len67
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Joined: 1/21/2008
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 2/8/2008 1:43:51 AM | | I agree that everyone has preferences for their ideal mate. I have been finding that the personality is more important to me know my last 3 relationships were with trophy girls over 30 years. I can beleive how powerfull lust can be..lol I say that people of all sizes and backgrounds are gorgious | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 2/8/2008 5:37:03 AM | | We all 'judge' people in one form or anyother. But you are not really judging someone unless you are assuming they are lazy, slobbish or something like that if they are overweight. If you are just not attracted to someone overweight, so be it...you should't feel bad about it. It's all the PC people that expect us all to love one another for what's inside, ignoring normal human behavior. Life doesn't work that way. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:34:44 PM | being a full figured woman myself resent that comment. how dare u patronize us by being so shallow. believe it or not most full figured woman "score"(as you put it) more than lonely, misreable men like yourself. why not get to know the inner beauty of someone before you pass judgement on them. how pathetic you sound when you say that at the end of the night you can't score so you would go home with a fat chick. what makes you think we want a shallow man with no class like yourself?
you'd be sooo surprised at how happy, confident and well adjusted us full figured woman are.
good luck in your search. with your attitude you'll need all the luck you can get. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:43:12 PM | | If you are going to date pretty women at least have some more criteria than just her looks. I'm not sure what you like but maybe you aren't finding it in shallow relationships. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:00:07 AM | OP
Well would u rather have something cushiony to land on or would u rather have hip bones sticking out, jabbing you??
As a bbw myself i know most men ive talked to say that they just dont like the skinny women because there is nothing to them to grab and their hipbones dig into them and leave marks when having sex. I suppose its all in whether u want that to happen to u or not and your preference of course. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:06:07 AM |
I've always gravitated towards the skinnier women, and I feel bad, but I'm just not attracted to women who are....bigger?
You're entitled to be attracted to whoever you want. Personally, I prefer bigger women to skinny ones. I DO think it's a bit immature for a 26 year old to refer to women as "chicks". though. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:52:18 AM | ok you shouldnt feel bad because its what your attracted to.
but big women arent fat, its called having relaxed muscles, thats why there is more weight, didnt you learn that in health class
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 12:21:04 PM | Everyone judges people no matter what it is or who they are. However, since most guys want the "hot skinny girl", don't you think females have a preference too? I'm no different than anyone else. What female wants to go out with a short, overweight, bald headed, ugly as sin guy with a small.... ****? (figuratively speaking). So in answer to my own question, of course I have a preference. But I'm not one to sound cruel and post it on my profile. And should anyone contact me (online or offline) that I don't feel attracted to in any such way, I kindly tell them I'm not interested. That way no ones feelings aren't hurt.
But I do believe there is someone out there for everyone, we just haven't been guided in the right direction to find that person yet.
So don't feel bad, as the person that your interested in might have preferences too, and you just might not be what they're looking for either!
So good luck everyone on your quest to finding that one special person. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:27:26 PM | My point of view is that size 2 blonde models aren't going to look that way forever...and looks are something a person can change - personality isn't! But common, of COURSE you need to be physically attracted to someone to date them...that's not rocket science.
I've met guys in the past who I wasn't initially physically attracted to but as I got to know them their personality really attracted me and thus physically they seemed more attractive to me as well. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:47:49 PM | As already stated over and over in the 13 pages of responces, its just a personal preference.
I too find myself attracted to the smaller women, not necessarily size 2, but more or less i want to be the bigger person in the relationship.
Also for me issues of health come into play. I would tend to argue that a 5' 6 200lbs women is not in the best physical shape. If a person is in their ealry 20s and already 30-40lbs overweight whats going to happen when they hit 40?
Its not just a matter of looks but health and activity level too. | |
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Murco
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Joined: 8/26/2008
Msg: 314 | |
| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:03:19 PM | | I am about 30 pounds heavier than my ideal, have lost almost 30 pounds since my wife passed-away, and this site in particular seems to have so many options (people) I know I get dismissed as unattractive by many women here, based solely on weight, and I'm just fine with that. My wife was a Chanel model, an Emmy presenter, and as physically attractive as any woman you'll ever have met. She adored me, bigger than I am now! My 2 most current relationships were opposites - One was 5'8" and weighed about 180, what some guys considered "chubby", but she was just so stunning to me it never was an issue and she was uncomfortable with her beauty. The most recent woman had my friends all drooling as she was 5'6" and weighed about 120 tops. She had a perfect "hour-glass" figure, flat belly, and she could have been called a trophy but she also had a terrific personality and without it, she wouldn't have been attractive to me at all. That said, the larger woman was a fantastic, passionate lover that I will remember fondly all my life. The one that made all of my buddies fall all over themselves, no so great and had no passion. Physically, I give most any woman a thorough review as shape is far more important to me than size and personality makes a huge difference. Really large women are simply unattractive too me as I just cannot find one attractive physically and I accept that many women cannot be attracted to me at my current weight. Self-discipline and a little work can make miracles! | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:03:22 PM | i don't feel bad when i judge people on their weight because i feel they should care enough about their own body to not be on a self-destructive path to poor health and a premature death. i would make the same judgment about heavy smokers or drinkers for the same reasons. while i certainly don't make those kinds of judgments about friends (because people should be able to live out their lives as they choose), this is not the kind of person i want to have an S.O. relationship with, and that's that.
you can't help what you find physically attractive, but i think many people make the mistake of going to the other extreme in being overly selective about it. i think allowing as much variation as you can from whatever your physical "ideal" is (without straying into "deal breaker" territory) leaves you potentially open to some really wonderful person that a very constrained list of physical attributes would otherwise prohibit. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:31:41 PM | Also for me issues of health come into play. I would tend to argue that a 5' 6 200lbs women is not in the best physical shape. If a person is in their ealry 20s and already 30-40lbs overweight whats going to happen when they hit 40?
this might be true but i noticed that on your profile, you say you drink *socially*. now that can be seen as a health concern also. everyone has a vice or bad habit, no one is perfect. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:39:41 PM | The most recent woman had my friends all drooling as she was 5'6" and weighed about 120 tops. She had a perfect "hour-glass" figure, flat belly, and she could have been called a trophy but she also had a terrific personality and without it, she wouldn't have been attractive to me at all. That said, the larger woman was a fantastic, passionate lover that I will remember fondly all my life. The one that made all of my buddies fall all over themselves, no so great and had no passion.
kind of wondering why you are so concerned about what your friends think of your girlfriend's?? you seem to want to impress them for some reason. i mean do you need their approval or something? i wouldn't give a damn what my friend's thought of my boyfriends, it's more important how you feel about them. after all, they are not the ones dating your girlfriends, are they?? | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:47:12 PM |
this might be true but i noticed that on your profile, you say you drink *socially*. now that can be seen as a health concern also. everyone has a vice or bad habit, no one is perfect.
Not to get defensive, but i never claimed to be "perfect" or the pilar of physical fitness. At my heaviest i was 260lbs (2.5 years ago), and was able to work myself down to 195lbs (last summer), however I let myself go again and gained back 20lbs. I would say ideally i should lose another 35-40lbs based upon my height and age. So healthwise i am definitely a work in progress and would fit under my own definition of being unhealthy. :-) | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:16:18 PM | wowsad, don't feel bad, you have been "mentally conditioned" to feel this way.
Preferences, tastes, likes and dislikes of everything "including" mating partners has been programmed into your brain by the "controlled media" such as TV, radio, internet, music, news, health channels, magazines, newspapers and etc...tastes and preferences in the "natural world" have ZERO bearing on what matters.
Humans beings are "genetically" programed to seek out the "most suitable" mate...not the best looking, most attractive, or tallest mate, but the "most suitable" But the mainstream media has brainwashed most folks into beliveing that only a person of a certain height, weight, social status, skinny, etc is suitable.
For your Reading Pleasure:
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THE CONGRESSIONAL RECORD FEBRUARY 9, 1917 - PAGE 2947 & PAGE 2948.
In March, 1915, the J.P. Morgan interests, the steel, shipbuilding, and powder interests, and their subsidiary organizations, got together 12 men high up in the newspaper world and employed them to select the most influential newspapers in the United States and sufficient number of them to control generally the policy of the daily press of the United States.
"These 12 men worked the problem out by selecting 170 newspapers, and then began, by an elimination process, to retain only those necessary for the purpose of controlling the general policy of the daily press throughout the country. They found it was only necessary to purchase the control of 25 of the greatest newspapers. The 25 papers were agreed upon; emissaries were sent to purchase the policy, national and international, of these papers; an agreement was reached; the policy of the papers was bought, to be paid for by the month; an editor was furnished for each paper to properly supervise and edit information regarding the questions of preparedness, militarism, financial policies, and other things of national and international nature considered vital to the interest of the purchasers.
This policy also included the suppression of everything in opposition to the wishes of the interests served.
-Oscar Calloway Representative U.S Congress spoken and entered into the Congressional Record February 9th, 1917
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Look up for yourself its fact
most of you have been lied to, controlled like a flock of sheep, judging others on outward appearances and disenfranchising good people just due to the way they look to promote the image "someone else" wants you to promote.
A healthy relationship is more than skin deep. What most find attractive has been "programmed" into your brain by the brainwashing of the "controlled" mass media...Calloway tried to warn us back in 1917...look up Oscar Calloway and Google him...you will find out what happened to this truly great man who stood up for his country and its people.... | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:04:50 PM | why feel bad?
Do not beat yourself up. Believe me, I have met so many guys that really do like women of my size, and that is what I want to meet.
You aren't my type either, and I don't feel bad. That is silly.
Men who like me like big everything. However I do meet some that are mainly attracted to who I am, and I guess they struggle with the whole body image thing. I say well, accept me or move on. Don't feel sorry for me ever. No reason to. I have a great life with people who love me in it. Don't you?
Just because a girl is fat, doesn't mean she is in need of sympathy. You must not even have an idea of the fact that some people do find larger women attractive, and you do not need to do a pity f*ck or anything. The guys I attract today, are much more attractive and interesting then the ones I met when I was a size 7 and gorgeous. I found that suprising at first, and now realize, you are what you project. Maybe that is what you need to think about. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:27:38 PM | | Never feel bad about not being attracted to someone. It's no different than being attracted to anyone else. There are plenty that are attracted to us. It's no big deal. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 8/31/2008 11:47:11 PM | I don't judge females at all by their weight, I just find some of the overweight females say they are going to change and never do which is lying. A turn off . They also can be negative about their self image and they sometimes often complain about how others treat them. If they have such a problem with what others think, they should get some self confidence or change whatever they don't like about themselves to have some.
I am just going by my experiences, I am not a bad person. I just have tried to help many ppl in the past with their problems, bc I spend majority of my time trying to help others. If anybody, is looking to lose weight as a goal. You can honestly do it, the main enemy is yourself don't be afraid of change. Change is a good thing and don't change bc of peer pressure if your happy the way you are then stay how you are. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 9/1/2008 12:46:23 AM | People like what they like, although certain preferences are not just innate but stem from other things...
Anyway, we're attracted to what we're attracted to and it is fine as long as one is not unnecessarily rude to those we are not attracted to or treat them horribly or hold incorrect ideas about them and promulgate them. | |
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