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 Hott Buttered Soul

Joined: 5/2/2007
Msg: 51
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Posted: 5/11/2007 1:54:49 PM
$1200 a month? 3-4 dates a week? I dont know any man that spends that kind of money on dating.

Not anyone with brains anyway.
 capt141stpa

Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 52
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Posted: 5/11/2007 2:02:22 PM
the girl i was seeing we would go out 3 4 times a week. prices where i live are not the greatest to do things movies alone are 10 per person to get in mini golf is 12 a person per game
but like i said i think the girl was just useing to get a free meal and entertainment cause once i started to say lets not do dinner but go do something els such as going to the park by the lake or even jsut go for a drive to get ice cream she wasnt up for it it had to be dinner she has since been put to the side
i like to do the what they call lil things in life like a walk through the park mini golf take the boat out on the lake for alil where are the women at the enjoys the lil things in life
 iamhappymom

Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 53
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Posted: 5/11/2007 2:13:17 PM
First dates should be about getting to know someone a little.
Coffee is the usual first date on here. Because it is cheap and easy and short. If you like each other you expand the date from there.
Personally I think that if you already know the person a little or are not to worried about escaping then you can plan a lovely date.
Now remember that this is a budget date and would not suit those "with expensive tastes." Remember that those with expensive tastes will cost you a fortune for as long as you are paying.
The weather at this time of year is lovely and there are beautiful flower filled (soon) parks everywere. So pack a nice picnic lunch and a soft cosy blanket and find a tree and enjoy a little good food and a lot of good conversation. And relax. Cost of date very inexpensive. The value of the thought put into planning it properly "priceless"
Anyone can take you to a restaurant and order from a menu. A nice picnic that is sweet and charming takes effort and shows that you want to do something special.
Just an idea from a girl with simple tastes that enjoys the little special things that life has to offer.
 Moontress

Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:28:27 PM
Ditch the girls that'll never pay for themselves. They are high maintenance gold diggers.

If I'm broke I don't go on dates, even if the guy offers to buy. Because I don't like being out without money. I don't feel safe. What if my car breaks down and I need to call a tow truck or a cab.
 scrapper9494

Joined: 5/2/2007
Msg: 55
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:44:19 PM

I see on some profiles that some women have " Dinner and a movie" for a first date. Should i avoid those dates then?


I think that the first meet (go to Starbucks or something like that) and the first 'date' are two totally different things. Save the money for a special first date with someone you connected with on your first meet.
 §pünglä§§

Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 56
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:50:46 PM
If you feel you HAVE to spend that kind of money to date the types you are dating..and with 3-4 or more dates a week, you STILL haven't met one worth keeping...chances are? You're doing SOMETHING wrong. Maybe try not putting up a front? You might find you'd have more success.
 harviej

Joined: 12/18/2006
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:57:24 PM
Three words. Dine and dash.
 Cheap Trick Fan

Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 58
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:57:27 PM
I have a credit card for a tow truck. Wait, I don't even need that, I have AAA!
 Dr. Soups

Joined: 3/27/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 5/11/2007 5:27:48 PM
If you are talking about the first date I take this approach, very low-key. A picnic and walk. Some moron deciding that dates need to be extravagant. Why? I prefer low key dates as they allow each to really talk and not be camouflaged by window dressing.
 Pasquel

Joined: 9/9/2006
Msg: 60
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Posted: 5/12/2007 4:58:18 PM

One of my best dates? Going to watch about 30 hot air balloons light up at night while tethered to the ground. Cost? Less than $20.


OK now THAT sounds like a fun date! OP, you are dating the wrong type of women. Be more creative and you'll weed out the gold diggers.
 StarreGazer

Joined: 2/21/2007
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Posted: 5/12/2007 5:42:11 PM


Msg: 44 -- The problems come up when you run into a woman that's just as prideful. They're out there.


Then it would cause a bit of conflict, then, wouldn't it? I'm not one for much conflict, but if she were to make an issue of it, that would be the last date I would have with her.
 StarreGazer

Joined: 2/21/2007
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Posted: 5/12/2007 5:54:42 PM


Msg: 54 -- Ditch the girls that'll never pay for themselves. They are high maintenance gold diggers.


I don't want a woman to pay for herself. That's a bit too masculine for me. I ask her out, I take care of the bill. If she shows herself to be high maintenance, that will become self-evident and I will give that the attention it deserves. But if she comports herself in a lady-like fashion I will treat her as a lady.

I'm strictly "Old School", and I believe in very sharp definitions of masculine and feminine qualities. I won't waste my time with a woman who can't understand this.
 mochahoney

Joined: 12/4/2006
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Posted: 5/14/2007 5:15:01 PM
just coffee, no thanks
if someone isint willing enough to talk to me for a while and take the risk of spending a few bucks...forget it.
I am not asking to go to the Revolving Restaurant in the CN tower. I am not asking for a guy to spend a fortune. I am not superficial in the least I buy my own clothes, pay my own bills, put the roof over my head. No one takes care of me.
To me dating is special, its an event. I am old school when it comes to dating. My time is precious...a real man will make the effort to impress me..from day one. No cheap men please. Coffee I can do with friends thats too mundane for my taste.
 Moontress

Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/14/2007 9:21:56 PM

I don't want a woman to pay for herself. That's a bit too masculine for me. I ask her out, I take care of the bill. If she shows herself to be high maintenance, that will become self-evident and I will give that the attention it deserves. But if she comports herself in a lady-like fashion I will treat her as a lady.

I'm strictly "Old School", and I believe in very sharp definitions of masculine and feminine qualities. I won't waste my time with a woman who can't understand this.


Well you better have a lot of money to fork over because you aren't going to be getting by with much else.
 blondblueyed

Joined: 8/23/2005
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Posted: 5/14/2007 9:30:18 PM
I have never had a man spend $80-100 dollars on a date with me and I have been dating or involved with someone for most of my life since the age of 16, not even Valentine's or birthday dinners. What a bunch of crap! Unless the guy is a lawyer, doctor, works on Wall Street or something in between that or being Donald Trump and Bill Gates guys aren't spending anywhere near that on dates unless it's their own beer tab.
 nova_humor

Joined: 4/26/2007
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Posted: 5/15/2007 12:12:49 AM

Here is a good one, Charcoal under 5 dollars. Meat from a store, $12 should be enough for 2 plus left overs. Two tatters and a bit of salad.. total might come to 20 dollars.
Couple outdoor mesquito lights, one of those yard lights. some nice chairs, soft music, blanket for the roll on the ground later, lots of room to slow dance. Nice privacy fence. Bottle of wine. I'd say well under $80 dollars. Okay enough picking.


Now that's what I call a date. I've had much more fun on dates that involved a home-cooked meal than I have at expensive restaurants. I've had dates where I've taken women out for $100 meals, but I have fonder memories of dates that involved cooking for or with someone. I've always enjoyed cooking dates. They give you a great way to interact in a fun way. Plus my risotto is better than what most swank restaurants serve.
 Cheap Trick Fan

Joined: 12/12/2005
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Posted: 5/15/2007 8:35:39 AM
That's fine if you've been seeing the guy awhile and are comfortable going to each others' homes...not for a first or second date though.
 Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007
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Posted: 5/15/2007 8:20:56 PM
I know that dating's expensive and I don't expect men to be the ones to pay all the time. I don't mind paying my share or mixing it up. If he pays for dinner, I'll pay for the movie, for example. If he prefers to pay for everything, I respect that, too. I like the traditional male. However, I'd had to think I'd spend less time with him b/c he refused to let me help out with the expenses.

I'm a pretty cheap date. Give me a 79 cent taco from Taco Bell and a small drink with refills and I'm good to go. I know where all the discount ($2.50) theaters are in my area, and I have 2-for-1 coupons, too.
 Bezoar

Joined: 4/6/2007
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Posted: 5/15/2007 8:52:55 PM
dating is way to expensive. It felt like highway robbery when my and my last ex would go out to eat at a cheap local sparts bar place.

You forget one giant thing here folks. The "first date" is easy to use as legal prostitution. Its illegal to shell out 300 hundred for a quickie in the hotel room, but its perfectly legit to spend 300 on a fancy dinner and a movie with sex afterwords.

And whats wrong with olive garden? i like the cannaloni..
 hurrykissme

Joined: 6/2/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 6/18/2007 4:36:14 PM
My ex-husband spent about $1200 on our first date. Of course, we met online, so he had to fly to California from NC, paid for the hotel in San Francisco, and bought most of the meals, tourist-y stuff, etc. We spent 3 nights together. I did not feel guilty about it. I wasn't even ready to meet in person yet, and one day he says "I'm holding a plane ticket in my hand". So, I went for it. It was fun, looking back on it! I did pay for a few meals, but he absorbed most of the cost.
 leperdgodess

Joined: 6/4/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/18/2007 5:15:18 PM
I totally agree with the first date at Starbucks. How can that really go wrong? The worst that can happen is she has a horrible personality and you make up an excuse to leave! I'm far from being a gold digger, but if a guy is gonna ask me out, I do expect him to pay the first couple of dates. But I'm not saying take me to the most expensive place in town either. A woman needs to know that the man she is seeing can spoil her every now and then. Besides, being a woman is way more expensive than being a man! Suck it up, you'll find the one girl where money never even crosses your mind compared to being with her!
 haywiresue

Joined: 9/27/2006
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Posted: 6/18/2007 10:30:39 PM
Limodriver66 - I think a lot of people miss the point of going out on a date. Its to get to know each other. If a woman dates a man and rates him on how much he spends - she is a loser and should be ditched by the man.

In my profile I suggest meeting for a coffee and on a first meet I have no problems buying my own. Many times while talking to a man when we have moved from internet messages to the telphone he insists on taking me out for lunch or dinner. I had one creative man take me out for a late breakfast one day and that was very nice. If the date goes well, and we have mutually decided to see each other again, I usually offer to cook dinner for the man. Men have really enjoyed this and so did I as I love to cook. Most times we have wound up cooking together as I always leave a little something that needs to be done, in the event the man wishes to help. Otherwise, if he does not offer there is always coffee/wine and a chair in the kitchen so we can chat while I finish making dinner. Usually a very nice time and I do like to spoil the men in my life.

I am not hard on a man or his budget as I dont take advantage of men, just as I would not want a man to take advantage of me. I prefer to meet someone half way. To me its all about who you are with, not where you go or what you do as long as the activity fits what is trying to be accomplished. Personally I like cheap movie night at the theatres or if we were to go see a full price film, I would offer to buy the popcorn or go out for a coffee after the movie to talk and do a "movie review". To me its all about being together and having fun and in doing that it does not have to break the bank.
 PhilMeUpBaby

Joined: 3/9/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 6/21/2007 9:33:30 PM
Having just read through three pages of posts discussing dating and money, it's now very easy to see why men want to get women into bed straight away.

It's not about getting sex.

It just costs less.

 sparda9

Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 74
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Posted: 6/21/2007 10:07:11 PM
Money would probably open up ones options in the dating pool. Particularly for men, anyway. Most females... all they have to do is look good and most dudes will still try to get at them, even if they are broke as hell.

I dont think it's JUST the money that makes men with loot attractive, though. It could be the fact that they can actually afford to wear better clothes, get better quality cologne, walk with more swagger because they know they "got it like that", etc. Let's not forget the power thing. It is what it is.
 guitarman100

Joined: 8/25/2004
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Posted: 6/22/2007 12:50:30 AM
my advice:

pretend you are a college student..............
students are supposed to be broke,just get a napsack and some books and walk around the campus til you meet another college student
buy her a coffee and just talk about student loans and stuff,you will be ok
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