| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:05:34 PM |
Not to say I make a lot, just that it would give me more respect for her than if she was making very little, it means she is intelligent and self confident enough to succeed and that is more attractive to me than anything else really.
Please don't tell me that NOW in order for women to be intelligent and confident it's reliant on the $$$ she makes? (or doesn't make....) I make very little (at the moment)....but....I'm confident and intelligent...(and now my arm hurts....but that pat on my back sure felt good!)  | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:11:50 PM |
Please don't tell me that NOW in order for women to be intelligent and confident it's reliant on the $$$ she makes? (or doesn't make....) I make very little (at the moment)....but....I'm confident and intelligent...(and now my arm hurts....but that pat on my back sure felt good!)
you judge us by the size of our c0cks and /or incomes. we're entitled to judge women now and then. | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:16:15 PM | I don't want to make the answer to the OP's question sexist, because really it shouldn't be. Here is my answer...
Though most of my life what I have found is that PEOPLE with integrity usually do not like other people buying them things. If it's a birthday or a holiday thats one thing, but to have someone buying someone else things just because they can in no way shows anybody anything other then confusion. Why did you buy it? Why did you pay so much? Are you trying to show off, to control me, whats really behind it?
IF you have so much dammed money you don’t know what to do with it, why don’t you make me really happy and give it to someone who could really use it. There are lots of charities and people who could give a damn about your problem lady.... | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:59:15 PM | I don't want to make the answer to the OP's question sexist, because really it shouldn't be
Commendable... and I agree with you.
what I have found is that PEOPLE with integrity usually do not like other people buying them things.
My experience is that people of integrity enjoy reciprocating kindnesses of all sorts.
Why did you buy it? Why did you pay so much? Are you trying to show off, to control me, whats really behind it?
as other posters have observed, one-sided relationships generally won't work... maybe, in part, because of this degree of paranoia?
There are lots of charities and people who could give a damn about your problem lady....
here's where you lost me... OP didn't indicate that it was a "problem"...
Whether you're male or female, using money as relationship bait generally doesn't attract folks with the sorts of qualities and values we might desire...
but enjoying opportunities together with someone special now and again because you can?? just doesn't seem wrong to me.
Into my life, I'd take a human being with Blue's drive, integrity, intelligence, optimism, self-confidence, and fortitude over someone with only "big assets" to offer any day -- judge me however you want... | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/11/2007 3:45:50 PM |
Not to say I make a lot, just that it would give me more respect for her than if she was making very little, it means she is intelligent and self confident enough to succeed and that is more attractive to me than anything else really. Please don't tell me that NOW in order for women to be intelligent and confident it's reliant on the $$$ she makes? (or doesn't make....) I make very little (at the moment)....but....I'm confident and intelligent...(and now my arm hurts....but that pat on my back sure felt good!)
I only stated that making good money was a sign of success, intelligence, and self confidence, not that it was the ONLY sign.
Money is just an indicator of something good, but there are other indicators. If I get the impression that a woman is intelligent and self confident, I don't care if she is struggling financially, as long as she isn't getting into the relationship specifically to save money on a few meals. Money is just not that big a deal to me. | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/11/2007 5:27:41 PM | you judge us by the size of our c0cks and /or incomes. we're entitled to judge women now and then.
I've never judged YOUR c0ck....and I don't intend to!
And for that reason alone....(ok, for THOSE reasons) alone....it's ridiculous...
Um, but I'd pay for Rake! Hell, I'd sell my kids X-Box if I had to! 
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Entitled? You claim entitlement on judging now? Seriously? I wonder how many email you'll receive for prospective dates after this thread! :laugh: | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/11/2007 7:47:31 PM | Each man will respond according to his character and for some they will welcome you with open arms while other will feel jaded and not welcome your kindness,.......so tread lightly and make sure you are with a man that is open minded enough to appreciate your kindness.
I have know a few men who have no issues spending my money while I have also known men who will under no circumstances allow me to pay for our drink tab or dinner,......both situations were totally different just as each man is. But I have come to realize that in today's society men do not like it when a woman makes more money then they do as it has been in-breaded into their minds that the MAN is the bread winner and that is something that will take years to re program so although it really should not matter to most it does.
Best of luck sunshine,......
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/12/2007 9:52:04 PM | | thanks for the input, Its been inlighting to me... I think in the future I will hold back on taking my partner to events all the time and every second or third thing include him, in the mean time I will take a girlfriend with me.. But agian, I just wanted to say thanks before this tread is deleated as it sounds like it may be going toward the bashing side of things which I dont intend this to be such a thread... | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/12/2007 10:09:37 PM | Money issues are important in a relationship and should be taken seriously. There are spenders and savers. Women it seems, love to shop. I personally don't like the commercial aspects of a relationship. I like simplicity and modesty. Some people like extravagance and excess.
For too many people, money is power and too many people crave power. | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/12/2007 10:41:31 PM | Crashtest, I love all the time your spending on me, and the childish name calling is superb. Can you say “Hypocrite”? Please, how about another paragraph or two on the issues that you know absolutely nothing about so I can watch the points fly right over your head,  | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/13/2007 6:11:58 AM | | Unfortunately, whenever I have dated a man who made less money than me and in some cases the same amount as me, it has been a problem for them. I don't know why, I think it is a question of ego. It is sad, but I have to say that if they are intimidated by my financial standing they will probably be intimidated by other things in my life too and that would not make for a good relationship because they are lacking confidence in themselves. | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/13/2007 9:06:30 AM | Hey Blue,
nah, poster 44 was "congratulating" you for busting out post 29 big time... and laughing at post 29 in the process... 44 agrees with your assessment
It's all good, darlin'!
vvv Coffee's on the counter, along with sugar and creamer... and there's always time for a nap!
OT: Most men have the good graces to know how to accept gifts, compliments, and special treatment without paranoia, loss of self-esteem, or lack of self-confidence.
My question: initially, why would most people, men or women, share their financial situation with someone else right off the bat? What business is it of theirs, initially? If the other party doesn't know how much you do or don't make or have, how can they be intrigued or intimidated? | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/13/2007 9:49:08 AM | While I, personally, believe it is gauche to even discuss such things, I can see where it could be an issue especially if the difference was significant. Lifestyle reflects access to cash to some degree.
I would never care how much money a woman made. I believe in work place equality and all that wholeheartedly. That said, I have a great deal of trouble accepting so much as a drink from ANYONE let alone my date. I have found I have mellowed a bit with age along these lines, but I could never accept it on any scale or frequency. I am old school when it comes to this sort of thing and I like to pay for myself and my date. If she has more money then she will have more disposable cash to invest or buy her own bling and clothes and such. I would find that a welcome savings unto itself :)
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/13/2007 10:01:52 AM | I think it is great if she makes more than me. Heck I could not do enough bragging about it. It would not make me anyless of a man at all and that much more for being able to accept it. I think this is great I might feel bad in a way because I would want to do the same not because she is doing it to me but it is in my nature to be like that so I can see where it could be the same for a woman. | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/13/2007 10:05:04 AM | | The only problem I see with a woman making more money than me, is that if they are coming home stressed out and unhappy every day, but that could happen at a retail job too! bottom line if she is happy at her job and her life... then Congrats! dinner is on you! haha | |
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| Are men intrigued or intimidated when a woman makes more $ then they do.?
Posted: 5/13/2007 5:14:47 PM | | Doesn't matter what she makes. Men don't look at women as 'providers' the way women judge men. We also don't really care about what she does for a living, as long as she likes what she does (don't need a woman coming home from work pissed off every day, now, do we). Men don't derive our status from our mates position in the workplace. I don't think we're intrigued either; her income really isn't much of an issue unless the lifestyle is an obstacle, such as if I were to date, say, a globe hopping celebrity, when I tend to stay within a ten mile radius 99% of the time except when I'm on vacation. | |
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