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Posted: 6/22/2007 3:54:53 AM |
just coffee, no thanks if someone isnt willing enough to talk to me for a while and take the risk of spending a few bucks...forget it. I am not asking to go to the Revolving Restaurant in the CN tower. I am not asking for a guy to spend a fortune. I am not superficial in the least I buy my own clothes, pay my own bills, put the roof over my head. No one takes care of me. To me dating is special, its an event. I am old school when it comes to dating. My time is precious...a real man will make the effort to impress me..from day one. No cheap men please. Coffee I can do with friends thats too mundane for my taste.
See, I hear this line of thought very often. Too many women think guys should pay them just for showing up. I heard it called 'princess syndrome', women who are told from day one by their parents, family etc., how wonderful they are, that they deserve the very best in life, and then they expect others to provide it for them. Then when they don't get 'everything they deserve' in life, they're left bitter and angry at all us 'unappreciative' men who won't treat them to everything they want. These are the ones who's personal ads have a tagline akin to; 'where's my prince', or 'waiting for my prince'. But then, like Lady Diana, if they get their prince, they're still unhappy. They want the 'storybook' prince. But they don't exist. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 8:27:33 AM |
just coffee, no thanks if someone isnt willing enough to talk to me for a while and take the risk of spending a few bucks...forget it. I am not asking to go to the Revolving Restaurant in the CN tower. I am not asking for a guy to spend a fortune. I am not superficial in the least I buy my own clothes, pay my own bills, put the roof over my head. No one takes care of me. To me dating is special, its an event. I am old school when it comes to dating. My time is precious...a real man will make the effort to impress me..from day one. No cheap men please. Coffee I can do with friends thats too mundane for my taste.
Though I can understand your reasoning, I think that a "short" first time get together like coffee or drinks or something like that is good. I mean, what if some cat decided to take you on some long, dry, expensive date and within the first five minutes of meeting him and you realize that there is absolutely NO chemistry, then what? Maybe you'll be nice enough to pay your end of the tab when the time comes, but still. I would personally have spent 10 minutes or so over coffee and just leave in a civil manner if we weren't vibing as opposed to eating a whole dinner with a female that I couldn't care less about spending any more time with. Ya dig? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 8:36:01 AM | OP:
- Simply take the girls to a park or something and play some badmonton while getting to know each other.
- It is pointless spending money on a woman on a date that you don't even know. I would rather the girl spend money on me, but that's cause I am priceless!!!
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Posted: 6/22/2007 8:40:59 AM | Go Dutch!!
I don't expect a man to pay for a meal or anything for me. Sometimes we can take in turns paying for coffee. :-)
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Posted: 6/22/2007 9:39:55 AM | | Timmies, where its $1.60 for a coffee each, Pool halls. or a nice walk through some of the gorgeous parks in the area =) all low cost, all 1 on 1 time with the person | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 10:09:05 AM | Going dutch on the first date? Um... like no. The guy should always pay for the first date and probably the second and third. Then after that.... it depends. A guy is supposed to woo the girl. That's just the way it is.
But... it doesn't mean you have to do expensive things. First date you could meet for drinks or coffee or something. It's about the effort not the money.
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Posted: 6/30/2007 10:49:00 AM | Oh FFS Electra...
Come into the 21st Century dear lady.
How would you feel if the guy turned up EXPECTING (not just hoping) that you would have sex with him on the 1st date??? (and no, I am talking about the reasonable guys, not the total tossers who just go on dates trying to get laid!)
I'm guessing it wouldn't really float your boat...
Yet, you EXPECT a guy to "always pay" for the 1st date and "probably" the 2nd and 3rd!!!
Sheesh!
I thought modern women had progressed past all that old sexist claptrap but apparently not.
Unless ur a gold digging type??? in which case, sugardaddies dot com might be a better site for you! 
Here's an alternative idea to consider, custom-made just for "gorgeous, vivacious, classy, and sexy blondes from Vegas" 
You pay for yours and he pays for his, no sex, and just find out what kind of PERSON he is, rather than whether he's willing (and able) to pay for your 1st, 2nd & 3rd dates!!!
Try it, you might be surprised at what happens.
Best o'luck my dear, although I suspect that with your good looks  , there will be no lack of gullible stupid men who will play your little game, foolishly believing it will get them what they want...
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Posted: 6/30/2007 11:17:04 AM |
leperdgodess on 6/19/2007 1  18 AM I totally agree with the first date at Starbucks. How can that really go wrong? The worst that can happen is she has a horrible personality and you make up an excuse to leave! I'm far from being a gold digger, but if a guy is gonna ask me out, I do expect him to pay the first couple of dates. But I'm not saying take me to the most expensive place in town either. A woman needs to know that the man she is seeing can spoil her every now and then. Besides, being a woman is way more expensive than being a man! Suck it up, you'll find the one girl where money never even crosses your mind compared to being with her!
Tell ya what leperdgodess ;)
I'll spring for the first couple of dates if u put out on both of them...
Deal???
No???
Gosh, can't imagine why - sounds like a perfectly reasonable deal to me, just like you think its perfectly reasonable for the man to "pay the first couple of dates"...
Methinks you might be suffering from what I call "perfect princess" syndrome - thinking the world, especially men, owe you a living and that your more special than the rest of us...
Give me a down-to-earth woman with values & intelligence over stunning looks and selfish personality anyday!
Sorry, a bit harsh, but it's just one of those topics that really pisses me off.
PS: No, I DON'T really expect a woman to "put out" on the 1st or even 2nd dates. IF - repeat - IF she (and I) want to go there, we'll do that when it's right for both of us. Just using it as an extreme example, because I know so many women HATE that guys do expect sex on the 1st date, etc. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2007 12:11:54 PM | | Hey Limodriver, Just go ahead and get that second job. That alone should cut down on your dating frequency. Just stash that extra dough until you have enough to take a fabulous singles only cruise!!! | |
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Posted: 9/9/2007 5:57:48 AM | Call me a princess, call me whatever I have standards...I know we all have bills to pay and obligations thats fine...as I said Im not expecting him to pay a fortune. 80-100 is way too outlandish for a first date.
Im no gold digger, Im am romantic and the best dates cost next to nothing. I love the outdoors and festivals... mostly no cost. If he asks me out he's going to pay unless we discuss it ahead of time. If I ask him out I will either pay or split the bill, if he is a gentleman and old school like I am he wont let me pay.
Thats my way, I dont expect anyone to do as I do...but thats what works for me.
I always have money in case he forgets his wallet or he is cheap. If he doesnt have the dough he won't see me again.
First impressions are everything. If hes cheap with dating hes going to be cheap in other areas and that's not cool with me.
Seriously men who have a grudge about spending money shouldn't be dating..they just want a cheap and easy ride...
9 times out of 10 when a guy asks me on a coffee date, he wants to know where I live and if we are going to have sex afterwards...hearing that so many times. I refuse to have a coffee date with a man. Coffee is the buzz word for one night stand. Im so turned off.
They dont want to work hard to impress a woman ...not the type of man that I want to associate with. Im VERY GENEROUS I spoil my man to no end so he has to go through this first test...Im a giver he has to be too, Period! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2009 8:46:10 PM | | You should contact me ChicagoRob. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 4:53:39 AM |
get a second job...some of us have exspensive taste.
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Posted: 5/5/2009 4:59:47 AM | [Should it be that the guy should date less or get a second job to afford the dates?
Any advice?]
First, it shouldn't always be up to the man. Come on ladies, lots of you's are making as much as any guy. Get with the times. Not only that, its a bad economy. Gentlemen, take her out for a cup of coffee. Just talk and enjoy your first date. If there's attraction you both will know it. Second date also keep it light. The Third Date is usually the make or break date. Once you two are an "item", then it shouldn't matter who pays. Watch out for those women who want to take you for a ride. They are out there, and take it from and old fool, I"ve spent many a dollar on dates that quite frankly I wish I had back. Good Luck! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 9:17:56 AM | | Consider dating a form of entertainment. Give up entertainment that you'd do alone and you'll be fine, break even. Also, it doesn't have to cost a mint to date. Suggest a picnic at a park or the beach. Or ask if she could pay this time, or ask her if she could pay for her meal and you'll pay for yours-! If she likes ya, she'll help. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 9:29:13 AM | | I just use hookers. With dating, it doesnt' matter how much you spend. Chances are a girl you're on a date with won't even end up on your jock. What a waste. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 11:51:03 AM | geez.. If you are so hung up on the cost of dating, penny pinching, and whining about monthly totals, and how it's no cost to the gal wha whaa whaaaa .....then just stay home n wank..(if you can afford the monthly cost of all those tissues..) LOL
Or... if your feeling generous...splurge on a date, bring the calculator and Wendys discount foodie coupons.... and deep pockets so you can bag those free packets of ketchup.. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 12:15:00 PM | I personally, don't want to be wined and dined, as a way to impress me. That is far too shallow, and old school for my liking.
Dating shouldn't break your bank. If you can afford to do cool shit that is expensive, but worth it, then do it up. If you can only afford some penny candy picnic in the park, then rock that too.
I have certain standards when it comes to what I want financially in a relationship. As in, if I am working hard for my money, then my significant other better be doing the same. But other then that, I could care less about material things. It's more about the sentiment.
1200 dollars a month on dating sounds more like hooker fees. lol | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 12:44:35 PM | | Its all about being fair. Ladies complain that a man takes them out, then they mutually agree to jump in bed and she never hears from him again. The lady feels cheated because, in a manner of speaking, she "gave of herself" and didn't get anything in return to show for it. There is the other side to that ladies. I wish I had a dollar for the number of times I would take a lady out, have a nice dinner, movie or whatever (on my tab of course!) then I'd drop her off and never hear from HER again. Thats right! No emails, no return calls and NO thank Yous! ....DID I FEEL cheated? You bet your boobies I felt cheated. I sometimes think the woman should have stayed home with her BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend) rather than waste my time and money. Oh, and I never feel that a woman should "give of herself" when its supposed to be pleasurable for both the man and the woman. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 12:45:16 PM | If you like high maintenance chicks....then maybe even get a 3rd job.
Now if you find normal nice ladies to date...there are plenty of low cost options that are not even that expensive and can guarantee a lovely outing:
For example:
Going to those concerts at the parks in the summer and bringing a picnic lunch.
Going to the movies and having a coffee and desert aftwerward.
I would say these examples shouldn't be more than 25-35 dollars max.
I thought dates were more about sharing the other person's company and not how much they could feed you or entertain you. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 12:46:08 PM | Guys, until you get to know her, take her out for a cup of coffee, a walk in the park, a stroll through the mall and leave your credit cards at home! Once you get to know her then you can splurge a little. Thats my advice!  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 2:08:13 PM | | Women are smart. Guess they can tell I wouldnt be the wine n dine type. I got a good personality though, maybe that helps me out. No way in the world I would spend 1200 a month on dates. No...I love to go out dancing ina club, drinks are expensive, but never 1,200! Be able to say no- if not, you gonna find people taking advantage of you. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 2:18:44 PM | every guy knows how much he's willing to spend on a date, and the smart guys know they shouldn't (and don't) have to spend big bucks for the attention of a gal who is serious about meeting a guy, and not just looking for her next meal ticket.
meeting for a quick face 2 face is the easiest way to put your cards on the table and see what kind of a hand the two of you can come up with. -there's no rule you can't fall in love that minute and run off for t-bones, big macs/fries or buy a $600 bottle of wine and watch the sunset.
hint: if she genuinely likes you -she would rather have your attention and affection than your wallet.
spending a chunk of money on a woman for her company -isn't that called prostitution?
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Posted: 5/5/2009 2:22:39 PM | Art galleries.... cost effective and lots of time for chat, and if you find it hard to find something to talk about, you can always go to the modern section and talk about how "you" could paint that picture!!!
In most large cities, you can find "gallery districts" where you might find smaller galleries, art or antique shoppes. A walk about in these areas can be very interesting and stopping for coffee or ice cream might soak you all of $6!! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 2:34:14 PM | | I always pay for myself, that way they can not expect anything in return. And if I can't afford to pay for something I don't expect someone else to buy it for me. Do some research, there would be things in your area that you can do for free, and so what if you take different dates there, just don't get to friendly with the staff they may let it slip that you go there often with different dates. Imagination is all it takes, and we women may want the world, but the world is made up of a lot of different things. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2009 4:08:09 PM | | First dates should not be founded on expensive dinners or other costly activities. If you are wanting to set the stage for a "real relationship" the first few dates should revolve around getting to know eachother, talking, walking together, none of which cost anything. If you set a standard with what you can buy opposed to who you are you will get a woman who will be interested in your money not your mind. If after a few "getting to know you" dates, by all means, wine and dine her. I would look negotively on a man who spent outside his budget or thought that his money was all he had to offer......... | |
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