Rhett1
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/10/2007 8:38:33 PM | Metal and Fairy: Remember that calling someone ugly is just as bad...karma. I'm just saying is all...
I get what you're saying and I'm sure it's mostly frustration speaking, but it's the exact same thing and just as rude.
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:28:11 PM | Don't feel bad - There are PLENTY of guys who like heavy ex-athletes like me....I get more attention now than when I was skinny... and hey - my preference is for large guys - skinny guys are NOT my thing. To each his or her own!
(Oh, I did want to mention that if anyone is not sure who they like - you may find yourself surprised if you open your mind...and remember what is inside is what counts when you're growing old together!!) | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight.. HEALTH
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:46:07 PM | By the way - (great tiger and others..) - Just because someone is big, doesn't mean they are unhealthy. For example - My blood pressure is still competition athletic, my cholesterol is low, and my doctors say I am very healthy. I hike, swim, cycle, and am CPR /lifeguard trained. Yet, I am still big in the middle.
I weigh 207 - and even though I am working on achieving a different shape - the weight has nothing to do with it. As I re-shape I am actually gaining more weight by re-gaining muscle - cool! I'm nearly 40 and a flexible size 18, and I can still out swim, out cycle, and out hike most people I know WITH EASE.
Keep that in mind next time you see someone overweight - they may be a lot healthier than you - MOST of the time you can't judge someone's health just by looking at their outer appearance.
Survivalists - rock on! | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/10/2007 10:28:38 PM | hmmmm at your post...
Does this show how little you know about larger women?
I'm a larger women! I'm neither someone who over eats nor do i not exercise. Did nobody ever explain how people metobilism works to you? I work hard, I play hard...
I can sit and read why someone isn't attracted to larger women based on prefference but not when it comes down to stupidity. I have a prefference to i like men to have a personality :-P | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/11/2007 2:47:39 AM | I think this tread is dead, besides that, the moron who started it is probably long gone.
I wonder is it really necessary to bring this up. Everyone here has something wrong with them...Who needs to be making someone constantly aware of a flaw, repeatedly?
Especially a few of you young bucks, who seem to forgot the manners their mother's have taught them.
Hell, I'm a guy and I find it seriously offense some of the statements I've heard. First of all, if I were an overweight lady I'd want to put a boot up against that calloused head of yours.
Secondly, if I were a "regular" lady, I wouldn't want to have nothing to due with you because your a calloused bigot.
I don't need to name names, you know who you are! Heck, you may be physically fit, but brother you are mentally challenged.
Have you no decency? If someone was mentally challenged, would you judge them so cruely?
What ever happened to the if you haven't anything nice to say...Don't
Now when it comes to mental mind games like this I take exception to that rule.
I'm outta here unless the big mouths want to come over here and play? 
Rick TensawEagle... | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/11/2007 3:12:05 AM | I have had women get very offended when they learn I don't date very large women. So were actually just thin friends where there was no possibility of romance between us. I don't fat bash and generally I wont tell a woman that it is her weight that is blocking any romance unless she just refuses to take no for an answer (very, very rare it ever gets that far).
It used to irk me that I get judged on damn near everything, but comment on a woman's weight and many act like you spoke bad about their mother. A few extra pounds, thick, bbw, etc., is actually all good to an extent. But there comes a point where people start looking sloppy and disgusting and I just can't find that attractive. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/11/2007 3:34:51 AM | Different people find different things attractive...
Judging people on their weight when it comes to looking for a prospected partner is not a bad thing...
Lets be honest if you spot a woman who's say 16/17 stone.... (in fat not muscle)....
your not gonna be thinking she's the active outdoor type are you?
and if thats what your into, your not gonna be looking for a woman who's main interests are excessively eating....
(not everyone can have bad glands).... | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/11/2007 4:02:27 AM | Hey
Im on the large size , but it never stops me getting a bf but i am very choosey when it comes to men ... i like larger men so i feel comfy round them...
i think u guys who judge a women by there weight always think there gonna be minging n dirty n all that ( if that makes sense)
I tell u what sum girls may be large , but me and my best friend are both a lil chubby but we hit the town n pull just as many blokes as the skinny ratty blondes in mini skirts...
I look at this like this ... If u talked/flirted to a girl widout a picture on here and a few months later ... she tunrt out to be oversized , would u stop talking/flirting/makin her feel good becoz she was fat ?
But dont judge a girl like me until u know her becoz it is heart breakin when ya lye in bed wid ya bf and u feel so uncomfy. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/11/2007 5:48:06 AM | I've said this in other posts, it's been done a million times it seems, but here goes again.
I do feel bad when I judge people on there weight, and height. I am a bigger gal, but my preference is tall, thin men. I have no idea WHY, but that is what I am attracted to. Does that mean I won't give a shorter guy a chance? No. Does it mean that I won't give a heavier guy a chance? No. Will I give a shorter, heavier guy a chance? Ummm, perhaps less likely. That being said, there have been plenty of tall, thin guys that I was not attracted to also. Bad teeth, too many tatoos, nasty disposition... you get the idea. For whatever reason, I don't think any of us knows what is going to spark the chemistry between us when we meet.
I also feel there is no need to be rude to someone who shows an interest in us. A polite thanks but no thanks is not hard to say. Whether it's someone who has communicated with you online, or someone you have met in person. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/11/2007 7:32:22 AM | seems a lot of very unattractive men are the ones saying they have a problem with women who are over weight... lmao! i see these c*cky posts and look at their pictures and wonder who are THEY to judge anyone?? some women may be over weight, but they can lose it. You guys can't lose your ugly!!
You might find these men to be unattractive, but they are still entitled to their viewpoints about what type of women they find to be attractive or unattractive. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/12/2007 1:03:31 AM | Hello BDRT,
Glad you brought this up:
I also feel there is no need to be rude to someone who shows an interest in us. A polite thanks but no thanks is not hard to say. Whether it's someone who has communicated with you online, or someone you have met in person.
It strange that you mentioned this; but it's a shame that too many people will not even read what you said, but even worse is the ones that do and don't apply it!
Very good point!!!!
I have sent that very message to a few of these "Rude" ladies...Whoa, you talk about blowing their tops!   They acted like I stole ther teddy bear off their beds...
You talk about being dense and NOT getting it... One things for sure, who'd want to get to know people that have that sense of Entitlement, that they think they can just blow people off and not even think about it.
Oh almost for got: To Broek11 msg300
Are entitled to their opinions
Sure, there is no question that you are entiltled to your opinion...That's not my point , when you know that your statement will be offense and possibly hurt others; is it not more wise and sensitive not to give it?
That's my position on this whole thread. I mean some of the POSTS are just rediculous! They some up here have all but said "Big sloppy pigs up here">>>Whoa, that's dang near fighting words.
POINT: I may not be attracted to that either, but what about those who are seriously overweight? You guys don't think there up here not reading this crap? And before the jerk makes the remark they outta think about that, save it! You guys ought to all be asshamed of yourselves and your self-righteous callousedness. What ever happened to manners? JUST DON"T SAY NOTHING,YOUR OPINION'S INTACT, AND THEIR FEEELINGS ARE NOT OFFENDED!
Rick TensawEagle | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:44:42 AM | Sure, there is no question that you are entiltled to your opinion...That's not my point , when you know that your statement will be offense and possibly hurt others; is it not more wise and sensitive not to give it?
That's my position on this whole thread. I mean some of the POSTS are just rediculous! They some up here have all but said "Big sloppy pigs up here">>>Whoa, that's dang near fighting words.
POINT: I may not be attracted to that either, but what about those who are seriously overweight? You guys don't think there up here not reading this crap? And before the jerk makes the remark they outta think about that, save it! You guys ought to all be asshamed of yourselves and your self-righteous callousedness. What ever happened to manners? JUST DON"T SAY NOTHING,YOUR OPINION'S INTACT, AND THEIR FEEELINGS ARE NOT OFFENDED!
I agree that it is rude to state that all fat women are lazy, smell like pigs, and other stereotypes. However some fat women will get offended just because a man states that he isn't attracted to fat women. That has happened plenty of times on POF. There is nothing wrong with stating your opinion if you state it in a respectful, polite way with tact. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 10/7/2007 7:22:12 AM | I'm not overweight! I don't like the word FAT! I agree your not a mature person unless you can look beyond a persons physical appearance! Some people are soooo shallow!  | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 10/7/2007 7:33:20 AM | | My ex wife was a BBW. I married her because she listened to me and was kind to my soul. No other woman I've since has done the same. My marriage did end due to the fact that I couldn't deal with her weight and for a long time I was riiden with guilt. Did seek some counseling but has not changed much. I do feel bad for not giving these women a chance. Personally I think I need to grow up, and of course when and if I do I'd probably won't feel the need to date. Such Irony. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 12/30/2007 4:41:06 PM | | I am not overweight either but I think its sad when people can judge other people on thier weight thats so shallow and cruel they need love just as much as anyone else and they are just as beautiful...I have many overweight friends that has more of a heart..then anyone I know they have feelins also..so please people don't be cruel...tif you don't prefer overwieght then least be nice about it...no need to be cruel...as for myself I don't judge anyone on thier weight...cause even the best looking shape people can have a crappy personality... | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 12/30/2007 8:48:51 PM | I really don't think you are going to get a date with this thread? Sorry...
Footnote; I was the youngest of five with four older brothers. I would watch them checking out girls. A skinny girl would walk bye and my brothers would always shake their heads at each other then after she was out of hearing range they would say, "All that meat and no potatoes." I thought about it long and hard but being too young I didn't have a clue what they were talking about. I do now... They liked women with curves and more rounded, especially in the upper regions. Strangely, I don't remember the girls talking about men's bodies like this.
I am tall but I also have my meat and potatoes! LOL... When I go out there are no problems here getting date offers. What attracts most men towards me is my happy personality and laugh. Of course my appearance gets their attention first but that doesn’t hold them. I used to feel bad about being tall but after High School I found out quickly that it is an asset.
Bottom line be happy with who you are and don't judge people for who they are. I like all men every shape and size if they have a great personality.
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 2/8/2008 12:55:55 AM | I am a fuller figured woman..and very sexy and smart. OK. I think it took a lot of courage to put your feelings out there. Come on people be serious. First off, its ok not to like bigger girls. You prefere smaller...so go find her. I am sure she will be smart and can be a good provider, and mother some day. That is just your preference. ...I have a preference too. Not to be shallow or mean...but you are not my type. I wouldnt be rude about it and call anyone names. I want to leave with this...OUTER BEAUTY FADES.....INNER BEAUTY IS FOREVER! | |
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