| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:20:11 AM | 3. Also, is there even such a thing as a bad kisser yeah there is. First kiss can make, or break the deal. Worse case scenario it's like being punched in the mouth and leaves your lips bruised for days. Best, makes you want to lean in and do it again. | |
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| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:52:33 AM | I've wondered about this myself.
I don't think we are "born" bad or good kissers. However, I think there are personal characteristics that lend one to be a bad kisser or a good kisser or at least trainable.
I think age and experience can be a factor. However, I met a very nice guy, close to my age. He'd been married, had girlfriends. In short, he should have had lots of experience by now. He was an *awful* kisser! I never got past that. I doubt at that age he'd be trainable. If he was still that bad after a wife and several girlfriends, I don't think there's much hope. I've wondered if a bad kisser could be good in bed because I can't imagine someone that clueless on *that* physical level being more tuned in at a more intimate level. However, a friend of mine said a former GF of his was a mediocre kisser but good in bed. I guess it's possible. Kissing is important to me and I can't imagine being with a bad kisser and more than I can imagine being with a bad lover.
What makes a bad kisser? The guy jabs his tongue down your throat. You feel like you're being attacked. He kisses way too hard. He's too much in a hurry. He's smashing your face into the pillow. Not good.
A good kisser takes his time, is sensual. Soft lips. Probes gently. Kisses you all over, not just your lips. Especially the neck and down the back. Backs off occasionally. Approaches gradually. Starts off gently and slowly turns up the intensity. Pays attention to his partner's response. If she's pulling away or holding back, backs off. Gives her a little and then withdraws a little, allowing *her* to be drawn to *him.*
Rough skin can ruin a good makeout session. I *really* appreciate a guy who shaves carefully shortly before a date. I've gotten rashes on my face from rough stubble. No one likes to make out with a wire brush! This is especially important if he's going to be kissing her in even more delicate places.
I like beards and mustaches, but I want the mustache trimmed so I can feel his upper lip. I kissed a guy who had a long mustache that covered his upper lip and it really detracted from the experience.
I agree with the previous poster about smokers. Kissing someone who has been smoking is like licking an ashtray. Yuck. If you smoke and want to kiss, refrain before the date or go brush your teeth.
Finally, you can always ask a woman, "Show me how you like to kiss," and then be very receptive. | |
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| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 9/1/2008 7:36:59 PM | This is interesting because it's one thing on which I am complimented constantly. I don't try to be a good kisser and have no idea what it is that brings the compliments. So I have wondered what makes a good kisser and what makes a bad kisser but decided that if I thought about it too much then I'd start "trying" and then become a bad kisser.
One thing I've wondered is if it comes from how a person "feels" the intimacy during kissing. I'm not sure if that makes sense. | |
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| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:08:06 PM | 1. Do any of you think its possible for a bad kisser to become a good kisser?
I don't think I was ever a "bad" kisser, but like all of us, I was inexperienced at one time. It was my first real intimate relationship that I was taught how to get them to want more. One of my shorter relationships, but in the short time we were together, I learned so much, including the art of a good kiss and how powerful it can be.
By the time I got to my most recent ex, I had come quite far in that art. So much so, that there were times that she would flat out refuse to let me kiss her goodnight when I was leaving 'cause it always got her wet, and she would wanna do me standing up. LOL. I always regarded that as at least some hint that I was acceptable by her standards.
I even got one girl who absolutely LOATHED kissing of ANY kind to now crave them (from me at least), so I must be doing something right I figure.
But everyone is different. The last ex enjoyed the deep, passionate, knee-knocking kisses that lingered, but others just like the quick, but kinda intense kiss. It just depends on the person. Generally speaking, I'll start slow and paced and not so invasive. I'll let her actions guide me to how she likes to be kissed.
MMMmmMMMMMMmmmm..kissing kicks all kinds of ass!   | |
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zonea
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| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 9/2/2008 1:23:10 AM | "He told all his mates what a crap kisser i was, and dumped me. I cried!
Praticed on my giant teddy bear for months."
LOL, what did you do with all that fluff you must have got in your mouth! | |
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zonea
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| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 9/2/2008 1:25:56 AM | "I like beards and mustaches, but I want the mustache trimmed so I can feel his upper lip. I kissed a guy who had a long mustache that covered his upper lip and it really detracted from the experience."
So true! My SO had a thick moustache and it can really ruin things when you get hair in your mouth. I have always wondered what it's like to kiss a clean shaven guy...more space for the mouth to roam... | |
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| Bad kisser becoming a good kisser? Possible?
Posted: 9/2/2008 2:20:19 AM | 1. A lot of work goes into transforming a bad kisser into a good one, and sometimes it's not worth the effort. Don't know about being born a good/bad kisser, but it usually forms along the way until you develop a style that is you whether that be good/bad.
2. Guidance usually helps, depending on the other persons style justuse your tongue to either speed it up or slow it down and hopefully they will start to copy. If that fails, just cut straight to the chase and tell them what you like and don't like.
3 & 4. Oh there are definitely bad kissers in existence! Some guys kiss like they are trying to lick the inside of your mouth out, they shove their tongue too far in your mouth, some guys tongues bounce around like rapid fire or just lay there doing nothing (no, having someone elses tongue just shoved in your mouth not moving is NOT good). If you have to wipe your face off after you kissed someone then that's a bad kiss. There is a definite lip : tongue ratio, and I don't think (IMO) that the tongue side of it should EVER outweigh the lips side of it.
I think there are definitely bad kissers out there, without doubt, BUT, having said that, each to their own and what is bad to one person may be wonderful to the next. Like most things in life. | |
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