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| Help!!!! My Best Friend's Son Just Asked Me Out
Posted: 5/16/2007 4:17:34 PM | While I don't think the age difference is the issue, I do think it would cost you your friendship with his mother.
Tell him to keep looking. Or better yet, give him my number!! | |
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| Help!!!! My Best Friend's Son Just Asked Me Out
Posted: 5/16/2007 4:38:15 PM |
Why do people put so many limits on themselves?
Simple answer.
People are simple/closed-minded.
The only limitations we as humans have are the ones we inflict upon ourselves.
We've managed to put man on the moon, broadcast both video & audio signals wirelessly, developed such things as the internet, airplane, automobile, etc.
Yet one of the biggest obstacles for mankind is to find him/herself a lifelong companion!
That is because of how limited people are in their way of thinking. Very one-track minded. If someone approaches another to engage in a dialogue with them and that other person isn't interested in them physically, they (many times) automatically disregard them.
They don't realize that a BIG part of life is those we meet/encounter.
How many people have not met their boyfriends/girlfriends/wives/husbands through OTHER people. Now had it not been for those people, those relationships may not have occured. | |
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| Help!!!! My Best Friend's Son Just Asked Me Out
Posted: 5/16/2007 4:54:19 PM | OK where is the hidden camera? This is one of those things you see on TV where they set people up right? Or is it a Jerry Springer take off? If he is under 18, girl you are in big trouble. In two words....FORGET IT!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 5:00:28 PM | Sheesh - the way people responded I though we were talking 25 years difference in your ages. So your friend tries to get you to date older guys - that's her preference, not necessarily yours. And who says just because they are older they are more mature. I have met some young men who do have very old souls - so the number is not really the issue. I think the issue for you is whether or not you actually see this young man as a possible love interest. No one here can make that decision for you - just you. But why not? We are not talking jail bait here - he's 21 years old! Talk to him - see how he makes you feel once you get over the 'best friend's son' hangup. But - if that really is a hangup for you - then don't do it. Too bad - I think you may be missing out on a pretty good thing.
My two bits worth. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:08:11 PM | Hmmmm.........
Yes interesting subject indeed! 
I myself would not date a man even 5 years younger. But do get a lot of cheeky boys approach me on the matter. I think they're just trying their luck with that whole MILF thing. I just laugh it off. But your friends boy could be genuine, however like others have said, you must be aware aware of the possibility of it not working, hence the chance of it not being an amicable break up & how that will effect you relationship with your friend. Is it worth it? Are you even attracted to the lad? You didn't mention your feelings. Have a big think about it...ask yourself what YOU want.... write all the things you are looking for in a relationship..... does he have those qualities? can you have the life you want with him? hey.... can you wake up looking into a fresh young face & holding a firm young body ... LOL ok that's not the hard part........ it doesn't matter how much we look after ourselves.... there is the physiological evidence of our age. I live in a surfing community & it happens the other way round all the time, older surfers deciding to settle down in their mid to late thirties, they're still in great shape, fit and healthy & pick up the younger women in their twenties easily, (although it's the talk of the town if an older women takes up with a younger man... funny that ) Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Everyone is different....... take a chance.... or just be flattered at the interest he's shown & keep searching for what you really want in a partner. ???????????????????????? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:31:00 PM | oh come on guys- this stuff has been going on since time began- young men /older women
and it rarely has to do with "love"- is everyone naive here? the raging hormones on these young boys drives them
crazy- women in their 30's and 40's seem to have "empathy" and are a lot easier for these guys to deal with-
this is one of the oldest subjects in the world-
to each his own- I would love a world where what people did in their own private lives with their own bodies
was their own business- (as long as it's not harmful or with children or animals- or persons against their will)
from same sex to abortion to anything else
and again- I repeat- would this be a subject if it was a 36 year old man and a 21 year old woman? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:40:26 PM | Hmm . . . This has NOTHING to do with a younger man and an older woman and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that this is your best friend's son.
This is a place you should never, ever go.
Your best friend is a total nut case for suggesting such a thing, and you are delusional for even considering it.
If you want to have sex with a 21 year old guy, follow the time honored tradition. Go to a bar and pick one up. I'm sure you'll have plenty of takers.
But do not shit where you live. It is a bad, bad idea.
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:58:51 PM | I don't see a problem in it. My parents were 18 years apart in age and had a very happy marriage(until my dad died). One of the best relationships I have ever had was with a guy 15 years older than me.
If you are attracted to him and your friend is okay with it then why not? As long as you are both in it for the same reasons then i don't see a problem. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 7:15:59 PM | Some people's mentality is pathetic. No wonder there are so many singles out there.
Such simple/narrow-mindedness.
Such a sad way of thinking.
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Posted: 5/16/2007 9:19:25 PM | First, let me say thanks for all of your comments (well...most of them).
Second, I think I worded my question wrong. Alot of you took it the wrong way and so many of your minds went straight to the gutter. I am not a pervert or in any way sick minded. I have never done anything even close to getting me on Jerry Springer (Oprah maybe, lol).
I was just confused about how to deal with my friend without hurting her feelings in any way or creating awkwardness in our friendship. I don't want her to think her son isn't good enough, like most of you said even if he was 35 (by the way he is actually almost 24, boy how times flies when you blink) the situation would still be awkward.
TO: a*little*lonely#4, Leeanne#11, Slient Incantation#13, Sweet Thing 1971# 37, Sobeit19#44, ecaepydal#46, Cheap Trick Fan#49, Alexandria gal#64-
HELLO...Who said I wanted(or even consider) to date or sleep with her son... it crossed his and his Mom's mind, NOT MINE! I am not a sick women who LIKES or even LOOKS to have sex with little boys! I'm not even curious! When I've dated younger men, I mean within a 5-6 year range. When I said my friend always encouraged me to date older men, she meant around 45.
TO: FunluvrnPA#59- Did you even read the post?
TO: This girldm# 21- Well DUH!!!
To: Michaelann#42- Me being selfish...there's nothing further from the truth.
To: Annudderhohummale, Cupid Strikes, VG AngelBeing Julia#40, dpd22#32-
Thank You!
To Wanderer1999#26-
"As for his mother, she must think that both of you are something *very special* for her to consider letting the two of you date. After all, you are both VERY special to her."
Thank you...I think that is exactly what she was thinking. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 10:54:19 PM | Please take my advise on this - RUN while you can!
I was on the other side of this situation when I was a younger man with an older woman. If you have not given him an emotional and decisive "NO" he will remain completely infatuated with you. All his thoughts will be on you until you shut this down. His hormones are raging uncontrollably and he will be tortured by the excitement and the possibilities unless you stop it. He will now pour on the charm and give you so much attention that if he is even reasonably good looking you are going to have a real hard time not liking all the attention and are likely to end up being intimate with him and later regret it.
And if you do become intimate or even keep the possibilities open it will get out and your best friend will hate you. It will then get very ugly. The poor guy will also develop a hopeless physical and emotional co-dependency on you that neither of you will be able to control nor want to get out of. Its every young guy's fantasy and with your friend being his mother it can't possibly work in the long run without a lot of pain for everyone.
That said, I think every young man at this age can greatly benefit from this kind of older woman experience - just not so close to home. Its a very good way to learn how to be with a "real" woman and build confidence and learn the mechanics of intimacy and how to control himself etc. Some cultures (in Africa) actually do this exact thing with the older women teaching the younger "of age" men all these things with their friends sons. Its a social expectation.
But by asking this forum this question you are already signaling that you are interested. My advise - nip it in the bud and stop it now before its too late. Really... | |
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| Help!!!! My Best Friend's Son Just Asked Me Out
Posted: 5/16/2007 11:05:40 PM | | If I were in your situation I wouldn't go for it. Just because the opportunity is there, doesn't mean it should be taken. I would stick to men closer to your age, especially if your friends feel that you should. I wouldn't date any close relative of a friend, let alone their child! | |
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| Help!!!! My Best Friend's Son Just Asked Me Out
Posted: 5/17/2007 12:36:55 AM | | A friend of mine meet his wife while he was dating her daughter. He hit it off with the mom instead of the hot daughter, they have been married about 20 years now. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 1:09:28 AM | | I agree with Tanner about the whole older younger thing,I don't get whats wrong with an older woman dating or being with a younger man and also I think shes right about the sexual drive deal.Me,myself like older woman,to me they seem smarter,more mature,more loyal,and know what they want from a man.Also I like to learn or like any or all intrest she would have.Oh and I do think older woman have much more on their mind other than money,latest clothes etc.,and ummm how big of a "package" they want on a guy or whatever lol.But anyways back to you,yes go out with him and just get to know each other and see if you can make a connecting.Also how did he ask you out? did he do it like all perverted like "hey hot mama,lets go out some time" or did it more mature and asked you out with respect...? | |
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