| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:31:59 AM | Amusing.........
My definition of a "Real" man.
You do what is right, no matter how hard it is, every time, and not just when it is convenient. You do it ESPECIALLY when it is inconvenient, and watch the weak fall by the wayside. Honor is not a word, Responsibility is not an idea, they are lifestyles.
You help others, how and when you can, the less fortunate, because remember ***hole, that will be you someday needing help.
You step up and stand for what you believe in, in front of God and Country, no matter what anyone else thinks, against no matter how many people. This is not a popularity contest, or who can **** who over the fastest. This isn't "bending before you break" because you have the balls and backbone to stand firm in your Values and break everyone who even tries to bend you.
I do NOT offer BS when the Truth will do. If you want BS, go to your "friends".
I deal in Real world, come to me when you want real answers.
I do not play games, I stopped that when I was a child, and after I became a man, I put childish things away, as they should be.
You are the everyday man, of the old days, that worked hard, played often, did your best, raised your family right, and tried like hell to make a good life. You may not be rich, but you have a damned good life, and you can go out knowing YOU, out of so many others, didn't hurt or step on someone else to get where you are at.
When I croak out, someone MIGHT remember me as a decent dude who did his best.
In the end, I don't give a shit, because, I know I did MY best, by the old rules, and the old ways.
At the finish line, I don't give a shit one what anyone else thinks, because I am the one that has to pay for what I do, or do not do, right or wrong. If I thought differently, I would be a POS Politician, and sell you a used car with no compunction..........
NOTE- I just repeated after SLow Hand too. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/21/2008 11:51:40 AM | | & all that is from someone calling himself "Kingdongilingus", named after a 1970 porno star. Hhmmmm.... | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/21/2008 11:55:22 AM | So real woman want someone who
...put God above their wives, children, career and prosperity.[/unquote] What centuary are we living in here?? I'm glad I'm single...  | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/21/2008 1:56:46 PM | A "real man" is a manipulative term that is used to shame someone into a behavior that would benefit the person doing the shaming.
If you have a "Y" chromosone and you're not acting like someone you're not then you're being a real man. It's not more complicated than that. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/22/2008 2:30:52 PM | What am I looking for...its really quite simple gentlemen.
(1) Honesty - LORD how we throw that word around like its a volley ball. The definition on honesty (in my opinion) is speaking the truth even if you don't think I'll like it. I'm a big girl. I'd rather be pissed about what you have to say than that PLUS the lie you told to cover it and I will NEVER respect you after that. NEVER
(2) Healthy Mental Attitude - I've said it before in many posts. The men of today are B R O K E N. There's a switch in the vast recesses of their emotions stuck in the off position and they can't quite figure out how to get it back on. If I have to hear one more sob story about how bad your ex treated you or how she won't let you see the kids or you've been with three women who all cheated on you I really think I'm gonna FFO (Flip the phuck out) and stab you with my salad fork. If you haven't healed thats fine but don't subject me to playing "therapist" when its suppose to be a date.
(3) Shaved Nuts - Yeah damnit I said it. Hairy nuts are NOT sexy. There is nothing more disgusting then looking down to see the top of Yoda's head.
(4) Direction - Ok, so maybe your not Bill Gates, maybe that mansion is still in the works, maybe your just going back to school after a long hiatus, maybe your starting over after divorce. All of that is fine but have some sort of direction. Don't be a passenger on the train of life be a participant. A complacent man is a turn off to me.
(5) And last but not least, if you do not take care of your kids, if you owe back child support, if you haven't seen them in 2 years because you don't like your ex or who she is with right now, if you barely remember their birthdays then it's a WRAP. It will never ever happen between us. I can not respect a man that will sow his seed and then not tend to it.
And i get this question a lot -"So, are you due back child support or something" LOL. The answer is no. But I see the results and the fall-out from men not taking care of their kids and it makes me so damn mad I could choke out the very life he breathes.
That's it...everything else is just icing on the cake. It's not a requirement to be rich or tall or gorgeous and all that. Just decent, mentally healthy, with a sense of purpose and responsible. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/22/2008 2:48:50 PM | In my opinion when I use the phrase "real man" I mean:
He is not prettier than I am
He does not take longer to get ready than I do
He does not need or ask for my opinion on how his outfit looks
He does not wear more jewelery than I do
He does not need me to reassure him more than I need reassurance
He is not a moody as I can be
I should never have to worry about hurting his feelings more than he should have to worry about hurting mine.
And he doesn't take bubble baths by himself in candelight while reading a book in order to relax. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 4/22/2008 3:12:44 PM | I'm not sure what every one elses discription is but mine is pretty basic.
Be a man, be proud of who and what you are, enjoy your maleness. Have honor, integrity and dignity.
Not terribly complicated.  | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 9:14:07 AM | I honestly still think that a real man is a man who knows that the only person he can ever trust unconditionally and without fear of betrayal is himself, first of all.
When a man knows this and thus has a deep, complex, and fulfulling relationship with his inner self, he is another step closer to being a real man.
When a man uses his relationship to have the courage to explore the potential heartbreak of the real world, whether in love, war, or daily routine, he is another step closer to being a real man.
When a man uses his relationship with himself as the one thing he holds fast to, as opposed to the supposed need to feed his family with bribe money, or the need to sexually satisfy his cravings outside of marriage, he is another step closer to being a real man.
There are many steps on this path. In many ways, every temptation and every fear and every emotion is just another step on the path. The most important thing to be true to in all of it is that relationship you have with yourself.
That is what makes a Real Man.
Actually...
That is what makes a Real Human Being, I might rather say, regardless of gender, race, or any other labeling.
~ David | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 10:54:38 AM | by some women's definitions a real man, in knowing his strengths and weakness would allow him to cry for he should not care what anyone thinks as he makes his decision in carrying out his actions but if you go down a list of a myriad of items, there will be disagreement and thus there cannot be a real man beyond a man with X and Y chromosomes.
A real man picks his butt, scratches his chest, farts in the faces of his buddies, enjoys porn, is a perv, talks about his conquests in degrading terms, and refuses to put down a toilet seat. but then you'll get the feminists who will alter this and convert a real man into a genderless metrosexual.
i've seen on women's ads the term of them seeking a real man. when do you see men posting that they are seeking a real woman?
woman fill their whimsical criteria with so much fluff and then settle for some loser when all's said and done and then when she's busted up with him, she'll say something stupid like "well i was attracted to his eyes". | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 1:02:40 PM | well... i think that a real man is a man who isnt complaining when his hot girlfriend wants to have sex, a guy who isnt against trying new things like 3 somes . a guy who does what ever he gotta do to keep his gurl satisfied even if he gotta take a lil blu pill to do so. and if he finds it hard to keep up with her he shud work out or take vitamins or something,. i also think that a true man isnt afraid to cry evry once in a while in front of his girl -- but only if they are serius becuz it can be weird if u just met the guy and hes crying all over you. and finally i think a really man is one that CAN **** HIS GIRL IN THE ASS when she begs him too, becuz if you dont the friend or cousin will .   | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 1:56:08 PM | ^ my circuits are going crazy.
maybe a real man would rescue a hot gal from the bronx as well. hmmmmmmmm | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 2:12:25 PM | Well, real men actually don't care what women say in their profiles all that much. Real men are aware of their limitations, they can either hit the mark woman want or they can't. ... and they will deal with it, either way. BUT basically a real man is a man that is willing to "step up" when necessary ... otherwise they are generally no different than other men. You will never recognize a real man until you see him in a situation requiring him to rise to the challenge. Bravado, image, cars, money etc. will not provide clues to this. But women none the less are still attracted to these false identities. (playing the odds I guess)
Advice for women: Entering I am looking for a real / good / honest man just advertisers the fact you can't find / attract them. Why would these men now choose to pursue you? These challenges do not work, in fact they work against you. Real / Good / Honest men who may be interested in you already assume you would accept nothing else ... that's why they are interested. If you must enter that challenge, at least put the word "another" in front of it (I am looking for ANOTHER real /good / honest man". That will fool some of us. :-) | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 2:17:19 PM | Sweet Evil Je$u$ DRbarbiedoll369.
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You're not looking for a real man YET. You're still trying to find a smart man. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 2:22:01 PM | (1) Honesty
(2) Healthy Mental Attitude
(3) Shaved Nuts
(4) Direction
(5) take care of your kids
One of these things is not like the others. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 5:36:37 PM |
I believe when a woman walks into her man's arms she should feel it is the safest,most loving place on earth.His arms have to be wide enough to accept her follies,family and friends.When he can do all this with a smile and with love,he is to me a real man. .
And shouldn't he feel that too. There is no such thing is a real man by woman's standards. Men need just as much emotional comfort/emotional protection as women. He needs to know that she'll be there for him and take care of him if he is ever sick and in a fight. And men need to be held just as much as women. Most of all never expect him to change.
It seems a real man puts his woman's needs above his at the cost of emotional , physical and mental destruction. That my friends is not a man but someone who is whipped. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 5:46:07 PM | | Once women stop wearing extensions, lip stick, blusher , weaves, and all other types of enhancers then they can ask for a real man. U dont think we wonder where the real women are when we get up in the morning and the face you had last night is on the pillow and what is gazing back at us is still in the early stages of change. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 5:50:10 PM | Re the Opost
IMO a Real man is every man who can still get it up and keep it going with his SO after a hard day at the office and lots of whining by her and the kids in the evening at home!
A Smart man is one who does not get married and have kids these days. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/1/2008 7:39:14 PM | What counts for a real man in my life is
a man whos going to be ok with me having kids cause i am a single mom..
whos going to be there for you and them when ever or where ever hes needed.
whos going to only want you and no other girl who walks by him | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/2/2008 6:52:00 AM | You know what - there isn't such a thing - a modern myth!
Without blowing my own trumpet, I'm a fairly manly man, live my life to a set of moral ethics, accept responsibility for my own actions, try not to knowingly hurt or deceive anyone and so on. I'm honest, protective, humourous and so on, and you know what - often, when I've met ladies looking for a 'strong man' or a 'real man' - generally, when they find one they decide they want George Clooney dipped in chocolate!
Hey, it's no problem for me though - I carry a brown paper bag and a small bar of dairy milk around with me - lol.
Have a great day! | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:25:42 PM | | My definition of an "unreal" man involves cardboard... and possibly TP tubes.... | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:01:10 PM | I actually prefer men who are taller than average but also thinner than average who doesn't have bulging arm muscles but still a comfy chest.
it is a psychological error that we all want Fabio or Brad Pitt.
I know a guy in town who, to me is better looking any day of the week than brad pitt, or george clooney or whoever straw head actor with an IQ at the same as Forrest Gump.
He is in a very manly profession- but that doesn't matter either
He is sexy for being able to laugh at himself- and he is a real man because he
knows his priorities, and responsibilities | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:06:56 PM | | to most women on this site...a REAL MAN is what they overlooked to go out with the really really cute badboy who showed interest, took them out...went home with them and haven't called since. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:51:19 PM | I'm sure I'm repeating what some others have said (haven't read each and every post), but gonna throw in my two cents anyway.
What matters to me about a man is how he treats me as well as how he treats other people. Being honorable in how he lives his day to day life is important. I respect men who speak of their moms, female relatives, and former S.O.'s with respect vs. bitterness and anger; men who are kind to small animals, children, and oldsters; men who will go out of their way to help another human being with no expectation of getting anything in return; who value family and believe in fidelity, even when it would be much easier not to; who have a spine and aren't afraid to use it; and as an earlier poster said, a man who takes care of his children.
How much money he makes, what kind of car he drives, or what job he has are not nearly as important as who he is on the inside and how he demonstrates that every day. | |
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:06:07 AM | I always thought that "REAL MAN" was lady code for "a man that will put up with my BS"
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| What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:21:37 AM | | A real man is a man who acts as he pleases and thinks for himself. This is because he knows what he wants and doesn't belong to a crowd and doesn't define himself along their lines. I do WHAT I WANT and if that involves eating quiche or watching a chick flick, so be it. Straight up, when I walk into a room women's jaws drop. My life doesn't revolve around what women want or what any others think. I'm all action and adventure and soaking up every last drop of what life has to offer, because I'm here for a good time not a long time. I know it's hard for a man to say to himself "I can have whatever woman I want" but guys it's true in my case and it can be for you too. | |
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