rco
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Joined: 9/3/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| What is a real man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:15:34 PM | Let me tell you ladies what a 'real man' REALLY is.
Outside of the movies, real men are sometimes strong--sometimes afraid, often supportive--and sometimes needing support, usually protective--and sometimes in need of Your protection.
Some real men make a million dollars a year--but most real men make about 35 thousand. Real men love their kids, but can't deal with them every second of the day. Real men are relatively clean, but don't give a crap that every area of the house is dust free.
Real men have faults. They really do. Real men--most men--are AVERAGE with individual strengths and weaknesses.
The faster you ladies get over this DELUSIONAL FANTASY that real men should be 'Real Men'--and that you are little princesses, the better off we'll all be.
With all due respect. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:17:13 PM | Sassyaquarious, Okay, so no fronts. That makes more sense of the "real" part .
This is what I think a real man is: I feel the most like a real man when I a driving my septic hauler moving some serious crap out to the dump station. I bust out my hose and suck the crap out of some port-a-johns. Then I lasso up the restroom and strap in to the back of my truck and move out. It really turns the ladies on when they see me in action. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:24:24 PM | Let us not forget that Lois Lane went for Superman rather than Clark Kent ..... | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:32:25 PM | but I think a REAL man is a man who knows who he is, his strengths AND weaknesses and doesn't need to put on some kind of facade for he is confident within his masculinity... kind of sad how rare that is..
Why do you supoose that is?? Why do think men are putting up so many "facades" and not being confident in their own masculinaty??
What happened over the years that would bring this about?? Why , in your estimation, are guys likes this more nowadays and do you think that maybe something , somewhere may have influenced this process?
Let us not forget that Lois Lane went for Superman rather than Clark Kent .....
Well....same thing with "batmans" thousand different girlfriends.....they all choise batman over Bruce Wayn too......but we don't hear Bruce and Clark complaining about this on plentyoffish lol | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:33:11 PM | Someone stated he wants a woman to tuck him into bed and make house payments.In a time of high priced homes,the couple share the responsibilty of doing that.Either by the woman of the house working outside the home as well as in the home.Stay at home moms support the family unit in child care and care of home.She also is the protector of all that is hers.When her man walks into her arms,she makes his worries,his woes seem so far away.It's simply called love.There is no secret to what makes a man real or a woman real.It all becomes abundantly clear when the chips are down and the arrows slung,he,she stands .
Some may fall,it's when the other one reaches out and shoulders the burden for the family.Love,yup,it's just that simple.Isn't that what makes everyone real? | |
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| What is a real man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:33:11 PM | @rco..
First you ask.. then you TELL us what a real man is?
The faster you ladies get over this DELUSIONAL FANTASY that real men should be 'Real Men'--and that you are little princesses, the better off we'll all be.
SOME women have no such delusional fanasy and don't appreciate you making such blanket statements that actually mirror that which you profess to not like
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ddream
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Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 32 | |
| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:34:13 PM | Well I'm a guy and I don't know..
Maybe it just means that you need to have the proper levels of TESTOSTERON? 
In that case I fit the description, otherwise I wouldn't know WTF "Real Man" means. I know I'm a man, I know I'm real (I'm definately not virtual LOL). So does that make me a "Real Man"?
I guess so. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:39:49 PM |
Why do you supoose that is?? Why do think men are putting up so many "facades" an not being confident in their own masculinaty??
What happened over the years that would bring this about?? Why , in your estimation, are guys likes this more nowadays and do you think that maybe something , somewhere may have influenced this process?
Why are men putting up facades?? Being that I am NOT a man, I don't know, lol.. but I would say that it is probably because they are not confident enough in who they are to allow it to stand on its own.. so they erect and project a false self that they think is more attractive to females (oftentimes by asking questions as to what is more attractive, etc... ).. ironically all they will attract is a woman who isn't interested in the REAL him...
What may have influenced the process? Umm.. his lack of self confidence. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:40:37 PM | Some may fall,it's when the other one reaches out and shoulders the burden for the family.Love,yup,it's just that simple.Isn't that what makes everyone real?
I love your post and your comments are really well thought out and beautiful, but this that I quoted from your post, what do you mean exactly by this? Love makes us real? So if someone has no love they are ....?? ....not real?? lol
I don't know , can you briefly explain.?
Why are men putting up facades?? I don't know, being that I am NOT a man, lol.. but I would say that it is probably because they are not confident enough in who they are to allow it to stand on its own.. so they errect a false self that they think is more attractive to females.. ironically all they will attract is a woman who isn't attracted to the REAL him...
What may have influenced the process? Umm.. his lack of self confidence.
lol I know I can go on about this, but why do you think that many men are not confident? do you suppose there is a neorological imbalance more in males born after 1970 lets say then before lol, I mean I think one just wonders why men NOWadays seem to be having this "dilemma" if you will, I mean....maybe something somewhere in the past 20-40 years could have changed in society or in interpersonal relations, or in individual people to have triggered this. I Surely doubt anyone chooses to have low self-confidence out of enjoyment or because that is who they really are, so it does make you wonder what brought this on.
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:53:58 PM |
I Surely doubt anyone chooses to have low self-confidence out of enjoyment or because they that is who they really are, so it does make you wonder what brought this on.
Surely you jest...
The word self in self confidence lends a clue as to who has control over it.. c'mon!
If I don't have self confidence as a woman why would I waste my time blaming anything outside of myself? For that robs me of the power to do anything about it...
Search for answers.. sure, but then DO something about it. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:54:36 PM | 
Someone that comes home @ the end of the day....tired, dirty,stressed and most likely p*ssed off but still takes the time to kiss you, ask how your day was, and find a way to make you smile!
Need anymore advice!
Cya! | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:01:45 PM | I admit I based my answers on couples and what it means for each other.
For single people,there strength,there reality is in there everyday life.It has to be even harder to fall when you are alone.They face doing it all .Doing it with patience,understanding,respect and love for oneself makes them real.Really,there is no difference.We don't lose our identies of who we are when we become part of a couple,it's just an added bonus,an added extension to what we always were. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:03:49 PM |
Surely you jest...
The word self in self confidence lends a clue as to who has control over it.. c'mon!
If I don't have self confidence as a woman why would I waste my time blaming anything outside of myself? For that robs me of the power to do anything about it...
Search for answers.. sure, but then DO something about it.
Ok I should have worded itdifferently, No one ultimately chooses to be insecure or have low self -confidence, meaning no one enjoys that, so talking about many people having this problem of low self-confidence, especially nowadays, I mean I personally don't feel anyone enjoys it, and also by no means am a totally blaming outside factors. But to use another example, there are many women that go through depression and also , from reading some profiles, some feel upset, discouraged, and just sad , so I am pretty sure they didn't plan on it being that way, no one does. I am not saying that it is not the persons responsibility to get better because ultimately it is the persons choice, but again this is a humble opinion, but maybe some things in peoples lives trigger certain emotions ,dispositions and states of mind and how people feel about themselves.
Thats just my 2 cents | |
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Genrae
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Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 40 | |
| What is a real man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:10:08 PM | RCO, I agree with yours and many of the other comments regarding what constitutes a real man. But your last sentence, contrary to what you say on your profile, displays bitterness, as well as the unfairness of lumping all women into one. :dispute:
The faster you ladies get over this DELUSIONAL FANTASY that real men should be 'Real Men'--and that you are little princesses, the better off we'll all be. With all due respect.
As long as there are men who have the delusional and pompous fantasy of being with Barbie looking princesses and are willing to pay them to have them, there will be women with grandiose delusions of what a real man is…with all due respect.
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:13:34 PM | I found a post that really wrapped up what I think a real man should be, touched on all the main points I consider worth mentioning.
A man is confident, passionate, in control, assertive, strong, brave, loyal, and has a code of honor. He takes risks, and he doesn’t need the approval of others. He has been tempered by fire. He has faced and conquered his inner demons. And yet he is kind, gentle, and compassionate. He likes himself and is comfortable with who he is.
A gentleman is a man who is not afraid of life nor his desires. He has the strength to protect his loved ones, and fight for what he believes in. Yet one who can laugh, grieve, nurture and heal. Who can appreciate the beauty in a child’s smile, in the sunset, and in a woman’s embrace. A man is a mix of both velvet and steel.
No I do not meet this definition entirely even though I see the value in all of it. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:29:01 PM | Re msg 41
Hm! Interesting definition.
Let's do a test on it. Let's replace man with woman and gentleman with lady and see what comes out! If it "clicks" too - ie a "real woman" - either 100 or 80% then what is really the gender ("real man") defining value in it? Should one talk of "real human" instead?
This is 2007! | |
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Genrae
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Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 43 | |
| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:30:40 PM |
I found a post that really wrapped up what I think a real man should be, touched on all the main points I consider worth mentioning.
A man is confident, passionate, in control, assertive, strong, brave, loyal, and has a code of honor. He takes risks, and he doesn’t need the approval of others. He has been tempered by fire. He has faced and conquered his inner demons. And yet he is kind, gentle, and compassionate. He likes himself and is comfortable with who he is.
A gentleman is a man who is not afraid of life nor his desires. He has the strength to protect his loved ones, and fight for what he believes in. Yet one who can laugh, grieve, nurture and heal. Who can appreciate the beauty in a child’s smile, in the sunset, and in a woman’s embrace. A man is a mix of both velvet and steel.
No I do not meet this definition entirely even though I see the value in all of it.
Very nice! Thank you. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:35:05 PM | | A real man is someone who was born genetically male. | |
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rco
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Joined: 9/3/2006
Msg: 45 | |
| What is a real man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:38:07 PM | raerae--i stand admonished and corrected.
you are absolutely right.
i had read thru a couple of dozen female profiles and kept coming up with their desire for a 'real man' and i got a little miffed/pi$$ed--and out of character--a little bitter.
i am like all men, a real man who has great strengths and reasons for admirations--and also weak points. as all men, and all women, i am a person and only a person. i would be happier if women searched for persons (like me) who are multi-faceted and complex--and sometimes weak.
and by the way--i am NOT looking for barbie. anything but.
i am looking for a real woman who is smart, educated, who enjoys her sexuality and free time--and who has her weaknesses too. if any read this, i hope they drop me a line.
thanks raerae | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:42:57 PM | | Actually a Gentleman or a Lady is a little less complicated. These are terms that describe a person that tries to make those around them as comfortable as possible, at ease and polite. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:47:24 PM | | Hey RCO.... When your done with this question... Maybe you should ask these same women.... What make them a Real Woman...lol Seems it's always the man that just doesn't have it together..... | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:59:24 PM | | I will stick to playing with Ken...I can put him back in the drawer when Im done :) | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 9:18:27 PM | | Every woman has her own definition of what a "real" man is to her. Everyone has different opinions about what they think is "real" and right for them. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 9:22:08 PM | Hmmmm..I would think the same has a REAL WOMAN...RARE! | |
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