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Posted: 2/26/2008 1:13:40 PM | It's a lot more than just the biology and where to get contraception. I don't see how that makes me a bigot, rather simply that I feel I'm responsible for my son's social and emotional development and the school is responsible for his academic.
Relationships, sexual predators, STD's, non-violence towards women, the fact that contraception can and does let you down, respect for their partner. These are all issues I want to cover with my own child when I feel he is developmentally ready for it.
I personally feel we prematurely sexualise our young, the result is that I've met too many teenagers with expert knowledge of the mechanics, but absolutely no feeling at all towards their multiple partners, it's like an important part of them becomes totally desensitised. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 1:27:56 PM | Whereas yours has all the emotions but is criminally underinformed about self-protection
You call that responsible? | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 2:23:59 PM | | sex is a fact of life and hey a good one at that when done proporley, I think being open about it at school is good, perhaps the age to start at is difficult to judge and in a class some may be ready some not but I think by 13-14 it should definitly be introduced. there is enough sexual messages in the media nowadays leaving kids dissorientated or with the wrong idea so theres nothing wrong with bringing them the answers to those questions they certainly have | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 7:17:25 AM | Well I had that level when I was in school- the amount of condoms that got thrown around the class was stupid.
My PSE (as it was called) group was the only one in the year where there were a lot more boys than girls (like 15 boys and 4 girls) and the were all the 'it' lads who were popular- needless to say it was mortifying and me and the girls just sat there hoping the ground would swallow us up.
I thought it was a big waste of time- I learnt more from reading the booklets! I dont think the gender segregation is favourable- but in that case I would have really really relaly really appriciated being with the girls!
The whole point (I thought) of classes like that was so that you could practise putting comdoms on etc and ask questions......which at aged 14 (as we were at the time) is not something you are likely to want to do in a mixed class.
Then again my mums mum told her when she started her periods 'this is what happens to women every month- dont go near any men now you could get pregnant' hahaha
Anything is better than nothing I guess | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:41:44 AM | i belive kids should be slowly educated about sex from an early age. if you look at our scandinavian cousins and the likes..they do NOT have the problems we do.
As a nation we continually try to sweep things we find distasteful or embarassing under the carpet....does it work..hell no we have horrendous levels of teen pregnanciesm, stds and the likes.
Education is the key...
As to the parents who have the view that they want to teach their kids when they think their kids are ready...thats never going to work because as parents we want to belive our kids wont be ready for years.
lou
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Posted: 3/11/2008 10:42:54 AM | Sex education at school for me consisted of trying to get the Biology teacher to explain how the sperm got inside in the first place.....
I did get a couple of nice words to be used as insults though... Zygote and Scrotum
Ruffy | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 4:24:57 AM | | I hardly think the word 'zygote' would be insulting........... | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 7:07:05 AM | Whether you want it or not, your kids are going to learn about sex.
If they do not learn the facts from a teacher, then they will learn all the myths from thier peers in school. Most kids already know quite a bit about sex before they get formal lessons, but they also know a lot of myths and rumors that they belive to be true.
Just ask yourself this, do you want your kids to know the truth about contraception, or do you want them to try ussing methods they learned in the playground? | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 7:27:33 AM | | We had P.S.D. / personal,social and development at school.We all used to all giggle.Think i was 13 when we first started those lessons.We had films and everything. Looking at my sons timetables from school, neither of them have any lessons like that.I'm wondering if it was all phased out and why? In my whole year at school and there were 10 tutors in each year,as it was a big school.Only 2 girls became pregnant before leaving.So maybe it worked! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 3:40:28 AM | I beleive in god sex education
In out school it was crap. They used wild life films to show how mating took place !!!!!
sketches of how condoms were used, and any questions brought up by us children were then swept under the carpet. This was late 60's early 70's and four girls in my year alone were pregnant before leaving school.
I lost my virginity at 14, to a boy of 12. Now good job cucumbers werent used there to show how yu put condom on, as i would have been very dissaopinted, but i found lot out from reading booklets. Not that mad me an expert as found out alot more when i left school. And found out that most of the crap that the school taught us was vert staid and black and white. The man gets hard, he puts on condom, and puts it in etc.
With my kids as being a single parent i was the mother and father figure to bow girl and boy and i was open with them from any questions and from 11 onwards made sure that they could ask em anything, Embaressing yes but neds to be done
Thank god i aint agranny yet and both have had long term relationhsips with sex life as well and used protection.though aint it crap when kida are gettign more than you !!!!!!!!!
carole | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 3:59:08 AM | The man gets hard, he puts on condom, and puts it in etc.
Hey but thank your lucky stars you don't have to worry about using condoms anymore chuckles.
What a waste of a good looking lass, smiles.
Sex education was non existent in my all boys year (we went co-ed the year below and only had girls in our year in the sixth form. Certainly appears to be far better these days and I too hope it is many many years until I'm a grandad. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:23:59 AM | .... can you do 'O' and 'A' levels in sex education these days .........  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:36:34 AM | Not much, to be honest. My parents had told me everything I wanted and needed to know by the time I was 10.
I started to tell my kids about babies when they were about 2 1/2 and build up on that. By the time they had sex education in school they knew more then the teacher.
How ever it is not sex education alone that gets girls pregnant at an early age, or makes boys face fatherhood as early as the age of 13. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:41:57 AM |
can you do 'O' and 'A' levels in sex education these days
Of course you cant silly, it's GCSE now!!!
I can vaguely (twas many moons ago) remember sex education at school, I can remember feeling absolutely confused about a lot of things, until a friend explained all in the toilets later....
My kids have pretty much had their sex education (and one more than the other!!! he tells me) at school and it all seemed completely sensible and appropriate to age as it happened. The school stuff was along side me answering any question they had as honestly as I could - I really didnt want them looking like idiots not knowing what something was in front of their friends. I can still remember my daughter when aged 9 or so asking, 'mum, what's a boner?', that was an .... 'ermm OK....' moment. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 12:01:40 PM | When I had my first taste of sex ed I was about 9.
They just showed a video of shadows 'doing it' & didn't give much info on the consequences of sex.
I had a my own 'boyfriend' at the time & because it looked like fun we decided to try it.
Luckily we were too young to know exactly what to do but its helped me see that if not taught properly sex ed can be just as bad as no sex e at all | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 1:56:01 AM | I went to discuss Sex education with my daughters' teachers at her school.
The Teachers ran through what the children were taught, the materials used in the class room etc but when I (stupidly) asked if they ever told the children that it was illegal to have sex underage and that they should not under any circumstances do it, the teachers were a bit gobsmacked. It seems that they are not expected to say this. WTF.. How do they expect kids not to put into practice what they have just been told when the message doesn't tell them not to.. whole world has gone to the dogs.
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Posted: 5/20/2008 2:18:28 AM | Knowledge is power. We need to empower our children to feel confident with themselves and any decisions they make when it comes to their own bodies.
My sex education was absolutely brilliant. It started in Primary 5 (about 10 years old). We were taught about the differences between boys and girls, feelings we might develop as we get older, inappropriate behaviour from adults, anatomy, periods, the whole bit and it was done in a very sensitive, age appropriate, informative way. After the first couple of lessons there was no embarrassment, even when the girls had their tampon talk and the boys went off for what I can only assume was a willy talk!
When I went to high school it continued, this time a combination of biology classes and what was called Health Education. This covered the condoms etc but also drug use and a chat from a policeman about drugs.
We need to stop being so terrified that telling children will make them do it, that has been proven as bollox. We need to look to Europe and Scandinavia, they lead the way in how it is done.
I'm one of the lucky few that had such a comprehensive sex education and to me that is an absolute tragedy. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 6:50:00 AM | i went to a catholic school and as such we were given the biology part but nothing to do with contraception (at all..) or emotion or anything else...
we were also told, by a bunch of nuns, not only was it totally wrong underage but also outside of marriage..
my daughter then went to the same school some 20 yrs later and they had by then relented and told them wat contraception was available and how it worked etc but warned of hellfire and damnation should any of them try it out.... | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 9:07:59 AM | | my 11 year old son had his birds and the bees talk at school today, ive never seen so many red faces after school, all the parents lol, but im fine with him receiving sex education, after all it isnt unheard of for 12 year old girls to get pregnant, and not only that i wouldnt honestly know where to start! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 9:49:17 AM | I believe it to be the parent(s) responsibility to educate their children and not in a classroom environment. I remember the teacher being more embarrassed than the students when I was tought this in school.
Open debate I'm sure but we all have an oppinion. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 10:01:19 AM | Sex ed in school is descent enough,its just that the kids dont want to listen.Even as teenagers its embarrassing for them to have to sit through so to save face they take the p1ss.
They are far more willing to listen to stuff from parents and older siblings imo. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 11:02:27 AM | i think i def agree with kath on this
i think paents do have an obligation in helping out with the sex education of kids
i did tell my kids they could ask anything and after the first couple of emb discussions they relaied they could, think some more emb for me lol
cant say what some questions i was asked lol | |
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