| Women In Seattle
Posted: 9/16/2007 12:35:51 PM | Wow, beautiful pics, Bobby (love the name Bobby, btw)
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 9/16/2007 6:01:22 PM | | Just curious, Dark Romeo, if she is so great why is your profile still active on POF? | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 10/1/2007 6:09:35 PM | Remember, gal is gals
Just be cool and let them talk about them selves. Be a good listener and don't be to eager. The east coast vibe tends to translate to too aggressive on the laid back West coast. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 10/24/2007 2:19:50 PM | "Just be cool and let them talk about them selves. Be a good listener and don't be to eager. The east coast vibe tends to translate to too aggressive on the laid back West coast. "
East coast West coast "vibes" are too extremely different worlds. West coasters don't even know what a vibe is! You say "the laid back West coast", if you all were anymore laid back you'd be sleeping. East coasters are Too aggressive? How about just Too Real?
I'm from the D, I tell it like it is and I'm not affraid to express myself. I don't need to be P.C. all the damn time or watch my tongue and I shouldn't have to. Honestly, I'm not digging the whole Seattle scene. People here are too soft and emotional. Guys and girls alike. It's like highschool cliques all over again. For a city that claims to be so educated, why are you so affraid of REAL life? Why can't someone just walk up and say Hello without you looking down to make sure your shoes are tied, or be so on guard. I'm not asking for your spare change but the funny this is, you'll actaully acknowledge those people with a penny or two.
The real difference between East and West. East coasters are not affraid of life and people.
Wow, you mean I could maybe meet someone nice if I give them a chance???
Now I know, being from the D, that I'm actaully a midwesterner but there's and East and West divide there too. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 12/5/2007 12:54:27 AM | Very Well Said !!!
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"Just be cool and let them talk about them selves. Be a good listener and don't be to eager. The east coast vibe tends to translate to too aggressive on the laid back West coast. "
East coast West coast "vibes" are too extremely different worlds. West coasters don't even know what a vibe is! You say "the laid back West coast", if you all were anymore laid back you'd be sleeping. East coasters are Too aggressive? How about just Too Real?
I'm from the D, I tell it like it is and I'm not affraid to express myself. I don't need to be P.C. all the damn time or watch my tongue and I shouldn't have to. Honestly, I'm not digging the whole Seattle scene. People here are too soft and emotional. Guys and girls alike. It's like highschool cliques all over again. For a city that claims to be so educated, why are you so affraid of REAL life? Why can't someone just walk up and say Hello without you looking down to make sure your shoes are tied, or be so on guard. I'm not asking for your spare change but the funny this is, you'll actaully acknowledge those people with a penny or two.
The real difference between East and West. East coasters are not affraid of life and people.
Wow, you mean I could maybe meet someone nice if I give them a chance???
Now I know, being from the D, that I'm actaully a midwesterner but there's and East and West divide there too. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:04:57 AM | | Ha. I'm about to relocate to Seattle and am oh so nervous about the prospects. I can't say I'm too hopeful, but then this year seems to be bringing surprises right and left. I'm okay with that. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 9:21:21 PM | | I moved here about a year ago from Brooklyn, NY. I can totally dig what darkromeo and the other East Coast people are saying. I think where the real difference lies, is that here in Seattle, people are just generally less interested in meeting new people. They have their clique and are more than content to keep it that way. My personality is very outgoing and I generally just walk right up to people and start talking. I crack alot of jokes and am pretty good with slinging the art of laughter. This has worked for me here as well, but I have noticed that people, guys and girls alike, are more apt to become frightened and apprehensive then they are back home. As far as online dating and sending messages goes... No luck here. I have no problems communicating but generally my messages are deleted with no response. *Shrugs* This was never the case back home either. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:52:56 PM | | I have been in situations of a social nature and have approached women with the intent to get into a pleasant conversation. Many times I have walked up, introduced myself and get a cold stare like "What the hell do you want?" That's a little unnerving! Other times I have approached a table of ladies and was invited to sit down with them. So it's not ALL Seattle women....just a few of them. It's a gamble out there. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/9/2008 12:17:29 PM | Seattle women are no different from women I've seen anywhere else in the world. It's all in how you approach anyone. You either do it an a manner that sets their defenses to maximum, or you don't.
I've been meaning to drop a line or two in here, but I've been slammed at work and haven't had time. I'll get to it soon though. ;) | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 12:44:00 PM | | Vaxplant I wish that were true, but as far the US is concerned I have been all over the country enough to figure out how ppl mingle and Seattle is in a world of its own. Its the weather and the culture more than the people. Women here have their defenses set to a max already, my social work indicated that women think automatically that when guys approach them, they want to be their boyfriend. Also the grey skies, which take up most of our year in seattle, does have a major impact on people ability to socialize. Most ppl when the fog and rain settle in, retreat to their homes and hibernate. Also the culture, the Scandinavian culture is one where everyone is openly nice and friendly but are still distant and do hesitate when I were to ask them out. If you want, I have a few threads with reports from Social Scientist who have done research on this topic and conclude that Seattle is a horse of a different color. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/9/2008 1:52:06 PM | Those are excuses and rationalizations as to why you fail, not a valid analysis of what you need to do to in order to succeed.
I was also planning on sending you a missive on the subject when I get the chance.
Oh, I lived in Northern Europe (continent) and the isles (UK) for about seven years, the arguments about the weather and cultures hold no real merit other than to point out geographic and societal quirks that you have to learn how to deal with and overcome. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/9/2008 5:00:57 PM | If you think that I am going to listen to you and believe you based on your own personal experience, you got another thing coming:
Refer to some threads made be a person called Leb4life , this is a matter that social scientist as myself have tackled. TO you, I might making be excuses, but to others, there are scientific explanations. If you took the time to also read the other postings, you will see that we are telling a similar story and out of all the transplants I have talked too, I always told a similar story as to how hard it is to simply meet people.
The Swedish/ Norwegian cultural mentality is ever present in this town, and it does play an impact. Good on being polite.
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6603403.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6603403.aspx</a> | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:10:00 PM | I am in full agreement with Seattleartist and the others who say it is difficult to meet women in Seattle. Many of them that I have encountered seem to be a bit snobbish. Others seem to have an "I don't give a damn about you" attitude. This is NOT to say that ALL the women in Seattle are that way. There ARE some pleasant women here, but they are hard to find. More than once I've seen good looking guys rejected by Seattle women. When you are an old, homely mutt like me...it's a given!  | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/10/2008 1:06:19 AM | It's late, and I've had a busy night enjoying myself instead of suffering this mythical "Seattle Freeze", I've also got an early morning so not much time to chat and go into details tonight.
The rest of the week isn't looking so good either, so short bursts is all you get.
I'll leave you both one thought that I'd like you seriously think on, and get back to me with, either here or privately. It's "guy chat" on a predetermined topic so it's cool. ;)
SA, and Arapaho, you both have demonstrated that you have the observation skills, and half a clue to work on. You've both noticed, and annotated certain things in this thread, so I'll ask you the question because I think you're both intelligent, articulate, interested in solving the problems and finding happiness, and yet not looking at things in the correct pardigm.
Barring all external influences (weather, culture, etc) what were the differences between your approaches to females that failed and those that succeeded? In reference to those that started off good and then failed, where was the 'watershed' moment where they "flaked" or died due to obvious disinterest on their part, and obvious interest on yours?
And yes Arapaho, I honestly think that you could land an attractive, intelligent, spunky mid twenties if that's what you actually wanted (I don't think so though, you do come across as more desirous of a mid 30's/40's more worldly and experienced woman).
SA - Thank you. This isn't a subject to get rude over, no thank you, I won't bother reading them, I'm familiar with the pablam only corrected for whatever local/environs one finds themselves in. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/10/2008 2:44:46 AM | Vax,
My apologies for coming across as rude.
The reason why I am flaked out on, is because I am not the kind of guy who gets women at my age because I act older and more mature the than average joe. I am a nerd, a geek, and artist, and a military/ art of war buff all rolled into one. I am a nice guy as well and you know the old saying.
Also, I come from Texas, so we are much more frontal and not laid back like the common Seattalite. I do see the ups of not being so uptight as my old Texans might be. In in general, Seattle has been nice to me, the women have been "nicer" but still in light of my much gain confidence in myself and in my surrounding and all the good things ppl tell about me, I do wonder what makes them flake out. I not a stand uper, I dont fool around, I dont spend my nights getting drunk, nor want to get in bed with a girl on the first date. I am still a virgin and also very into my faith, but I wont mind at all dating someone outside my faith. Also I am very open about my faith and that I noticed is a turn off, but again I grew up down south and you cant change my ways. I am different, its just the way I am, and I didnt want to be different but I am wise and mature beyond my years I am told, hence the older women tend to like me better, but shy away once they see I am still at home with Mom because my job doesn't give me much of a pay check to live on my own. So many Superficial reasons I have been rejected without even a thanks but no thanks, lack of own home, faith, pushiness which is really me making an effort to get together.
So minus all the factors you told me to omit, that is my reasoning. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/10/2008 1:21:30 PM |
I am still at home with Mom because my job doesn't give me much of a pay check to live on my own.
It's expensive to live here - not sure about Texas, but I was surprised when my friend from Alabama told me how much less the rent is there | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/10/2008 1:47:30 PM |
It's expensive to live here - not sure about Texas, but I was surprised when my friend from Alabama told me how much less the rent is there
No doubt. paying about $400 a month more for much less here compared to Atlanta - or suburban DC/VA.
SA,
I wasn't saying you were being rude, although your reaction does give me some insight to your mindset and situation. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/10/2008 4:50:17 PM | Yea, even for a one room apartment it costs about 700 dollars per month. While thats not bad, its still stranded on the edge of civilization.
Vax,
Care to enlighten me? I am trying to keep my chin up and I also think I should point out, I have been on far more dates here Seattle than in Texas, hence I am still here and my general opinion hasnt changed. | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/11/2008 1:01:53 AM | Hehe 730 for a 3br 2 bath in a hella cool place in the ATL.
SA,
Yeah,
The next few nights are shot between social activities and moving into the new digs, and I'll send you a PM when I get my thoughts in order and have the time to get them down. I respect your position enough that I'd prefer to do it that way. There's some laundry you just don't do in public.
So um yeah... add me to your fav's list please, I understand the restrictions though ;) | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/11/2008 4:13:05 PM | 730 for a nice place an ATL, I can see why as well, but thats another story.
Well I look forward to hearing you feedback, I will listen to you and respect your feedback, the last thing I want to be is closed minded. I know I am a good person, its just I am not in the best situation right now. I am also told its a matter of numbers, or the numbers game, a part of me doesnt this however.
Anyways, now I am talking with a cute 18 year old college girl whom is in Kent. We talk alot, even early as 2.00 am in the morning. Dont know where it might lead, but hey, anything is possible. But I wonder, am I too old for her? | |
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| Women In Seattle
Posted: 1/11/2008 5:34:06 PM | | I guess you won't know that till you get to know her better | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 7:29:00 PM |
Anyways, now I am talking with a cute 18 year old college girl whom is in Kent. We talk alot, even early as 2.00 am in the morning. Dont know where it might lead, but hey, anything is possible. But I wonder, am I too old for her?
For heavens sake sensitive artist just relax and enjoy the ride. Lift all you expectations and just let it be whatever it is going to be. | |
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