play (volleyball) with them. From there I met more and more people and found those I "clicked" with, and with whom I'm close now. I don't believe it's WHERE you are in the world, it's your ATTITUDE and how you present yourself in the world that opens or shuts doors for you. Find like-minded folks through sports or classes or different activities and just put yourself out there - you might just be surprised at the reception, wherever you are in the world.
That girl is a wise human being. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/10/2007 9:30:52 AM | Wel, I was born and raised in Seattle so…
“For one, if I approach a woman and say "Hi, how are you?" "What's your name?" "Do you Have a boyfriend?" etc. etc.”
Seems fine, just wonder what the etc would be LOL
“Also, there seems to be a lot of flakiness out here.”
Men are just as guilty, and no, I will never understand why people say they will do something and then don’t. Very irritating.
“Another thing that I've found unusual is that women tend to be really sensitive about one thing or the other.”
LOL, that could be said about all people. I even have a realtor totally harassing me because he is overly sensitive about his weight (well over 300lbs and not even 6’ tall), and I told him I thought it was inconsiderate of him to have broken something by disregarding the weight limit, which he greatly exceeded. Should have seen the hissy fit he threw over the word “inconsiderate”.
“There have been many times where I've been talking to a woman and have said something in jest or maybe made a literal comment and it was deemed to be rude.”
Not everyone can tell whether or not you are joking, especially when they don’t know you very well. Best to be a bit more careful about that kind of thing until you do know the person better.
“I really don't see myself as rude or insensitive but to a lot of seattle women i am.”
Might also want to be careful about what may have worked back east, and how it will not be received well here. The west coast seems to be a bit more laid back than the east coast. New Yorkers are frequently seen as pushy, rude, loud, bossy… For all I know you still have the accent and idiots react to that, and get their backs up. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 6/10/2007 11:40:03 AM | ***UPDATE***
So yesterday I had a date with this chick that I met off of match.com. We decide to meet at this nice restaurant in kirkland for brunch. We both show up on time (very nice) and she looks exactly as she described herself in her pictures (also very nice). The date went very well. We talked, we laughed, shared idiosyncrasy's. After the date we said goodbye and I gave her a nice peck on the lips, nothing pushy. So we'll see where that goes. Now for the other part of my day, hehe.
I went back to that notorious place, Amber Bar. Me and my cousin went there. So we get there and the place is packed. Lots of women. Good looking women, I might add. Not long after I got there I had an overwhelming urge to go to the bathroom and not for number 1 or number 2. Yes, I had to puke, LOL. Probably because I just came off a 2 day fast and haven't had any alcohol in my system in a while and we'd been drinking before we got to the bar. So after puking my guts out at the commode I'm walking out and run into an old buddy of mine. For all intensive purposes lets call him R. So I give him a pound and I go off on the prowl. I get upstairs and I see this pretty attractive woman with a great set of legs. I go up to her and say "Excuse me, I just wanted to tell you that your legs are gorgeous. I'm Bobby, what's your name?" She was actually pretty receptive, gave me a nice smile and said thank you. So I sit down to talk to her and this woman is actually pretty cool. So midway into the conversation I ask if she has a boyfriend. Drum rollllllllll. Her reply was, "Actually I'm married. Me and my husband are here for a friends graduation party". Next thing I know this guy walks up, shakes my hand and asks his wife if she's okay. LOL. So at that point I just knew the conversation had to be over but actually she tells him everything is okay and continues to talk to me. WOW! So me and her talk just about most of the night. This woman is so cool. She's beautiful, intelligent, funny, down to earth, easy to talk to, the whole shabang! We talked about so many things and she told me she can't see how on earth I would have any trouble with women. She says i'm very attractive and have a great personality. The whole time I'm thinking to myself "Why does God take it upon himself to play these practical jokes on me. What did I do to deserve this?". So anyway, I actually went up to her husband and told him he's a really lucky guy and he says "I KNOW". LOL.
So then, it's back downstairs. Next thing I know this girl is pulling on my shirt and gesturing for me to come over to the bar. It seems as though my boy R had told her to get me. I go over to the bar and R is sitting there with one of his friends and they are surrounded by women!!! So I sit down and I'm talking to him. I ask him how in the world he just gets these women to flock around him this way. He tells me "Shit, I don't do anything. I just sit here and they come to me." Now R is a lot taller than me, black guy, from detroit. His demeanor is more laid back than mine and in the looks category I'd say I was more attractive than him. Not to be vain, just my opinion. So the night goes on from there into a haze to me being struck down by one girl after another. All I got was "I have a boyfriend" or "No I don't have a boyfriend and no you can't have my number" or just plain being ignored. It's funny tho but the girls that did have boyfriends were like the coolest chicks.
So here I am today with a slight hangover and a thought occurred to me as I was replaying last nights events in my mind. I remember my boy saying "I don't do anything, they come to me". Then I began to think about this theory that I heard about called the law of attraction. The principle is basically that you put out an intention and if you want it bad enough and focus your thoughts and energies on it, the universe will bring it to you. Hmmm. So this is what I'm gonna do. And any guys that want to try this with me feel free. For one week, I'm going to completely stop contacting people. No emails to women on dating sites, no messages, no IM's to people that I haven't already talked to, no asking any women out on dates, or to hang out or anything. No calling people on the phone to try to hook up, maybe just for casual conversation but that's it. Oh, and NO TEXT MESSAGING (I'm rather addicted to that). So for one week, I'm gonna do this. I want to see if this principle holds true. I'm just going to put out my intentions and see what the universe brings me. I will not make any initial contacts, but I will reply. And when I do reply I'm not going to ask her out or for her number or anything for the week that I'm doing this. I'll keep you all posted.  | |
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