| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/10/2007 7:50:35 PM |
but really, i just can't wrap my mind around this concept that just because a guy is dating lots of women that he's automatically a jerk.
No, just dating lots of women doesn't automatically make him a jerk.
How about the guy who leads a few women to believe they are in an exclusive relationship with him for the sake of having sex on a regular basis (rotation). You know, he has one of them on Friday, his favorite on Saturday, one for Sunday, etc. ok, that's probably an exaggeration, but I think that's the guy the author of the book refers to. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/11/2007 8:45:01 AM | | ^^^From experience and observation, Dreamer (or maybe you should call yourself "dreamy," LOL), such a man is rare. In BOTH senses of the word, LOL. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/11/2007 12:08:53 PM | Oh, I do SO love it when women buy into the "player propoganda." Maybe it's because the only men they hear about from their girlfriends are the ones that are making the rounds. And, it's interesting that the guys only know about the girls that are playing it on the "down-low."
Granted, the hard-core players probably don't answer the forums here, but from the comments it would seem that more women than men are keeping stables at this point.
So, to concur with the other guys answering...
No, I don't have a line-up. But, then again, I can't answer for the other guys out in the world. I have to say what I don't know, won't depress me. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/13/2007 11:19:31 PM | women are just as bad if not worse for being guilty of this. i'm talking from my own experiences here. when i'm with someone i just want to be with them i'm not thinking of the future ex gf.  | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/14/2007 4:44:09 AM |
"I've discovered the truth about why so many women settle for Mr. Wrong. Unfortunately, most women are still using antiquated flirt techniques developed sometime around the invention of the maxi-pad."
That sounds about right.
"They focus on all the wrong things, instead of paying attention to what’s really important..whether or not he’s actually right for you!"
Disambiguation: women use boobs to attract "Mr. Right". | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/14/2007 1:55:46 PM | I've been asked your ? in the past and felt no embarassment or invassion to my privacy. If some one is going to be intamate with some one else. I don't think your question is to much to ask.
Your right on the ball with that.
Get what you want out of any type of relationship.
Honesty and respect being amoung the highes i would think.
Matt | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/14/2007 2:32:46 PM | Never even thought of having a "lineup" of girls to sleep with but I try to make it a point to never pursue just one girl while doing the dating thing. It's a sad truth, but it seems to lower the interest level for many women if they think that a guy only has eyes for them.
At least where twentysomething women are concerned, you can bet that when a "playa" shows up to a party the girls may all talk about what a "dog" and a "jerk" he is...but plenty of them are eager to be his lil' ho for the night.
I still listen to what women say, but I pay much more attention to what (and who) they do. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/14/2007 3:47:53 PM |
There’s a school of thought that many single guys actually use a romantic rotation of the girls they date. How many of you have a starting lineup of girls you date
A starting lineup is different than a pitching rotation -- which is what I assume you're referring to. Best to get the baseball analogy on par. ;)
Humor aside, the answer is the school of thought is off base. If we're hanging out with girls who don't want commitment, and we're caught up in that cycle, then sure, I guess by happenstance we could end up being in situations where we'd have women in the "black book" to hook up with, and women in the "black book" to spend real dating quality time with in hopes to spark a relationship some time.
Men don’t feel any guilt about the rotation method and rightfully so because, after all, they’re not married or not in a committed relationship.
I would say we wouldn't feel guilty about that not just because we wouldn't be in a committed relationship, but only if also the girls we had in the "lineup" (or black book) were also clearly not interested in a relationship. Very important to note! Otherwise we'd be a 'player' or using them.
When it comes to having different partners to fulfill different scenarios, I think the women biologically take the cake on that specific. Women desire the provider, and at the same time, desire the lover. They desire the guy who can take care of them, provide a sense of security and comfort, while desiring the lover that fulfills more sexual needs.
Don't get me wrong, guys can be players. Women are players too -- they just brag about it less, due to the stigma. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 2:43:55 AM | Well........ I must say this, I personally have never considered dating more than one woman at a time, probably because I know how I would feel if I found out my "lady" was dating another man, which has happened to me before. Besides , that is a tried and true method of catching various STDs, which is also my main reason for avoiding the
"friends with benefits" type of relationship.
There was a point in my life when I felt like I had to have a woman around, all the time,
I honestly think that I was addicted to sex at that time of my life. I soon began to realize that I was filling my life with short term relationships, so I decided to focus my energy more on my work, in the music industry. At first I was very lonely, but as the
REO song says "I learned about living alone" and I kept " pushin' on" so to speak, even though I am constantly surrounded by "groupies" I have learned enough to know that
most of the women I come in contact with in this business are'nt the type that one would want to end up being married to.
One might say that I have become very "selective" about who I choose to have on my arm, as I am more often than not in the public eye.
Many say that I'm far too picky, and I'll end up growing old without ever knowing the
proverbial " Love of my Life" , to those folks I simply smile and say "well at least I'll
still have my drum kit"
Y'all be cool...........
Shomesomethin | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:21:59 AM |
The reason I posted this thread is because I read a book by Lauren Francis titled "Dating Mating and Manhandling" . One of the chapters is "The Male String Theory of Dating". I just wanted guy's views on her theory.
Theres your problem right there. You are reading a theory about men's dating habbits from another woman. She is out to lunch with her theory if she thinks what you described in your OP is anything close to reality.
My advice? If you are interested in theories about mens dating habbits, get a book written by a man. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:10:14 AM | Ill answer honestly.
Im "dating" more than one girl at a time, sure. Thats why they call it dating, isnt it?
Im trying to get to know LOTS of diffrent girls, see if any of them are the right one for me, so far, I dont think so.
However... I dont sleep around. I like being STD free, and dont really want that to change if you know what I mean. I am also not ready for kids just yet, and more girls = more chances of that (there are some REALLY crazy bicthes out there) Condoms are not perfect.
So. Id answer that one honestly as well.
Just one at a time. And, if I end up sleeping with more than one, ill be upfront about it. Why wouldnt you be? I dont expect to be the only guy there seeing either.
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:16:13 AM |
There’s a school of thought that many single guys actually use a romantic rotation of the girls they date.
Do you have a link to this study or research that bears this out? | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 1:23:06 PM | In my man-slut days, I did have a lineup of booty call. I used them for sex. They used me for sex. We had a clear agreement, and it was what it was. Even girls I dated, I would tell them I wasn't ready to settle down, so if that's what they wanted - they were better off just being my friend. At that age, many of the women I dated were getting out of their first serious relationship - they were commitment phobic as well - it worked out.
Now that I'm over that phase in my life, I have a different approach to dating. But, if I'm not committed to someone, I'm not committed to them. If they ask if I'm having sex with other women, I just tell them "Until such a time as I'm in a committed relationship with you, I may or may not be seeing other people." | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:02:48 PM | There is no law against sleeping around.
Variety is the spice of life.
If you want a serious relationship then you need to discuss it with your man. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 3:40:30 PM | Guys…
There’s a school of thought that many single guys actually use a romantic rotation of the girls they date. How many of you have a starting lineup of girls you date thinking or knowing you’ll have mind-blowing sex with and then a second string of girls who like you just a little more than you like them that you keep in a holding pattern waiting on the sidelines.
Girls….
Men don’t feel any guilt about the rotation method and rightfully so because, after all, they’re not married or not in a committed relationship. I wonder how many girls ask the guys they’re currently sexually involved with if they are also currently involved sexually with other women.
Hm! I see an internal syllogistical inconsistency between the first and the second part of the quoted portion of the OP.
The first part purports that there A (one) school of thought (ie among many).
The second part states that ALL men are of that school! Which is not true.
As per the good ole STI argument, one word: C.O.N.D.O.M. Much better than taking one's word (either man's or woman's) on whether they are mono or multi!
PS. Ah yes, I forgot!!
My starting line up is:
1. Halle Berry (playmaker)
2. Winona Rider
3. Uma Thurman (3 point shot expert)
4. Angela Jolie (power forward)
5. Th. Theron (center)
Bench: Waiting for draft period.
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Posted: 8/3/2007 5:18:51 PM | I dont have time for it....but for a while I did, and YES, I liked having 2 girlfriends and 2-3 more in the works for when one of them had to not be my girlfriend any more...and I was always up front about it.
Now....Well...I have figured out the type of woman I am attracted to the most so I don't need to experiment any longer, but right after a 13 year marriage, I had no clue, so I had to figure it out. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:01:08 PM |
Men don’t feel any guilt about the rotation method and rightfully so because, after all, they’re not married or not in a committed relationship.
Not true in my case I can't speak for all men. I do not have a "lineup" nor do I sleep around with many women, nor do I overlap sleeping with several women.
One woman at a time, dating, sex... just one. If things don't work out then I move along... I don't return to one I've been with before.
As for talking in emails on here with more then one? Yes... I'm not dating someone in my opinion until I've gone on 3 dates and planning a 4th. One date certainly does not make "dating" in my opinion. Talking in emails, is not dating... anyone who thinks so needs some counciling on their possessive personality trait in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 6:57:22 PM | There are females who do that where they have two guys they are dating and two men spending on her. There are men who do date more than one woman at a time. It definitely happens. It is normal to some extent if it is just dating, but if the persons are expecting something more than just a casual thing then he's totally misleading them. I never heard of any of my guy friends having a line up.
They may have been dating a couple of women without either one knowing of the other. It's not my cup of tea, but it is what they were doing and some women do that, too. I just don't know any who did this rotation thing that you're talking about. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 8/3/2007 7:03:41 PM | The story that a man or woman can have more than one real relationship, in the broadest sense of the word, ie even serious dating, BF/GF sitution, etc, is IMO a Myth!
Only professional playboys have enough time to do that.
IMO, relationships that afford the two parties to squizze in in addition to a rel, work, etc ANOTHER rel, are not real rels, thus, what are we talking about? | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:59:41 AM | | hmmm my theory is this .......top flight daters/players will have many options and i guess its true that their bench cant really be a starter they are just there for times when a type level girls arent available + guys need the ego boost ......not how i am but i think this is what you are rteferring to right ? | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:09:48 AM | Tell you what, I like half the people in this thread, have trouble getting 1, let alone enough that I have to start lining them up in a holding pattern.
Everyone's always heard "be careful what you wish for", you want to coax a girl into a relationship with booze, or with your flashy car and money, better be prepared to be broke and/or drunk a lot.
You base a guy's worth on his 6-pack, his ability to hold liquor, or in general how bad ass your friends think he is then be prepare to see some serious problems later on in life.
There's like 10% of guys, who are having sex with like 40% of the women and those women hold 100% of guys responsible for it. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:38:15 AM |
Guys…
There’s a school of thought that many single guys actually use a romantic rotation of the girls they date. How many of you have a starting lineup of girls you date thinking or knowing you’ll have mind-blowing sex with and then a second string of girls who like you just a little more than you like them that you keep in a holding pattern waiting on the sidelines.
It's not quite as you described but you've got the general idea. In ideal circumstances, I'll be working on 3 or so girls who I might want a relationship with, or at least am really attracted to physically. And I also like to have 2 or 3 others I've been with before sexually, who I only show interest in having sex with. Or drinks then sex. Sometimes girls I was genuinely interested in get relegated to **** buddies if they do something I don't like. In that sense it is their personality and actions that makes me take them seriously or not.
The thing about what i just described above, is that it takes up a lot of time and energy. For me, that can be achieved in optimal circumstances. So right now for example, I have one girl who I can call as a **** buddy, who is cool with that situation, and maybe one or two girls I'm going to go out on a proper date with in the next week or two. I'm on the lookout for a couple more prospects every time I got out.
The reasons i do this are that I have needs, I'm not in a relationship, and it gives me persepective in the dating world. It can be rough out there, but no one girl seems like such a huge deal when you are interested in 2 or 3, and have another couple you can just call for some drinks and sex. Women may frown at this but I am far more reasonable, agreeable, and grounded with every girl I'm into by doing this, and I have no problem remembering that I don't have to take any woman's nonsense. It's something they can pick up on and they treat you better because of it.
I don’t think it’s prying or rude to ask the guys you’re sleeping with about the competition you’re up against to find out the odds of contacting STDs or getting actual commitments from them – IF - that’s what you want.
Not at all, they have a right to know where they stand.
If asked I wonder how many guys are honest with their answers.
This is what I've done since college unless I have a girlfriend, or am just not having much luck. Dry spells where everything seems to go wrong happen too, and at least one day of monumental backfire is bound to occur if you do this. I once found myself in a room with 5 or 6 different women I had slept with, and they were sharing stories about me. Talk about awkward. I asked them if they were forming a union. | |
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