Genrae
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Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 76 | |
| What is a real man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 5:48:04 PM |
raerae--i stand admonished and corrected.
you are absolutely right. Well, since you "Bucked-up" and took the criticism like a "real man," I guess I'll forgive you. And keep in mind, my forgiveness has NOTHING to do with you telling me that I'm right.....hardly....sorta....ummmmm, well regardless of WHY you're forgiven, you're forgiven..... | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:19:06 PM | | This probably should be on a different thread but....Why does a real man have to believe in God? Can he not just believe in himself or a code of honor or something other than a deity? And if he does have to believe in God, which one? | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 6:26:07 PM | keywhee you can believe or choose not to believe in anything you want. A belief in God is a dealbreaker to some of us though . If that is what someone is looking for in a man then why would they be with someone who does not believe? Look for women who this is not a deal breaker for and we can all find what we want.  | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 7:09:38 PM | | Well, I'm not saying that I do not have any kind of faith. I simply asking if it's possible to have real men of quality who is an atheist, agnostic, Christian, Muslim, Hindu, etc.? Is faith in a deity necessary? It's more of a philosophical question than anything. I'm completely aware there will not be a right or wrong answer. It would be interesting to hear others thoughts on this though. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 7:20:57 PM | | ((Is faith in a deity necessary)) To me it is. Also a man being the same religion as me is a necessity . I speak only for myself however . There are plenty of men and women out there who do not share my beliefs on this and that is fine.So for others it may not be necessary but for me and others like me it is. Sorry but that is the best i can explain myself on it.No doubt there are good people out there of many faiths or even people who are atheist or agnostics .I need to be able to share my faith with the man i love who will hopefully become my future husband. This is a deal breaker for me. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 7:32:09 PM |
Is faith in a deity necessary?
Cool question keywhee... the answers will be subjective depending on the point of view of course..
I am going to say that no, it isn't necessary regarding your philosophical question..
But to answer for what would be compatible for me would be a different answer..
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Titian
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 82 | |
| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:01:48 PM | A real man is considerate,caring,compassionate,loving,respectful,etc....
A real man is not afraid to be who he is...and can open up and show his weaknesses in hopes that he can have a meaningful relationship....with his someone special.....YOU KNOW TAKE A CHANCE...NOT HAVE WALLS....BUILT TO THE SKYYYYY...
There is alot more to A REAL MAN....
To be continued.... | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:06:27 PM | A real man ONLY says I LOVE you when meant.......and you should know that he truly means it.........
A real man is honest and open, yet uses tact as his guide to share what he knows, is asked of him, and what he wants to give.
A real man will seek a real woman, and the two of them will know and understand each other........
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:17:50 PM | I liked her explanation..Shemail06
I also noticed some nice looking women as i scanned through this i plan on contacting..
Now women why is it you are not listing these things in your profile of what type man you are in search of??I have noticed a few of the princess type that thinks they are to good to be in the company of a..so called real man..and had rather be admire from afar and not touched..this is a dating site or am i dreaming??My opinion and only an opinion from many years of personal experience..most women want a real men to take care of them financially and another to take care of them sexually..Now ladies..will you please review your profile and honestly ask for the man you are in search 0f?? and not get so offended if a real man ask you to have a sexual encounter with them especially after they wine and dine you at some real expensive restaurant with some dinners costing 2,3 or even 5 hundred dollars and you get or act offended if the real man ask to spend the night with you,if this does offended you than you should pay half the cost or if you are not out to get laid??take the real man out to a nice expensive dinner with the wine and dine and all the friel's..i like a pretty face but if i notice those fancy nails and facials i stay clean..come on women now be truthful..it takes two men to be your real man......... | |
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Genrae
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Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 85 | |
| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:18:17 PM |
Well, I'm not saying that I do not have any kind of faith. I simply asking if it's possible to have real men of quality who is an atheist, agnostic, Christian, Muslim, Hindu, etc.? Is faith in a deity necessary? It's more of a philosophical question than anything. I'm completely aware there will not be a right or wrong answer. It would be interesting to hear others thoughts on this though. The pastor of the church that I attended growing up said, "it doesn't matter what you call the higher being, as long as you believe in SOMETHING... A real man/woman has goodness in their heart, regardless of religeous beliefs. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:17:08 PM | A Real Man knows that most women are lost, but that there is no point in whining about or trying to fix them. The world is mostly screwed up cause women are busy trying on new version's of what a women should be -- and making up ideals of what they think a man should be to appease them.
Truth is that it will take women several generations before they arrive at a point where they realize what most men learn early in life. Until then we men will have to serve as scapegoats for all that is wrong with the world. That means the next couple of generations of men are probably lost causes too -- but hey we are men -- we can take it on the chin and our identities of self will survive. Disaster just makes us stronger and lets us define our strengths.
If your a man, you live with some code of honor -- plain and simple. Weaker men need religion or authority figures to define the rules for them. Real men make the rules based on ethical reason (and often based on own experiences).
A Real man builds things and values the drive to accomplish. We cant make kids, but we can make a lot of other stuff. Weak men get joy out of doing the opposite, and putting down men who do build things or accomplish things. Slimy men take credit for the work done by real men. Thats why we have so many talking heads and yuppies as leaders instead of real men.
Real men give others the dignity of feeling like they are worthy. You stand up against stupidity, even when most people think you are wrong. Sometimes you sacrifice life, other times happiness to save others -- even strangers. In this regard men know they are brothers-in-arms with a common cause that women will just never understand. We don't do it to be macho. We do it cause its the right thing to do.
Real Men keep their secrets to themselves - cause most women will end up despising us for those secrets -- whether we share them or not. We keep weakness, fear, and pain to ourselves cause others (women included) use them against us more often then not. We know showing weakness in front of a woman is like showing fear in front of a mad dog -- neither will treat you the same way after it happens.
If we're right then we are confident of it (that means stubborn - yeah women we know you hate that word lol - sorry too bad). If we are wrong then we shut-up until we figure out what is the right thing. Don't assume that cause we men are quiet that we are insecure or indecisive. We just prefer to evaluate and appraise before taking the best action sometimes.
You accept that being a Real Man is like being a Leader -- meaning you usually have to stand alone in the face of the majority. You take the abuse and the punches, and dam the consequences to yourself. If reason and experience says its right Then you suck it up -- and just do it. Men know to expect more losses then victories, and keep moving on in life until the day someone plants you in the ground.
A Real Man doesn't need a woman to tell him what he is. He follows the basics of "do good, dont be cruel, stand up for whats right, dont be worried about being wrong" -- and accepts that women have no clue what a man stands for. Most importantly (and what should be obvious) -- A real man doesnt give a rat's a*** what women's magazines says a "Real Man" should be. Only players try to present themselves as being what a woman has fantasies about.
Now if your a woman who is scratching her head after reading all this -- then dont sweat it. We dont expect you to be like us, so stop feeling the need to compete or be better at something then we are. Competition breeds poverty anyhow. Cooperative efforts and sharing the load is what builds nations. Trust fools and evil men to tell you otherwise.
That ladies is what a real man is. Feel free to disagree, but don't expect us to change any time soon. Am I wrong guys?
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:25:13 PM | | can someone loan me a man? so I can figure out what a real man is | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:25:42 PM |  Exactly! "Real" Hello people look up the definition. Experience has been that men (and woman) pretend to be something else to get their woman (or man). They pretend (not be "real") to be a certain way or like certain things to spend time with the person of interst (target), get to like them, and then after about 3-6 months, they can't keep the act going anymore. The "target" likes the "pretend" person because the person "pretending" created themselves according to what they knew the "target" likes. Who gets hurt? How much time was wasted? Wouldn't it be harder to pretend to be something else than to just be yourself? I don't want someone to trick me or waste my time. Be yourselves so you can get to know each other and like each other for who you are not what you think someone else wants you to be. Happy fishing. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 2:15:42 AM | Most of the recent posts "define" a real man is such a way that it makes me question what is the difference, in 2007, between a real man and a real woman! IMO, the genitals.
Do real women use a different part of their brain more and do real men use a different part of their brain more? Are real women better "multi taskers" than real men or all women than all men?
What is still unclear is what a real man is compared to an "unreal" man! Is the "unreal" man of 2007 the "real man" of 1907 or 1607? | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 2:42:46 AM |
Well, I'm not saying that I do not have any kind of faith. I simply asking if it's possible to have real men of quality who is an atheist, agnostic, Christian, Muslim, Hindu, etc.? Is faith in a deity necessary? It's more of a philosophical question than anything. I'm completely aware there will not be a right or wrong answer. It would be interesting to hear others thoughts on this though.
I think it depends on the situation. Personally, I seek out others with relaxed beliefs or those similar to mine because I see potential for a ****load of conflict between two people who are seriously devoted to different religions trying to start a relationship. However, if I come across the love of my life and she has different beliefs I honestly wouldn't care if she didn't try to force them upon me. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 5:26:03 AM | I like what Mrs Lucci said
On a serious note,I think a real man is one of mostly old school values.Protects his home,hearth.One that beleives ALL women deserve respect.One that believes he is the protector.Loves his mom,apple pie and country.
the words : honesty, chivalry, gentleman attributes | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 5:46:49 AM | | So a real man is a man who lives in the past? Sounds like one Meg Ryan movie..... Very real! | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:39:03 AM |
But to answer for what would be compatible for me would be a different answer.
Yeah, when it comes to compatibility, the answer is going to be different most of the time. Most of us do want similarity in mindset be it religion or politics.
FYI - hilarious headline. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:29:08 AM | What is a real man? Good question. Well, a real man isn't perfect because no one is, but a "real man" would have more positive qualities than negative ones.
A real man takes responsibility for his actions. If he gets a woman pregnant and they don't stay together, then he pays child support. It doesn't matter if the woman misuses that money. At least he has taken the responsibility. And a real man would do his best to be as much of a part in that child's life as much as he can, not shirking his responsibilities one way or another.
A real man respects women but does not suck up to them. A real man maintains a certain amount of emotional distance from a woman, not giving too much of himself or his time. He leaves her (with her) wanting more, not less. He definitely doesn't take BS from a woman, no matter if it's his mom or girlfriend/wife. If she treats him bad, no matter how much he likes her, he won't put up with it.
Now let's talk about what a real woman is (or isn't). For one thing, she's not a competitor or ballbuster. She takes care of her body by exercising and not eating too much. She would rather have the man take the lead than vice-versa, including having him wear the pants in the family. She doesn't complain about cooking or other household chores. Of course, she would understandably be annoyed if she has to mow the grass too because her bum boyfriend or husband is too lazy to do it. She enjoys being feminine and yet doesn't have a princess entitlement mentality where she thinks the world owes her everything because of her beauty.
Most of the real women I've been with were not from the USA. They were from places as diverse as Norway, Japan, and Brazil. They were romantic and didn't mind nights of cuddling and steamy sex. They weren't looking for me to support their lifestyle. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:39:52 AM | Read the poem "if" by rudyard kipling.
that is what a real man is/should aspire to be from boyhood. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 11:37:18 AM | My opinion is that a "real man" is confident and content with who they are.
Forget the stereotypes, because they change with time and even location. What matters is that they can look themselves in the eye in the mirror. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:16:59 PM | | In my opinion Nors8OO posted list is pretty much on target. Note the things NOT listed in there, nothing about looks, money or the size of ANYTHING. I would take the man I am currently with over any GQ looking, convertible driving, big house owning Hercules any day of the week and I have dated many of those types. Now, if there are any of those types reading this that also have a personality, sense of humor, are compassionate and honest then you aren't the ones I am talking about, just know that you are in the minority. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:21:45 PM | | That is a term I would never use, but if you are looking for some sort of definition of what this woman wants...one thing I never see addressed here is the importance of a man who actually likes women. LIKES. Not wants for sex, or questions their motives, or guards himself against them. I mean a man who's not afraid to like women in general. To walk amongst them. To understand their positives and negatives. To accept the differences and embrace them. This will be one lucky man. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:37:50 PM | Real man??????????
Have women been with plastic artificial dummies or something?
I did not realise that real man was in such short supply.
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