| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:02:28 AM | love is magic on 5/12/2007 9 22 AM
Subject: I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Message: Another weight talk again? So, don't you think Oprah attractive?
Yes she is attractive,depending on if she is staying on her diet or not, either way she has a pretty face | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:09:00 AM | | I think a lot of guys would date Oprah just because she's the wealthiest African-American woman. Funny how money seems to take off pounds on women and add height to men's stature. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:09:17 AM | crashtestedok on 5/12/2007 9 53 PM
Subject: I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Message:
I guess for me, I'm not attracted to large women because it's a sign of bad health.
In your head. If anything a skinny chick looks very unhealthy. A woman with a few extra pounds (A FEW) sure doesn't communicate uncontrolable disorders (bulimic,anorexic).
Do you mean really [ a few extra ]?
Since it seems many of the women listing a few extra really mean 40-100 lb extra | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:13:43 AM | I know exactly where you are coming from, and know it's shallow but lots tell me it's not the looks it's the personality...
sorry but like you can't kiss anyone I don't feel attracted to in the first place let alone have sex with them or a relationship....
yeah the person themselves has to come along with the physical side of things..
maybe that's why I don't date as much as I probably could..
having such high standards...
I don't have a stereotype person... but I myself couldn't date someone that was obese..
don't mind a few extra pounds if they are well proportioned so to speak..
and then personality comes after the initial experience on my eyes...
as it's my eyes that see first...
and yeah it would get ditched eventually if that person who was ideal physically turned out to be a boring fart! | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 9:17:06 AM | why do guys keep posting messages "I feel bad/guilty" for not liking "bigger girls" like in other words "that poor overweight girl" who the hell cares, everyone has there own preferance
what was the point of the first original post, you like who you like, to me it souded like a post making bigger girls/guys to be made sorry for<img (not meaning to sound angry, Im really a nice person)src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_25.gif border=0> | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 9:23:48 AM | why? you have every right to have your preferences....be true to yourself....after all there are plenty of guys who do like a larger lady....so live, laugh and love....be happy!lots of fish in the sea.... | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 9:38:42 AM | | Take the advice yo most are coming from women.. If they are saying its not an issue then it isnt.. Weight isnt an issue for me I ve dating from either end of it all... Some thing is there or isnt... As long as you dont mention it as that being the reason cause man you have to have tact when it scome to others anf their feelings.. But your own personal needs and attractiveness to someone lies within you.. Not a sould can change it.. It's being human you wants and desires are yours alone nothing to feel ashamed over nothing to feel bad about.. Oh well you didnt date that person your loss not hers lol... She may found something entirely better in you saving her the agony of being with you... (see not tact ) lol .. Catch my drift dont tell em just make it clear your not interested with out putting her/him down .. If you did then yes you should feel wrong.. Other then that no you didnt lead on you was honest your not interested.. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 5:00:36 PM | | why do u feel bad if you are not attracted to larger women? Im a big woman but you are not insulting me if you are not attracted to me.I am not attracted to thin men for example or men with long hair but I dont need to apologize for it.There are many men who ARE attracted to us bigger women.Believe me I have no problems getting attention from men because of my size.You cant help what you are attracted too and as a woman I would never date a man that I didnt feel some attraction to. I also dont like beards and would never date a man with one.And I agree with the female who said that the op making this an issue makes it sound its a bad thing to like us big women.lol...maybe I should start a post about skinny men or bearded men apologized for not liking them....NOT! | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 6:18:47 PM | | it has to be a preference thing I suppose, I am not attracted to skinny guys or overly large men or ones who are blonde for that matter lol..but looks aside I am attracted to how a person carries themselves and how they treat themselves or others and would never make the last judgement on ones looks...the more you get to know someone you see them for who they are and not how you want to see them, gee makes me wanna watch Shallow Hal lol | |
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Titian
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 10:16:16 PM | | I wouldn't worry too much about weight. You like what you like. No one can make you like a body type you don't. Good for you to have tried despite the lack of attraction, most wouldn't even have gone past a date or 2 in that position. You have to find your partner attractive, that's pretty important in a relationship (for almost everyone). I think in this day of political correctness, our sexual attraction, who we love even, has to be pc. I don't think we can control what we are attracted to, so there's no point trying. | |
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j5rush
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Joined: 4/13/2006
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/13/2007 11:10:34 PM | | i don't feel bad, like i should go out and date fat chicks and do them a favor.. i'm just saying that i feel as though i've been conditioned by the media and society to not go for chicks with curves. my generation made it popular to have every bone sticking out, and most people i know hate that, but i'm totally in love with the heroin model figure. i don't know why.. its just my thing i guess. i was just asking if you'd consider me an ***hole or not, cause a few of my friends said i was a****for not dating chicks with a little meat on their bones. they always make fun of me for the chicks i bring around. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/14/2007 2:41:54 AM | Ok, honestly from your post..OP I don't think you are JUDGING people on their wt...you are stating a preference. Thats understandable. Its what you are attracted to...and everyone has something different that they are attracted to.
I think if you automatically see a bigger girl and think to yourself....lazy, unhappy, slob, pig....based only on appearance that would be judging and wrong....but if all you think is I'm just not into her physically...its no big deal. Someone will be. Just not you. I don't think its fair to try and force yourself to date someone you aren't into...its only going to hurt that person in the end. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/14/2007 3:20:19 AM | I dont think you should feel bad about being attracted to certain people.. its whatever floats your boat. At the end of the day, if you want to pick up your girlfriend and throw her around your bedroom, thats your business.. I on the other hand am a size 12, 5 ft 6 and weigh 12 stone so... although rather medium build, im very non-throwaroundable lol
No one can argue over taste... its crazy.
Some people like big women, some people like pettite women....
Its the personality that counts (rubbish) you've got to fancy someone to make love with them or else that would be a bigger insult...
Dont be silly matey, go for what you like. x | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/14/2007 9:27:41 PM | Not like Barbie. They just have to have something that attracts us to them. There are guys that love fullfigured woman then some that like them thin. And thens there is the as long as its a woman ones. Some times age plays which group there in. Sometimes.  | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/14/2007 10:15:24 PM | this is a good post I think...its nice to hear the truth every now and then... and op I dont think your a bad guy at all if anything props on being upfront about it...I've had my heart broken so many times by guys that won't just set me straight ...leaves you wondering and lost and thats not cool at all... and I'll definetly agree that if the two genders had a competition over shallowness it would definitely be women...we're extremely picky and I don't feel bad...if a guy Im not attracted to has a great personality tho I definetly see him in a different light..... but anyways my point was that I'd be more offended if you werent honest about how you felt then if you didnt date me cause im fat... i think girls that get all riled up about that just have deeper self esteem issues then they care to admit.... I'd rather ag uy that thinks im pretty then a guy I look good with
anyways interesting post | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:55:58 PM | | This has been a great post. Just when I, well have been, thinking I was a ass for my wants, everyone here has set me straight. There is someone out there for everyone, just a matter of you finding them or them finding you. Like you, I graviate towards the slim/petite even though I am a big guy. There has to be a physical/mental attraction. | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/21/2007 8:07:18 PM | Well I am a big girl but I'd have to say that is up to you I don't think you are wrong for having those feelings BUT when you do find that someone if you eventually have children together be prepared because she will not be that size 2 anymore!!!!!!! I used to be that small and you would never know it after I had my son. Sometimes you have to look outside the box of what you would normally go for to find the one you were meant to be with!!! Good luck to you!!!  | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/21/2007 8:16:12 PM | | Everyone is attraced to something, this thread is boring!! If you are just looking for people to tell you it is ok, then you got it. And the day will come when your herione model type girlfriends gain wieght and dont look so good anymore then you can always trade them in for a newer model!! I am a bigger girl and hunny I love it, I was also a skinny girl at one point too. I get more attention now that I am healthy and happy.. Now you have permission from 30 people to be attracted to who ever you may be attracted too!! | |
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| I feel bad when I judge people on their weight..
Posted: 5/21/2007 8:52:32 PM | | OP: you cannot force yourself to desire someone. passion is chemistry and emotion, and attractions can rarely be rationalized. while it's noble that you would question your motivations, guilt is pointless. i'm a thicker girl and i know that i'm not every guy's type, likewise not every guy will be mine. who can argue the nature of attraction...so why bother giving yourself a headache over it? | |
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