| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/5/2007 9:26:55 PM | Women BS a lot. They want to f*ck/cheat with a hot guy, and marry a stable provider/"real man". Supposedly more than 25% of the children born in America does not carry the genes of whom the mom is married/committed to.
I wonder how many of us are rearing **stard Children (or are **stard Children in the first place)?  | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:25:35 AM | | Men b/s too. I come from being committed to a man, but he was not. The question was what makes real man. But if going to what make real women, I would hope that she would be all what she expects from her man and more. But remember there are real woman out there, they hide behind wall because when real women come out and she starts to put her heart out there usually the man runs. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:32:24 AM | Any definition of man that involves cars, tools, guns, and sports is ridiculous.
Yes, I own a power drill.... and I look forward to using it someday.... but to be defined by it....  | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:46:16 AM | | Real men were given birth and were raised/formulated by real women. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:47:34 AM | Real men were given birth and were raised/formulated by real women
Good statement nick euroathenian. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:15:18 AM | is subjective to what a woman wants
maybe the post should ask
what do i/you want in a man? | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:45:06 AM | | Strong, sensitive, loyal, loving, funny and trustworthy! oooops sounds like I am describing my cat!!! LMAO | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:59:55 AM |
I found a post that really wrapped up what I think a real man should be, touched on all the main points I consider worth mentioning.
A man is confident, passionate, in control, assertive, strong, brave, loyal, and has a code of honor. He takes risks, and he doesn’t need the approval of others. He has been tempered by fire. He has faced and conquered his inner demons. And yet he is kind, gentle, and compassionate. He likes himself and is comfortable with who he is.
A gentleman is a man who is not afraid of life nor his desires. He has the strength to protect his loved ones, and fight for what he believes in. Yet one who can laugh, grieve, nurture and heal. Who can appreciate the beauty in a child’s smile, in the sunset, and in a woman’s embrace. A man is a mix of both velvet and steel.
No I do not meet this definition entirely even though I see the value in all of it.
That's a very good start, keywhee.
Above and beyond that, a real man does not follow. He makes his own path based on all that he knows to be true and good. A real man believes in God, though he may or may not go to church to speak with Him.
A real man will tell you the truth, whether it hurts you and your relationship with him (be that son, husband, father, or friend).
A real man treats his friends and closest loved ones like his most valued possessions. He would do anything for those he feels would do the same for him. Anyone who falls short of that, is just an acquaintance.
A real man admits his wrongs because he knows he's not without fault to begin with. He gladly accepts victory when it is well earned, and also humbly accepts defeat.
A real man looks you in the eye and searches your soul, smiles at you a genuine smile, and hugs you with everything inside of him. A real man can endure, but he will wear his heart on his sleeve.
My father is a real man, and I'm thankful I've seen what it takes. Some woman will one day feel fortunate to have me. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:36:27 AM | To me a real man is someone that is not listening to society in general and doing what all others do.If he wants to shave his armpits he will do it and won't bother those who say ''men aren't supposed to do that''...
Also someone that is not judgemental and doesn't have sexist views.Nothing gets more on my nerves than a man who will call women who love sex ''sluts'' but who think it's ok for them to be like this.A man who does this is not a real man to me...he's just immature and childish.. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:53:11 AM |
Drink beer
Eat ribs
Burp
Fart
Scratch balls
Play videogames
Watch hockey or football
Hunt women
I hope youre joking because I do... wow I actually do alot of those things, just some not in public :P | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:43:33 AM | Me personally, I think a real man is one one who does not run around sceaming he is a real man. A real man does not need to try to be the loudest, biggest or the meanest to feel like a man.
A real man has:
a vocabulary not just profnaity
compassion for people and all living things
respect for everyone
consideration for others
And contrary to popular belief, a man can lie to us to spare our feelings. Such as when a man comes home after a long day, we (ladies) tend to ask how was your day. Well, instead of telling us that you have had a crappy day and the last thing that you need or want to hear is our voice bugging you; though this may be exactly how you feel, lie to me and say, I have had a long day but it just got better because I see am home to you now. Fake it until you make it! Spare our feeling after a hard day and lie to us!!!!!!!! Also be able to let your guard down enough to feel something. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:50:34 AM |
lol I know I can go on about this, but why do you think that many men are not confident? do you suppose there is a neorological imbalance more in males born after 1970 lets say then before lol, I mean I think one just wonders why men NOWadays seem to be having this "dilemma" if you will, I mean....maybe something somewhere in the past 20-40 years could have changed in society or in interpersonal relations, or in individual people to have triggered this. I Surely doubt anyone chooses to have low self-confidence out of enjoyment or because that is who they really are, so it does make you wonder what brought this on.
Feminism happened. Men when did not reach the age of majority prior to the mid 70s and thereafter are lost and have no idea how to relate to women. They don't know what their role is in a relationship or with other males. They don't know if they are or are not "men", beyond being male. They don't know the rules of engagement with women since previously defined rules disappeared with feminism.
They cannot learn to be "Real Men" since their male role models don't know what it means to be a "Real Man". They are just as lost as the male adolescents who seek guidance from them.
Rather than men defining what a real man is, men have no definition and are waiting for the feminists to make that definition. The trouble with that plan is that they do not know either. They want men to function under the old rules and know intuitively when not to function under the old rules. They expect men to read their minds and to know what they mean when they talk to us in code, typically subtleties that men are supposed to know and when they don't respond appropriately and in a timely manner (we don't know what that time period is) then men pay the price.
Men are condemned when they exert their masculinity and strength and are condemned when they their own emotions and their vulnerabilities are exposed. They are too "male" or too "weak".
Men are to stand-up to anyone and anything else and defer to the female in their life. If they stand-up to the female, then they are dominating, controlling, and aren't "Real Men".
In order for their to be an accurate definition of what a "Real Man" is, men need to establish it. Females can then live with it or live without it. Just as males are expected to live with feminism or live with out it.
Before the "you shouldn't generalize" comments clog up the thread, if the shoe fits wear it, if not forget it. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 12:52:39 PM | | He puts food on the table, and a roof over you his families head. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 12:58:50 PM | Someone who is not a womanizer (that's for young boys, wanting to find out what their friends mother has)
Someone who doesn't live by, or need a second mother (if their to elder and you're in control of the health issue, understandable)
Someone who is independant, has their life and goals sorted
Someone who isn't jealous (I'm not your favorite toy, and your friends aren't going to play with me, or break me)
I'm also smaller, so don't hit me, cause eventually you will go to sleep
anything else (sir) | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 1:32:21 PM | THE REAL MAN: Any man who exibits any combination of the following behaviors.
a.) Has a HIGH amount of self-esteem; views himself as high-status
b.) Doesnt need any outside approval or attention from ANYONE to be happy
c.) Unself-concious; doesnt care what others thinks of him
d.) Is NEVER insecure or nervous (espcially around desireable women), and he sub-communicates this in every little way
e.) Self-confident; NEVER arrogant or insecure, POSSIBLY slightly-cocky. May tease women in a friendly way
f.) Does not let outside events/other peoples opinions (See c.) emotionally destabilize him; is always in control of his emotions
g.) Takes full responsibility for all of his actions
h.) Never whines or complains to get approval or empathy; always accepts the world for exactly what it is
i.) Judges people based on character and personality.. NOT outward appearance/material items
j.) Can be brutally honest (while still being respectful) with everyone(including himself) and is not afraid to put someone in their place when they are out of line; isn't afraid to speak his mind
k.) Isn't afraid to draw boundaries
l.) Mature.. in every sense of the word
m.) Has a PURPOSE in life that he never betrays and pro-actively/ambitiously works towards
n.) Goal-oriented thinker; favors long-term gratification over short (See l.)
o.) Isn't afraid to lead and take control of a situation; doesnt have hesitancy moving foward
p.) Never feels ashamed for his sexual desires & needs; always sexually confident
q.) Is always "himself", and is content with whatever that is (See a.)
r.) Doesn't tolerate disrespect to himself, his property, or his time
s.) Doesn't let women use their sexual power to get anything (whether it be money, or self-respect) from him
t.) Loyal
u.) Compassionate
v.) Independant
w.) Is perfectly happy and fufilled being single; sure, he'd like to find an attractive/beautiful/intelligent woman to spend time with but he doesnt NEED it
x.) Comfortable in the presence of other high-status and/or sophisticated people
y.) Doesnt experience jealousy; is perfectly fine when a woman exersizes her independence and encourages it; enjoys it when others shine
z.) Strong/confident/powerful body language (Stands up straight, doesnt break eye contact, doesnt have any nervous ticks, doesnt have quick/jerky movements, leans back out of self-confidence and lack of nervousness)
a1.) Doesn't feel the need to compensate for himself through gifts, expensive restaurants (Doing either of these things from a place of confidence and high-value is on the other hand OKAY)
a2.) DOESNT invest all his emotion/time into a relationship too early on. He remains an ambiguous challenge | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 1:41:58 PM | Re msg 65
Interesting list/criteria. But do the same criteria not apply to a real woman in 2007? I would think they do (in my book). | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:15:23 PM | | MSG 65, thats the third time thats creeped up in these forums. I think its a load of BS, but thats me. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:18:38 PM | So it all comes down to self esteem and self confidence? Great! That, combined with the fact that I enjoy the occasional quiche, lets me know that I'm not a "REAL" man.
One more thing to not worry about. Where do I go to turn in my copy of "The Manly Book Of Manliness" and the decoder ring? | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:33:10 PM | | everything and anything that is specific to one person who is looking but could be pointless to everyone else. The quilities in the desired amounts that all other did not live up to. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:56:52 PM | | I do not consider my man to be like my father. I never grew up with my father. There for I do not look for someone like him. I do not want my man to walk me across the street as RCO said. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:15:45 PM |
One that does not require batteries.
Haha. I was going to say 'One that doesn't come in a box and require the aid of an air pump'. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 4:11:59 PM |
Women want all these things, AND they want their guy to be drop dead gorgeous. Most men who are the best at all the things mentioned in the other posts, are not the ideal looking man. Most guys who are faithful and loyal and protectful of their ladies, arent the most attractive men in the world.
That is not true. Not ALL women care about looks. I judge someone by how they treat others, if they are kind, compassionate and responsible,, they get my vote. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 4:19:48 PM | | A real man has respect of himself and those around him - a confidence and an ability to lead a good and productive life in regards to friends and loved ones!! Intelligent and honest!! All of which leads to being liked and cared for making him a 'real man'!!! | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 4:26:49 PM | all the women i have met judge me either on my looks or cause of the money i make,
that just irritates me too no end | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 4:50:06 PM | A " real man" to me is a man who makes me feel like a " real woman". He doesn't have to sputter and puff himself up to do this...either .......He just HAS IT!
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