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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:38:03 AM | @ John...Those are some of the most well written true to life words I have ever seen posted anywhere here in the fishbowl! I think you my good man, simply rock!
I especially liked the "won't say mature" part John. Cuz I am never going to get there!   | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:00:35 AM |
I have never in my life met a woman who encouraged her man to look at porn LOL! I didn't "encourage" mine to "look" at it.....I simply set up the video camera in the bedroom, led him by the hand and told him what to do....and listened to him whine about how disgusting he thought I was being! LOL!
OK, now...a tip for those of you who might try this: if you use a "tape" be SURE that you fast forward a couple of feet BEFORE you click on "record"....as I learned the hard way when I thought that I'd recorded OVER the tape.....they don't always rewind to the SAME spot.....imagine my surprise when we sat down to watch a recording of the family barbeque and the first 2 seconds were of Mommy sprawled on the bed in a G String! LOL!  | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:22:27 AM | BooBoo.....now I think I know how you got your name or at least why it fits you 
I guess it can take only a couple of seconds to make a life time memory, I bet your family get togethers and video cameras will never be quite the same huh?  | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:23:33 AM | Grandmabooboo...
I haven't laughed that hard in quite sometime. Thank you!
I need a copy of all your instructions sent to my e-mail! Please!!
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The only porn in my house was used to define women as sluts in acts of disgust..by my ex. Sex was strictly for procreation purposes. It was also necessary for him to make sure I was "made unaware" of the procreation in advance. That way..he felt I wouldn't become "soiled" by sex..or "crave" future sex acts. I apparently..married a real troll. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:25:12 AM | LOL! well John.....let's just say that when the made up the T shirt that says "Take revenge...live long enough to be an embarrassment to your children"...they were talking about ME! LOL!
Redarcangel: LOL! Had to have been the MOST embarrassing moment of my entire life when my kids saw it.....but making it......was HOT! HOT! HOT! LOL! Too bad my ex thought I was such a sex maniac....guess it was before they heard that "Girls just wanna have FUN!" LOL! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:44:25 AM | Grandmabooboo..
You certainly can't say your family functions are a snooze fest!
I had one embarassing moment at a family Christmas event..my (drunken) sister got all out of sorts and very loudly began blaming my parents for my "getting" the blonde hair..blue eyes..ability to tan..petiteness..and the "big boobs". Woulda liked to crawl under the table with that one..as the town mayor and council members looked at me with sheepish smiles. Needless to say..I left..and my brother has not held a "family" Christmas event ever since. I couldn't imagine if there'd been a video of my having sex there.  | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:42:33 AM | Well i have dated older women and to me the are as keen on sex as a younger women if not more so
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Posted: 1/23/2008 12:30:47 PM | | Ummmm, I'm afraid you must be speaking for yourself. I, for one can always go for a great f**king ! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 12:49:31 PM | | Anyone else here think it may be the men with whom you've chosen to share your life ? The men I've been involved with have been thrilled that I enjoy sex as much as they do. Thrilled ! The men you're describing have serious emotional problems. I don't know anyone, man or woman, who would tolerate the kind of abuse you're describing. Chronic jealousy, suspicion and attempting to control another human being are sure signs of mental illness. Having a healthy appreciation for sex is not. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 12:52:35 PM | Mature Women know with their Mature Hearts.. if they want sex.. then by golly they can have it anytime.(no problem).. it is a sign of self-worth for a woman not to just hump anything that comes along.. and just because she turns it down doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy it!
Now for Broward... When did sex die in your relationship? I bet it was a nanosecond after the first time you took your lady for granted... any woman who's been ignored as being an intergral important partner.. will turn off a man with a blink of an eye! So be careful in how you treat your ladies or you'll find yourself without one!
Sexual attraction stops when the parties stop treating each other well... why would anyone.. man or woman want to have sex with a partner who is demanding... instead of wooing a partner... sex is not an "act" .... it must mean more than just a performance.. or guys.. if that's all it is to you.. go stick it in a light socket.. I've had my heart torn out by inconsiderate men who thought the "had" me.. and I go poof... I disappear into the vapors because I refuse to be taken for Granted!!! Talk about killjoys...! No amount of talking about it will repair the harm done by an absent hearted man!!!
A mature woman.. knows when to keep her jeans on.. and that she choose.. not him!!!! So the guys who dislike or hate mature women so much... stop advertising and leave the bandwidth open for the men who do understand women..
If I sleep with you doesn't mean I LUV you...lol!!!
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Posted: 1/23/2008 4:11:43 PM | There is a reason humans are the only animals who can copulate face to face.
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Nope. Dolphins not only do, they MUST. As do whales. Don't know about bonobos (Oops! Just checked. They do, too. )
Google is a wonderful tool, and very easy to use. . . .
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Posted: 1/23/2008 8:46:15 PM | Ya know, when I posted, I had dolphins in the back of my mind, I just didn't do the research shame on me!
GrandmaBooBoo - what are you doing for the next fifty years or so?  | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:35:18 PM | Twisted Sister: Jury is out until the details are revealed -- I'll just have to take your word for it. Again, I'm talking encouragement, as in "Go out and indulge in all the porn you like, I know you'll come around when you want real sex", not just permission or acceptance.
I simply set up the video camera in the bedroom, led him by the hand and told him what to do...
GBB: Okay, not the usual course of action, but still NOT THE SAME as encouraging him to look at porn, in fact, it's the exact OPPOSITE. Instead of encouraging him to seek pleasure from whatever is "out there", what you describe turn the focus only on yourself.
It's not the specific act---it's the field of view. Generally women want that field of view as narrow as possible, hence, no porn allowed, or acceptance grudgingly given.
I'll give you an "*" for enjoying sex games, tho... | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:47:22 PM |
GrandmaBooBoo - what are you doing for the next fifty years or so? LOL! I dunno....but you can bet I won't be making any more home porno movies!
Desertbro:
GBB: Okay, not the usual course of action, but still NOT THE SAME as encouraging him to look at porn, in fact, it's the exact OPPOSITE. Instead of encouraging him to seek pleasure from whatever is "out there", what you describe turn the focus only on yourself. Well, you are so right as usual. I stand guilty as charged of not only trying to keep the relationship interesting and fun, but of the most heinous crime any woman could possibly ever commit.....enjoying sex myself. But Hey, I did repent, divorced the man....so he can look at all the porno he wants (it was never an issue to him....he said it was disgusting). Thank you for proving what the women pointed out in many previous posts....that women are NOT ALLOWED to enjoy sex....if we do it's selfish. Ohhhh but wait....didn't a few others suggest that perhaps men who would bash women who do enjoy sex were mentally unstable? I must go back and read the rules again! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 12:21:50 AM | ^^^ Never said you couldn't enjoy sex. I have no problems about your camcorder adventures or whatever other antics you came up with to increase your fun. I just say what you described in this instance is not the SAME as encouraging someone to look at porn.
If you encouraged your guy to play soccer in the park with other people, that's not the same as taking him in the back yard and watching as he kicks a ball around. Not by a long shot. This is the disctinction I'm making.
For YOU the fun might be the same. For HIM, it's a world of difference. Dunno if I've explained it well. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 6:32:48 AM | | am in total agreement with you men think we are on this site just 2 get laid . one day they make work it out there more 2 us than that just because we are older . | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 6:57:33 AM |
For HIM, it's a world of difference. Dunno if I've explained it well. No, you haven't explained it well. Why don't you type real slow and use very small words so that our tiny little female brains can comprehend it. Obviously my communication skills are not up to your level. I mistakenly assumed that when I said that "I DIDN'T encourage it, I simply...."; that I mean't exactly what I had said...that I didn't encourage it. Thank you for explaining to me that when I said I didn't encourage it...that I really meant that I did encourage it.....but then I was still wrong because I actually hadn't encouraged it....which is what I thought I'd said in the first place. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 8:25:59 AM |
but if a guy was getting turned on my pictures of other women instead of me, I think I would have lost interest real quick............ Totally agree with you Friendlyldy; but that's just the 1/2 of it!
Wonder what these husbands would say if we told them we're going to start going to the Male Revue every Thursday night to watch the men get naked? Hey now...just a little harmless girl fun! Oh....now, let's talk about our dildos! How many times have you heard a man whine about THOSE??? What do you need THAT thing for....am I not enough to satisfy YOU (ya slut).
Now, just picture this: He comes into bed...wants laid....but you just finished taking care of business with B.O.B. You say.....ahhh geee hon, sorry....but I just got done and I'm good now. Goodnight sweetie! (roll over and go to sleep) OMG!!! You B*****.....as he takes the sledge hammer to good ole B.O.B. Now, he's sitting down in the family room looking at Hustler....taking care of his business, while you're up in the bedroom taking a shower, getting all soft and silky and sexy.....and he comes up to bed and says....Ahhhhh Geee hon, I just got done and I'm good now. Goodnight Sweetie! (roles over and goes to sleep). Yup, you got it.....You're STILL a B***** for being oversexed, putting pressure on him and not understanding that men should be encouraged to substitue pornography for a some REAL wild, ass bittin' down and dirty, pour it to me baby......raw SEX!!!! Once again proving......that to men....women who love intercourse....are sluts......they CERTAINLY do not want to engage in it with their S/O's and will come up with ANY lame excuse they can think of to avoid giving THAT kind of excitement to any woman who has been foolish enough to make a "committment" to a relationship with them. Thus proving.....the REAL reason why married men don't get laid. They bore their poor wifes to death with lights out, no talking, no passion, no creativity, NO fun.......intercourse.....and to us....B.O.B. is just as much fun as they are......and when you hit the off button....he quits BUZZZING!!! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 8:58:20 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^
I notice you mention intercourse but you did not describe any scenario where it happened. You are describing masturbation.
You've just described a dysfunctional relationship and attributed it to men as if you weren't 1/2 of that equation.
Your plastic will stop buzzing when when you turn it off and his magazine will never complain about not being as great as the plastic.
If it's true that you don't want sex without love, what kind of love does B.O.B. give you when it's done?
New invention Idea:
put a MP3 player in B.O.B. that is loaded with phrases like. "Oh baby your so good", That was fantastic", "I love the way you do that" and the inevitable "I love you baby"
Sexual intercourse, in its biological sense, is the act in which the male reproductive organ (in humans and other higher animals) enters the female reproductive tract, called copulation or coitus in other reference.[1] The two entities may be of opposite sexes, or they may be hermaphroditic, as is the case with snails.
Traditionally, intercourse has been viewed as the natural endpoint of all sexual contact between a man and a woman,[2] and is commonly confined to this definition today. The meaning of the term, however, has been broadened in recent years, and now labels at least three different sex acts. These three types of intercourse are: vaginal intercourse, involving vaginal penetration by the penis; oral intercourse, involving oral caress of the sex organs (male or female); and anal intercourse, involving insertion of the male's penis into his partner's anus.[2] | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 9:17:50 AM | 
I never thought older mature women cared for sex less. I spent many a year raising my son "alone". While his mom bobbed back and forth into our lives I became a real life "PTA dad" and never found older and mature women to "lack" for "desire".
On a couplea of his mom's "in-n-out-of-his-life" journeys she discovered it was "hormones" that affected her "desire".
Didn't seem to affect her "needs" for all the boyfriends she collected over the years.
I do not think that older women lose "desire" and have no doubt they are very able and willing to use it.
Nowadays I'm retired from "PTA dad" so I'm not "positive" about the way I feel anymore but I'm pretty confident I'm correct.
Haven't any of you ever wondered what happened to the PTA dad you taught so well?
One day we got older too
bye everyone
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Posted: 1/24/2008 9:48:34 AM | I totally agree with you i2gobare....I am an older woman...I did not say old...
Since I hit my 40's...look out ...but of course...only with the right man and in a relationship. Yes we gain experience & knowledge for sure.
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Posted: 1/24/2008 9:48:44 AM | I totally agree with you i2gobare....I am an older woman...I did not say old...
Since I hit my 40's...look out ...but of course...only with the right man and in a relationship. Yes we gain experience & knowledge for sure.
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Posted: 1/24/2008 10:34:14 AM |
I notice you mention intercourse but you did not describe any scenario where it happened. You are describing masturbation. I apologize.....I didn't realize that we were playing dumb and ignoring that pornography and masturbation go together. I'll try to be more direct: While we do recognize that there are both females AND males who see pornography as morally wrong.....a literal form of infidelity; I believe that there are a vast number of females who view it merely as a "threat" to the relationship, or at the very least....a red flag that he is less than satisfied with the relationship. I was attempting to explain that while a male may defend his position....that pornography is NOT a threat.....that when the tables are turned....and it is SHE who is seeking "satisfaction" from a source other than him....the HE sees it as a "threat"; and if she says nooooo, it's not a threat......I still ONLY have real sex with you.......ahhhhh, that just doesn't fly well when she says.....I still ONLY have sex with you....I just need to look at Vigor's big whopper before I can get turned on enough BY you to stand actually doing it! ( I do believe that I've heard this labeled as technical fidelity). I don't feel it's necessary to go on with the hundreds of examples that could be sited to demonstrate the hypocracy of the "theory" that pornography is a totally innocuous art form. It's NATURE is not the issue; the resulting ramifications are. Women who have seen first hand.....or heard from friends what these end results can be are naturally going to see this so called "art form" as a clear and present danger to their relationships. Most women, I believe, would prefer to preserve the relationship and thusly....try to discourage the source of the "threat". Now....are we down to brass tacks yet? "Addictions"....whether it be pornography, alcohol, sports, kids, work, drugs.......are "threats" to a relationship. Whether you're male or female....if you're in a relationship with another person who puts their addiction ahead of the needs of the relationship......sooner or later.....CHOICES are going to have to be made! It's like a spouse who thinks that joining a swingers club will spice up the marriage....and then WHINES FOUL when he/she dumps them and runs off with someone they met at the club. You can quote the "rules" all you want....but it won't change HUMAN NATURE.( Well, he/she wasn't supposed to leave ME...and they weren't supposed to meet independently, yada, yada, yada....whine, whine, whine). The fact is....that when you choose the unobtainable, silicone injected bimbo over HER.....don't be surprised if she dumps you for the overweight bald guy next door.......to whom SHE is the "unobtainable" treasure. Likewise ladies.....if you habitually reject sex, or even balk at reasonable requests for a little more "adventure" in your sex lifes....don't be surprised when he dumps you for a woman who's willing to experiment a little with him! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 11:56:43 AM | Well isn't it just the truth that all our situations are/were different and we shouldn't generalize about the opposite sex?
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GrandmaBooBoo, gotta say it, you're great at making your case! Keep it coming!
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In my situation, my husband didn't have interest in porn. He was good in that way. However I had a small wince of pain when I read Cdn Guy's lovely words:
...I missed those deep low sounds that came from deep within a woman when a man knows he's 'hit' a place of importance. I missed that deep 'afterglow' that is like a deep pool in the eyes and radiates outward to surround the body that lays next to me. .. My ex, in one of the last encounters before he left, while still above and inside of me, as I made those "deep, low sounds," says to me: "Wow, you sound like an ol' heffer!"
Takes all kinds to make a world, huh? | |
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