| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/19/2007 12:14:09 AM | I suppose it depends on what you're both looking to get out of using POF?
Personally, I'll send a message indicating my interest. A week or two of emails is all I want, because I know what I'm looking for....a date with the possibility of a LTR.
In reality, you have no idea the person you are talking to is the person they claim to be.
Also, I don't want to waste time. I have enough friends. I want to meet because I want to judge our chemistry. That being said, I'm not going to try to take a girl to "all sorts of places". I just want to get together for a coffee and a walk. I want to hear words with emotion behind them. If things are good, then I'd email and phone more often and try to work out some ideas for a more formal "date". If things are bad, cut 'er loose and recast. Sounds to me like he's just being practical. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/19/2007 1:15:03 AM | depends on everyone's individual opinion.
some guys want the quick lay, some guys just want to see if that person is right for them
i dont think there is right and wrong here.. just what both parties agree to.
one guy mentioned earlier in this, that he see's one atta time, but not all guys do this.. some are talking to 5, 10, 20.. etc.
plus some people dont want to waste time, because they have already wasted too much, i think its more about being expected than anything sex related.
but yes... i agree.
be safe | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/22/2007 11:18:45 AM | ask the guru
Get him on the phone....see if he can actually talk in sounds other than grunts and groans.....see if he knows about other things besides nascar and the NRA.
First meet...should you choose to do it...should be SIMPLE and public...and have something to do for 30 minutes later incase you have to bail....like....meet for a cup o tea, but have an appointment to get your dogs nails cut right afterward, or something equally trivial.
Better yet.....email me  
and don't be so paranoid.......if you dont want to date someone who wants the quick lay...as so may people seem EAGER to say this guys is desperate....then DATE someone who doesn't NEED to get sex. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/22/2007 11:29:36 AM | If they want to meet you right away, it is probably because they like most of us men know we could be wasting our time for 3 months, then when we finally meet the woman wasn't worth the effort we put forth for 3 months.
However, Meet in a Public place so he can't rape you. Do not get in his car or your car with him and go to another place and most of all make sure someone knows your going to meet a stranger and where you are to meet.
If the guy turns out to be a Moron and wants sex, get in your car, drive home and think the good Lord you didn't meet him in private. Also wouldn't be a bad idea to make sure he isn't following you. There are stalkers on line too.
Does it mean he is desperet? Depends on how you look at it. If he has had so many bad meetings, he might be desperet to getting the meeting done with in order to know for sure if you are someone he would like to date.
It also might mean he lacks patients.. which is a bad thing.
So you have to take each person differently. Never assume | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/25/2007 3:59:53 PM | | I'm glad you brought up this topic.I know a lot of women are scared to meet some guy because they think he's some rapist or something.I can understand that not knowing someone but we are not all this way.I get offend sometimes when a woman say "I don't know if you are safe?Is she saying this because I'm a big guy and look scary or something?"How do I know I'm going to safe with them?I guess the best thing for both to meet in a public place.I guess maybe this guy is just lonely and wants someone to do something with. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/25/2007 6:06:23 PM | | If a guy wants to meet you I would jump at the chance personally. I meet so many guys on here who seem to be agoraphobics who never leave their computer. They'll chat to you for three hours on MSN but blow you off with excuses when it comes to actually meeting up with you. So many guys will just lie and use you to get attention on here so you need to be careful. If he wants to be with you then I wouldn't knock it. Meet up with him as soon as you can it's the only way to find out if you fancy him. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/25/2007 7:03:15 PM |
So this online dating is just for hooking up and then you should call or meet right away to see if there is a connection??!
Absolutely.
But how do you know if even 1/4 of the men on this website are real?!
By meeting them.
Michael | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/25/2007 7:04:06 PM |
They'll chat to you for three hours on MSN but blow you off with excuses when it comes to actually meeting up with you.
What a bunch of wussies. Are they unaware that they can not get laid online?
Michael | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:10:14 PM |
What a bunch of wussies. Are they unaware that they can not get laid online?
At least not without the danger of being electrocuted. Gives a whole new meaning to having an electric personality. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:19:18 PM | | Is he desperate or just wanting to 'cut to the chase'? You are the best judge for what you want from this new experience for you, but I'd be willing to bet that you've met other men IRL ...and each went away accordingly. Perhaps, this guy is only wanting to not waste each other's time and make a meeting less the cyber-anxiety for you both. It is possible to get jaded by what's a 'house of mirrors' here. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/26/2007 2:02:26 AM | | He could be anything, positive or negative, that's why you should take more time to get to know him. Talk to him on the phone and chat more. When you meet, do it somewhere public before you go on any adventures with him. It takes quite a bit before I ever meet a girl from here but not because I'm afraid, but just because I don't like wasting my time lol. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:54:35 AM | Go with your gut on this. If the guy is really interested in getting to know you he'll slow down and talk more. If it's on the computer or on the phone, it takes more then just a couple of conversations to feel comfortable with a new friend. If the other person is in a hurry, well then you have your answer! Stay safe, and do what you feel is right for you...................  | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 8:15:40 AM | Hi "eyesasmilin",
I'd like to chat with you,I can be contacted at YH at;thefantasyartistvongoah.
I have chatted with some ladies in the past that I was interested in and they kept on chatting with me,so I would assume that they were interested in me too.
BUT after a month of chatting,and them never really commiting to actually meeting(in a public place,such as a mall),and always getting the responces of "maybe,we'll see,I dunno,perhaps we can,maybe,I work three jobs,etc...",it put me off as to I was thinking to myself at that point,"what's the point"?As I was NOT looking for a "online relationship".
I can understand a lady's caution,and a girl needs to feel safe absolutely,however people who are on dating sites,they should expect gentlemen,or ladies,to request that the two meet up,to see if there is a mutual attraction and connection.It's normal.
Thats what dating site and sites to "find true love" are all about. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 8:33:15 AM | PS:I would never do the month chatting thing again,lesson learned,but chatting is Ok for a little bit,then I would want to meet up at a place where she feels safe if that is her concern.
If we click,great! If not,it's just another "no" on the way to a possible "yes". | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 8:58:45 AM | "Is he tired of NOT getting dates with online dating and wants to see who will say yes with the least amount of BS involved?"
i coudnt agree more... women on these online dating sites in general are soo insecure about meeting... yet what boggles my mind is that if their friends on myspace who they bearly know, would make a party they would attend... do you know what that guy may have instore for you...
ok when do you meet a guy
1. email him back and forth for a couple of days
2. if you feel comfortable after 3 days then take his number and call him on restricted or giv him ur cell number (NEVER give your home number)
3. if 3 days of talking on the phone you still like him and feel comfortable then meet him and if you you still fell insecure then meet him in a public area and hell if you cant judge a character by then... | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 9:28:18 AM | | so I read your post and well ....thers some good replies personally (also brand spanking new) I don`t beleve this sites pourpose is to play e-mail tag theres a lot of lonely people out there and there basic desire is to "meet" someone I understand you should be cautious and let things progress naturally yet this is a dateing site it would seem realistic that if you show someone interest they MAY want to meet you sound fair? peace and good luck with that Woody | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:21:46 AM | | Two people that live in the same city should jump at a chance to meet for real if there is an initial attraction. The question is..Why not meet after a few e-mails? I guess if you lied about your relationship status (married or going steady) or are way fatter and uglier than your pic, then you should avoid meeting. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:35:58 AM | It means he probably wants to EVENTUALLY hide the salami. Don't be alarmed, that's pretty natural.
If the man makes you paranoid about meeting then don't do it and stop wondering why men are anxious to act on natural urges. Some of us have tired fingers and simply want our voice to take over for what are in the end but letters on a page. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 12:02:27 PM | Hi
I just wondered if you ever heard back from that guy?
I have been somewhere in the personals for a while now.
I just started reading some of the forums.....
to try to get some understanding on WHAT IS THE DEAL
I thought you would be able to reach so many more people on here,
but that doesnt seem to be the case.
good luck | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/14/2007 7:25:21 PM | | There have been a lot of good replies here. I'm in the camp of "it's no big deal, and better to get it out of the way reasonably early". In addition to most of the reasons given, the fact is that 5 minutes of face-to-face conversation is far more revealing than hours of online chat. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/15/2007 4:21:03 AM | I don't think he was desperate or creepy. And the men who answered your post seem quite nice for the most part. I like confidence and it is actually brave to meet him finally in public.
It will or won't work out, and I suggest meeting your friend you met on line and seemed to like. Good Luck | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/15/2007 5:57:59 AM |
The only way you can know if a person is someone you want to have a relationship with is to date/spend time with them in person. Whats the point of chatting with a girl for a month and then realizing you cant stand being around her the first time you meet?
this is so true, what are people so scared of?
Meet and if you like each other you see each other again, if you dont then it ends there.
Unless your putting looking for : Chat email on your profile. Why would you have a problem with meeting someone who it seems like your compatible with? Now if the feeling just isnt there or you dont really want to date the person I could understand that. But if it feels right , meet date and see where it goes I mean that is why people are on here right. Or is it just to gauge public interest and inflate our little egos ? meh probobly a little of both | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/15/2007 8:34:40 AM | I'm not angry at someone who does this, just disappointed. You can fish all day, finally get one, fight to get it reeled in, and just as you're about to get it into the boat, it looks at you and says "I am a magic fish. To catch me, you'll have to answer my 3 riddles!" Back into the water with you fishy.
Maybe some of us women just want to check the level of literacy of the male before we commit to a meeting. There are some people that still don't know how to use the spelling and grammar tools available to them. I am not thinking about being a magic fish in my head during this assessment, just "what the hell did that mean?"
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/15/2007 8:45:33 AM | | My advice would be to go but take separate cars in case things go sideways then you can leave without relying on him to get you home. You don't want to give your power away under any circumstances by being completely dependent on him to get you home on the first date. It's always better to be cautious in this day age so do everything you can to keep yourself safe like maybe double dating with a girlfriend, bring your cell phone, tell someone where you are going and with whom and when you are expected back etc. and make sure you are in a public place when you meet him for the first time. All this may be unnecessary but it's better to be safe than sorry and I think if you take the "safety" concern off the table then you will be able to relax and enjoy the date more too. Also, it's better to meet sooner than later because you want to know right away if this is a match BEFORE you start making any emotional investment in this guy or wasting your time with someone who you are not compatible with when you could be better spending that time being open to Mr. right or right now whichever you are looking for. Also, remember to TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS they are usually right ! If something feels wrong...it is. Hope that helps. | |
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| When a guy wants to get together right away?
Posted: 10/29/2007 10:02:33 AM | UBK has hit the nail on the head again. Most people are on their best behavior when you first meet them on line. Getting to know them outside the computer will force the chemistry to either be there or not. I am new to this site and don't want to overstep my boundries as a new member , but to look into someones eyes and feel the reflection of love back just can't be done on the computer. So to all you shakespearean reading people that live in a fantasy world , get out and meet your prince charming.  | |
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