| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:20:19 AM | Well lets see, your about to have sex with a guy, or you just had sex with a guy and then you start asking him questions about his current or former sex life. Do you really expect an honest answer?
In the past I have asked women this in the same situation, the answers range from the absurd to what was probably honest, but the reaction is not normally that of being a fair question. It is usually a sign that the person your with has some self esteem issues or issues of trust and the reaction is usually negative. If a person wishes at some point to bring their past sex life up on their own, then thats fine, but I have learned not to ask based on the reaction by most.
If your worried about STD’s then use protection, don’t base your proactive fight against STD’s on the word of another individual. More then likely you are not getting the truth, or at least you should assume so until the proper amount of time has passed where trust is no longer in question.
As for if I have a starting line up, there was a time in my life when I did. It may be of interest for you to know that this was fed by rejection. The more women that said no the more I took it upon myself to ask more women out. I read somewhere that men's chances for getting a yes answer if he is really active in asking women out is about twenty percent. I never kept track, but this is probably true based on my memory of the experience and kind of gives you a base on where I batted at.
So I was playing around a 200 average and the more women I asked, the more I had in my line up. The more negative the reaction or the worse the rejection the more it fed my want to go out with as many as I could.
Then I met my wife and that all changed. Today after my divorce I can sit here and tell you that rejection keeps me from asking women out. I don’t know why I have changed, but that's the way it is for me today. Perhaps someday I will really join the dating pool again, lets just hope I don’t run into any more bitter women along the way... | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 12:14:43 PM |
The other 20% sure as hell are more likely to stay quiet (or, unless they are extremely good at it, likely not be on the internet in the first place). But they're the ones that will have enough girls on the go that they can do this. And it DOES happen.
ha-ha! You're right about those 20% - which is probably a guesstimate figure- having to juggle a 1st & 2nd string plus a bullpen, why would they have cause to use the internet for online dating. Too bad... It would be interesting to see what their take on the subject would be - it would add balance and dimension. Well . . . . on second thought, seeing their justifications would just make me want to vomit.  | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 12:20:24 PM |
The man who buys them gifts
The man who pays a "few bills" for them
The man who takes her out to dinner
The man who drives her on her errands
The man who takes her on vacation with him
The man she goes to the club/bar with
etc...
Hey! You and I must have been dating the same women or at least met the same women. I sure know a lot more of those type of women than the type of guy who can attract and keep a starter and backup lines of women... | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 1:49:49 PM | LMAO. Hey dreamer, seems like you have been banging your head against a wall after posing a very simple question lol! So settle this conflict in a very easy and understandable way I would say the following. Singles who have the capability of having a rotational lineup do so whether female or male. Their initial rational varies (males tend to do it for sex and females for the financial benefits and attention). However, in the long run, they do it to accelerate the selection process. On line sites have enabled this process as it gives them quicker access to a broader array of people.
Now in regards to the author, she has her book out for one reason only and that is to make money. I am fairly sure when I say that you should take the content for what it is namely fiction based on an incling of truth. If you really want to get to the bottom of this, keep blogging in the forums as you can learn a hell of a lot more than you can from some fictioinal book. Just my 2 cents. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:38:22 PM |
Now in regards to the author, she has her book out for one reason only and that is to make money. I am fairly sure when I say that you should take the content for what it is namely fiction based on an incling of truth. If you really want to get to the bottom of this, keep blogging in the forums as you can learn a hell of a lot more than you can from some fictioinal book. Just my 2 cents.
Chipmonk, Sweetie, you haven't told me anything I didn't already know. Her book is full of funny and amusing analogies and equates - I heard a couple of her lectures - she is seriously tongue-in-cheek. I do have insight and have been blessed with keen discernment-though sometimes, not very often, but sometimes it may take awhile before the light bulb goes on. You know I'm sure you've had those "ah-haaaa" moments.
This forum was probably not the best choice to take a poll of this sort. The real playas that do utilize the rotation method for dating don't need to be on dating sites, plus, as I said earlier they have no need to be. Their justifications, if posted here, would only make me want to vomit | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:54:47 PM |
This was not my theory.... It is the theory of the author of a book I was reading..... My thread is a question asking guys if they use a rotation method for girls who are willing sexual partners!!
SHEESH!!! Based on the rude, hurtful and insulting remarks to demean my character instead of just answering the question posed, by simply saying no, you don't use a dating rotation or saying yes you know of some men who do use it - I have no choice but believe the reason for such ignorance is I didn't word the thread and the question in a way that even the intellectually challenged would not misinterpret. I do apologize for misjudging you.
For someone who complains of others making rude, hurtful and insulting remarks, you do a wonderful job of slinging them right back. Why complain if you're going to reduce yourself to posting something insulting? What did the pot call the kettle?
OP, if you re-read my post, it should be plainly evident that the entire thing was an exaggerated farce. Hello? Fantasy football . . . rotation . . . rotisserie . . . switching teams? It was all in fun and games in order to laugh about. Be insulted if you want to be, but the post was a farce, and nothing more. That begs the question as far as the subject of misinterpretation, doesn't it? | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:56:23 PM |
LOL, it seems I live in a universe that is opposite everyone else's. I'd be happy to have one and that be it
My thoughts exactly. I don't know any guys who have "lines" of women waiting for a phone call. But then again, I dont know many rockstars or millionaries. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:01:08 PM | sounds to me like a book i would like to read for pure entertainment value.. just to be able to witness yet another short sited author who thinks shes got it all figured out about men. Thinking if its put into a book it will make it true..
but then again i could be wrong.. hang on its sunday.. Its my night to be with byonce LOL
tomorrow i told Shakera i would squeeze her in for a nooner then its off to have dinner with agelina Jolie. guess the rest of the puusseycaat dools will have to wait
LOL  | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 7:27:32 PM | | I have heard guys in my classes, and on the street, rating women all the time. "She's a 10" "She's an 8" or "She's a 2". This really makes me ill everytime I hear it. Don't they know that it is a pure trash thing to do. I don't understand it, and probably never will. All I know is that is that I rate guys that do that a "0" | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 7:51:44 PM | I have heard guys in my classes, and on the street, rating women all the time. "She's a 10" "She's an 8" or "She's a 2". This really makes me ill everytime I hear it. Don't they know that it is a pure trash thing to do. I don't understand it, and probably never will. All I know is that is that I rate guys that do that a "0"
Well you're a 0 for bad mouthing the time tested rating scale. 
Seriously, you've NEVER done that with other girls?
What else are guys going to talk about that they all have in common? The conversation isn't for you. It's for them. You shouldn't be concerned about them at all. Whether it reflects on them, you, or anyone else.
It's an enjoyable activity, and if we could hold Olympic rating signs in a civilized manner without getting slapped, we would. Instead now, we are reduced to obnoxious whislting and making animalistic noises. And that really doesn't benefit anyone, does it?
"Hey John, that lady over there seems very intelligent, articulate and sophisticated. I bet she's really respectable, know what I mean? Eh, EH?!" (Elbowing his friend in the ribs) It just doesn't make me happy in the pants. Or anywhere else. Let us have what we have left as men and stop neutering us!
But I don't think that's what this thread is about. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 8:30:13 PM | OMG!!! Happy Pants that was soooo freakin funny!!
Off subject #2 > when my girl friends and I are together just hanging out at the beach or the mall - we often rate the guys we see from 1 - 10 . . . the guys with no shirts and hard-hats usually get an 11, though... (giggles) | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:39:17 PM | | ^ So the guys from the Village People would be right up your alley? Well if you go up that alley you're in for a unpleasant surprise, haha. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/6/2007 10:46:16 PM | I agree with most of the other posters. I don't know any guys who have a so-called rotation.
Are you meeting these guys at bars or on web sites? You are a very attractive lady and have some provocative photos on your profile. Do you think you may be giving the impression that you are more interested in sex than in meeting a decent guy who isn't a player?
Also, I saw an interview last year with an author who is a lesbian who lived for a year as a man to see what men were really like. Then she wrote a book called "Self Made Man". She found, living as a man and talking with men, that men aren't the way most women think they are. There are apparently misconceptions that women have about men. She said she had a pre-conception that most men hated women and were jerks. After a year around men, she came to the conclusion that most men are really good guys and just want to meet a good lady but get treated like "crap" by women.
As one other poster suggested, there is also a chance that you are unconsciously attracted to bad-boys. If so, you want to read a book called "Women who love too much". | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:00:58 AM | | This particular musician only had four LTRs in his life......And the only thing resembling first or second strings for me right now are on my guitar or piano...... Most of these 'theories' seem to get literally 'invented' by the authors simply to have something salacious to say, and give everybody reading it an inferiority complex......the auther gets rich making everybody else feel like CHIT!! hey!!! pretty much the way it is in the forums, huh??? LOL | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/7/2007 4:33:06 AM | It's too bad some people post to threads without reading the all the posts at least from the OP. You obviously either didn't read everything I had to say in response to some of the posts here and obviously haven't read my profile or you don't comprehend what you read. Seems like you only looked at my photos. Just another example of jumping to conclusions.
I won't dignify your uninformed references by commenting on them.  | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/7/2007 4:58:19 AM |
Most of these 'theories' seem to get literally 'invented' by the authors simply to have something salacious to say, and give everybody reading it an inferiority complex......the auther gets rich making everybody else feel like CHIT!! hey!!! pretty much the way it is in the forums, huh??? LOL
I agree with the above quote. I think most of the author's book was written with tongue-in-cheek humor. Nothing however written in books or especially here in the forums should have an influence strong enough for any reader to allow themselves to get an inferiority complex - or feel like "CHIT" (giggles).
The question I posed in this thread was meant to be for discussion. It was not meant to accuse. The "playa" referred to would have no reason to be on a dating site - unless he was here looking to replenish his rotation team  Hence the guys here wouldn't have to defend themselves unless in fact they were playas in disguise, which I seriously doubt any are, judging from the profiles of the guys who posted here. I do read profiles.
The question, Do guys have a starting lineup of girls? doesn't imply the guys here have starting lineups of girls. It merely asks, as in a poll. As in - do you know anything about the subject or do you knowanyone who does have a dating rotation? If it was posed as "Why do you have a starting lineup of girls?" then that would be a whole nuther ball game. (pun intended)  | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/7/2007 6:26:50 AM |
The question, Do guys have a starting lineup of girls? doesn't imply the guys here have starting lineups of girls. It merely asks, as in a poll. As in - do you know anything about the subject or do you knowanyone who does have a dating rotation? If it was posed as "Why do you have a starting lineup of girls?" then that would be a whole nuther ball game. (pun intended)
Totally correct, but most people just don't think that way. When asked "do X often show behaviour Y", the typical response is "I am X, and my behaviour is Z therefore it's wrong" etc. People try to relate questions to themselves and their own behaviours because that gives them the strongest possible reference point they know of.
You'll find people defending themselves in *every* thread that attempts some sort of (typically correct) generalisation. You have to be extremely careful how you word questions like this in order to get the kind of responses you are after! (e.g, 'yes op, I have known guy friends that do this/yes op, I've known girls who have dated guys who openly tell them they are not in the 'priority' position etc') | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:12:06 AM | | Ok, I will answer your question more directly. I am about 50 and I have known lots of guys over the years and we chat about dating a lot. Only maybe 1 in 50 guys will have a lineup of girls like you describe. They are the total jerks. But you know what? They are the guys that the women are most attracted to. The other 49 of us scratch our heads (why I have less hair) puzzled and why the women flock to the jerks who treat them like crap. It is not the behavior of the jerks that you need to examine. You need to examine why YOU are attracted to men like THAT! | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:16:44 AM | I will add:
I am not suggesting you do anything that I don't do, i.e. examine myself. I have found that most women I have dated are controlling, manipulative, ****y golddiggers. Does that mean that ALL women are like that? NO. Therefore, I have to ask myself why "I" seem to be attracted to something in them. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:22:56 AM | I've never had a "line-up"
Granted I've never tried.
I'v always found it proper (and more exciting) to be involved with one woman at a time. Yes, when single I've gone out on a date with one girl, and a few days later went for a walk on the waterfront with another. But that's not having a line-up as you guys are talking about it, I'm testing the grounds, trying to find a woman I'm truly interested in.
I would prefer to be with just one woman, sex is one thing (and a great thing), but honestly I prefer something deeper and and more meaningful. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/9/2007 1:19:01 PM | i think there is absolutely some truth to what the author says. by using the rotation reference though i can see you've already made up your own mind about the idea of a man dating several women at the same time. i can tell you.. it's a bad reference and misconception.. at least in the cases i've seen up close and personal and in my own experiences.
of the few men i know who date multiple women at the same time, most of them aren't like dirty old baseball managers contemplating who to send out for game 2 of a 4 game season series. this is a huge misunderstanding because it's more like a 7 game season series (7 days in a week duh). of course i kid i kid.
all joking aside.... as far as i could tell they treat the women in their lives with respect, honesty, and positive energy. when i reflect back on my nights out on double dates or meeting up at bars/nightclubs, i recall a lot of funny stories, a lot of laughter from the women, games, and just plain fun. whenever a woman wondered if she was the only one... they were always forth coming and honest, right after sex (again i kid)... surprisingly most of the women didn't care (too much fun i guess?) ... although a few did say they were only looking to date exclusively. those who left didn't regret their experience. you know what the really funny part is? most of the women assumed the men, who never mentioned a thing at this point, were dating around!! the questions were usually of the sort "so... how many girls are you seeing?". I'm still trying to figure out how you guys can tell so easily LOL. the point is.. all they do is bring women into fun experiences and surprisingly women are attracted to that and flock to it. novel idea really lol. the ones i knew well were really just good guys and would take the time to stop to help a random stranger in need, as long as she was attractive (lol i'm full of jokes today). but really, i just can't wrap my mind around this concept that just because a guy is dating lots of women that he's automatically a jerk.
I'm almost definitely sure a major part of thier success with women came from way their jobs or hobbies put them in the path of endless females (they claim it's untintentional but i have my doubts hehe). one guy was a bartender, one a photographer (lots of female clients), one a club promoter, etc.... since they were surrounded by females all the time, they naturally became more comfortable with women and had more opportunities. it's funny how rejection gets transformed from traumatic experiences to funny stories when you have other options and i think because of this, they're able to approach strangers and be comfortable and confident and have a high percentage of success, thus further increasing their options if they so chose.
anyway back to the original question of whether guys have a rotation.. well i'm not really sure about that but i do know of some smart supermarket shoppers out there who test for ripeness before purchasing. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/9/2007 3:05:31 PM | | People get older, learn, and change. I don't believe that anyone deliberately sets out to date one kind of person, knowing they'll end up with another. Girls are accused of this too, of course, but I think some people just genuinely are attracted to unstable people when they're young, learn hard lessons, and grow out of it (hopefully!) | |
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