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Posted: 6/10/2007 3:00:49 PM | Dark it sounds like things are turning around for you. Maybe not in a dramatic way, but things are on the upswing. Your date with the match.com woman sounds like it was very good. As for the married woman, I don't know what to say about that one..lol.
Best of luck with your "experiment". I've definitely gone on streaks of not contacting anybody. But I haven't tried that in conjunction with "putting out my intentions". I'll be curious to hear how that goes for you. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2007 4:19:49 PM | Hi, I've been reading your posting and found it very interesting.
I always complain why guys keep asking all those personal questions..
If I don't know them, I don't feel like to tell them because I am a girl.. and there are many weird people.
I grew up in different culture.. I thought maybe that's why.
However, in my culture, there are many many other ways to find out about that person instead of asking directly.
I dislike people asking where I am from.(American girls normally don't get this kinda question) just because I look different and talk with accent.
I feel sometimes discriminated although they are nice and friendly.
Not only dating, it's not polite to ask too many personal questions in my culture.
If someone introduce himself, I do the same.. so there's no need to ask.
There was a guy told me that he loved my cute accent.
I told me that I was from Japan. -- more natural way of making conversation.
I never feel anxious to find out about other people.. because I will know as time goes.
That's more fun. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2007 5:40:27 PM | | Yup, thats exactly what you say. It's the politist pic up line. And wether the guy's a cutie or not, that oneoften makes me smile. Cheers! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 1:44:44 AM | Laws of attraction,
I recently watched film called The Secret. Its about the laws of attraction and I found it very interesting. I decided to give it a try and have had some interesting responses from women. Now you have to be (at least for me) completely focused on what you want and transmit a tremendous amount of positive energy . So much as one small unhappy thought or doubt and it will not happen.
At a local mall the other day I got 8 flirts out of 12. The only reason why I did not get the other 3 is because I had that little voice in my head telling me it was not going to happen. Only once I was clearly focused and did not get a response. It was an attractive women who was with her boyfriend or husband. She seemed very happy and so did he. I could sense the positive energy but felt so high on it I wanted to see if I could overcome it but failed. So my theory is she was so happy in her relationship that my positive energy could not over come her strong feelings.
Another interesting affect is as you get a response you wanted you will get a huge confidence boost and your thoughts and energy grow stronger each time. I was on such a roll the other day that it became very easy. Of coarse the next day I tried again. I had a difficult time staying focused and the first time I tried I got no response. I lost confidence and it was game over for that session. So it goes both ways.
The laws of attraction is an interesting power. If one can truly tap its full potential you could have whatever you want. The problem is very few people have this capability. Like anything with practice you will get better at it. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 9:55:25 PM | Okay, I figured that I would update this since it's been a while. Like I said I swore off, contacting anyone for about a week and just let them "come to me". I did get a couple of dates and a couple of emails but didn't find the "one". Maybe I didn't do it long enough. Here is an example of one of my horror stories:
So I meet this girl on match.com. She initially contacts me. So we chat and get better acquainted with each other and what do ya know me and this girl have a lot in common. She owns her own company, she's attractive, nice body, and says she loves East Coast men. She lives in a 5000 sq foot home on a lake, 30 years old, no kids. As I was talking to her I was thinking "I must be dreaming". So me and her talk until 2am on the phone and IM. We make plans to meet up. Now, mind you, she's seen like 5 different pics of me as well as my webcam. So go over her house and we seemed to have a good time. However, she wasn't as interactive as she was the night before. She said she was tired and sleepy. So, I said okay no problem. She made me lunch and we cuddled in her bed, did a little kissing. Then I had to go to work. Now I'm thinking "It's all gooooooooood." So a few days go by and I'm noticing that she really isn't saying much to me online. And when I talk to her she isn't very receptive. So I figure maybe she's busy. We had made plans to hang out on that Monday and she never let me know if we were still going to. So Monday comes and goes, still no answer on hooking up. She did mention something about her father coming into town so I figure maybe she's busy hanging with him. So today she tells me she's gonna be out of town for like the next 3 weeks, LOL. So I say to her "Well, maybe it's just me but it seems like the first time we talked everything was going great, we were compatible, and I figured we'd become really good friends and hang out but now I get the feeling that you aren't as into me as before we met in person." Now when I said that I don't know if I pushed one of her hot buttons or what but she begins to go on this big diatribe of how she always has this problem with men not understanding how busy she is and how much she works. She tells me that I'm being ridiculous and that I shouldn't be taking things personally. Then she says that she's angry now and doesn't know what to say to me. She basically jumped down my throat and ripped me new one. LOL. Then she says she needs to get away and signs off.
Now, my question is why would someone pay money to join a site like match.com if they don't have the time do date anyway? This isn't the first "busy" woman that I've met from that site. This is also typical Seattle woman behavior. They all seem to have their busy little lives with their careers, family, and friends and don't want to let anyone in. And the ones that do join dating sites are afraid to admit that they actually want to have a boyfriend. I don't know what the deal is but obviously if you are on a dating site you are there for a reason. Especially a site like match.com that you have to pay for.
Secondly, if she's sooooooo busy with work then why is she on msn messenger 24/7? Oh, and there were times when she told me she was "busy" and I go onto match and see that her status is "online".
Anyway, just wanted to share one of my stories.
Until next time.......... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 8:18:59 AM | Hmmm, 30 y/o and owns a 5,000 sq. ft. house on a lake, presumably in King County? Self employed? Can you spell no-doc liar loan with an ARM that either has or is about to reset? You should have told her you work for Google Seattle and you are about to exercise your stock options, she would have been all over you. I'd bet twenty bucks this gal is living in a financial house of cards and she's senses the approaching wind storm.
My 2 cents.
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Posted: 6/27/2007 10:00:25 AM | | It's quite obvious she's not interestesd in you. Why do you care? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 10:36:40 AM | Dark,
That sounds like a typical Seattle story and even I am guilty of using that excuse from time to time. For me, its because sometimes I am just not in the mood for talking and I dont want to come off as a sad sack or they are not number 1 or 2 or even 10 on my to do list of the day and really sometimes I just dont have time, but really I eventually in a day or some get around to them and say hi.I think its because she wasnt interested in you and really didnt want to be upfront because in all reality if she did, she would have to answer for alot of things she did on the phone, IM, and even at her home! I mean she even let you into her bed on the first date and were kissing! Now all the sudden life happens at an exponential rate and she cant even take 5 minutes out of her life and check up on you or ask how your doing? On this site now I am getting a similar case with a woman, I haven't heard from her in weeks and she says she is busy and gets a million e-mails a day and doesn't have the time. I guess I maybe I'm not that attractive to her after all because if she did really have an interest in talking further, I would of heard from her long ago. Hey Dark, I was at a bar last week and was talking with this guy who had a G/F and even he said getting a girl in Seattle is very hard to do. Maybe Seattle wasnt meant for you, though you were meant for Seattle.
Taggart,
I dont think its the fact as much she is not interested, I think it was the way she handled it that set him off, remember guys can be just a sensitive as women and we dont like injustices, specifically in the internet dating world where such things do happen on a regular basis and men and women can get away with it here. Plus after describing the date and the weeks after, I do think Dark was really standing up for himself at that point and simply making an effort, and really the other chic should of been more upfront instead. When guys dont hear from women or keep getting excuses from women, it gives us a red flag that we should move on. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 12:45:35 PM | | I moved here from New York a few years ago and spent my college years in Washington D.C.. As soon I got here, I found the people so much easier to meet, date, get to know. Dating in New York City is ridiculously difficult. Life there is so hard noone has time to think about anyone other than themselves. I have had some great experiences on the dating scene here in Seattle, even on this site. I met my husband here in Seattle. Although it didn't work out, it was still a good marriage and I dont regret it. I disagree that there is something fundamentally wrong with Seattle men and women. I find most people to be extrememly friendly both at the bar/music scene and the online dating scene. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 4:38:56 PM | Taggart,
I am glad and envious you had it so well here, but lets also remember (not to put you down for anything) that your a woman, and I dare say a very attractive one, guys would dig you and it seems that you also have a great personality, hey you got it made.
But from the guys standpoint the climate changes completely, I mean we are making an effort to get out there, I keep shooting out tactics to better our chances and in general keeping a generally positive attitude in light of my bad luck. Granted I too complain sometimes. But really 3 years living here in a climate that is very much better compared to Texas and after 3 years of not finding a good match or missing cues, I think it'll drive anyone up the wall. I'm still in there though, its become almost fun to fish for women on these sights, rejection or no rejection.
Hey guys of Seattle, I am not saying you are that but maybe women notice your negetive atittude about Seattle and Seattle women. I once asked myself that and really, I kinda wonder if women can pick up on that, maybe we should all brighten up abit, either that, or maybe its time to go see a doctor and see if we have SAD. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 1:50:49 PM | | I moved here from Phoenix, Arizona....I spend a lot of years between Phoenix and different parts of California....The woman from Arizona and California were warm, upbeat, fun, open and a little wild....Ive dated a lot here in Washington, the woman appear to be so guarded when it comes to dating...Im not here to put anyone down, but woman here dont really give a correct clue what they want , if they do, they change very quickly...They claim they want good guys but go after the big mouthed , dorks...Show me a real gold-digger , and I be happy as hell...you Washington woman are impossible to read, but what a challenge you are...THANKS | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 3:24:41 PM | MTtloophkier,
I dont think this is a problem about natives in Seattle finding dates, I think this is a problem about transplants. If you of looked more closely, you would of noticed most of us if not all of us, came from another place and didnt grew up with Seattle/northwest social norms.
Thats just one case, compared to the several we have on this forum as well, but I agree with this women none the less, attitude can make an impact, but really I dont think us men go out with a rain cloud over our head and complain to girls thinking they all the sudden get turned on by it. I think all of us know there is a time and place for complaining. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2007 3:43:13 PM | Hey Mr. romeo415, here are a couple things to consider:
If a woman (heck, anyone) is acting flaky around you, just realize you're being tested. Think of it this way: if she doesn't call/show up/etc. and you don't stand up for yourself, why in the world would she think that you would stand up for her? It's just a social game to check your self respect, and to see if you can handle awkward social situations in a graceful manner. A good catch is going to:
A. Assume the best: "Hey Juliet, I'm sorry we didn't hook up last night, I was looking forward to getting to know you better. I understand unforseen things can happen..."
B. Call her on her rudness: "...but to not call and cancel is unacceptable to me."
C. Be completly prepared to move on. "My time is important and I choose not to spend it with people who act that way."
D. Be polite. "Best of luck to you, when your life is a little less hectic maybe we can try again someday."
As for asking a stranger's age, well, that's just plain awkward. Consider being a little more subtle: Where did you go to school, what songs did you dance to, when did you graduate, stuff like that.
RE: the 30 something gal from match.com, did you try and find out exactly what she likes about "east coast men"? Listening to the words she uses, and then using those same words to describe similar aspects of yourself would probably have gotten you at least to second base:-) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2007 1:45:59 PM | So, Sunday I went to this bar down the street from my house with a friend of mine. As I walked up to the bar I see these two girls outside. The one I had my eye on was really cute with a bangin body. Seriously, this chick was short, slim waist, and a nice round apple bottom. She's 22 years old and works as a bartender in Renton, we share a lot of the same interests and get this, she has no kids. I was in love, lol. So I approach them and ask if they want to play pool with us. Surprisingly, they were really nice and said sure. So we are there playing pool, the 4 of us. After pool I invite them back to my place to hang out and chill. They come over and we all hung out till 4am. This chick was so friendly, outgoing, receptive, everything. I was thinking to myself this cannot be a Seattle chick and what do you know she isn't. She's from Kentucky and has been out here less than a year. That explains everything. And check this out, she lives RIGHT DOWN THE STREET from me. I can literally walk to this girls house in less than 2 minutes. What a perfect situation! So we hung out yesterday all day, then she came back later on that night and we hung out until like 4am and went to sleep together. I'm like floating on cloud 9 right now. Being out here and dealing with the women I've been dealing with kinda made me forget how sweet, passionate, and nurturing a woman can be. I've been dealing with so many cold fish that I was starting to lose hope. Needless to say, my faith is renewed. But, here's the rub, she's planning on moving back to Kentucky. F!CK. She did say she was kinda on the fence about it but all her family is there. I can perfectly understand why she wants to move because I'm in the same situation. 99.99% of my family is on the East Coast. So for now I'll try to seduce her into staying. Wish me luck... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 2:04:06 AM | So here’s an update on the Kristin (AKA Kentucky Girl) situation. Like I said in previous posts, this girl Kristin really seems like the one. She’s everything that the girls I’ve been meeting lately are not. She’s got a great personality, she’s sweet, caring, nurturing, down to earth, and HOT all rolled into one package. She even came up to my job Thursday night and brought dinner for me that she cooked.
So Friday she tells me that she has to go meet her ex ( of about 2 months) and work out some financial matters resulting from them sharing an apartment and buying things together. She says that she just wants to get her half of what she spent on various articles for the apartment and afterwards she’ll come see me and spend some time. Later on that day I get a phone call from her and she’s really upset. She’s saying that she can’t believe how this guy is being such a jerk after all they went through together and that he’s not willing to give her anything. I ask her if she’s still coming over and she says that she has to go home first. After that, I didn’t hear from her for the rest of the night in spite of my phone calls and text messages.
The next day there was still no communication until later that evening at around 6pm. I get a text message from her telling me that she’s really in an emotional state right now and that I don’t deserve to be putting up with her shit. So I tell her that we need to talk about this face to face and she agrees. So I go down to her house (which is no more than a few blocks from me) and we talk. She’s telling me that she’s really confused about everything with me and her and that she doesn’t want to feel like I’m the rebound guy and she really likes me. She also says that her roommate/friend is telling her that she doesn’t need to rush into anything with me. Not to mention, her folks back home really want her to move back to Kentucky. So right now she’s torn and is being pulled in all different directions. So I tell her that I really like her and I don’t think we should give up on the possibility of a good lasting relationship, but If she just wants to be friends for now and take things slow I understand. I also tell her that Its really up to no one but her what she decides to do and all I want is for her to be happy whatever she decides. She says that she’s happy I feel that way and asks me to come up to her job at the bar where she’s a bartender and hang out. She says that I can hang out there until 2am when she gets off and if I’m too drunk to drive she’ll drive me home and stay at my place.
So I drive up to her job and get there around 9:45pm (she starts at 8). The place is kind of a hole in the wall, kind of seedy place but I’ve been in worse. I see her behind the bar and she greets me with a big smile and makes me a drink. As I’m drinking my first drink a heavy set white guy comes up to me and says “Can I help You?”. I say, “No, I’m fine, just talking to Kristen”. He then proceeds to go and say something to her. She then comes over to me and says that her boss is being an ass and telling her that she shouldn’t be having any guy friends come in there because she’ll start acting differently towards the other customers. So eventually she got a smoke break and we go out for a cigarette. While outside she tells me the real reason her boss is trippin is because he was goin off earlier about black men with white women and how us black men get with white women to use them. So she says that maybe it isn’t such a good idea for me to be up there and I should come back after she gets off around 2:30am and she’ll come back to my house with me. So I said that’s fine. She says she’ll call me at 1:30am to let me know how busy they are at the time. So I go home and have a few more drinks.
Well, 1:30 came and went and still no call from her. Figuring that maybe she just got really busy and didn’t have time to text message or call me I sent her a text message saying that I’ll come up there at 2:30am and wait for her to get off in the parking lot. So I get up there around 2:45am and I’m waiting for her. I parked right next to her car. Eventually I end up falling asleep as the late hour and the alcohol in my system got the best of me. I awake at 4am and her car is still parked next to mine. At this point I’m like “What the ****!” and I get out of my car and walk to the front of the bar to see what’s going on. So I look into the window and see her and her boss standing at the bar chit chatting. I stand there for a minute smoking a cigarette hoping she’d notice me and maybe come and tell me what time she’ll be done. Eventually she sees me and waves, then continues to talk back to her boss. Next thing I know, out comes her boss. He opens the door and says, “Hey partner, we are in here counting money and I don’t feel comfortable with you standing here waiting for her to get off. You need to leave.” So I said fine, ok. I leave the scene and go home and get in the bed. I send her a couple of text messages; one saying “your boss is a F_U_C_Kin A_S_S_hole!!” and another saying “just come over after you get off”.
I receive a phone call from Ms. Kristin at 5:30am!! She’s telling me that she got in trouble for giving me free drinks and that her boss told her that if she did it again she’ll be fired. Also that he was giving her shit about me saying that I’m just gonna try to take her for everything she has. At that moment I’m thinking…hmm, I make three times the amount of money that this chick does with the potential to make lots more, drive a car that is 10 years newer than hers and I’m trying to take her for what she has? Pleaaaaaaaaaaaase. And she also says that he is wondering why she doesn’t open up more to him about her personal life. So I tell her that the real reason he’s acting like that is because he probably wants to **** her. She replies as only a young, naïve woman would with “No, I really don’t think so”. So I say “Whatever”, then ask if she’s still coming over. She says she’s not gonna come over but she’s just gonna go home and shower and go to bed. So I tell her that’s bullshit but if that’s what she wants to do, fine and to just hit me up later.
For the rest of that morning and late into the afternoon I didn’t hear from her. Finally at 6pm I go to walk my dog and I usually end up walking past her apartments. As I’m walking by I see her leaving out in the car. I wave her down to say hi. She tells me that she’s going to get some food for her and her roommate, then drives off. Ooooookay. About an hour later I send her a text message asking if she wants to hang out. No response. An hour after that another text message asking if she just wants some space, and to just say the word and I’ll leave her be. No response. As a matter of fact, here it is Wednesday and I still have yet to hear a peep from her. Obviously, instead of just telling me that she’s no longer interested or that maybe this isn’t gonna work for her she has chosen to avoid the situation in hopes that it will finally just go away like lots of women do. That’s cool. But all I have to say is that she better be glad it’s me and not some psychotic, deranged guy with the penchant for violence that she chose to just ignore. That might not be such a good idea, LOL. Honestly I don’t know why women don’t think about stuff like that. I’ve been in situations before where I just didn’t want to be bothered anymore and had the female calling and wanting answers from me. The first thing that pops into my mind on such occasions is “Damn, I better let this girl know what’s up. She might be crazy and I come home and find a bunny boiling on my stove.” But anyway, there we have it. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 2:08:10 AM | Lately I’ve been chatting with Sara who lives all the way in Bognor Regis, UK. She’s a very beautiful person, has a great personality, and I can see something very positive coming out of it in the future. She has really opened my eyes and renewed my faith. She is what a woman should be, a true lady. After living here in Seattle for the last 5 years it’s a breath of fresh air to talk to one. She hardly ever swears, usually wears dresses or skirts and rarely wears pants, LOVES wearing her hair long, doesn’t burp out loud in public or around her man, no tattoos and only pierced ears. I am also in love with her British accent. . . it’s so sexy.
She has pictures posted online here: http://www.slide.com/r/Nm7Bq2Uo1T-GBkfvZEivlmUVGZatQR-e?view=large .
Me and her have a lot in common, which is quite odd since we are on 2 different parts of the world surrounded my 2 different cultures. She says that she will make plans to come out here to visit me in October so we’ll see. I refuse to get my hopes up again because every time I do that they just come crashing down, but oh well, that is the story of my life. I did come to a realization today though. The women that I’ve had the worst luck with lately have had one common thread: immaturity. Therefore, I’ve developed key points to look for in the future.
#1 - Pining over your ex-boyfriend for years or months even. . . allowing someone affect you like that and cause u not to take other opportunities is a sense of immaturity. . . .if you can't grow up and get over it and cut your losses, something is wrong
#2 - Going for wannabe-thugs, bad boys, etc. No woman wants a super nice, sugary sweet guy. Everyone wants someone with sort of an edge. But damn, to go for guys that still live with their mothers, or drive Lexus cars but live in run down apartments, or have babies all over the place, or is over 30 and still rocking throw back jerseys that's a sign of immaturity
#3 - Not knowing how to use proper English when appropriate. Not carrying yourself in a decent manner. Acting stupid or goofy all the time. It's cool to have fun and laugh but do it in a mature way and for god's sake know how to act when in a professional environment.
#4 - Having 2 or more kids by 2 or more different guys before the age of 25 without ever being married is definitely a red flag. Immaturity.
#5 - Being worried about what brand a man is wearing or what kind of car he's driving without taking the time to get to know him. Everyone wants someone with some ambition and that's cool if you find someone you like that has achieved success. But to write off a guy cause he's not driving a certain car or not all blinged out without knowing the nature of his plan is a sign of immaturity
#6 - Limiting you’re dating choices on the basis of social status, financial status, educational status, race, or anything else superficial is a sign of immaturity. If you like someone and are attracted to them all that stuff should not matter.
So those are the things that I will NOT look for in a woman. Certain things I can be flexible about, like physical features or personality quirks but immaturity is definitely a deal breaker.
Unless, of course, it’s a booty call and in that case it’s all out the window, LOL. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 2:28:56 PM | I gotta hand it too you Dark, your one of the most entertaining guys on this site. Your funny, detailed, sacastic, and honest and entertaining. The question that comes up to me: what the hell is preventing you from getting a G/F? Of course the best possible answer is that your simply continuing to get the lame 10% of Seattlites or just problematic women.
The case with that southern gal, is typical as far as the response to you setting the boundaries is concerned. Women and men here run and hide instead of facing their problems. Every time I have this scenarios when confronting women they hide, I'm not trying to be overly harsh nor mean nor pushy etc, but in this part of the nation, sadly, I (we) simply come across that way.
Your points you made on your last posting seem right on the mark. The single young mothers I can agree with you 100%. I mean the last single mom I dated, she was crazy about me one week and then with another guy the next week. She admits I was the better Schoice and then breaks up with this other guy 90 days later and now is all the sudden engaged to her ex again, the one who sired her child. Your right, single moms are looking for security and want it in any way, shape or form.
The maturity issue us a big one, some women even do these dating personals for entertainment! I mean not a couple days ago I got this one woman intrested, she even wanted to see me the same day we met online! Well, I got her message too late and she said she was hanging with a friend that she hadnt seen in two weeks and she would love to see me tuesday for dinner and drinks. I was like wow, this is great. She was an attractive woman who was a poet and so am I, hence we kicked it off well. Well she wanted some of my work, I sent her a couple of poems and hoped to of heard from her but I didnt, not till early monday morning when she sends me this e-mail, here is the point:
Speaking of which, Jon, you seem like a great and talented guy, but I'm
> realizing that I don't have time in my life to pursue a relationship right
> now. I really don't. I posted on Craig's List kind of on a whim, in a moment
> of loneliness, but my life is full to the brim. (Hey, that rhymes!)
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> So...with this in mind, I won't be able to meet up with you today
HELLO WHY DID SHE EVEN POST A W4M AD IF SHE FELT JUST A MOMENT OF LONELYNESS?! Thats really as if she was playing me on, she might as well of stood me up, because really, I dont buy this excuse at all.
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The money thing isnt so bad here, though it does exist in some way shape or form. But again if someone really likes you, then screw what he or she has or doesnt. I'm most likly gonna be staying with my parents with another year and a half but thats because I am saving for a live aboard yacht, not because I dont want to for once take charge in life.
However the money issue thing is old, even in the beginning of human history women always go for the men with the money and/ or power. I mean look at the cave man days..... a woman sees 2 men, one man lives in a cave and has alot of weapons and food in which he gathers while the other man lives in the wood with only a couple of weapons and only gets enough food for himself, who do you think that woman is gonna go for? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 7:41:43 PM | | Sounds like she is either hiding something or lying outright. But for someone that age to have a place that big, she is probably waiting for her dot com daddy to come home. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 8:18:43 PM |
But for someone that age to have a place that big, she is probably waiting for her dot com daddy to come home.
Yes, because it is impossible for a woman to be successful. 
Darkromeo, you should google your handle and see what comes up. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 11:42:40 AM | I don't understand why women would have a problem with asking of the age?! Some people have their age limits that they care to date or anything.
I know my girl friends from the west coast don't have a problem with it. I've lived everywhere, so I can't really say I'm from one part.
You are just having some crazy luck?
Maybe the girls that you are approaching just think you are too good looking for them or that you are the 'player' type. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 7/22/2007 12:04:45 PM | I lead a pretty busy life, being a single mother and working full time and sometimes leaving on business trips, and working odd jobs here and there. I didn't date for years though, but want to now, so I try to make time. Yes, I am guilty of having to push off meeting people, but I am the sole support of my family, and my kids will always come first. I am here to meet someone, because I want to find my 'true love'. But life happens first. You can't expect everyone to just drop their lives to run on a date or whatever for you. It's easier for some people because they don't work as much, or can run off of little sleep or don't have other things going on, etc. Some jobs are overwhelming and it does control them, specially if they own their own business. Sometimes you have to respect that. I know myself, I can not stand a pushy person, at all. It's different when you actually know each other well, and i don't mean from one date or talking for a week, that's not the same as hanging around someone for a bit.
Funny note, I do understand a huge change from here and balitimore and dc and PA. As I was just on a trip down there, flew into Balitimore and stayed the night there, I had men all over me like flies instead of just looking (which i get here a lot). I then was in PA for a car show for about 4 days, and there it was a mix, I think because there were people from everywhere there, even canada. But in DC where I went for 3 days, I was walking around alot and all, I had men approaching me like crazy. So different. They come on a lot stronger, then even GA or NC that I remember. And I lived in a marine town in NC . haha.
Well, that's my ramble, maybe just you come on a bit strong for the typical women here in seattle? | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 7/23/2007 4:12:22 PM | | Romeo, you sound like a borderline stalker. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 7/29/2007 4:23:21 AM | Note of discredit: I am bad, bad, bad at picking anyone up, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
I think this "cold fish, uptight seattleite" stuff is just stereotyping with a heavy case of confirmation bias. You see what you want to see, and if you look for a reason to see someone who is uptight, you'll find a reason and attribute it to a cause. Are asians bad drivers? Do you see good drivers and say "oh hey, its an asian! he's driving good!"? Do you meet women in seattle and say "ooh, hey, she's actually giving me the time of day here!"
As far as relationships go, I don't like to be pushed around or feel like I'm being manipulated by someone else and I'm sure women don't either. I'd say its a natural human reaction to push back at something even if its something we might want. When that happens, you call the "cold fish, uptight seattlite" card when it may just be how you come across.
Here's sort of how the mating game works (at least in seattle):
[Strangers] -> [Friends] -> [Date] -> [Early relationship] -> [Long term relationship] -> [Marriage]
To try to jump one of those steps is going to be very difficult. A complete stranger asking for a date will have higher chances of rejection then a friend asking for a date. A stranger asking for a relationship is almost out of the question. Some people don't want to move past the strangers part if they don't like something about you, you'll be a mere acquaintance. Know what signs to look for so you can cut your losses and save time. Politely disengage and move on (hence, why that girl said "cheers" and left).
I think the word "Date" scares a lot of people off, so I've taken it out of my vocabulary for people who don't know me well enough or show little interest. Instead, I use "hang out" or "get together" -- carefully so that it doesn't get mistaken for a seedy attempt at sex.
now, I suck at this dating game so especially take the following advice for what its worth: I just don't care if someone likes or dislikes me. If I get rejected, fine. If I get a date, great. If the date is cancelled, oh well. If it works out, I'll have a fun time. I don't take any of it personally because women don't know me personally. If they knew full well who and what I was and they still rejected me, oh well, they have different preferences and I don't match. (notice how I have a self-serving bias?)
some day I'll have to go stomping around bars and clubs to put my money where my mouth is... | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 8/3/2007 1:18:16 AM | Being here in the Seattle area for the last 5 years has really opened my eyes and changed my perception about areas outside of the East Coast. One of the things that I’ve noticed while living here is that the people are really different. Whereas on the East Coast people are much more direct, serious, and in your face; people here are laid back, passive-agressive, and somewhat shy. Therefore, it doesn’t really surprise me that alot of men here are vaginized. Now you may be asking yourself “What does he mean by vaginized?”. Well, another word I guess you could use would be emasculated. As defined by our good buddy Mr. Webster here is the definition of emasculated:
emas·cu·late
1 : to deprive of strength, vigor, or spirit : WEAKEN
2 : to deprive of virility or procreative power : CASTRATE
3 : to remove the androecium of (a flower) in the process of artificial cross-pollination
The term vaginize is a spin off from the word emasculate. Men who act as if they have a vagina. These are men that are totally controlled by women. They do what women want them to do, say what women want them to say, and act in whatever way that pleases the women they are with/want to be with. These are the guys that will put up with certain things that their woman does out of “fear of losing them”. These are guys that will adorn women with gifts, money, dinner in order to get laid or maybe keep getting laid.
Now, don’t get me wrong, as a man I know that one of our primary purposes in life is to get women, lots of women. It’s just that I strongly disagree that you have to compromise your manhood to do so. Yet I see it every day in one way, shape or form. But, here’s the catch. The clues that an area has a high concentration of vaginized man isn’t easily visible by looking at the men. One has no further to look than the women. And in the Seattle area, women rule. I have never been to a place more full of women that are so selfish, conceited, and have a sense of self-entitlement. You see it in the nightclubs, you see it online, you see it at your local Starbucks, you see it walking down the street. Oh yes, the women here have issued the proclamation that they do indeed wear the pants. And if you don’t like it, maybe you should join the ever growing Seattle homosexual population. And if you are a guy that refuses to obey their wishes they could give a rat’s ass because there are plenty more vaginized men right around the corner to replace you. I once had a girl tell me that if I wanted to get in contacted her I needed to blow her phone up. And if I called her once and she saw that it was a missed call she wouldn’t call me back. I’d basically have to catch her when it was convenient for her. When i refused, that was the end of it. I once met a woman at a popular night spot in Seattle that bragged about how she tells her man what to do and he does it. Here’s the ****ed up part. . . he was sitting right there!!! LOL. And he was proud of it. And when I hinted to him that he should have a mind of his own he got pissed at me. My theory is maybe since there is such a shortage of attractive women here men flock to the ones that are halfway decent. And when they find one they cling on to her like a pit bull to a teet. They conform, hand over their testacles and place their penises in a jar. I dunno. Just my theory.
I’ve seen it in myself as well. The most serious relationship that I’ve had since living here was with a girl from Florida. After that it’s been failure after failure, no relationships lasting more than 6 - 8 months. I’ve tried my hardest not to be assimilated into the culture of vaginized men here but I’ve often caught myself conforming to it. I’ve caught myself sugarcoating my words, going out of my way for total ****es, bending over backwards to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, etc. It’s been a long, rough road but I’d like to think of myself as fighting the good fight. This place has a way of sucking you in after a while and you end up losing yourself, your identity, your culture. I haven’t fully lost mine yet, but I’m struggling to get back the pieces that have fallen off. But the more I try to resist the vaginization, the less dates I find myself on. Maybe I’ll luck up and find a recent transplant. Hopefully… | |
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