| | Asperger's SyndromePage 4 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | I have Asperger's Syndrome myself.
So I understand how most of you feel about the difficulty (trust me I know o_0 ) | |
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Posted: 9/11/2011 11:03:29 PM | | werewolf.... consider taking GABA.... a nutritional.... 500 mg 4-6x daily.... your world will change.... trust me!!! | |
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Posted: 9/23/2011 11:58:40 PM | | I am self diagnosed as having Asperger syndrome. I would really like to meet someone of the same and see what happens. | |
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Posted: 9/26/2011 12:26:30 AM | although he has since left this site, there was a regular forumite here on pof, who was both aspie as well as aspie mentor. i don't have them anymore, but back then he gave me a number of online sites to forward to another aspie friend of a friend, near where i live.
most people on pof did not know his dx, just that he was a brilliant researcher in the medical industry. at any rate, he met a really hot nurse, here on pof, who was above average intelligence (not aspie), with sufficient social saavy. he kept on pof out of loyalty to forums, but eventually he went off as the forums link was eliminated from our profiles (now back again). but, last i heard, the "couple" were doing quite well.
this man was much older than you. but, he let time do it's "thing". it takes time to learn social "stuff" for anyone. just be patient. if you are eager to learn and to be open to possibility, you can do most anything.
although pretty intelligent, i am also street smart. so not an aspie but between those two features and a solid EQ, intelligence and success has had it's pluses and minuses. almost fifteen years ago, i became very ill. i am almost 63 now. i was told i would never find a good man online, w/o lying about my age. i kept true to myself and met a great guy. we both are givers and our connection is from the heart, not the brain. he is relatively smart (leaning towards aspie but much more natural EQ) and he has dyslexia so he can have empathy for my lymes. he is six years younger and although i did not fall in his age category, he saw my pic and that got him started. this was on another site, but it could have been this one.
i don't think you need to meet another aspie. you just need to find your emotional compliment AND there needs to be some chemistry. give it some time, and take risk, and if things don't work out immediately, learn something new from each encounter, friendship, romantic connection. that is what life is about: learning. we all have different things to learn. but nobody has it ALL from the start. don't ever listen to people who say not to risk. but, be safe. find yourself a buddy to toss things over with. in exchange, you can help him/her with things that need your brain.  | |
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Posted: 10/8/2011 11:07:33 PM | I have Asperger's Syndrome myself.
I had trouble with relationships at first, because expressing myself was hard, as I found it difficult to read "cues" from females. (I found it difficult to read cues from almost anyone, to put it that way...)
Yet, my "uniqueness", if one could call it that, gave me an upper hand. Women began to notice how I was "different" and it intrigued them, in a way.
I eventually was able to date women, and had several long lasting and successful relationships, so yes, it is possible to have relationships if you have Asperger's Syndrome. However, let it be known that every form of Asperger's Syndrome is not the same, so your results may vary, to put it that way. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2011 9:05:19 PM | When I was a kid I was told that it was "functioning autism" whatever that means. I grew up a lot slower than other kids and really only had friends if my mother made friends with the other guy's mom so that he would play with me. Things other kids learned at probably 12 or 14 I didn't figure out until I was 20 and even then relationships have always been hell. Eventually after watching a lot of comedy films I figured out a way to "act funny" so that I could have something of a social life (I nicknamed myself after one character in a movie I saw) and now have more friends who call me by that than my real name. When I act that way I can get a girl's attention but once they figure out how I really am they bail :( No girl wants a guy who can't figure out when she wants a hug, to hold hands or when to make a move without her telling him.
I wish I could just have relationships and be normal but I can't. At least I can be thankfully that God didn't decide to make me fully autistic that would really suck...
Hopefully none of the chicks I've been able to successfully message read this forum.
"werewolf.... consider taking GABA.... a nutritional.... 500 mg 4-6x daily.... your world will change.... trust me!!!"
I haven't heard of that but will try it thanks. Hope it's not snake oil. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2011 9:13:43 PM | | Please be incredibly careful when making your selections on supplements. There are many out there that are not of high quality and contain a variety of contaminants in them as they are not regulated by the FDA. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2011 9:22:04 AM | ^^^^
Good point. People should also be careful about self-diagnosing a condition that is not particularly easy to identify and takes professionals years of training to do so.
Aspergers is a very specific autistic spectrum condition which people are born with. Confusion can arise because it shares many common traits with things like dyslexia, social anxiety / social phobia and other psychological conditions, most of which are learned behaviours often arising from situational causes or circumstances in childhood (e.g. parental divorce, physical abuse, bullying, trauma, limited contact with other children, etc) and can in many cases be overcome with things like hyponotherapy, NLP, cognitive behavioural therapy or just stuctured practice without needing medication of any kind.
Its also worth noting that many famous people are though to have (or have had) Aspergers - Al Gore, Winston Churchill, Bill Gates, Michael Palin, George Orwell, Dan Ayckroyd to list just a few. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2011 7:13:32 PM | | yes i was Finally diagnosed at 27 with this and attribute it to my near lack of relationships as well as lack of other human interaction period. its left me an extreme bitter individual at times granted i can also traverse to the complete other end of that spectrum if/when things are actually going well. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2011 11:24:41 PM | "Please be incredibly careful when making your selections on supplements. There are many out there that are not of high quality and contain a variety of contaminants in them as they are not regulated by the FDA."
Heh. Considering the stuff I've taken in the past I am not worried about a non-FDA-approved supplement. I should relapse back to not-healthy stuff at least that was fun. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2011 9:21:42 AM | | I have had many problems with my aspergers with regards to dating women I am getting very confident now step by step reading alot of self development books which I recommend they help trust me i live with 10 dating coaches one of them has aspergers and can easily pull models. I was in a bar four weeks ago and oddly enough I was pulled to one side by a pretty girl who was interested in me only reason it didnt go any further is due to my age shes 20 I am 20 but I look roughly 21-23 in age. I am very confident I will meet someone even if they dont have aspergers | |
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Posted: 11/9/2011 2:39:22 PM | Why would someone with this syndrome care to meet someone?
I thought it means the person lacks empathy and other relationship related feelings...? | |
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Posted: 11/11/2011 6:07:54 PM |
Why would someone with this syndrome care to meet someone?
I thought it means the person lacks empathy and other relationship related feelings...?
Not necessarily. Some are the most honest, humble, caring people around. In fact I would imagine if someone didn't mind the intensity, they would be the most perfect partners.
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Posted: 11/12/2011 12:36:56 AM | Recent evidence is beginning to suggest that rather than lacking empathy and relationship interactions, it's that people actually feel them too strongly... and can't cope - thus needing to avoid the situations that bring about having to process the overloading...
http://www.healthzone.ca/health/article/633688
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http://www.support-for-add-and-autism-spectrum.com/Aspergers_empathy.html
so maybe it's the all empowering 'love' that they can have - but refrain from applying because of the sensitivities that come with it.
Interesting thread/discussion with lots of 'ah ha' moments... as I have mentioned elsewhere on POF I'm the mommy of an Aspie, and still undergoing major learning curves... and wonder what his life will be like in the future... he has already had his heart broken by being set up by his father... so even now at the tender age of[nearly] seven, he's understanding the 'feelings' that go with the social interactions with people in life. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2011 3:11:05 PM |
Why would someone with this syndrome care to meet someone?
I thought it means the person lacks empathy and other relationship related feelings...?
That's totally wrong. F the research, it is not needed (and effectively useless, see below). A person with asperger's has emotions just like everyone else, however, they face challenges in expressing them and even in understanding them.
If you want to learn abot Asperger's Syndrome read "Look Me in the Eye" by John Elder Robison. He has aspergers, he knows.
Now, the reason why research on Aspergers is useless (not useless, maybe skewed is the better term) is because someone with Aspergers will rarely explain exactly what they are thinking,simply because they can't. Unless it is terribly clinical in nature, then you get it to the letter. So basically what a "normie" would get from an "aspie" is sorta-kinda what he's thinking... though we are better in text.
And for the gent above who says to be careful about self-diagnosis... that might apply to various other aspects of psychology, but really does not suit the Aspergian mentality. Not only will we not want to discuss the inner workings of our brains openly with a total stranger, but we would also see no benefit in any way shape or form from that piece of paper stating what we are. Basically put, if you really feel the need for a professional diagnosis, you probably have something else | |
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Posted: 11/17/2011 3:23:11 PM |
Regarding making eye contact...
I'm pretty shy and get insanely nervous sometimes- like doing public speaking, or going to job interviews....
I had an instructor in college tell me something borderline life changing: Look 'em in the nose. Seriously. If you can't maintain eye contact, focus on the upper bridge of their nose... Nobody realizes that you aren't making eye contact. Just don't stare at the one point like a deer in headlights or something... You can alternate with looking between their eyebrows too... LOL
I'm going to try that, but most of the time my eyes are jumping around the room. It's only when I'm totally alone with someone and extremely comfortable with someone that I can actually at their eyes, of course, with the greatest of difficulty. | |
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Posted: 12/2/2011 1:57:25 AM | | i have it, and i've come to the point where just want to meet folks who have it too. i've been around many people from all walks of life, with nothing to show for it. it feels good to be on the same wavelength | |
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Msg: 93 | |
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Posted: 12/6/2011 12:39:30 PM | @RyanRoland
from what I had been told it does mean that, but can be learned to be changed. I have had been told I too have this problem, along wit Aspergers, which racks my mind if I let it dwell in my thoughts. for me though I'd moved around a lot and always thought it was cause I threw myself into solitude. and that was why I couldn't make friends or the likes but this asperger's thing instead was the "why". hell I still have doubts on this but it gets reinforced by my mother
to toss my own question in this, I work out between 4-5 per week, a person with all this and doesn't come off looking friendly, lack of smile and other aspects. what advice might I gain or suggestions to this? I had a shrink briefly and he said to practice smiling, smiling is hard with new people till the whole "warm up" period ends it's course | |
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Posted: 12/12/2011 9:16:21 AM | I'm on here to find someone I can talk to without screening everything I want to say, and without trying to look the other person in the eye although that's almost painful. And without having to figure out what a person really means by what they're saying. (Example on my profile.) All that extra thinking makes me tired and frustrated (I don't always get it right), although I think it's worth the effort to not alienate people so much.
We do have feelings and empathy. One of my very favorite things to do is to see someone who needs a hand and rush up to give it.
Doesn't mean I won't accidentally run into that peson with my cart next week, in the grocery store. :)
To the poster just above, I didn't quite understand the question. In case it helps: I have a list of rules that I read when I'm on the way to somewhere where there will be people. I pick the problem most likely to come up and try to concentrate on that one. Sometimes it's just to smile. Another time, if it's going to be a serious one-to-one conversation, I'll pick "think of what the other person may be needing from this conversation."
Wanting to remember to do that is the opposite of lack of empathy. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2011 9:28:32 AM | One more thing, for the literal-minded:
** Feel free to message me just to say hi to a similar person, no matter where you live or what you're looking for. ** | |
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Posted: 12/19/2011 3:13:01 PM | | Its really sad that vaccines have ruined so many lives leaving healthy children with ailments and conditions like autism and Aspergers. What's even sadder is that the victims don't understand it was vaccine caused, and we fight a constant he said, she said battle over it. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2011 6:45:54 PM |
Its really sad that vaccines have ruined so many lives leaving healthy children with ailments and conditions like autism and Aspergers. What's even sadder is that the victims don't understand it was vaccine caused, and we fight a constant he said, she said battle over it
sadder still, the author being oblivious to what they are writing about on so many levels, yet still bothering to chime in with bs | |
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Jsfate
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Msg: 98 | |
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Posted: 12/20/2011 7:28:42 PM | | all of that is a rumor Chemosbaby. its a trait from a parent's dna or the likes. not from a needle from some doctor to give a baby. some research might be of some use to you =) I'm sure the web will have both views listed, I know though having heard my mother tell me of this all. she has looked it up. people aren't too sure of how this stuff becomes and jumbles up lives. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2011 11:56:32 PM |
all of that is a rumor Chemosbaby. its a trait from a parent's dna or the likes. not from a needle from some doctor to give a baby. some research might be of some use to you =) I'm sure the web will have both views listed, I know though having heard my mother tell me of this all. she has looked it up. people aren't too sure of how this stuff becomes and jumbles up lives.
Actually, it is currently unknown if one is born with aspergers or if it is developed at a young age. It is actually not yet possible to test for it until the child is at least speaking age because it is currently diagnosed through behavioral study.
The idea that it is caused by a needle is likely from some crazy religion that is against vaccines.
The mistaske in both of your comments is that aspergers negatively effect lives. This is opinion and tends to be that of someone looking on the outside in, someone who feels thatt they are better for not being Aspergian. Aspergers, in truth, does not ruin lives, it is simply a differnt wiring of the brain which results in a different perspective from a "normie". If anything, a "normie" should feel cheated for not being capable of the Aspergian perspective. | |
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Msg: 100 | |
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Posted: 12/21/2011 8:14:49 PM | cheated cause of not being wired differently? unable to be empathic, cheated? I am finding I am in denial until something much deeper either form findings online or maybe some day, get with someone who knows of the traits of asperger and can tell me after talking-getting to know me long enough for this to be done, to then tell me I have it. then work on how to not be a faker with "NT's" as I've seen a lot during my searching. then again, not feeling much in regards to pain that I can stomach depending what pain, headaches on the other hand kick the bucket on pain sadly.
Kohmelo, tell me, do you have asperger's or just post in here with info or facts you may have? | |
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